Ask a psychologist anything

Ask a psychologist anything.

Why do i want to fear pain?

Can someone truly recover from anxiety? In some instances anxiety is usefull blabla, but can one truly recover from the illness?

Also what aproach do you practise; psychotherapy?

what am i thinking

What do females want the most?

>Can someone truly recover from anxiety? In some instances anxiety is usefull blabla, but can one truly recover from the illness?
>Also what approach do you practice; psychotherapy?

I practice behaviorism and acceptance and commitment therapy (i.e., contextual behavior science).

Can you answer the first question? My therapist dodges the question.

>What do females want the most?

Speaking not as a psychologist; but as a married man. I think women (don't call them females; gives away your AU), want to find the best partner that suits them.

What are the signs of a burn out?

How does it feel to a degree in a field which is based on assumptions and not facts?

If someone thinks you don't trust them and is upset about it, how do you get them to like you again?

to what a degree?

360 and walk away

So what do you do after you've come the the inevitable conclusion that life is meaningless? I've accepted it and just focus on doing what makes me happy like hobbies, ect. But eventually I'll get bored won't I? I'm already tired of drinking myself to death, gonna try out some peaceful hobbies like gardening or something. How long do you think this is viable?

>Can you answer the first question? My therapist dodges the question.

Sure, it is my opinion that anxiety severe enough to warrant a diagnosis is the result of genetics (nature) AND nurture. Our field has traditionally overemphasized the role of nurture. But, anxiety has a real nurture component. For example, you avoid doing something because you get nervous. That ends up making your anxiety worse. The evidenced based treatment for most anxiety disorders is some flavor of exposure and response prevention. So the answer is yes, youre probably going to always have anxiety. Its just how your mind works. But whether you let it impair your is another question. Hopefully you can get to place where you dont allow it to control your life.

Is this real life?

>How does it feel to a degree in a field which is based on assumptions and not facts?

such an edgelord

Probs like dreading going to work; finding it hard to empathize with clients. Why?

>If someone thinks you don't trust them and is upset about it, how do you get them to like you again?
Can you give an example?

Still true though

This. I also struggle with the realisation that life is meaningless. I have tried many things, but life is still meaningless in the big picture.

Currently im not tired of drinking myself to oblivion, so im still happy when i am drunk. I am considering abusing pills or other drugs tho, because why not? Does it really matter if i become an addict? If i kill myself? If i save the world from something? If i destroy it?

The universe is so enormous that we do not have the capasity to understand it. The mere survival of our planet is irrelevant to everything. How then can my life be as full of meaning as everyone says it is?

>So what do you do after you've come the the inevitable conclusion that life is meaningless? I've accepted it and just focus on doing what makes me happy like hobbies, ect. But eventually I'll get bored won't I? I'm already tired of drinking myself to death, gonna try out some peaceful hobbies like gardening or something. How long do you think this is viable?

I don't think life is meaningless. I think you can live in line with your values. Maybe thinking about who or what is important you could help guide you. If gardening is inline with your values, if it makes you have a more vital life, then I think its forever viable.

So, im actually going to agree with you to some extent, man. I think the field started that way. But thats not really how things work now.

Message from her to me. (Dyslexic and can't spell for shit)

'This is me saying goodbye now.

I realise you're image of me is so wrong; it will take me to much energy to have any equality for a friendship.

In any other connection; please trust real life conversation and not the multimedia status

Iether way i dont wanna invest in people who don't trust me; it makes me feel angry and sad.

Certainly aint my friends.

So no user, this douse not sounds like a friendship to me. I gonna stop typing on messenger now and step/stay in real life now.

For all the above: surge for therapy (or any other help) you trust.

And I believe (that although the challenges are unfair divided) when we are grownups we are responsible for our loneliness; don't give up keep on working and surging for connection.

Between us though: I'm asking you to stop texting me because of the reasons above.

Toi toi and wish you luck and trust on your way'

is it possible to get PTSD without ever being in a war?

Thats a hood an honest answer. I appreciate that. I guess what i struggle the most with is to find the motivation to get back to my life. I am educated as a pediatric therapist, and am genuinely good at my work. I also love doing it. Yet, all i do to cope with my fears, is drink. I know this is extremely coubter-productive, but it is the only way i can get some relief as i feel now.

Got any angles for anxiety coping, except for the usual?

