At what age did you meet your first girlfriend? I'm about to turn 20 and I feel like I'll be forever alone

At what age did you meet your first girlfriend? I'm about to turn 20 and I feel like I'll be forever alone.

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No rush homie, just work on yourself and she'll come.

21 and have a shot with a girl before 2017. Taking her out next week. Wish me luck

32, I was gay before.

21 and continuing being single.
Porn addiction fucked me up and I'm unable to maintain a relationship. I get bored of people within a week or less and I never got laid because I think it's too much work when I could just use my hand to porn and get off.

Yeah... porn really kills you if you have no self control.

I met my fiancee at 15, we started dating at 19 and I'm 24 now. Planning to tie the knot soon. Pic related.

27 here and I've never had one. Probably never will.

>porn will fuck you up good for sure. I'm 20 and I've never had a gf, pretty sure it's largley because of porn. I just never had the drive to pursue women because porn desensitized me so much. No, I'm not ugly or socially retarted.

Didn't mean to greentext

u lucky fuck

I had girls sitting or putting their head on my lap, flirting with me and such and never noticed it until I read some articles about flirting. Always thought it was how girls act, even if they don't want something from you, just to get a kick out of it.
It's scary how it detaches you from any normal human behaviour.

I don't even know if I'll ever be able to find a parter, right now it really doesn't look like that, as I'm fighting to lose that addiction.

Btw. your looks really don't matter, it's more about how you act and talk to girls.

Honestly I'm just afraid of scaring chicks away considering how much of a dork I am. I'm 24 and no gf either, kissless virgin all the way.

Yeah I'll admit of afraid of getting turned down or ruining things with the girls I'm attracted to. Like there's some friends and coworkers who I wouldn't mind dating. I just don't want my friends to think I'm a creep for having feelings for them or get HR called on me for liking them.

Being shy and introverted as fuck already doesn't really help much either, fuckin 'a. I am so screwed. I don't even know how to flirt. Sup Forums, I'm just afraid. I know what I like and who I dig, I'm just to scared to act on it because I know it's not gonna go in my favor.

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pussy felt good

she's aight

Good for you

i'm 33 and still hope the day will come.

don't give up, user.

>I had girls sitting or putting their head on my lap, flirting with me and such and never noticed it until I read some articles about flirting.

I've read some flirting articles and I still can't make heads or tails of it. Never had girls put their heads on my lap or anything like that kek

>Always thought it was how girls act, even if they don't want something from you, just to get a kick out of it.

I always thought chicks just hated me for some reason even if I didn't do anything.

>Btw. your looks really don't matter, it's more about how you act and talk to girls.

I always act friendly and courteous to women. I talk to them like normal people or try to make em laugh. I just suck at the making them laugh bit.

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All I can tell you is be honest and talk to them. Tell them you like them and you'd want to take them out for a coffee or whatever.
If they're decent, they'll either say: "Thank you, but I'm not interested"
Or: "Yeah, sure, I'd like to go with you"

You kinda have to see how they act around you, how they look at you, how they talk to you, what do they tell you (a lot of private stuff at work, do they want you to engage with them in private,..)

If they tell HR "Ew, user was such a creep, he told me he wanted to go on a date with me, how disgusting, fire him"

Then tell HR what actually happened, if there are no instances of you ever being called into HR for harassing somebody, then I highly doubt they'll do anything.
Also it's very unlikely that they (the person who you're trying to get closer to) will react like that, since adults don't run to HR and complain if they don't like something, they'll talk to you.

Don't be shy, if you never try it you'll always ask yourself "what if?"
Take the shot and if it doesn't work you at least know that you tried and you'll feel better about yourself.
It might hurt, since you wanted something to happen, but you can't do more than asking the person, and you have to accept what they tell you (otherwise you might actually get called into HR)

No matter what happens, if you are honest to the person you desire, you'll feel a confidence boost.
Girls are just humans, they love talking as much as everyone else.
Don't be scared, it'll feel better once you talked about your feelings to the person.

