Did anyone else grow up with a very passive and weak father? It's had a major effect on my development, and still bothers me. How do you get over it?
I had no male role model, was taught to suffer in silence and never fight back, and to blend into the background as much as possible. I have zero sense of purpose or meaning, and absolutely no ability to give or receive affection. Will I ever be normal, or am I stuck like this?
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Eat raw onions, masturbate to unbirth hentai, and go to classes. That’s how I get over it. Also no alcohol. It kills the drive to achieve
Act out as much as you can against things that bother you w/o getting severely punished and work on general self improvement
you just described me. Father was mostly absent. No male role model whatsoever in life. Everybody thought I was gay in high school, 5 years later I’ve improved just a little bit but I still have no goals or confidence. Extremely hard to make male friends, and i’m too shy to talk to women.
I can’t help you but I at least can say you’re not alone.
Half ultra violence autistic control freak, half out of my life.
>blend into the background as much as possible
good skill to develop
>ability to give or receive affection
affection is a spook
You must now form your mask, start with a mirror and first practice reflecting normies back at themselves. It should be easy if you are actually good at blending. Good luck.
Haha I cope by being a massive alcoholic. God I wish I could hurry up and die.
The absence didn't bother me so much. It was the amount of control that he let my mother have over him. He's a fucking housebroken dog, I hate him so much. She'd have her screaming temper tantrums and tell all of us that we were worthless and he'd sit there and do nothing. Fucking coward.
You can change, but you'll have to do it on your own. You'll need to force yourself into situations that you know will make you stronger. No matter how much you might suffer you must do it.
No one is normal.Jesus Christ was the only normal one.
>be me
>become alcoholic to make the feels go away
>being an alcoholic sucks, im tired of being a fat lazy shit with hemhorroids
>sober up
>life is boring and grey and depressing for a couple weeks
>go back to drinking
I’ve been doing this cycle for about 3 years
Listen to old Tom Leykis segments.
>hemhorroids
Did no drinking clear them up? I don't drink but have 'em. I think mine are related to fapping.
this is why I drink craft beer, it makes my alcoholism seem like a neat hobby
Nah, his advice was very much for the mid-2000s. He has no idea how a world with Tinder and #MeToo works.
stop sticking dildos up your ass and eat more fiber.
problem solved
I was for about 6 years. Did lots of drugs and eventually got kicked out for getting fucked up on on xanax and coke and kicking holes in the wall, daring him to do something about it. Overall not worth it, I got a DUI and a breach of peace charge. It just made everything worse.
father died at young age, grew up fighting older brothers until overpowering them. now sweat testosterone
Quitting drinking helped, but the thing that helped the most was a daily fiber supplement. Difference was like day and night. If the pain ever becomes unbearable, take a warm bath.
Good luck user, I know how shitty they are. They’ll go away.
>eat raw onions
Lol don’t. You rather have the urge to succeed in life or you don’t. It’s called good genetics.
When it’s youth vs. experience, experience wins everytime.
I was raised in a traditional family so no
damn I had 3 sisters.... really I cant stand most girls because of those bitches. way too many female family members really kills your interest to be in a relationship.
I get the urges in waves. Almost like with every layer I feel a different level of desire. Onions have layers.
>damn I had 3 sisters
sucks man, I have a similar situation, fucking unreal how badly boys need a steady father figure in their lives.
Recommend fiber supplements? I hate psyillum husks aka Metamucial.
I notice if I eat oatmeal daily it helps. Maybe it is all about fiber.
Pretty much anyone who is a milliniel has the same problem dude
Yeaah maaaan Like totalllly
>subjectivism
You rather have a plan, you stick to it or you don’t. These layers are layers of bullshit to make yourself feel comfortable. Go out and make something solid, the overwhelming urge will unlock in your brain and you will willingly go into uncomfortable situations, that urge is the urge for success and growth. The brain is like a muscle and can along get stronger when more stronger ideas are thrown at it.
>dat nosejob...
ASIA FOR THE ASIANS, AFRICA FOR THE AFRICANS, WHITE COUNTRIES FOR EVERYBODY!
Everybody says there is this RACE problem. Everybody says this RACE problem will be solved when the third world pours into EVERY white country and ONLY into white countries.
The Netherlands and Belgium are just as crowded as Japan or Taiwan, but nobody says Japan or Taiwan will solve this RACE problem by bringing in millions of third worlders and quote assimilating unquote with them.
Everybody says the final solution to this RACE problem is for EVERY white country and ONLY white countries to “assimilate,” i.e., intermarry, with all those non-whites.
