What if the woman I plan on marrying doesn't want to adopt my surname? Am I a cuck for marrying her anyway?

What if the woman I plan on marrying doesn't want to adopt my surname? Am I a cuck for marrying her anyway?

Just keep whittling her down until she gives in, don't just give up because she said no at first.

You wouldn't want to be like my brother. His wife kept her name, and his two kids (one of which is a son) have his wife's last name as well. You don't want to end up that cucked, that shit is painful.

Jesus fucking christ. What the actual fuck is wrong with Americans? Holy fucking shit. How fucking cucked are you dopey cunts?

>What if the woman I plan on marrying doesn't want to adopt my surname?

She's already cheating on you.

I've known a few women that kept their last name. It's truly one of the biggest red flags out there.

You should find someone else and stop being such a little bitch

Amanda Love
10/10 tits
4/10 ass

>has porn saved

you were a cuck LONG before this cuck

It's part of 3rd wave feminism. Tough to avoid nowadays, best you can compromise for is that she includes both last names for her and uses your last name for the kids.

if you marry her and she doesnt take your name, her family will think they own you and you WILL get divorced at the smallest disagreement.

DO NOT PROCEED!

>woman I plan on marrying doesn't want to adopt my surname
Why marry a woman who doesn't even respect you my man?

What should I do if my last name is from my moms remarry, I have no ties to it at all. I don't really want it, but I will never take wifes last name either.

Only solution is to never marry I guess

Yes. 100%. next you'll accept your boys adopt her name won't you.

Just rape her by saying "so you want to keep your father's name?"

She intends on divorcing in the near future and it's less paperwork for her when that happens. So be advised.

Make sure your kids have your surname without any hyphenated bullshit.

My ex said the same thing. Yes she cheated on me, yes she was a degenarate.

Dump her or suffer later on. your choice

when I married my wife, I told her that I didnt care if she changed her name or not, that it was her choice, but I wanted my children to have my name. She changed her name because she wanted to have the same name as her children.

If she wasnt planning on taking her husbands surname long before she even met you she is so far beyond a lost cause its unfunny

A while back my GF initially said she wouldn't take my name, so I said I wouldn't marry her unless she does, she's changed her tune.

If she tells you she thinks it's an old stupid tradition just respond by telling her that's what marriage is too. Whenever my GF asks us when we're getting married I just tell her "marriage is for gay people." If she doesn't take your name she doesn't respect you, so why get married. It's not like you have to get married to have sex with her anyways.

>4/10 ass
damn, cause she was kinda cute

Get a name change, and start your own line.

You can make it something really bad ass too.
Not many people have a legit excuse to change your last name.
Don't look at it as a curse. It's an opportunity for something awesome, Finbro.

Same story here

it is unlikely this, she is more likely just a cunt.. but good to keep your eyes open i guess.

I wouldn't mind that much if my wife wanted to keep her name but I'd insist our kids had my surname

That's a good tactic. Everyone will wonder why she doesn't have the same name as her kids and assume the worst. They will never truly be "her" kids.

She just tipped her hand that she will rape you in divorce court 10 years down the line. Consider this a lucky warning. Lifetime alimony is no fun.

I recommend you walk away. But just to fuck with her ask for a pre-nup and let her reveal her true nature even more ahead of schedule.

Naw dude. It's a pain in the fucking ass legally anyway (have to do DL, SSN, accounts, etc.). Then when you get divorced (really doubt anyone on Sup Forums will stay married for long), it's the same pain in the ass in reverse. In Asia they don't change their names. As long as your kids have your name and the ring is on her finger there's no cuckery involved.

tfw my wife was excited and wanted to take my name

Feels good man

> 4/10

you cuck, it's literally 1/10

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Change it. I was in the same situation. Feels much better having the name you were born with, IMO.

As long as your kids have your last name it doesn't matter. Your wife does not continue your legacy, only your children.

nope
just make sure your kids gets your surname

my wife didn't take my name, it's really down to personal taste

To be fair I don't really like my name because it's foreign in origin and no one is even able to pronounce it properly anyway. Like, literally, no one (outside of people who speak the language the name originated from) was ever able to properly pronounce it for as long as I can remember.
And still I don't feel like eventually taking on my GF's name even though I do like it because it makes me kinda feel turbocucked. Giving up my identity for someone else feels like the worst thing to do even if I do hate this shitty fucking name.

