Hey pol, been lurking here for a while, first time posting. Used to think yall were a bunch of racist Nazis, but now I see clearly as I've been sufficiently red pilled. I have a problem though, and it's one I can't really just talk to anyone about so I figured I'd make a post here.
I've been working on breaking all of my old addictions; weed, vidya, Netflix, and other degenerate wastes of time. By far the most difficult has been pornography.
The problem is that I've been so addicted to porn that's its seriously fucked with my mind. You guys are right when you say watching porn cucks yourself. As I now find myself turned on by both women and men, and I fucking hate myself for it.
I genuinely don't consider myself gay, as I'm not exactly physically attracted to men as I am women, but the porn warped my brain into getting off by being submissive. I need to get on that nofap shit asap... Anyone here who's done it have any tips?
Furthermore, I know I need to find a woman to be my wife and help me create a nice white family. However, I find it hard to speak with potential mates knowing what I've done, and that sort of shame drives me to porn again. Obviously I couldn't start a life with someone unless they knew the shit I've done in the past. I met this beautiful girl who seems to really like me, and we've hit it off pretty well. I really don't wanna screw this up, and I think its God's opportunity for me at a new life.
What are your thoughts? Am I hopeless? Have I gone down a path of no return? I do want to change so badly, but the shame of it all makes it this vicious cycle that's hard to break out of.
>Am I hopeless? Have I gone down a path of no return? No to both I do councilling work with addicts of all sorts. The shame you feel is typical. Each day you spend away from your addiction is another day in which the chemistry of your brain rights itself You won't realize how big of a change you've made until way down the road you stop for a minute and reflect upon how you felt in moments like these and how much better things have become But you have to have the three Ps >patience, practice, persistence try smartrecovery dot org
Evan Richardson
work on your determination and willpower try to abstain from something you like for a week then for one more day and so on see how long can you endure, after you fail try again
its all about training, after you retrain your brain you will have less problems
also if you get into temptation just watch something disgusting to kill the urge
Its called common sense and self control. You need less screen time and more irl human interaction. Find a hobby that does not include electricity. And for gods sake clean your fucking room.
Don’t give up man. You’re doing the right thing. What helped me quit porn was switching to female nudes, then bikini girls. It also helps to have something going on in your life, so you don’t feel like you need porn as an escape. But don’t be ashamed, porn is so ubiquitous it’s hard to escape. Just take this as a chance to become better, and definitely take the chance with this girl.
Ian Martinez
I have been. Did you read the fucking post? Everything else in my life is in order. This is the last issue I'm seriously struggling with. I quit vidya, social media, movies, television, and all that. Started working out and learning a musical instrument instead.
Eli Cook
Short video that explains what you're talking about on a neurological level: youtube.com/watch?v=bXYAWCAIqRE And speaking of Jordan Peterson, do read 12 Rules for Life.
Jose Young
First days are always hard, but nofap is what you should do. If you slip up don't watch porn. Stop watching porn altogether.
William Anderson
So this is a old indian trick that is used to break a user of chronic masterbation.
Burn this image into your eye sockets and every time you think about jacking off picture it.
That or eat some salt peater and stay limp for a few weeks.
Thanks guys this is all good advice. I think I know what I have to do. It'd been plaguing my mind for weeks though, and feels good to lay it out there and get some feedback. Even if it is to a bunch of anonymous peers.
Elijah Bennett
LOL, that's a good tip, thanks friend. Also I had no idea salt peater did that.
Henry White
One more thing Don't feel so much shame about the sexual perverse fantasies They developed over time and they'll undevelop over time Sexually perverse fantasies are common amongst meth, coke and opiate addicts as well, and they go away as one recovers
Lucas Carter
They say it is a wives tail but it it really does work.
Maybe taking a multivitamin might help to affect a positive chemical change in your perverted little mind
Christian Richardson
Pre-white man indians had cameras and pics of old hags lying around?