Yeah like getting into a car crash, witnessing a murder, being raped, being misgendered

>This. I also struggle with the realisation that life is meaningless. I have tried many things, but life is still meaningless in the big picture.
>Currently im not tired of drinking myself to oblivion, so im still happy when i am drunk. I am considering abusing pills or other drugs tho, because why not? Does it really matter if i become an addict? If i kill myself? If i save the world from something? If i destroy it?
>The universe is so enormous that we do not have the capasity to understand it. The mere survival of our planet is irrelevant to everything. How then can my life be as full of meaning as everyone says it is?

So when I read things like this, I see someone who's very clever mind is really pushing them around. The question is: does drinking yourself into oblivion, abusing pills or drugs, and what not make you live closer to your values?

Maybe think about what is important to you. What would you want people to say about you at your funeral? That might get you closer. What would you want people to say about you?

>Message from her to me. (Dyslexic and can't spell for shit)
>'This is me saying goodbye now.
>I realise you're image of me is so wrong; it will take me to much energy to have any equality for a friendship.
>In any other connection; please trust real life conversation and not the multimedia status
>Iether way i dont wanna invest in people who don't trust me; it makes me feel angry and sad.
>Certainly aint my friends.
>So no user, this douse not sounds like a friendship to me. I gonna stop typing on messenger now and step/stay in real life now.
>For all the above: surge for therapy (or any other help) you trust.
>And I believe (that although the challenges are unfair divided) when we are grownups we are responsible for our loneliness; don't give up keep on working and surging for connection.
>Between us though: I'm asking you to stop texting me because of the reasons above.
>Toi toi and wish you luck and trust on your way'

Dude, that sucks. I am sorry. It sounds like she needs some space. What does your mind say when you think about not talking to her?

>is it possible to get PTSD without ever being in a war?

Absolutely. What happened?

why wouldn't they just as any human sucess their life ? It looks strange to me that they would have a particular common desire.

what's the psychological pattern behind masochism ?
i'm into femdom and domination and i'd like to know why i like that

Can you write down a list of everything you have to try to control your anxiety?

First guy, I get that you're saying find something you can assign meaning to because that's what makes you happy. But if everything is meaningless in the end then all that matters is that we enjoy whatever we experience as a consciousness. I've thought long and hard about it but I can't get past that the only thing mattering is being happy, because fuck it if I'm gonna turn in to space dust eventually I may as well enjoy the life I live right? Just also worries me that I probably will get tired of it and off myself. Not through like a violent means probably just through drinking/pleasurable activity that will end me. Cause that's all that really matters I guess. Pleasure/happiness.

close friend commited suicide and i found her, the her friend got close to try and comfort me and stayed for weeks like she really wanted to help, then laughed her ass off calling my friend who killed themself a bitch and stuff, thus ruining the recovery i was making from what i saw

...

is this just fantasy

>what's the psychological pattern behind masochism ?
>i'm into femdom and domination and i'd like to know why i like that

Does there have to be a reason why? My question, does being into BDSM fuck with your life? cause problems at work or with relationships?

Holy shit, you really are a psychologist.

I would like them to say what you just said about me. And alcohol and drugs only drives me further away from my values, which again fills me with guilt, which again fuels my longing for 'escape'.

This gave me some insight, which i will seriously reflect on. Too me, this was more valuable than Descartes, Nietzsche, plato and the rest of them.

Thank you user, you made me put down my drink for tonight.

no, not at all
being into domination is no problem for me
i'd just like to know why, what did i experience to like it today ?

Why does hotse pussy make me horny?

>Pleasure/happiness.

seriously, try writing your eulogy for me. I might be able to help you see something else besides the meaningless of life. I often charge 150 an hour for this stuff...

you don't know how much you can be traumatize by anything boi all you need is context

Of course man. I suffer from it to a degree. Mostly from trauma at a young age.

For OP though, I was wondering if it is possible to not only reduce my anti-depressant intake but also to help my paranoid anxiety (aka people are watching me as I do this and that etc). Currently on escitalopram (small dosage) mirtazapine (30mg at night) and Lorazepam for anxiety ridden performance. I want to live my life without pills hopefully. But the stresses from trying exposure and such just don't seem to be helping me or at least my cognitive being adjusting properly to stressful situations.

On the upside it has been at least a year since I had a self-harm thought.