This is increasingly common and technically it shouldn't really be an issue - a name is just a name. That said when girls really love you they are keen to take your name and become your family, they aren't focused on themselves as individuals. So if a girl is fretting about keeping her name the real problem is that she's clearly not head over heels and desperate to be one with you.

As a caveat - it could just be an idle principle she developed from buzzfeed or w/e and she hasn't really put much thought or convinction into it, so a conversation or two will resolve it.

This OP
Demand she signs a prenup, and watch her flip shit about how you don't trust her, and try to spin the whole thing back on you like it's your fault.
Calmly explain to her if she doesn't take your surname, then she has to sign a prenup.
Hold your ground, and get ready for her to show her true colors.

Get the name changed or you are just broadcasting "Im a cuck"

Also, watch her her she hits her upper 30s. You need to Chad up your shit the most then, that's when they're most tempted to cheat. She just wants to grab on to something cause even she can't deny she's past the wall.

hmm....... really makes you............... think...........................

Ended a LTR over this. She refused to take my surname because she has a rare surname herself (even though her brother is married with kids all with his surname). She also said she thinks it would be insulting to her father to change her surname (I doubt he would have had a problem with it). She said the kids would have my name, but I just couldn't deal with that shit.

why do women in other countries even change their last names when getting married. You're telling her to be disrespectful to her father, her heritage.
And being married to someone with your surname makes it seem as if you two were siblings.
There are also the problems that arise if she has a job where her reputation is relevant (I have a scientist friend who married an american, she chose to not change her name for this very reason).

Our divorce rate seems to be quite low in comparison to other countries, too

Just make sure your kids have your last name.

Unless there is a legal issue or something dont marry her then.
A woman that isnt ready to abandon her vanity for her man is no woman worth marrying.

I mean, of course I wanted my wife to have my name, but I didnt want to be the guy making her change her name. So I made her want to change her name.

>you will never fuck a girl like that
why live

Well if you see it as losing your identity then you are also asking something insane of her. If your name is awful then you are cucking your kids in turn by keeping it - a name doesn't change your genetic identity, but it can definitely affect how seriously people take you.

The presumption should be towards the man, but if the man's name is weak, or the woman's stronger then there's no issue.

>your woman doesn't respect you enough to WANT your name.

Dude, it's probably this and some other shit about her being brainwashed to think that it's bad to take the husband's name.

It's a power thing. She thinks by not having your last name she is empowering herself.

She's right in a way, but her being like that means she doesn't respect you, doesn't want to compromise, still thinks that she's in it for herself when it all comes down to it.

Huge red flag, and even if she decided to eventually compromise, there are other red flags that you've probably glossed over that are systemic from her type of thinking

Please friend. We're not all faggots like OP.
Hey OP if a woman doesnt take your name she is a cunt and your a faggot for not leaving. You probabaly think you cant find another woman but you can you sad sack of shit. You remind me of one of my ex gfs beta orbiters.
>i betta stay wif her because I cant find betta :((
Beta men like you create princess narative for woman and make them worse. Put your foot down for once in your life faggot.

It's a smart move. And if she demanded that the children take her name it would be the final proof that you don't matter and she's going to take the kids and leave some day.

>a man to love
Suspicious.

My sister kept her name when she married my brother-in-law. Feel pretty bad for him to be honest but I must admit our name is much much better than his.

This is a good idea, thanks. I've been playing around with changing to my grandpas lastname (mothers side), since he is always been one of my father figures.
Completely new one might be pretty hard to invent.

I don't really want my original name either since my father left with no contact and don't want his name either for this reason.

If you have a job with reputation then usually you still use that professionally. My extended family are all doctors/lawyers and all the women have taken their husbands' last names, but at work are still Dr. Maiden name.

You aren't a cuck as long as she pops out your baby and nobody else's.

Then yeah, make your own.

> french name
> good

Bonjour! Je m'appelle hippolyte du'coque!

jean pierre le cuc?

