Is breaking ties with family members ok when you see no point in keeping up relationships?

Is breaking ties with family members ok when you see no point in keeping up relationships?

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No, don't be a faggot.

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If they're degenerates and are dragging you down with them, do it and never turn back.

I feel like absolute shit everytime I go over, it's basically a forced visit and has been for atleast a decade.

Who the fuck is this bitch and are there nudes?

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try drinking when you're visiting

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Treat them like any other people. If they're good to you I'd say you should atleast be civil but if they're a bunch of reprobates dragging you down you have no obligation to them.

This. Only brainwashing cults try to undermine the family support structure. If you do not like your family, try harder.

They've treated me poorly for a long time which was hard to get over

You'll regret it when they're gone.

Thanks, buddy

She is worthy of semen, despite her unshapely nipples

I didn't say that.

If they're truly degenerate (e.g. your cousin has a nigger boyfriend whom she takes to family meetings and everyone praises them to score some im-not-racist social approval points) then burn all bridges and forget them. They'll harm you more than anything.

If that's not the case and you just think spending some time with your family is simply boring and annoying and you'd rather spend time on Sup Forums or playing games then go fuck yourself. Yes, sometimes at Christmas parties you have to pretend to care about what your aunt is saying, but you'll learn how precious a large and united family is when rough times come and you'll find yourself alone.

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That's not remotely her

There is always more than just one reason to keep up the relationship with your family.
It's your fucking family. Blood is thicker than water. Even if you think of it now like that, there will be times in your life in which it pays off to have a your back backed by the ones of you.

No. People need others to support them in hard times, emotionally or whatever. Friends may turn their back but sometimes you or others NEED support. Family should always be the people you can turn to for help. If you don't have family then you may one day be left with literally nothing.

As an additional note, a lot of homeless are simply homeless because they are estranged from their families.

The day my sister started dating a black dude and my parents were ok with it was the day I disowned my immediate family. Not gonna be some nigglet's Uncle.

I did, and I couldn't be happier for it. They are all morbidly obese, gossipy, and co-dependent. We don't share any interests and didn't have anything to talk about when we were together. Eventually I came to realize that, although I didn't hate them, I didn't care about them at all. I just stopped visiting and avoid all but the most perfunctory contact.

You become like the people you associate with. If your family is full of unhealthy people, you will become like them. A clean break is the best thing for you.

Damn, why did Netherbro lie to me? Now I need to bust two nuts...

What about having parents addicted to drugs? I'm sick of bailing out degeneracy. My father refuses to speak to me because I'd told him Trump would win back in 2015. Not that I wanted him to, but because I said he would. Fuck that piece of shit. I hope he overdoses so my mother can have a life.

I severed all ties with my family. I simply thought that I was too close to see the big picture. Maybe if I fuck off for a while, I will appreciate my family more. Nope, when I look back from a fair distance I realized this: There was no relationship, only a routine. We do not talk to nor help each other. Nor do I know how to repair familial bond, it bothers me every night. It is just sad.

I don't really talk to any ofy imidiate family beside my parents. My brother is a flamboyant gay guy who is obsessed with talking about his sex life with men and my sisters are total bitches. One is a drug addict who can't be trusted and the other one is a stuck up snob who is emberased to really even admit growing up poor. Is really obsessed with the status quo of being a high society type person. Shes a stuck up cunt. If I have to see them around my parents I act civil as I can. My dad puts up with my brother because of my mother, but he does not agree with his life style. I basically just ignore them for the most part, and of they try to contact me I basically just ask them what do they want. I'm never really trying to have social sit downs with them. I have no problem not having a real type of relationship with them. I'm sure they feel the same about me. Hope that answers the question for you op. I wish you the best of luck with it all. I'd like to have a normal family like you see in the movies, but it did not work out like that for me.

Havent seen any of my family in nearly a decade, i would stay in touch if i were you

I have been alone for as long as I can remember, both my parents fucked up in their own way, but my dad especially.