Jeez. At that age, I'd was in the mid-30s for number of women I'd slept with.

14 to answer OP's question.

I was a super geek too, but was also a varsity letterman and confident about my ability to score. They are not mutually exclusive.

Porn is an excuse, y'all just fat, lazy and withdrawn.

If you want a girl, make them desire you.
It might sound cheap, but have a read here.
girlschase.com/pages/female-mind

They got some really good articles on how females signal if they're into you and how you have to present yourself.

met my 'best friend' at 17. she took my virginity

friend zones her then I got the first girl I ever fell for. she became my first 'girlfriend' but I broke up with her after a couple of weeks.

then I started to love my best friend because she stood by my side the whole time.

We're technically a 'couple' but I don't have to remain loyal but she will

The lazyness and withdrawness derives from porn

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I was 17, she was an older women in her mid-20s. Worked as a lifeguard that summer. We fucked raw all summer. Later I found out she wanted a stud. Did the job. Broke up end of that summer. Came by the swimming pool that summer. Saw the ex girl with a baby. Little girl has my sisters hair and eyes. Ex just smiled and winked. Never claimed me as the father.

Pretty sure I was 15-16. Do you have a personality?

Hey her eyebrows match her hairline. Good job.

19 I think, just make an effort and try if you really feel like you want a girl.

Around 22, but not the right girl until I was 32

btw,

for you virgin anons, when you find a girl that you actually want to love you back; don't push for a "girlfriend / boyfriend" relationship. Just be a really good friends & explain that although you do love her, things would work best if you remain good friends.

Obviously don't word it that way; but try a way to put a twist on it. I told the girl who wants to marry me that I couldn't date her because I would be leaving for military & I didn't want to break her heart. girls eat that shit up

Like real talk dude. 90% of it is confidence and courage. Women want a man who is his own man, not a bitch. Someone they can relate to, someone they can have fun with, someone who's funny to them. And above all, someone who can make them feel safe and happy, proud to be with. And you don't have to be above 6ft, and an above 6' dick, or a chiseled body. to get them, just be a man they desire. Whatever you are into, there is a woman who is into it as well. No matter how weird

That's fucking gay

>Whatever you are into, there is a woman who is into it as well. No matter how weird
People tend to marry those that's as much of a loser as themselves.

this guy is someone worth listening to
(pic unrelated)

Don't go for hot chicks, date a nerd..

>have all this
>have a qt3.14 9/10
>gf for 8 months
>suddenly get cucked by chad
"no'

At least they are happy

Well my first gf is was intimate with, was I 7grade denmark... My first longtime relationship was in 8-9-10grade, then we just grew apart...
But I would say my first real adult relationship wasn't til I were 23 and I am had a couple since...

Don't give up hope, have you got some lady experience?

11, get fucked KIDDDO

I mean you found someone who loves you back

I AM Chad

Anybody had any experience with online relationships? Do they ever work out?

25 happily married now never give up

, here.

And yeah, I've asked out a few chicks out on dates, some that were friends. None of them wanted to and I'm sure I accidentally alienated them by doing so. But yeah, I've talked to them and asked them out but then feeling worse than I was before when I do get rejected. Yeah, I know, bitches ain't shit or whatever silliness, but still it sucks. I mostly always see the women in my life as having been friendly or neutral. I've *never* been one girls want to talk in private and I've never really noticed many women act not normal around me.

And yeah, I guess I can let go of the idea asking anyone out from work. I mean, I could possibly explain what really happened, but it'd be hella awkward to see the other person again. :I

I've looked at the "what if?" angle and made my move but it never worked. And like I said when I did let them know about how I felt and asked them out I either got scolded, wishywashy replies, jackshit, etc. Not fun and my confidence was always left in shambles.

I'm confident in a lot of things except girls. I feel terrible afterwards.

What gf?

I've been trying to quit for two years, but it's hard because I've been fapping and watching prom since I was 11. I've noticed definite progress on even 5 days streaks of nofap though. I become attracted to women again and generally way more sociable.

>Btw. your looks really don't matter, it's more about how you act and talk to girls.

