> marry
I will eventually, not just to perpetuate the white race but also because I do want kids. Four or five, even. I just don't much want the relationship.
I get more out of hookups than out of relationships. With a gf, there's always the pull. She's on a schedule, especially if she's out of college. Has to become official, has to move in, has to meet parents, has to integrate your social circles, proposal, engagement, wedding, kids, house, etc. etc.
The goal is to reach the next milestone on fucking schedule, and she just needs to drag me along to get there. It's why you can go spend five nights in a row with your gf going out, dancing, talking deep feelings stuff, making dinner, seeing friends and family, then on night six when you just want to start making out she can say "Is this just about sex for you?" Because she doesn't really register anything which doesn't move her closer to the next goal on the checklist, so all that shit didn't make her feel valued. But when you move up on her schedule, there's no relaxed period of gratitude, just an increased sense of urgency for the *next* fucking thing.
Contrast a hookup. You meet a girl, have a nice time, few drinks, some conversation, dancing, maybe an activity, you go home and bang, and all you hear next morning is, "You were wonderful, thank you, I had a fantastic time." Not "Is this going anywhere?" or "Why haven't we visited my parents in two weeks?" or "I think we should spend more time together, so cancel weekly drinks with the guys." Just "It was good, you were good." Her company was good enough for me, and mine was good enough for her.
It really shouldn't be difficult for a gf to make a man feel more loved and valued than a hookup, but so many of them fail at this. Even my married friends say the same shit. Is my social circle just a bunch of degenerates, or has any other non-virgin on Sup Forums noticed the same thing?