He cheated on my mother before I was born, didn't give a shit when she found out, and divorced my mom a month before I was born.
Then he fought not to have to pay any child support by pretending to be broke, when he had a company and was doing more than fine

Still fought for shared custody later, which he won, and was probably the worst time of my life. He didn't lift a single finger and left everything to his new much younger girlfriend that didn't even care about me. They had their own child soon and my stepsister was always lavished with gifts, love, and generally could do whatever the hell she wanted and get away with it. While my stepmother would scream at me, and sometimes hit me for the smallest things. They would also throw parties at the house, in which both my dad and my stepmother got shit drunk and touched their friends wherever they wanted, right in front of me. Later he refused to acknowledge that I have autism, while I was in a school for autistic children, but he stuck to this idea that my mom had made the autism up to get some money out of me, which he told me straight to my face. He always complained that I wasn't social enough, that I wasn't fucking enough girls and always sticking to the same ones, he even made fun of me being a Christian and not trying to be a degenerate sexual deviant like him. He never once tried to show interest in the things I like, never cared about anything going on in my life, never cared about my serious and steady relationship that will soon get me some children of my own, he only wants me to come over so he can feel like a successful parent now that he's too old and suddenly realizes that he needs his family. He moved to a village further away from me a year ago, which I never heard about, only after he moved, which was the final straw and made me pull the plug on everything.

Stop posting this hideous colored-contact-wearing rock-bottom-self-esteem having skeletor cunt, you faggot.

Pretty much m8. If you feel like you could do more good out of your family, fuck 'em.

family, religion, nation, property

the 4 most important institutions, without them you will become a socialist/commie degenerate

I cut all ties with my family members over 6 years ago, haven't spoken to them sense.

The relationships were completely toxic: a mixture of deprecation and pity that only seemed to get worse.

Not to sound edgy, but I don't regret it; if they were to all die tomorrow I wouldn't bat an eye. The ultimate goal should be to remove any negative influences and people from your life, even if that means removing yourself from your family.

No, but I've done it anyways.

Since* whoops

If your family is just annoying but kind hearted, keep in contact with them

if they're selfish cunts then abandon

Reading this thread actually made me feel both sick and sad for you guys. The family is the pillar of any society and the main reference of an individual. Looking at the state of the family of the average bloke really tells a lot about the health of the society.

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This is her, not as hot when she isn't making that face

The west of old kinda required a stronger familial bond as it was a big responsibility to have children to the point communities of families created high trust neighbourhoods and the like, where everyone knew everyone, and you could let your kids play in the street knowing every adult on the block would keep an eye on them out of communal duty.

That reliance on family and immediate community has largely been replaced by the government's increased activity with children and the individual, making every man a potential paedophile, and every woman just a simple divorce away from making a tidy profit off their sap of a husband. not to mention dad's who just up sticks and leave because they have no solid routes in a community to leverage or pressure them to take responsibility for their actions.

You see this behaviour rampant in Black communities which only ever had a shot half a century ago when they were left to their own devices for the most part, put them on welfare, and the strongest building block of their communities, the family, is ripped apart by simple incentives. Same thing goes for poor whites or immigrants from similar back grounds as whites, the system incentivizes the dispersal of these communities so they can make the individuals dependant.

It's not necessarily a bad thing that you feel estranged from your family, saving your emotional well being by cutting yourself off from people you simply have no investment in is just you following your natural incentives. Just know, that your situation is a product of a wider systemic problem.

I've stopped talking to my sister because she's such a fucking moron and frankly, I don't regret it.

>sjw
>lefty as fuck libtard
>believes in body positivity (aka being nice to obese fat shits so they can keep being fat shits without feeling bad about being disgusting fat shits)
>voted for shillary
>pretends to know shit about science
>actually has no science education beyond high school
>studies fucking film

I really had high hopes for her and they were all dashed.

No, its only okay if they betray your family. Otherwise they're the only thing keeping society together and you're retarded to discard them.

looks like a real troll from norse sagas.

Sorry you had to go through that.

Yeah to be honest. Like the only thing in common I have with my siblings is we came out of the same vagina.
I don't need their negativity in my life.

Listen you have my permission to cut them off, m8. I severed ties with family members who did nothing but cause drama and make me miserable. Each visit was a fucking trauma, I dreaded holidays. Having them out of my life was the best decision I could have done. Just because they are blood kin doesn't mean they have the right to make you miserable.

>every single country on earth guarantees healthcare as a human right
what a ludicrously false statement kek

The family structure is fucked by ((them)) ever since WWII in the US. Women flooding the work force making wages go down. Thus having both the husband and wife working as requirement of life in America. This fucked up family structure as the mother no longer care for the home and children and the man no longer cares about his family. Then having women suffrage. Voting no longer is about the family, instead we have husband voting against wife, siblings voting against each other. This past Thanksgiving Dinner in the US is a fucking nightmare when family members with different views have to sit and eat together.

