i've had enough of this shit going outside, and having to interact is DRAINING.
When i google "how to stop social anxiety"
i see shit like "deep breathing" and shit tf this shit won't remove my anxiety.
i've had enough of this shit going outside, and having to interact is DRAINING.
When i google "how to stop social anxiety"
i see shit like "deep breathing" and shit tf this shit won't remove my anxiety.
Get a job that forces you to interact with people. You get used to it.
jus quit bein a little bitch
Meditate on the non-separation between you and the world around you.
Shit advice. I have mild Aspergers, and I tried working social jobs. All they did was make me unable to go out when I was off because I was so out of energy. Now that I have a job where I don't interact with as many people, I'm twice as active as I was before.
breathe in for 8 seconds, exhale for 20 and don't inhale again until you've counted to 20. keep doing that over and over every day and your some of your anxiety is sure to disappear
it takes forever to get over anxiety, possibly years, and it might never completely go away but you can't give up hope frenchie
t. depressed faggot
also this is good advice
Quit masturbating and cut down on the caffeinated jew. Start exercising.
You're very welcome, froggie.
zoloft and xanax
My best advice: Stop giving a fuck about what anyone think about you.
Once you manage that, being around other people becomes easy, like swimming with the stream instead of against it.
This OP. And if that doesn't work, go see a doctor. Being a hermit only makes your social anxiety worse.
How often do you masturbate?
If it's more than twice a week/several times a day you might have a addiction.
Try a month without fapping.
Whats up with the caffeine jew?
>muh Aspergers
I used to be autistic as fuck too, literally just force yourself to interact with people and don't get uncomfortable when a conversation starts to happen. Listen to what they're saying, and give some kind of response that shows you're listening or engaged. It's real fucking easy once you've done it a few times.
In large social groups it's even easier. Just say interesting things, if you understand the world you're miles ahead of niggers in your ability to be clever or entertaining.
Stop being afraid of interaction, is the first step. Are you a beta bitch boy or a man? Men aren't afraid of talking to people.
smoke weed. Not like a degenerate pothead. Vape in minimal quantities at least 2x week.
One hit of LSD extremely dropped my social anxiety. Changed my life.
Find the fear causing the anxiety, and stop this.
Otherwise, stop taking yourself so fucking serious, you're not important and it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of you.
I don't understand your tone either, do you actually want to interact with people, and I'm guessing from your picture, women?
This. Just work on yourself basically
>t. guy who was a little awkward and claims he had actual autism
I'm not afraid of talking to anyone, I wouldn't consider myself shy, and I'm not even that awkward. My brain just starts to shut down when I'm overly stimulated in social situations.
Set goals and start accomplishing things outside of your social anxiety, the confidence from your accomplishments will combat your social anxiety.
Like the first post said, get a job that for es you to interact with people, this should work if you don't have autism or aspergersr any of that shit.
More important, get a construction job, after a year of guys yelling back and forth, and talking shit constantly , you'll have a fuckload less social anxiety. Use more public transportation as well.
Last thing man, if anything is going to cure your SA, stting at home definately isn't one of them.
>jaw like a shovel
Are you guys really this fucked up? Maybe we really should do the monastery thing. I know some of you have the money/land. No homo stuff.
Do you have autism? If not there is still hope you can redeem yourself.
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Does anyone here just have an entirely fake personality? I mean you almost roleplay during daily interactions and then drop the facade when you get home?
I roleplay as normal, functioning human being but when I get home I slide back into questioning my sanity and wondering if I should kill myself/live in the woods.
For starters, you can get Antidepressant such as Mirtazapine, which realy can reduce the stress you have when interacting with people.
If you are just depressed you can socialize then without (or with much less) stress. You might then be able to get off the drugs.
Be aware of the fact that mirtazapine will make you gain weight, because you will eat tons of sweets.
you shouldn't be afraid of being yourself user, even if "yourself" is just some depressing loser
Try to work on perceiving your anxiety as a thing separate from actual you.
For example, a simple practice: place your hand in very cold water, or grab and hold some ice cubes if available (basically anything that causes you intense discomfort but doesn't actually harm you. No cutting or other stupid stuff).
Now, instead of reacting reflexively, just try to relax and calmly observe your physical discomfort. If you pay attention and don't get carried away by thoughts and feelings, you will see that this discomfort is just a feeling, an entity separate from you. it does not control you, and it does not have power to make you do things. It's worth noticing because it's a signal from your body that something is wrong. But, actually, if you detach from it and observe, it is fully possible to feel pain without suffering.
Applying the same method to psychological issues like anxiety should be even easier, because unlike body pain they won't physically harm you, so it's safe to just let them be and observe them.
