>I have, granded not as long as you i assume but i have. But then again i only date certain types of girls. I prefer smart girls who i enjoy talking to openly that can make me laugh or criticize me when i say something thoughtless or faulty, someone i can respect and look at as an equal. But that's rarer in women.
A tip 'o the virtual fedora to you (yes, I used fedora just to get the neckbeards incited to violent prose). You do, indeed, understand what you should be looking for.
>I also improve my girlfriends and help them develop as people, i had a girl who was gaining weight and i made her fit again for example, also iv never been with a girl i didn't enjoy talking to, developing each other keeps the relationship interesting and it helps both of you be happy, i fucking HATE monotony and i always thrive for something different, but in order for that to happen you need a girl that has drive and virtue
What you are doing right there is a good part of what marriage is really about - improving each other, becoming one with each other, initially accepting each other's flaws and working together to make each other better.
You would probably be stunned at the number of failed marriages that arose from "but we had an expensive wedding that put us $50k in debt, we had a wedding cake and everything, I don't understand how it could all fall apart!"
Those people missed the simple point: the marriage isn't a piece of paper, or living your Barbie-styled dream fantasy that will haunt you as a debt for years to come. The marriage is the true union of man and woman; it is not loafing around saying "it's said and done", it's hard work, done with honest effort and intent every single fucking day of your life.
I guess you could say that marriages fail because people refuse to see the work involved, the self-improvement needed, and the commitment and time and devotion to make it happen.
Huh, sounds a lot like the same shit I heard in the 80's...