>t. Legal Americanized immigrant who notice the massive change in family structure after living in the US for 2 decades.

Make sure that you're successful.

Family is what you make it, not what you are born with.
My family fucked up, I dont want my kids to hang around people that I feel have been so detrimental to me.

I'll soon have a family of my own to love and care about, neither my mom or my dad shows any sign of what I consider to be civilized and healthy behavior, and I don't want that behavior around my kids.

My mom's a total redneck with a horrible stepdad that gets drunk all the time and beats the shit out of her, she's mentally unhinged because of it and constantly lashes out to deal with it, she doesn't want to listen to any reason and there's no way to seperate her from this obviously toxic relationship/

My dad is an asshole if you read I want to take my girlfriend's last name so that my children will never feel like they have to be part of this extended family that hurt me so much in the past if they dont want to be.

I believe in traditional family as much as you, but there is a point where you have to accept that it's just not going to work out with your current family. I'm going to try with my own family and I'm going to show them how to be a dad, I'm going to be the most loving, emotionally available and supporting father a child could ever want, I'll make sure my children will be protected from the loneliness that I had to endure and cost me years to get over.

If a person betrays you you need to abandon them even "family"

That's shitty m8. Though it sounds like he's got his due in part. Leave him to rot alone.

Did you write this to get some pity? I have a broken degenerate family too, that's precisely the reason I've written my first post:
>If they're degenerates and are dragging you down with them, do it and never turn back.
It seems to be your case. Forget they exist.

No I wrote this because I know that in anonimity, people will tell me the truth and leave the emotional support that I'd get from friends or Reddit. I just want to know if I'm doing the right thing here, but it seems that I am.

we are your family now

That's even sadder

This.
I left my family cult.
Literally the best thing I have ever done.

If your relationship with anyone is genuinely toxic and destructive to you, it's a good idea, yeah. But you have to decide what that means to you on your own.

Love you too, brother.

This. More so if they're in-laws.

I did...And when I said "You're either going to help me or I can't continue being around you.". They stabbed me in the back and tried to ruin my life.

!!!DayOfRopeNotSoonEnough!!!

Honour thy father and thy mother

Also, you can pick yer friends but you can't pick yer family

So really, up to you user as long as you can live with the decision. If they are shitty or vexatious people you are likely better off.

All things considered it's not ok, I did it anyway and I don't feel bad about it though

I never understood why people like the stupid looking ahegaos this bitch makes. I even know guys that can maker better ahegaos than her.

>I even know guys that can make better ahegaos
What situations do you put yourself in that you can see such things.

This gay faggot shit belongs elsewhere.

Same here, they are on the lower side of intellectual. Im talking laughing at, "shithead" "cunt" "faggot" "remember when **** pissed himself" "remember when **** did this embaressing thing" It gets a chore keeping up with a false joy around them, i just distanced myself but i still go to family functions now and then. My motto, get in where you fit in. Go to see them but immediatly find new interesting people.

my brother is crazy. Diagnosed bipolar but ( I suspect he's schizo but I'm not a doctor ). Anyway, he basically disappeared for a while and I finally found out where he was last December when a cop called me telling me where he was.

Got him back to his house (inherited, however I was paying property taxes on so he wouldn't lose it) and am trying to get him back on track.

To make matters worse, he had his identity stolen and was rendered penniless. What money he didn't waste was stolen.

My father gave up on him many years ago. My mother never did. I am constantly torn as to what to do. I understand the ultimate futility of helping him, he'll never get better, only one moment of deciding to stop meds away from another fresh disaster. But I'm telling myself I'm doing the right thing by helping him. I feel a moral obligation to help him since he's family.

My other brother wants nothing to do with him, and vice versa. I'm his last line of defense, so to speak.

I will help him out until he gets on disability ( I can't see how they couldn't get him on that program ) and back on medication.

As long as he is cooperative regarding getting back on medication, I'll help him. If he gets belligerent (or violent) or refuses to get on meds, then I think I'll stop. I live alone myself and can't waste all my time (and money) sorting out his numerous problems.

No, family is one of the most important and beautiful things in life
They are the one type of relationship you should strive to keep in your life

Is that the only reason you wish to stop seeing them or are there other factors?

Unless you have a legitimate reason to, i.e. violence or other abuse, show some love and you may just get some back.