Looks definitely aren't a problem for me. I'm still semi hungry skellington mode but I have pretty decent musculature and markedly above average facial ascetics. Not trying to brag though, having my traits and still being a KV makes it all the more pathetic because I know there were MANY oppurtunities that I turned down because of apathy or cowardice.

8ch has a nofap board, you should check it out.

What do you mean, there tend to be a little confusion around what I dating, gf and relationships... In my country dk when you have a steady partner it's a gf, there's no grey area with dating etc.

I've had lots of hook ups online for sex and company, never met someone I thought could be more than a sextoy, but again that was also what I sought...

Have you ever asked yourself why they don't want to date you, or asked them, why they turn you down?

It's pathetic, but still, at least it would give you an answer.

I've read different articles on how they "signal", no two signals are the same. When I thought she was into me, turns out I was wrong. Every time with different chicks.

Also I still don't understand what the phrase "how you present yourself" means. I'm not dressed like a bum or fucking neckbeard or an autist. I'm not like the fags on /fa/, but I'm pretty casual on how I dress.

OK user, why do you think it will never happen for you? What about you is so repulsive to women that you will never get a girlfriend? I'm not trying to make you feel like shit, just got to know the extent of the problem.

>present yourself.

That goes from the way you carry yourself. not the way you dress

Go kick some ass, user.

They saw me only as a friend, no reply, weren't feeling it, looking only for friendship, already seeing someone, trying to get over an ex, etc.

There was one girl who I asked out after we finished hanging out if she'd like to go on a date. She gave me the ex excuse which I took at face value. But just to see if they were gonna ghost on me after 6+ years of friendship I asked when could we get more beer. And she replied miraculously.

And I dunno, I'd rather not know the "real" reasons I guess. Like I said, my confidence with chicks is already shit, I wouldn't want it to be completely shot.

Thanks, she gave me all the signs. Even so much as to make SURE I had her number. Hit her up, she wants to get coffee and then see a movie, Dr. Strange(no idea what the fuck that is but I heard its good). All systems go

Aaah, in that case I'm usually a pretty happy-go-lucky. Or at the least, I'm not actually a downer irl. I'm usually like "oh yeah! Sounds good, I gotchu fam." Or I'll try to make silly jokes, I try to actually appear happy and not be down on myself.

I'm not loud and obnoxious unless I know you and you know what my sense of humor is like. I dunno, I guess I'm a tough one to figure out maybe.

Don't worry b/ro I was 34 when I met my ex there is plenty of time you're 20 still just a pup

i got my first gf at 17. im 20 as well, so far she's been my only "real" gf. i've dated other girls for shorter periods of time, and hooked up with other girls.

i actually have a date this weekend with a cute peruvian girl i met, but im unsure how i feel about her.

How you present yourself:
A. Hygiene - do you shower every day? Wear clean clothes that fit you well? Take care of your teeth and not have breath that would gag a maggot?

B. Do you try to disappear when out in public? Do you hope no one will notice you? You don't have to purposefully draw attention to yourself, but being open, aware of your surroundings, and friendly goes a long way.

C. Can you hold a conversation that lasts more than a few sentences?

D. Are you expecting to be rejected or turned away? Are you expecting a girl to jump in bed with you immediately? Or are you talking to her because she is genuinely interesting to you? Desperation and no self esteem radiate from a person as much as confidence and assurance do.

E. Are you scared of your own shadow? Freaked out by everything around you? Or do you have the inner confidence that you can handle most anything that might come your way in the course of a normal day?

Just a few of the things that "how you present yourself" covers.

Ever considered you're too friendly, too available?

...undesireable to them?

To be fair, if you just want to date someone because you want sex, stick to porn.

That's the reason why your relationships are short term.

I was 14 and I started "dating" my 31yo band teacher. She played clarinet and she loved to suck the dick. We "dated" (more or less fucked like rabbits) for about 4 months at the end of the year and it became too hard when her teacher friends found out and put pressure on her to end it. Good times.