And yes, breathing slowly helps to calm down and concentrate.
No, you just need to recalibrate your brain. Will you adapt to the challenges of life, interacting with other humans being chief among them, or will you accept your lesser station?
Don't try to be perfect, just blurt out what you need to say.
Even if the convo becomes weird, fuck it. It literally doesn't matter.
This is what a month on SSRIs taught me.
Hate be a such a leaf but marijuana cured most of my social anxiety. At first, it made the anxiety much worse but it forced me out of my shell. It helped me realize people liked me and found me funny. After that, you realize how easy it really is, sober or high.
Also start lifting. Looking good and feeling good are almost the same thing
Kys
Or convince yourself of this one simple truth: absolutely nothing matters.
Move to Recife, Brazil. People are always polite and nice there. Until they draw the knife on each others.
you aren't still on SSRIs are you?
i prefer blonde Michelle to whatever this over-madeup version is supposed to be
My two cents is:
Pretend it doesn't exist, go at it, crash and burn if you need to.
It probably won't be as bad as you think right now. You will assimilate that and you will feel like you have somehow surpassed yourself.
Repeat ad nausea.
get drunk
I've had a lot of success in curbing anxiety over the past year.
Number one: Don't drink too much alcohol. A glass of wine or two with dinner is fine, but don't drink enough to have a hangover. You're French, good luck with that.
Number two: I don't know if you have access to medical cannabis, probably not, but non-psychoactive CBD (cannabidiol) is an incredibly powerful anxiolytic with zero side effects.It has given me a new lease on life. For anyone struggling with anxiety in places with medical cannabis available, I highly recommend this. It may also be possible to order online.
Number three: Exercise daily. Get your heart rate up. Sweat.
Anxiety sucks. Wish you the best!
Fake it till you make it bro. That's the only way. Coincidentally, that approach works for just about any aspect of life.
Caffeine makes you more anxious and stressed.
This is not a bad advice eiher.
Don't do this. These are the absolute worst ideas.
for some reason Sup Forums is largely blue pulled when it comes to psychiatry.
The only solution is to just keep doing it. Stop caring what other people think about you.
Most people are so caught up in their own shit, they don't care about you. Unless you are a full pants-on-head crazy person, you'll pretty much just skip under the radar.
Get a social job and have the same small-talk questions prepared to approach people. Don't feel like you need to tell them any information about you... just the products. Ask them about their day/life/family/wants and just follow the line of information with more questions. Be curious about them and keep them talking so you don't have to.
Tip: people love to bitch about work, and talk about tv. If you can get them doing either, they will lead the conversation.
Social skills are skills. You have to use them or lose them. But you have to develop them in the first place.
Stop using social media for a while. Take a week off and detox. Then take another week to just talk a lot to people you do know and feel comfortable with.
Then just try to talk to one new person a day. Not some random on the street, but the person scanning your groceries, or a person in a clothing shop... have a reason to be talking to them initially.
It gets easier the more you do it.
I used to have such a boner for Michelle back in the day.
This is correct answer. Had anxiety and adrenal fatigue few years ago because of too much stress.
Quit coffe, booze & cigarettes, sleep improved. Started running and cycling for an hour a day, after work. In 3 months, my mental and physical health improved, also, finally woke up with a boners, after a long time of low testosterone.
But, it would be extremely painful.
>for you
I had the same problem for years. I went to a doctor and after about 3-4 weeks of out sessions they recommended some meds. They worked wonders for a bit then they changed my prescription to an older more powerful one called Opisafaggot. Put sharpie in pooper.
>mfw smoke, drink booze and coffee and still wake up with boners
c u c k
La seule chose qui améliore un peu ça, pour moi, c'est de sortir le plus souvent possible. Plus tu vas au contact plus ça devient naturel et moins angoissant.
Choisis bien les endroits à fréquenter, par exemple pour faire les courses les magasins bio sont souvent plus tranquilles que le reste.
Bon la vérité, y'a pas de solution, faut se forcer.
cbt
av entrainment
weight lifting
cardio
self authoring
now go
Im a bartender and now i hate people even more
More or less...
try this, it helped me a lot
Try to relax and do exercise.
>"how to stop social anxiety"
It is no different than getting into a cold swimming pool.
You got to go slowly to build up confidence.
You have to get outside of your comfort zone, and after time you will be more at ease. Anything is possible if you take your god with you.
YESSSSSSSSSSS!!!
i even have different personalities depending on who i am interacting with. i dont do it on purpose. its weird. i've only had a couple of people in my life that i am actually my real self when around them.
it was because of lack of sleep.
BE YOURSELF
I'm kind of afraid of Russians now.