>close friend commited suicide and i found her, the her friend got close to try and comfort me and stayed for weeks like she really wanted to help, then laughed her ass off calling my friend who killed themself a bitch and stuff, thus ruining the recovery i was making from what i saw

First, I am sorry your friend killed herself. Its understandable that your messed up about this.

Second, there is a difference between grief and PTSD. How much time has passed?

Third, everyone grieves in a different way. Maybe calling her a bitch what how she was dealing with her grief.

Fourth, seems like this person cared for you to comfort you and stay. So do you have mixed feelings about them now?

That's a month old message that I haven't responded to (good?). Not talking to her the entire time in order that I might get to talk to her again much later. My mind says something like 'who else are you going to talk to?', which I don't have a good answer for. Then I return to what to respond with, and what's meant by ambiguous statements in the text. I usually write off any response that it too long, angry or begging, and therefore write off anything I might say in response except just declaring fondness for the person, then I write this off, since it ignores too much important exchange. Then I get stuck.

Well I dunno, guess I'd want it to say man that guy planned the most badass party for his funeral I ever went to. And that... Fuck I don't really care that much actually. I don't feel like I should care about my eulogy. fuck eulogies, who made that shit up anyways? Why do we even have eulogies. Just put something along the lines of that in my eulogy. "'Why are eulogies even a thing' - user PS open bar behind my casket"

No thats not it. More liks my bossen really hard on me

Fight, flight and freeze - all of these escaleted the symptoms.
Anxiety meds (sobril, did not work)
Meditation, tried for a long time
Work out, weightlifting and cardio for 4 years, did not work
Therapy
Overcompensating (being super social)

>Holy shit, you really are a psychologist.
>I would like them to say what you just said about me. And alcohol and drugs only drives me further away from my values, which again fills me with guilt, which again fuels my longing for 'escape'.
>This gave me some insight, which i will seriously reflect on. Too me, this was more valuable than Descartes, Nietzsche, plato and the rest of them.
>Thank you user, you made me put down my drink for tonight.

No prob. So did you like being called clever? Being clever is a value man.

I'll add to this thread as well. I'm a psychologist trained at GSAPP, for reference.

In regards to anxiety, TC is doing the right thing. There is indeed a sizeable genetic component to anxiety, with most theories pointing towards anxiety sensitivity being moderated by learning history. A thorough assessment is needed to get at possible routes towards change. Each behavior has a function, but the major pattern in anxiety is avoidance behavior. We avoid the things that make us anxious. Said avoidance limits opportunities for new learning that could help reshape our beliefs about why something is fearful/anxiety provoking. This is why exposure therapy works very well for reducing anxiety issues. However, it needs to be done well; without some measure of cognitive restructuring, change is likely to be shallow and not maintained.

its been about 3 and a half months i think, it happened early january

well that was actually an issue, she didnt actually care about my friend, she made a joke about comforting me and that she was only acting like she cared voz someone (idk who tho) told her to at least fake that she cares to try and cheer me up, but finding out that made it worse

I'm fully aware, that is why I listed a few common occurrences that can cause PTSD outside of armed conflicts

>no, not at all
>being into domination is no problem for me
>i'd just like to know why, what did i experience to like it today ?

This is going to be really unsatisfying. But my answer as to why is: its just something your mind likes. Why not enjoy it if it doesn't cause problems or get in the way you living a valued life.

I was put on wellbutrin xl, but i asked for modafinil. My doctor psychologist said that it would make me psychotic. Do you have any idea what he meant by that? He says that i have ADHD, depression and anxiety.

horse pussy?

>For OP though, I was wondering if it is possible to not only reduce my anti-depressant intake but also to help my paranoid anxiety (aka people are watching me as I do this and that etc). Currently on escitalopram (small dosage) mirtazapine (30mg at night) and Lorazepam for anxiety ridden performance. I want to live my life without pills hopefully. But the stresses from trying exposure and such just don't seem to be helping me or at least my cognitive being adjusting properly to stressful situations.

First, I am not a doctor man.

Second, do the pills help you live a more vital/bigger life? Why dont you want them if they help you?

I did. But the fact that you understood me meant more. The patients that get you are lucky user. Good night, and good luck handling Sup Forums.

oh no i enjoy it :)

>That's a month old message that I haven't responded to (good?). Not talking to her the entire time in order that I might get to talk to her again much later. My mind says something like 'who else are you going to talk to?', which I don't have a good answer for. Then I return to what to respond with, and what's meant by ambiguous statements in the text. I usually write off any response that it too long, angry or begging, and therefore write off anything I might say in response except just declaring fondness for the person, then I write this off, since it ignores too much important exchange. Then I get stuck.