What if I said there was this RACE problem and this RACE problem would be solved only if hundreds of millions of non-blacks were brought into EVERY black country and ONLY into black countries?
How long would it take anyone to realize I’m not talking about a RACE problem. I am talking about the final solution to the BLACK problem?
And how long would it take any sane black man to notice this and what kind of psycho black man wouldn’t object to this?
But if I tell that obvious truth about the ongoing program of genocide against my race, the white race, Liberals and respectable conservatives agree that I am a naziwhowantstokillsixmillionjews.
They say they are anti-racist. What they are is anti-white.
Anti-racist is a code word for anti-white.
I just use Target brand fiber supplement pills. I’m sure anything with fiber will help you a lot. I tried all kinds of creams and gels but fiber is the only thing that made them go away.
Military helped a bit, not even memeing. Still emotionally flat bitter loner, but now at least somewhat content about it.
Also looking forward for the upcoming racewar.
If you know what you want, and know where you stand, and you are willing to go that hard road, you can change, and become something you want
thanks user
btw, try 'Death in the Afternoon' cocktail. IIRC its absinthe and champaign. I also used to love Hendricks brand gin, which makes a nice cocktail with mead (honey wine).
praise my nigga Jesus
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and better yourself. You'll never get anywhere contemplating what would happen if daddy was there for you. We're out here to make kids and raise them better than our parents did
join a sport with a male coach
what about spending time with your grandfather, uncle or male cousins?
join a fraternity or other group
kek
thanks user, i will give them a try.
>? It's had a major effect on my development, and still bothers me. How do you get over it?
It's in your head. Be a fucking man you little crybaby.
That's your inner-dad speaking. Learn to develop one. And watch pre-yr-2000 masculine shows and movies and stars: Magnum PI, John Wayne, Batman, Bruce Willis, Clint Eastwood, John Wayne, Humphry Bogart, Mel Gibson and Vince Vaugne, Val Kilmer, Kurt Russel, Highlander tv show, Married with Children, Bruce Lee, Fight Club, Drive, Tombestone... Kerry Grant for picking up women.
Learn to man, son. And go learn Martial Arts. Stop listening to feminine music or depressing cry baby faggot shit. Listen to classic rock
kill yourself
>She'd have her screaming temper tantrums and tell all of us that we were worthless and he'd sit there and do nothing.
That's pretty harsh coming from your mom.
Still, if you don't kick her ass for doing it you can hardly criticize him.
So what was he supposed to do according to you?
If he knocked the shit out of her then you'd probably be on here crying about that instead given how whiny you are.
Stop looking for other people to rescue you and learn to save yourself.
Then you'll become a man.
College is the best time to get over this. Join a frat or if you have good connections just go to plenty of parties. Drink a bit, let yourself go, and you'll start acting like you got a spine. You get good at drinking games, build up a good tolerance to booze, and you can usually bury other guys at parties and impress the chicks.
>TFW right wing posters all over my campus
>TFW want to join but it's probably a honeypot
fuck brehs, I just want to do manly shit with guys who aren't complete cucks
>let TV be your dad
Jesus Christ....
read "the manual" by W Anton
I had a present dad, the problem is that he didn't rised me but rather he dog trainned me. Now I am trying to forget all that programming.
That's 80's kids for you. They'll shit on millenials because their hollywood jews were slightly less overt.
>absent father
>lived with father the whole time
Fuck off I grew up without a dad and saw him for a grand total of 5 week in over twenty years. Say you had a dad who was a bitch but don't say he was "absent".
lol, that was unexpected.
lolwut?
Tell us more user.
Join the Marines.
Stop being a faggot.
Terrible advice. Soldiers are never men that are respected, they are used and tossed aside. Even their wives fuck other men behind their back because everyone subconsciously knows that the wars the United States are in are bullshit and anyone who risks their life for nearly minimum wage is low IQ.
How do you find something to want
I just wanna shitpost online all day I really love it for some reason
It was more of a bitch mother than an absent father.
>Dad leaves around 8 years old
>Have 3 sisters, all from different men
>Mom coddled me to the bone. If I got hurt in a sport she'd take me out of it
>Quit doing boys scouts because mom would just go with me and stay on her phone vs my dad telling me how proud he is.
>Puberty hit me like a fucking train, hormones were unbalanced as fuck and I was a ticking time bomb emotional wise
>Constantly bullied, was ugly as fuck until sophomore year of highschool, finally got laid at 16
>Was always scared of confrontation, now I just have a 'Don't start shit, but if they start with you and get physical, go psycho' policy about people. Just the other day some dude made a scene because I sat in his seat and I wasn't about to fuck up my senior year because niggerlord wanted a seat so I just got up and sat next to some friends.