Just relax and be yourself. Have fun. Treat her like a person you want to get to know, not just a hunk of meat you want to stick your dick in. You are both obviously interested, so just enjoy the time you have together.

Hygiene is a big part of it. Women don't like guys who are dirty. Make sure you shower regularly and use deodorant... Work on your health to work out a bit to get healthy and be funny chicks like guys who make them laugh. Every one of my girlfriends have told me they were attracted to me because I was funny and charismatic

Bingo.

That's cool I wish I can stay with my gf (I'm 19) like you

How did you ask them out?

...

Girls < friends
Just started college and am trying to avoid all the sluts. Just choke your chicken and get good at what you like doing and you might meet someone along the way.

Been 100% happier since I started thinking this way.

You're going papi you'll find others I promise my first break up was horrible I thought my life was over. As you get older you'll get wiser and the hurt won't seems so bad

A. yeah, I'll shower twice if I feel the need, yeah I'll wear clean clothes and yeah I'll brush my teeth. Pop in some gum if I don't have time...

B. In public, I walk with a straight back, head up, shoulders back and arms gently swinging. I'll admit I like to keep to myself so as to not offend anyone, but I'm more than happy to provide help if someone asks.

C. Yeah, I like to think so. I don't mind being quiet and it not being awkward. Just because I'm not speaking doesn't mean I don't want to talk. I'm an open book, pretty much. Though I'm wary of asking some questions with some women.

D. Sadly, life experience had led me to believe that rejection is inevitable, so I expect it all the time. It would be foolish of me to think that'd she be willing to fuck me right then & there. I'll admit I have some self-esteem issues, though some of those were brought on by girls early on during puberty. That fucked me up. :I

I try not to show the self esteem issues... but I guess they leak out. Perhaps the fear does too. I dunno.

E. Yeah I got the inner confidence to deal with most shit. Just not women, that's the one area of life I can't figure out to save my life.

The key is that she seems more interested in me than I am in her. Which is what I have heard means the odds are in my favor. But I know I can pull this off, I met her in a class I am taking so we have already gotten to know each other pretty well. She seems really excited to see me. Not like overly excited, like clingy girl excited, but just happy to get to know me

Then you're in like flint man just keep it up and the relationship well progress naturally as long as you don't Fuck it up by doing something stupid like constantly talking about a video game or my little pony

I'm not sure, probably? I try to joke and make them laugh and make dirty jokes when I can. Or silly innuendos.

And of course I'm undesirable to them. I wouldn't be scratching my head trying to figure out to be more desirable to them. :P

In person (face-to-face), phone, text, snapchat.

Same guy responding back.

Rejection is going to come throughout your life. How you handle it is the key. You've survived being rejected how many times and you're still here, right? Did the world end? It's life. When you dwell on it you drag yourself down.

You're a smart, well dressed, semi-respectable guy. You've probably had some interesting things happen to you or around you oin the course of your life. Why wouldn't people want to get to know you?

Do you have many friends that are girls? If not, then try starting there. Getting yourself familiar with being around women in a social setting can really help. Plus when you get to know them, they will usually try to help you out on the dating front. Let them.

Talking to her seems easy and natural, we have a lot in common because we are going to school for similar things. Which I feel is important. Thanks for the support user! I will make sure to handle this as best as I can. The nice thing is for once I am not even nervous about this date. I am sure it will go great!

Not what I meant. Did you say "Hey you want to go out on a date with me?" or did you try something like "Let's get together this weekend. I know an awesome little restaurant that serves the best falafels (or whatever). We could check out that new movie everyone's talking about too."

Just be yourself. Don't be afraid to hold her hand or put your arm around her. If you're having fun and like being with her, let her know.

You got this user.

Maybe it's exactly those innuendos that turn them off.
If you're always implying sex I'd understand how it turns girls off.
If some girl was doing that to me I'd be turned off as well (unless I'd be wanting to have sex with her to 100%)

Thanks bro. If all goes well I will let Sup Forums know

Heh, of course I'm still here. Yeah it sucks and I know I really shouldn't let it get me down. But sometimes I simply can't help it. Like I said, my self esteem is already shit and rejections don't help. :P Like what was the point of building up the courage for it to explode in my face?