Its absolutely good that you haven't responded to her. It takes a ton of control and willpower. I am proud of you user.

Seems like your mind is trying to over analyze every line of text for a solution. Doesn't seem like its working.

Fact is, you probably can't say or do anything to change her behavior. All you can do is focus on your own behavior.

The real issue for me is: Why don't you have someone else to talk too?

Have you tried to talk to someone else? Are you lonely?

Coping wise, there's relaxation training and mindfulness exercises. However, those don't really treat the cause of the problem. They're useful in the short term for first order change (return to baseline). In regards to anxiety issues, the best way out is usually through.

So, sexual masochism only? Pain can release endorphins, which is one possible way to create the association. A paraphilic masochism MIGHT be caused by intense/repeated experiences in which suffering pain was paired with pleasure, or one had to derive (force) pleasure to justify the pain suffered. From a more psychodynamic perspective, non-sexual masochism is about taking care of the needs of others at the expense of one's own needs, aka the defense of reversal.

>Well I dunno, guess I'd want it to say man that guy planned the most badass party for his funeral I ever went to. And that... Fuck I don't really care that much actually. I don't feel like I should care about my eulogy. fuck eulogies, who made that shit up anyways? Why do we even have eulogies. Just put something along the lines of that in my eulogy. "'Why are eulogies even a thing' - user PS open bar behind my casket"

Seems like you care about partying. Why do you care so much about that? Is it that you are with others?

Why is my poop green?

OP, my boyfriend used to beat me up and after the one time I called the police he has never done it again, about a year ago. He expresses sign of remorse quite often, and says that was the old "insecure and stupid" him. I don't know why I stayed with him, maybe because of how many years I've known him and that I care about him. We are getting married, and what I am asking you is: can abusers actually stop for good? He swears it wont happen again. It used to happen once a week.

I don't want them because at a certain point I want my own willpower to overcome stressful situations. Pills should only help in the short term not in the long term. I have been up and down on pills since I was 16 years old (now 26).

Never assumed you were doctor man. Was just asking for advice in terms of paranoid delusions and hyper vigilance. Let alone my severe depression and sever social anxiety and PTSD (or at least what they have diagnosed me with)

>Fight, flight and freeze - all of these escaleted the symptoms.
>Anxiety meds (sobril, did not work)
>Meditation, tried for a long time
>Work out, weightlifting and cardio for 4 years, did not work
>Therapy
>Overcompensating (being super social)

Can I add some to the list:

Asking a stanger on Sup Forums :)

thinking about anxiety

You've done a lot, man. You have a good work ethic.

Have you ever thought that anxiety might not be the problem?

What he said. There can be a great deal of shame and stigma related to medication; however, it's possible to detach from that narrative.

For TC:

Any tips on how to become better with ACT? Reading about relational frame theory is frustrating as Hayes' writing on that is about as clear as mud. If I were forced to do an ACT treatment, I'd likely have to treat it like a mixed bag of CBT techniques with defusion and values work thrown in, which doesn't really seem like a great treatment plan.

>cognitive restructuring

I don't know dude. I think research is showing that lasting behavioral change can occur without cognitive restructuring.

>well that was actually an issue, she didnt actually care about my friend, she made a joke about comforting me and that she was only acting like she cared voz someone (idk who tho) told her to at least fake that she cares to try and cheer me up, but finding out that made it worse

Still seems pretty fresh, man. Is the stuff you are going through causing problems in your life?

I don't. Sorry :(

Mm yeah I guess it could be.. I really just like to drink. I'll drink myself into a stupor just by myself watching TV and browsing Sup Forums. I mean I know its bad for me so I recently sobered up but come on if I was gonna die I'd wanna throw some badass party. Everyone is happy at parties for the most part so I feel like that'd be the best thing to do at a funeral. Fuck all the sappy bs throw me in the dumpster for fun or something. Or shoot me out of a cannon. I really have kinda just gotten into this mindset of not giving a single fuck about anything I don't enjoy. Only reason I haven't gone absolutely crazy and started being a criminal in a 3rd world shithole doing crazy shit is because my family would fucking shit bricks. So I continue my boring normal life to appease them. I also have obligations as far as work contracts so I cant just go off grid crazy like I want to for a few more years.

too much grape juicey wooshey?

yeah, heavy depression being the main issue, it sucks and i generally have nobody to open up to about it, but thanks to it ive been fearing shit happeneing again and have had lots of tru issues since then

Right, CR is generally a first order change technique, which doesn't really work into lasting change. Yet having done a bunch of cognitive processing therapy for PTSD, I can't really see it having absolutely no value in creating lasting change. Have there been dismantling studies that look at relapse rates with CR being the IV?