>Spent the whole class period whooping and hollering about how he 'dominated' me and made me his bitch
It fucks up your siblings too.
Them being fuck ups makes it that much harder. Even if you get your shit together they're still gonna fuck up.
You need to self improve and focus on making things. Do everything you can to do what you love and build a new family around that.
It ends with you.
Get fit
Get paid
Get skills
See some shit
Have many advantages in jobs after
I don't know man it seems pretty good
Great Idea, I can die for the Glory of Israel just like my fucking foreskin did.
This image reflects a very deep and esoteric aspect of true Christianity, also found in some schools of Buddhism, as well as other religions. You, or "I" the ego, only exists as an idea. EVERYTHING ever experienced since conception/ birth, is God. The false self is injecting heroine into God, or The Buddha.
My dad was always a friend more than a parent. We watched movies and ate lots junk food when I was growing up. We started smoking weed once or twice a month for the past year. But I don’t want to end up like him. He sits in front of the tv and drinks himself to sleep every night and then goes to work. Doesn’t have any friends in a 2 hour radius. I got a job in a kitchen and that’s giving me some good backbone and passion for once.
Nobody in the military dies anymore it's just a great welfare program for dumb or lazy or fatherless people that will teach them structure and responsibility and how horrible government bureaucracy is
Was joke.
I'm from a Military town in the US all of them are welfare queens with PTSD or just normal men who are semi competent.
FIND A MARTIAL ART YOU REALLY LIKE!!!!! Otherwise those fears NEVER go away. Also, for all of you feeling this way; Jordan Peterson.
training program + benefits plus a little fake valor sounds good and some money
Marines aren't soldiers, faggot.
Eh, this might help a little bit, but the Corps tends to attract really alpha male types to begin with. If you don't have thick skin, or tend to act like a bitch, you're gonna hate your time in the Marines.
>How do you get over it?
You're completely fucked. Nobody will sympathize with you. Nobody understands just how thoroughly you've been crippled. Everyone takes for granted the simple human experiences that taught them how to exist. You're a destroyed being. Invisible. You will always be trapped outside of society, watching as the normies frolic within.
I have no advice other than just keep trying to get by and do not harm others. As long as you're alive you may find the place where you belong.
I'm rooting for you user.
He has always been obsessed with money and being productive. he was pretty much my model until he leave the house for a women that he has probably been cheating my mom for years.
I was basically rised on the ideas of whoever doesn't produce money is basically dead weight and having any debt is basically a sin.
The problem is the installed those idea in me to the point that he almost put me against my mom due to her acquiring a """""""""""""""""""""big""""""""""""""""""""" debt (that turned out to be less than 10k dollars) and from this point until he leaving the house he was controlling on everthing that mom did, he was always who was comming (expecting people collecting debts) and who she was talking to phone (expecting more debt collectors). Kept in mind that from that point he was already cheating on her.
After that I learn that he deliberately kept us in a bare minimum living style despite having the money for more (I went to a realivetly high end school while believing we were rather"poor").
Right now I live with my mom, yet I keep doing the some of the thing he did while he was living with us.
Also.
>Admited that my sister was an accident
>Probably caused my mom to have and abortion that almost killed her.
>He probably started cheating on here while she was in bed from the above.
I looked up to my dad all my life. He patronized the fuck out of me. Suddenly I had to start making a living. I realized ive been misguided and left for dead in this piece of shit world. I started working out right away. Looking up real world shit. Upped my work outs based on navy seal shit. Stopped talking to my parents. Plan on disappearing in the military for a bit. I managed to find actual friends along the way by starting hobbies.
Don't join any right wing movement they are filled with feds. Great way to be put on a list.
>He patronized the fuck out of me.
How does that work exactly?
yea they are
they're just like the guys in the navy. the one's that wear the cracker jack costumes when they come to town
You don't get over it, you become the male role model you wish you had growing up and end the cycle. You also go out of your way to mentor other boys/guys. The more of us seeking to break the cycle the more likely we create a better world for all of us.
damn, are you me?
I was the exact same way, but I read Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules and sorted myself out!
And fight for Israel?
This. That's also assuming if you don't end up like video related, if not dead coming back. youtube.com
>>Constantly bullied, was ugly as fuck until sophomore year of highschool, finally got laid at 16
You did better than me, and I come from a intact, yet dysfunctional family. Got laid at 19.
Doesn't matter, they all fight on Israel's behalf.
I have three sisters and I had some pretty satisfying relationships. Although most of my sisters are quite a bit older than me so they were out of the house while I was young.