No they lived in a hut with an actual old indian laying around
Nicholas Garcia
>Obviously I couldn't start a life with someone unless they knew the shit I've done in the past
lol who says you need to tell her anything
Ethan Wilson
The you truly belong here. Welcome to the home of faggots!
Ryder Fisher
I have the same issue OP, jacked off to degenerate shit like traps, rape porn, BDSM, everything under the sun just to get off. Finally met a really decent girl and lost my virginity, but I could barely stay hard and almost didn't cum. It was extremely emberassing. Don't let that happen to you, it's cucked and makes you look like a weak willed greaseball of a man. What worked for me was gradually reducing my habits, as in going back to pictures of girls and my imagination, maybe some lesbian porn, but I refuse to get off on watching another man with bigger muscles and a bigger dick fuck a beautiful women. Our minds weren't meant to be saturated with that sort of thing day in and day out. Go back to the basics OP and try wacking off every 2 or 3 days. You'll feel more physically vigorous. I think nofappers are sort of dumb but taking a few day break makes me feel objectively more energetic and open to girls due to that increase in the desire to fuck.
Jason Jenkins
This is unironically one of the most usefull and nicest threads I've seen in a long time. Good job lads
Carter Jones
visit fit they know more abut it and usually yave a nofap thread up
Levi Perez
OP, this is a very noble post. No fap is about transmuting sexual energy and using it for productive and creative purposes. Also your past actions are not your true self.
Carson Gonzalez
Everyone has fucked up thoughts bro. You're just supposed to stomp out the really fucked ones. No porn is a good idea. Vidya in moderation. Same with Netflix. Find a real hobby for some balance.
Robert Brown
Welcome user to the last free territory in existence
>exercise/sport >education (forget mainstream "education" do it yourself), read >make as much money as you can, legally >diet >guard your power level >the rest will take care of itself
Make rules for yourself, begin by making ones you can stick to or you will always fail
the rest will take care of itself Try not to hate but condemn crimes
Don't worry m8 keep at it, you'll get there eventually. Just remember that porn is absolute poison for the mind. You experienced it first hand. If you should slip up it is better to fap to a fantasy girl in your head. You'll feel less dirty, and less inclined to switch to homo mode. But try to restrain also that. After a while you'll get there, just don't despair if it is hard the first weeks.
Cameron Allen
>Welcome user to the last free territory in existence this! of course until
Camphor also works, they used that trick in the army. Also look up vitex agnus-castus, monks pepper aka the chastity tree. But those are only to be used in extreme circumstances
Landon Thomas
Just do some kind of physical activity when you feel in the mood. Go on a run, work out etc. Also you can take a cool shower and it will help. The first two weeks are hell, but it gets way fucking easier after that user. Delete anything on your computer. After a month you'll feel like your old self.
William Murphy
I did noporn for 6 months before adding in nofap as well, and things have gone well so far. I didn't relapse once
Quitting porn but allowing yourself to jerk off may be the happy medium you need before being able to successfully abstain from both
It also helps to know the logical reasons for quitting, so you can rationalize it and stick to the program at times when willpower may be lower
Wyatt Gonzalez
The honesty of this post means that there is hope; you're not in denial or making excuses for yourself. If you value being true to yourself then I would try writing down "I will not watch porn today" or something to the same effect in the morning, and then write it again whenever you feel tempted. If you're like me and value being true and honest with yourself then it should help form a psychological barrier against watching porn. That's what has worked for me anyway.
Isaiah Parker
Wow. Gotta say I'm blown away by the responses to this post boys. Wasn't sure what to expect, but this has been a huge morale booster for me, thanks.
Dylan Gomez
Whenever you think of porn, put your complete focus on something else.
Jack Johnson
>just watch something disgusting Could be dangerous. He might get turned on by it. Better if the content in question is pure degeneracy. For instance I downloaded a thread off /gif/ last week and went through it webm per webm, when suddenly one of the videos in question was this insta thot doing yoga while her mutt baby was trying to get breastfed. That was three days ago, haven't been able to fap since. It's revolting.