Easiest way to pass an A-Level psychology exam?

>OP, my boyfriend used to beat me up and after the one time I called the police he has never done it again, about a year ago. He expresses sign of remorse quite often, and says that was the old "insecure and stupid" him. I don't know why I stayed with him, maybe because of how many years I've known him and that I care about him. We are getting married, and what I am asking you is: can abusers actually stop for good? He swears it wont happen again. It used to happen once a week.

So, there was a study that showed that like 50% have something called a borderline personality organization.

Basically, your BF might have a borderline personality disorder. Its totally treatable, but requires high amounts of dialectical behavior therapy for like two years.

I wouldn't marry until he does that.

Psychotic symptoms can be a side effect of stimulants. It's fairly rare though. It's not possible to 100% predict if someone is going to have that kind of reaction, though. Welbutrin is an antidepressant; perhaps he's trying to see if working on the depression, which can have cognitive side effects like limiting concentration, will obviate the need for a stimulant.

I would start with Harris' Act made simple book. Its the opposite. Super easy to read.

As for my approach - I do a ton of values work - obviously. CBT is consistent with ACT, provided that you aren't doing anything for sole purpose of experiential avoidance. Does that help?

Seems like you care about fun, man. The issue is, are you really having fun killing your liver and wasting time?

>yeah, heavy depression being the main issue, it sucks and i generally have nobody to open up to about it, but thanks to it ive been fearing shit happeneing again and have had lots of tru issues since then

What does the heavy depression for you look like?

What's the best way to deal with repressed/internalized stress?

Constant traumatic events and bullying in my teen years are truly fucking me up now that I'm in my mid 20's. Molestation, physical abuse, and for the last 6 years heavy mental abuse.

I can't let things go anymore cause I'm so scared of ending up in the same place I was when I was young. Don't know how to cope or deal with it.

Any advice?

flashcards

Thank you OP, but even if I have noticed many changes in him? He does not even show signs of anger, even if I throw a fit (pms, whatever). He says that he is fully aware of why he was acting that way. Do you still think it might be BPD?

>Psychotic symptoms can be a side effect of stimulants. It's fairly rare though. It's not possible to 100% predict if someone is going to have that kind of reaction, though. Welbutrin is an antidepressant; perhaps he's trying to see if working on the depression, which can have cognitive side effects like limiting concentration, will obviate the need for a stimulant.

Buproprion/wellby is also off label for adhd.

Actually, the understanding is there. Overusing the mind is more to do with how to put it to her, what assumptions I can/should safely make. For example, she appears careful to avoid saying a freindship is desirable. I can cause offence by explicitly giving this observation, or I can be naive and assume it's her assumption that I know a freindship is desirable. Also, 'over analyze' is an interesting choice, since I don't think I'm able to do much else to prepare for if I see her again.

Again, motivations are a bit fucked up here. I'm extremely motivated to change my behaviour, in order to change her feelings toward me, and hence, her behaviour.

My behaviour is fairly plastic apart from being hung up on her. (I am what you would call 'infatuated' with this chick by the way, just to be explicit)

My intelligent freinds are quite spread out (hence not so close) and have shit to do. My less intelligent freinds run out of attention span or working memory way before I run out of details that I think are crucially important. There are some difficulties in communicaiton. I'm working myself out of debt before I buy a therapist/consellor but it's coming. This chick was herself a therapist before.

I've tried talking with folks when I was in berlin on limited time (plus difficulty speaking) and didn't get very far. I'm part way through jordan peterson past authoring program although maybe not directly relevant. messaging folks I come up against the same barriers as messaging her (this or that is unpleasant and will get me rejected (carl rogers eh?)). Mostly I write letters and decide against sending them.

Am I lonely? Yes. Difficulty (fear) forming relationships and also wiredly dismissive of any that are available. Also I'm quite an odd guy apparantly so it's not so easy for others often (different frames of reference. rate of ideas. mumbling) . I don't know what to do about any of this.