Really? I was planning on joining as soon as I got out of high school for that very reason. I need a struggle to toughen me up a bit and the army seems like it would do the trick. (Yes, I am 18, I'm a senior)
Raw onions and garlic are great. If they're too spicy, pickle them. I can eat pickled cloves of garlic like candy.
OK, anons, listen the fuck up.
Oldfag here; will be 46 later this year.
Mom and dad divorced when I was 3. They were only married because he pushed for it since he thought that was the right way to do things when the gal you were dating said she was preggo.
She initiated the divorce; apparently she “chose” him to be my father because of traits she liked, yet never really wanted to be married to him.
I remember him visiting and giving me presents on my 5th birthday. Didn’t see him again until I was 34.
Mom pulled all the girly shit while raising me: never fight back, run and tell a teacher, don’t question the rules, just be yourself with broads—all that feminine crap.
I was such a bitch I didn’t get laid until I was 20, even though I hit 6’4” when I was 13.
I was quiet, studious, respectful (without demanding respect in return), excruciatingly non-threatening; in short, I behaved like a chick.
The first broad I fucked picked me up, and it was a disaster. She was demanding, shrewish, needy, and a general pain in the ass while not being all that hot (maybe a 5/10, i didn’t take any pics).
I was a wreck for months when she dumped me because I figured out she was cheating.
Then a chick friend who was probably a 7/10 threw me a courtesy fuck on my 21st because I was pathetic, and well, she was a slut who took pity on me. Of course my dumbass was in love again.
She’d complain about how the men she screwed were mean and all that shit, during the nights she came to my apartment because she was lonely.
There were a couple of other gals, but at 27 I met and dated my first borderline.
HOLY FUCKING SHIT!
(part 2 coming soon).
If you're like me, it will suck. You will hate some things while going through it. I was even borderline suicidal at one point. But after the fact, I'm glad I was in the military. I started to lift, got fit, and got job experience that i can fall back on.
do it. I went infantry and it was the best decision I ever made. You're gonna be miserable for most of it, but misery builds character.
How bout you stop being a little faggot and drink whiskey
>My first borderline
KEK How long did it take you to realize you fucked up royally?
No shit, borderlines put pornstars to shame in the sack.
They’re absolutely insane, and should probably be avoided at all costs, but they’re also the most amazing lay any guy can ever hope to have.
She nearly fucked me to death.
I got blown on a plane, in my car, at a danceclub, at a crosswalk, in BurgerKing (at a table, not in the restroom), at her fucking mother’s house during thanksgiving dinner. I spent almost 2 years screwing her every waking hour, and she still managed to cheat.
Because of her, I completely gave up on women.
I went from “who gives a shit” to “fuck that cunt, and make money”.
You know what happened?
Pussy happened.
Some will laugh, some will understand.
As soon as I stopped giving a shit, I was knee deep in squirming panty hamsters.
WOMEN AREN”T HUMAN. As soon as you learn this, and behave accordingly, you’ll understand.
Women are silly creatures. Once you fuck one you will understand. I can’t explain this part, you have to do it to get it.
They aren’t men, and you really don’t want them to be.
>KEK How long did it take you to realize you fucked up royally?
About a year and a half.
Borderlines are the girliest of girls.
fuck them.taste them.but never ever love them.
My father left my mother after 18 years, unmarried. She was at home refurnishing the whole house and garden while he went on to get a very nice career. She paid for the furnishing and education, and it wasn't cheap. A large property, pool, outhouses in timber with grass on the roof, copper drains.. So he finishes the career, fucks a nurse and leaves. He had all the rights to the property he'd gotten "JR Ewing Dallas style" and left my mom with three kids. So you have to adapt into city life from country life after that, four guys in a 40sqm apartment. My mother didn't get any work because she's old school briefcase money. I wasted my years from 15 to 24 i used to believe, but not anymore. I'm gonna be the best father in the world after this and that motivates me.
you have to abandon your life and go on a journey
>Women are silly creatures. Once you fuck one you will understand. I can’t explain this part, you have to do it to get it.
>They aren’t men, and you really don’t want them to be.
When I was in my early 30s I started to get it.
Men don't really want dykish broads, and dykes don't really want men.
Your mom taught you to behave like a girl, because that worked (sort of) for her.
In reality, men aren't women and women aren't men.
If you want to be successful with women, don't pretend they're men.
Sure, your honey is a cunt, but there are thousands of women who work as cashiers, strippers, and silly twats who are BEGGING to be forced into being soccermoms,
The hand that learns is the hand that burns.
That's exactly my line of thought. I need to go through some hardships before I can call myself a man.