And yeh, I've seen and done some interesting stuff. I've traveled to a 3rd world country, I've volunteered for SDCC multiple times for a few years, I've got an associates degree but I've got a full-time job in TV, and so on. Why wouldn't someone want to get to know me? I don't really know, probably because I am me.

And sadly, a majority of my female friends have moved away. Though it's not like they talked to me much anyway. The few remaining female friends I do have, tried to help but ultimately didn't know anyone they could set me up with.

Not entirely sure what you mean by being around women in social settings. I have been, but they usually don't talk to me there...

Unless you can find someone that you're REALLY REALLY compatible with, don't bother. Seriously.

For me, it's taken about 3 months for the girl to realize I'm an asshole and that I'm a drag to be around. I've had 4 "relationships."

Maybe I'll find someone who matches my energy perfectly one day. Maybe I just suck.

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went through 15 girls after until i found the love of my life for 2 years now 22 now

I've done both, actually. Maybe not as detailed, but I've definitely asked for dates. My personal rule is, it's not a date unless I use the word "date".

I don't really know, innuendos are reserved for when I've known them for awhile and I get their sense of humor. If they've made those kinda jokes, I'll make them too. But it's not a constant. -shrug-

Do blood relatives count if our relationship is sexual and we do things together?

Yeah, 20 is pretty much the point of no return.

Deadline is about 25, and after that, you're guaranteed to die alone.

this guy knows
take the pussy off the pedestal and they beg for it
old fag here going back to school for a masters
i dont give these little cunts an ounce of flirt or respect and i am swimming in 23 year old pussy

Don't just get them to hook you up with their friends, get them to help you figure out how to GET a date.

Being around women in a social setting means doing things with women where you interact with them but you have no expectations of dating. Just you and her (or a small group of people) doing things for fun. The more you are around women and talk and interact with them, the more relaxed you will be around women in general. The more relaxed you are around women, the better your chances of getting a date. The more dates you have, the better your chances of finding a girlfriend. If you are not able to accomplish step one, then you will never get to the other steps.

Of course this means you will have to have some interests in things that most women will find at least mildly interesting.

Use this time to hone your flirting skills imo.

But only use them to fuck, don't even think about hosting a parasite until you're at least 30.

That rule? Throw it out the window.

What other rules do you have?

20 still KV

I'm well into 24, with not even a kiss yet. When I was 17 I helped a classmate push her car and she gave me a hug.
But there's an actual real life girl I hang out with rarely that I've had obvious tension with for like 6 years, I decided to ask her to go see a movie and she said yes.
How do I movie date her?
How do I talk to a girl?
How could I turn this into a decade of activities as a couple and constant morning sex?
I'm scared, but at the same time after 6 years of "almost dating" her im ready to get a yes or no answer

All fear stems from time if don't let go and start flying(following through with your thoughts not valuing consequences)

At 7 or 8, and I met my true love at 21, sadly I lost her...

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22 here no gf, no self esteem. I will probably need to get some help someday.

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You: I heard the new Dr Strange movie is pretty good. You want to go check it out Friday?

Ahh yeah I see... I'm kinda shy about that too. They don't really seem to be interested in helping me get a date. Some of them have boyfriends and husbands of their own to tend to. Last thing they need to be doing is helping this user get a date. :P

And ohhh, I see what you mean by social setting. I used to do that before they moved away, though it's not like they interacted with me much. And even if I did make the effort I don't think they cared much.

And sadly, tabletop RPGs, most forms of sportball and whatnot aren't very interesting to women my age.

Well, that's how you avoid miscommunication and state your intentions clearly. One chick grilled me because I wasn't clear on what I wanted even though I obviously wanted a date.

I don't really have many "rules", just shit to avoid I guess.

I'm going to sleep, Anons. Thanks for the help, don't cry for me, I'm hopeless.

That attitude is why you don't get dates.