She's completely lost her sex drive. We've been living together for close to a year...

She's completely lost her sex drive. We've been living together for close to a year, but the last couple months we went from sex almost every day to sex maybe once a week if I'm lucky. I love her but I feel like this is putting a strain on our relationship.

It feels like she doesn't appreciate me as much anymore, and like she doesn't find me attractive like she used to. It makes me feel unwanted, and then I start finding ways to affirm all of my other insecurities through it.

or maybe I'm just being overly dramatic. Post some feelsy shit for me please.

She's getting it from somewhere else. Dump that whore.

Welcome to an adult relationship. I hope you're just leaving high school if you still haven't figured out how this works. That or shes banging someone else.

no she's not

How do you know for certain?

Fuck dude I should not even try to help you. You deserve this shit.

her sex drive has been slowly diminishing due to her worsening depression and constantly wanting to kill herself

Bro. That shit is natural. Chicks don't want to bang everyday. It wears them out. Here's what you do. You have to earn that shit. You have to mothat fuckin' work your ass off. Be good in every other way. Try and focus on doing other stuff with her. Running, biking, art, cleaning, go to events. She might be slipping into depression so talk to her. Be a man. You have to make her want to fuck you. Now get the fuck off Sup Forums and appreciate the fuck out of that woman. Take good care of her like a new car. Done!

That's just the story she's telling you. She's probably depressed about being such a whore.

>all this shit
>for something your hand can do just as good
Normalfags can't compete.

Take her to a swinger sex club and play with other couples. It will ignite the sex drive in both of you.

It's her birth control. Just a guess--she started taking the pill/got the implant after you got together?

Listen to how fuckin' stupid that sounds. Your hand really? Your hand will never compare to a womans. But you have to earn her hand. Bro give her a back rub. Do this dishes and the laundry. Take a pic together then post that shit to IG. Give her a sensual ass backrub with her favorite lotion. You live with a girlfriend. Appreciate that shit. Don't take shit for granted. Massages with the oils and candles and some chill beats. Kills it every time. Make that back rub artistic as fuck. Make her some tea. She's probably sick. Get her favorite socks for her. Put in work. Don't be lazy or complain. Do something about it. Don't forget to pay the fuckin bills on time too! Shit. Done!

>Be a beta while your wife cucks you.

No thanks homo.

Actually, to confirm.... Did she gain weight, lose her sex drive, and get depressed?

You're fucking ridiculous. Do you think about anything but sex? I know all too well how sex is important for relationships, but that's not the point.

Just look for something to enjoy from her other than sex and you'll be a happier person because of it. What the fuck do you think will happen when you get old and can't fuck as much as you wish you could? Are you gonna drop the granny for not putting out? Should she drop you for not being able to get it up?

I think your main problem here is that you're focusing on sex way too much. She finds you attractive and wants you. She's living with you and choosing to spend her life with you. She's not having sex because, most likely, her body just isn't down for that at the moment. Maybe she just misses you and wants to spend time with you in other things.

Either way, (also in case of TL;DR) you need to focus on things other than sex for once. Whack one out, then give her a back rub and remember what you love about her that isn't sex-related. And most of all, TALK to her. That's literally what you are supposed to do in a relationship. But when explaining yourself, actually listen to what she says and try to understand and really believe her. Don't misread things or assume she's lying just because you have the preconceived ideas in mind that you can't get out. Almost all of the time you have those thoughts, they are going to be wrong.

I know because I've been there and done all of those things. I'm practically a future you at this point, with how similar our stories are. That shit is all in your head.

Also, don't go to Sup Forums of all places for advice because you're going to get this reply every time from your out-of-touch single neckbeards.

Yeahhhh I suppose wishing you were dead might put a slight damper on the ol' libido

This.

You sound like a based black man. Like one of those guys you could just listen to for hours and feel all hyped and inspired afterwards.

I can't tell if you're fucking with everyone or not

>most likely, her body just isn't down for that at the moment.

Yeah her body isn't down for that at the moment and the moment is actually weeks/months

Fucking kill yourself

I really hope this is a woman and guys wonder why women play you all the time

That's why I love Sup Forums. I can just live vicariously through random anons. Helping their fuckin' lives as my shit falls apart. Passes time while I smoke. I have to keep putting good out there. Appreciate that brand new 2017 hot live in girlfriend you got from the dealership a year early. You're ass is supposed to be thinking about marriage too. I hope you know that.

Feelsy shit? How about this? My foot in your ass if you don't go be a good man and talk this shit out with her. Shit! Enjoy your apartment! Make sure it's clean. That shit ain't beta?! Quit paying so much attention to her and start a new project. Then ask her to go for a walk around the town. Shit! Get her a fuckin' puppy. Bitches love puppies. They do all the cheering up for you! Then give her a back rub with some chocolate and red wine. Done!

OP said specifically
>the last couple months we went from sex almost every day to sex maybe once a week if I'm lucky

It's not like they've stopped sex cold turkey. It's just not regular daily sex. It's less often, but still happens. Once a week is not uncommon. Everyone has a different libido, and emotional stress like she's dealing with will definitely lead to it diminishing a bit.

At my lowest parts of depression, even as a guy, I couldn't even look at porn or jack off. I wouldn't feel anything from it, if anything it would just annoy me. You just lose desire for that.

What she needs is OP to support and stay by her side and help her through the whole way instead of having expectations she can't meet because of what she's going through.

Love is looking past yourself and your desires in order to lift the other person up and give them everything.

You both are supporting each other up. It leaves you exposed and at risk for a hard fall. But because you love each other, you are willing to take that risk and open up. If you move your arms away to try to hold yourself up, you're going to drop her in the process and she's going to be hurt, and vice versa. You both are the support you need for each other.