Dude, have you tried seeing someone about this - if you at uni, you could go there.

yes. why are you with a dude who beats you?

Well what the fuck else is fun? Is gardening not wasting time? Is.. Inventing cancer cures not wasting time? I just do whatever I like to do now a days. Like before I was really depressed I guess you could say. I'm pretty happy though now, since I thought about it all realized it was pointless and now I just do what makes me happy. Like right now, I'm gonna blow 30 bucks on chinaman food pig out and pass out. Why? I don't know I like it. Tomorrow I'm gonna till a garden and drink tea like some kind of fuckin monk. Why? Cause life is pointless and im entertaining myself till I die I guess.

What did you do in the first place man?

you dont have to have all the answers now man.

Yes, actually. Terry Wilson always said that ACT is nothing new, and that Hayes was always just repackaging radical behaviorism with new jargon. Finding ways to incorporate defusion techniques in a more...organic way would be lovely, though.

Two things to note:

1- Lots of places practice bootleg DBT, marketing skills groups alone as DBT. Fidelity to the model is...questionable at best. Still, TC is right. He needs to make some sort of change before tying your life to his.

2- I find it funny that you mention BPD and borderline personality organization. Levels of organization is a very psychodynamic concept--you might have heard of the spectrum from psychotic-borderline-neurotic. BPD is histrionic personality structure at a borderline level of organization. The parallels between CBT and parts of dynamic theory are fascinating.

constantly just avoiding social situations, often dont get out of bed and skip work, and rare but still there, suicidal thoughts

I don't know,

How do I force myself to see a therapist? It's gotten pretty bad again, and I can't get myself to trust you people. Especially with the 1 billion different kinds of therapists there are, how do I tell a good one from a quack?

Nope. My father drilled it into my head that therapists are for the weak.. and going means I have to face the problems so there's heavy heavy anxiety around the subject. Being unwarrentedly told "you need help" for petty things enough times also makes me feel like I'm seceding if I go.

I really do need help but my brain is pretty fucked up and won't let me.

When I feel overwhelmed I blurt out random incoherent half sentences like: "I can't see", "That's not what I mean" in a confused, lost sort of way. Not like i'm talking to anyone, just muttering.

Sometimes when I'm really stressed I'll tear up my arms with my nails without realizing it.

When I can't handle it anymore, I'll do shot after shot of the strongest alcohol I have until I stop muttering. If that isn't helping I'll chain smoke, and punch the brick of my house.

I often feel like I have nothing to do. I'll sit in my rooms staring, unfocused at nothing. I like old things though, and working with my hands. Fixing clocks, typewriters, etc.

I put garbage bags over my windows, when my roommates asked about it I told them it was to block out the sun. It was partially, but also because I felt like I was being watched.

Sometimes I wake up screaming. I almost never remember what I dream but when I do it's horrifying. Sometimes when I look at myself in the mirror, I'm kind of half smiling, but I feel like I'm still screaming.

I have friends, go to university (I get B's, and A's mostly), and have held jobs in my profession, everything is true.

I don't think I'll get help. The most "therapeutic" thing I've found for me is being outdoors (usually canoeing in Algonquin), alone, or with a couple good friends.

I could easily see my bad habits (drinking, smoking, anxiety attacks) getting out of hand, and me still not seeing anyone about my mental health.

I need to know, where is the line for me? Will I; can I stop?

Point. Does it also have antipsychotic effects? Most of the people I see on welby are pretty fragile and have histories of psychotic depressions.

Is there a word for thinking other people are doing something because you do it? Like if you cheat or cheated once in a video game, and someone else is better than you, you might think he cheats too because of past experiences

>2- I find it funny that you mention BPD and borderline personality organization. Levels of organization is a very psychodynamic concept--you might have heard of the spectrum from psychotic-borderline-neurotic. BPD is histrionic personality structure at a borderline level of organization. The parallels between CBT and parts of dynamic theory are fascinating.

I've always thought of BPO as more of like the spectrum of borderline. I got introduced to it in a social psych required class.

If it means anything to you, I use defusion way less. I think its what makes ACT more unique. But for me, the money is on changing the relationship between cognition and its power over behavior. You don't need defusion to do that.

Dude, often the behavior needs to come first. What I am saying is, do the social situations, then you might feel better.