No, I felt that I learned enough from the first month that I could taper off and discontinue. Side-effects were real, reduction in sex-drive.
That's a pretty cool technique. Gonna do that myself.
That's.... everyone living in 'modern society'. Well, the ones who don't distract themselves with meaningless material obsessions.
We're animals pretending to be something more, and get shit on by the rest of the animals if we interrupt their little fantasy.
Beta blockers
You can ask your doctor or get legally from an online Dr like pharmacy 2u
They're not anti depressants they just block adrenaline so you don't feel nervous all the time.
I said I can interact with them just fine, but I get tired after doing it for hours and hours. The advice I said was shitty is to get a highly social job. I said that I tried that and it only made it worse. Having a job that uses up all your socializing stores means that he's more likely to be a hermit in his free time. If he can get lucky (like me) and get a good-paying job that doesn't require talking to a lot of people, he'll be better off.
pic unrelated
> how to stop social anxiety?
You don't. You take it.
If you seriously want to be able to deal with it, I mean, if you are willing to put some real effort on it and work to deal with the fucking crazy madness and mass retardation that there is outside then I recommend you find a serious zen dojo near you. Just join, avoid buying a kimono or paying too much attention to the chanting parts, just focus in the practice and go there once a day if you can. Follow the instructions about posture which will be given to you on the first day and then very every now and then. It will help but is hard work because this guys are very strict and practice is not about hippie shit nor relaxing. Also one of the rules there is to keep talking to the bare minimum necessary, which means you can go months without speaking or hearing a word from them, which is kind of nice.
Just trying to help user.
They also make you feel dead inside. Just a little bit though.
More gut bacteria.
health.good.is
Extreme introvert here. I'm not sure things actually work the way you're describing. Aside from taking Adderall, there's nothing I can do that eliminates the sheer drain I feel when I have to interact with people.
I don't necesarily consider this a bad thing, since my brain seems to be calibrated for complicated detail oriented work, which I enjoy. Speaking from experience, asking a people oriented extrovert to simply suck it up and git-gud at sitting in a room for weeks programming simply isn't going to happen, but it comes naturally to me.
I agree with the aussie.
I'd just add:
1) Try to have great friends you trust and are confortable with. Use them as a safety valve in which you can go back to them and "be yourself" while you pursue new people to overcome your anxiety (with these new people);
2) To me its easier to start a conversation with a complete stranger I don't give a fuck about than someone I need to see daily or weekly but with which I still don't quiet get along with.
For instance, I want to bang the girl in my local grocery shop but I freeze when I think it may go sour and I'll still need to go there.
My reasoning is: Be careful with people you need to get along with, go easy on them, be more risky with people you don't need to see again.
Out of curiosity, what's your job user?
face up to situations that make you anxious.
deal with them as best as possible and guess what? you didn't die from it.
like most things for earthlings, you need to repeat it 20x to get somewhere.
lol
>that comment
>from a plebbitor
I'm impressed a bit
Bump
Correct answer
>haha like just turn yourself into a zombie nigga
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Good Diet
Excercise
Wim Hof Breathing
A little moly
This is the step few people talk about. No one considers the second fucking brain you have in your gut. You wonder where all your cravings and impulses come from? Check your gut.
Start making kefir, its easy.
Vodka
yeah i had anxiety and being forced in social jobs eventually got rid of it.
took years but it will happen. now im getting rejected when i try to ask out women inrl but its better than being isolated like I sued to be :)
but I'm an introvert too
I sit at home most days, deriving gay math equations and shitposting here. I just realized interacting with people is an important life skill and became proficient at it. My "social anxiety" and insecurities about being sociable were cured in that process. It's possible to do both, but only if you have the stones to say "I'm better than that." Drugs are not the cure, selfishness is.
You'll hate people more, you'll hate your life more, but you'll hate yourself less. You'll have too many legitimate outlets for the loathing for any of it to turn inward on yourself.
Simultaneously, just fucking lift faggot.
It helps.
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Seth rich is still murdered
I noticed it also.
Great comment.
jus bee urzelf
The only way is to interact with people regularly. Thats it. Might be best to just kick it with a therapists a few times to get a bit of a running start but theres simply no other way around this. You get nervous because you never talk to people and you suck at it. Grow some balls and address it head on you tit.
you just don't know how to play the game
keep a stiff upper lip, steady calm gaze, and keep your emotions to yourself
Hold some presentations in auditoriums full of people, it grows on you
A mild benzo might be a short term thing, like sobril or valium or so
Get a job where you have to deal with people. Retail, restaurant, whatever. You'll talk with so many people you won't give a shit how you sound or look or how they judge you after a while.
I think there's something biological going on here, not merely psychological, which is why I brought up Adderall.
