Just had sex for the first time. Was at it a while and despite fucking, handjobs and blowjobs...

Just had sex for the first time. Was at it a while and despite fucking, handjobs and blowjobs. I never came or felt like cumming. Normal?

You're probably gay.

Same thing happened to me. Then again, we had to stop because my mom came home. The girl I was fucking came, though.

Forgot to mention - after we chilled for a while I was having problems getting hard again. Even though she was doing everything she could to help

Yeah it's normal. You won't have a problem when you're more used to it.

That's normal too.

Maybe because you were nervous or watch too much porn lol

Thanks for the legitimate advice fellas. Had a tactical one before she came over. Probably won't be doing that again

Stress maybe. I couldn't get it hard one time because of this stuck-up girl I was dating blue balled me for so long. When the time came, well I didn't.

I don't know. I was pretty chilled about the situation. Maybe it just took me by surprise. I thought for sure as soon as she touches my dick I'll cum. When she was doing anything, it didn't feel "that" good

It is, actually.

That too.

Virgins worry about sex, in our society. A lot. It creates a lot of pressure. But sex is not a big deal, and it can be hard to downshift into the right gear, if you're super tense about it. You might not have felt "nervous," but that doesn't mean you weren't under pressure.

By the way? If it was also her first time, send her some flowers, you ass. And it's Sunday: call your mom--she misses you.

same here... but i wasn't just the first time... also the second and thrid time i didn't came or felt like cumming...

Thanks man. It wasn't her first time, she's been with like, 7 other guys? I'll call her in the morning and tell her all about it

Happened to me as well. Performance anxiety.

Yes. You must've been nervous. Give it a couple more times to figure it out.

Oh. Then don't send flowers--you'll seem like a stalker.

Were you nervous?

Just like the song"I just had sex" lol "and I called my parents right afterwards"

I'll send them to you instead

Not at all. I've had girls in my bed before but never "done" anything

"I didn't cum and posted a thread on Sup Forums" Still counts! I just had sex

I like lilies of the valley. NOT lilies. Get it right, please.

Yes sir

Ayy OP, this happened to me too about a month ago. I personally think it was because I was wearing a condom and I'm used to porn and masturbation (skin to skin contact and just general porn higher standards)
Anyways we had sex a second time and the same thing happened. Then we did it a third time and I finally came but I think it had more to do with the fact that the other times she left me with blue balls and didn't masturbate again until after I came with her.
What do you guys think?

At one point we went at it without a condom. It felt better, if we had kept going I think I would have cum but it's whatever. It was my first time and I've learnt some lessons. Glad to know I'm not the only one though

It is 100% in your head. You are looking for reasons to blame her. Stop doing that. You're being an asshole.

When I first lost my virginity with my gf I couldn't cum either, in fact I didn't cum for a month of frequent sex with her.
You probably fapped to much to the point where you're desensitized, that was my issue. Just don't fap and try again in a week or so

>You probably fapped to much to the point where you're desensitized, that was my issue. Just don't fap and try again in a week or so
It isn't. That's not a real thing. You're using that as an excuse. It is about stress, plain and simple. Stress constricts the blood vessels. It's a physiological response that makes it impossible for you to achieve orgasm. It has nothing to do with pornography.

No you're definitely gay

Not trying to blame her and I KNOW it's me user. I'm only saying she left me with blue balls because the first two times she stopped it because we took too long. But trust me I know it's something to do with me.
Anyways she said she really enjoyed it every time so I guess it's not such a bad thing?

op, 90% of the comments on here is spot on. Best advice you could ever get.

100% normal. All nerves. My first time I couldnt get hard at all, and had to stop it. Felt like shit.

Sex is not like porn at all. Good sex is when you actually communicate with your partner; keep communication open, and forget the rest. It gets better.

Best of luck to you.

>Anyways she said she really enjoyed it every time so I guess it's not such a bad thing?
Ah. Then proceed as planned. And no one ever failed to appreciate a hard worker.

Thanks a bunch. Means a lot

Never came my first time either.....switch from hand motion to using my hips and body to cum was a different dynamic I wasn't ready for......me and the girl just diddled in front of each other until we came