The wife is marrying into the husband's family so she takes their name.

lol just marry your sister like other murikans

problem solved

Yeah. Wow is there something wrong with taking the surname of your husband in marriage? It's an incredibly loyal thing to do. It brands you with his family name, associating yourself with him and becoming under his responsibility. It shows that you're willing to choose that man as the one you want to stay by, that you aren't beholden to anyone else. It's a traditional method that follows the rest of monogamous tradition on the premise that the man, while usually taking greater risk to secure the success and safety of the family through competition, and aggression, should be seen as more desirable to associate with through name than vice versa. Women wanting to opt out of surname adoption, or wanting their husbands to adopt their surnames are probably closet women's rights activists or some sort of empowered, strong independent wymyn, showing that they don't desire to wear the image of being beholden to one man and only one man. They want to have the leverage/upper hand.

why doesn't she want your surname? doesn't want her highschool crush to know that she got married?
if you marry her and she doesn't take your name, you are 100% cucked.

Well the idea is that why should the wife be any more loyal to the husband than him to her - or especially be his responsibility. Women today are usually totally financially self-capable so there is no inbalanced risk.

I think the wife should take the husband's name with deference to tradition but your arguments wouldn't sit with any woman today.

The fact that she won't take your name shows that she isn't truly committed to you. It's best to get out while you still can.

is your last name funny?

would she be open to you BOTH taking a new name or a perversion of your name?

if it's common enough tell us

I'm going to marry your sister, so we can have half-asian fugly babies

>I really don't want the exact number publicized. But it's less than 40.

>He was also upset when I told them that yes, some of them were technically better lovers and more well endowed than he was. That hurt him a lot. I didn't want to say that to him, but he insisted. It's apparently important to him.

>I [31f] came clean with my [34m] fiancee. Good news: Polygraph test is off. Bad news: So is the wedding.


Sweet sweet justice.

What did he mean by this?

Her name doesn't matter, as long as your kids will carry your name.

Yup. I'm with a totally subservient woman. Wants lots of kids too.

You don't marry her. I just had this conversation with my girlfriend a couple days ago. My girlfriend is redpilled and browses Sup Forums with me. I said to her "you will not have a hyphenated surname or keep your surname" and she replied "duh, that's for numales". I love my woman. I don't think I'd find another like her.

No, but shows how much she respects you. Only exeption is if your Last name is something very retarded like Alefantis

>Wanting tits and ass

I'm sorry, didn't realize you were asian american. My bad ;^)

The question is how many white babies you can manage to raise without getting a divorce. Everything else is secondary

Ah, gotcha. The based grandfather's name sounds like a good idea, then.

my boner did not survive.

amanda love needs to do porn

>literally being gay

Get rid of her, if the next thoughts through your mind are "I can't I love her" then you better learn love doesn't exist. What you consider to be "love" is nothing more than the human reaction to the fear of loneliness. If 1 man can't lift a car he teams up with others for help, if a man can't handle life by himself he goes and finds a similarly weak female and they team up. Love is weakness, relationships are weakness and what you're letting this inferior being do to you is even more so. MAN. THE. FUCK. UP. And throw that bitch out with the trash.

Same here.

I married a foreigner so she kept hers - far too much fucking around to change but she wasn't against it. Kids have my surname.

It's normal in some cultures senpai

>ass
That's where poop comes from

Yes. If your girl doesn't take your last name something is wrong, consider your kids, will she place vanity and anti-traditionalism over raising kids in a unified home? Or will she split the family in two with two different last names (you and her) and how will the kids survive this? One gets yours and the other hers? Subject them to hyphenated names which single them out? Think when they get married, and their girlfriend has to take on their bastardized last name, or if she doesn't and the hyphenation continues to thebkids which now have three hyphenated last names.

tl;dr - your woman is going to accept it and honor tradition, both of your lineages and ancestors, or be selfish and destroy it all.

somewhat jelly, wife is down with having more kids but we'll probably stop at 2 or 3 due to her age (had our first at 30)

it's fine as long as your kids keep your surname.

If a girl doesn't eagerly want your last name that signals other problems. Run away. Tell her why. Let her tears warn the others.

If it was someone I planned to marry, it would be someone who would be willing to take my name

so I don't know because I just wouldn't get myself in that situation.

>She's already cheating on you.
This. Or she plans to. Untrustworthy cunt.

If she truly loved him, she should never have lied to him in the first place. If she thinks dishonesty of any kind and real Love go together, she's either cognitively dissonant, self-deceptive, or emotionally bankrupt.

Mine's 24 and about to pop out our first one in March. It's gonna be a boy, so I'm hoping he turns out alright so he will be a good role model for the rest. Hopefully we can make it to 7 or 8.

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Does she come from a better family than you?