I've been good friends with hyper-social people, and there does appear to be something different about the way their minds work. The problem is that it's easy to dismiss because we can't see any obvious markers(like skin color for race), but at this point I'm willing to entertain the idea that our ability to be 'social' is very much an issue of hardware.
My mother is an introvert, my father is an introvert, along with my grandparents as well. My extroverted friends have extroverted parents, etc... Maybe there's some bias in my view, I have no reason to believe that my social aptitude is anything but biological.
start capitalizing your I
that's a start
WANT TO BE LESS OF A SOCIALLY AKWARD FAGGOT?
TALK TO CASHIERS
EVERY CHANCE YOU GET
ITS THE PERFECT CAPTIVE AUDIENCE
MOSTLY GRILLS
OCCASIONALLY QTS
THEY'LL NEVER REJECT YOU BECAUSE ITS THEIR GODDAMN JOB
THEY'RE EASILY DISARMED WITH ONE SIMPLE TRICK: EMPATHIZE WITH THEM. THEIR JOB SUCKS ASS.
THEN MAKE SMALL TALK ABOUT GODDAMN ANYTHING THAT COMES TO MIND
NO ONES GRADING YOU, ITS ALL ABOUT THE PRACTICE
MAKE EXCUSES TO GO FUCKING SHOPPING
DO IT EVERY CHANCE YOU GET BECAUSE THEY'RE REPLACING THEM WITH FUCKING MACHINES AND THEN YOU'LL REALLY BE HOPELESS
This has nothing to do with politics. Mods do your jobs for fuck's sake.
Fix your guts, probiotics.
I have pretty bad social anxiety too, I am in therapy and on day 4 of no fap. Wish me luck anons
Don't remove the anxiety, embrace it. Desire it. Seek it out. Dive into it. Bathe in it.
Nigger i think you don't know how actual Aspergers works. You CAN socialize if you want, but you can't force your brain to act "normal", because Aspergers is neurological. Sure, you can still learn some social cues and have friends, but you will never have the same behavior that neurotypical people.
t. actual Assburger
One more note, I brought up Adderall not because it makes you feel good about your incompetence, but because it fixed what was perceived as an underlying problem. It's pretty amazing when you've spent your whole life with the idea that I just need to condition myself for being social, only to have that idea totally and utterly BTFO'd by taking a pill that simply made my problems with social interaction effortlessly disappear.
Get some L-tyrosine
don't fap to porn (even imagined/remembered porn) ever again
it fucks you up more than you might think - desensitized sexually and emotionally, all aspects of life
you should be scared about how screwed up your brain is
Interactions being draining is not characteristic of social anxiety. It's characteristic of being an introvert which does not inherently make you have social anxiety.
I still struggle with social anxiety but I have found that lifting more weight and making more money has allowed me to develop a superiority complex which in turn has lessened my social anxiety. I know that most people who judge me have no right to judge me since I'm stronger, smarter, and make more money than most people.
I have also had excellent results from reading and meditating. Reading great fiction writers has given me more context on my life and has reshaped my brain to appreciate what I have. Read again many of the classics that you were forced to read in high school and college. You likely didn't appreciate them back then to the extent you will appreciate them now. Meditating twice a day for 15 minutes each session really helps ease my mind and has greatly diminished any social anxiety moments I might have. I meditate in the morning before work and after getting out of work before going to the gym.
The most important thing to remember when fighting social anxiety is that you WILL feel it and that you just have to push through it. It's the same as building strength on a lift. You build your self up incrementally until you look back in 2 years and are amazed by how far you have come. Start by driving through a city. Then walk through the city. Then go to a coffee shop in the city and order a coffee. Then go to a cloths shop and talk to sale associates and leave. All of these actions will likely cause anxiety but by breathing deep and pushing through it it will help you greatly.
The final note is that having a wide social circle and social life is not at all what it is made to be. I find that I am much happier on my own with a few friends and a gf than going out and drinking with buddies 4 days a week.
Humans are adaptable though. How can niggers be sociable but you can't? Sounds like an excuse not to try.
Being reserved in social situations can be a strength, as long as you focus on delivery when someone does say something to you, instead of just sperging out. Just think about it a bit. Tell them a joke. If you're feeling too serious for that, talk about topics you're interested in and give your views on it. People are bored when they're sitting at a table with others. They're waiting for you to say something exciting, or at least not fucking boring.
If you're talking to the gas station clerk it's a little bit different. Half the time I just say "yes", "thank you", basic answers only. But if I see an opportunity to comment on something interesting going on, say outside by the gas pumps, I will. Why? Because it's fucking boring to be so goddamn droll. Do you want people to like you or not? Being well liked is a valuable resource you can use later.