Please tell me it gets easier in college. My life is fucking miserable. I have no sense of identity and practically zero true friends at this point. I'm such a fuck up socially. How I managed to get any girl to sleep with me is beyond. I'm a ducking loser omfg fam.
>tldr does life get better in college or should I just kill myself?
I can relate man. just wait it out and focus on school, it gets better eventually. don't kill yourself.
Ackward faggots in High School have a hard time in college BUT it can get better.
Kill yourself, pussy
I had sex with one average girl in high school at the end of my senior year.
I just finished my first year of college and I've fucked two girls one of them was like a 9/10.
If you have an attractive personality there is still hope.
Just gotta completely reinvent yourself. Or you'll find a niche group of friends and all will be fine.
Socially, it gets better, but the work gets a lot harder.
Lol no it's not over. Read a fucking book on social dynamics. I used to be horrible with social interactions, but excessive reading and experimenting made me better at it. I'm not super charismatic, but I get second dates now at least
ducking
it DOES get better. You get a mostly clean table to start on, it requires some effort on your part too though.
Did you know the voice actor who played your gif died?
If you've already gotten even ONE girl to sleep with you, college is going to be the time of your fucking life. Nothing that's happening to you now will matter in two years (TOPS) and holy shit in the middle of it you'll turn 21, that'll be fuckin amazing
everyone is a fuckup socially until they aren't, it takes some people longer than others. In high school I was a huge betafag, I cringe to myself whenever I think about it, and now I'm happy. It'll happen, it just won't happen right now and that's hard
Don't worry, you'll soon get a reality check that reminds you that you are going to college to get a fucking job, not making friends.
Life never gets easier. You get tougher and smarter, or you die trying.
Assuming you go to a college that either very few other people in your high school go to or is gigantic, it's a fresh start. Focus on learning soft skills and you'll be able to fit right in. If your major is something you're interested in, it'll be easier to make friends because you've already got that in common.
Depends, are you going to college away or a local one? If it's local and the chances are that everyone you went to highschool with will be there. If it's away you can literally forget who you were in highschool and change absolutely everything about yourself
College is way worse. Instead of being lonely in a pond, you'll now be lonely in an ocean.
Jeez dude you're defeating yourself before the world even throws the first fucking punch. If you dont have any love for yourself no one else will so suck it up worry about you and your loved ones health and bringing in money and the rest will fall into place work out find a hobby buy a sombrero i dont jeez just stop downing yourself its really unnatractive
wrong.....
I believed this im now 28. Got my degree and the job that i want....but i sacrificed my social lfe...my love life. You need to succumb to the their needs. I know that sounds stupid but conformity will get you places. My pride and stubbornness damned me to a life of nothing in my youth. I regret not fucking around and making bad decisions.
Dont be like me user
Please dont be like me.
Your best friends will be people you work with after you finish school girls come after success
/thread.
At least in highschool I got to fake being happy because interaction mattered so much.
Now I'm just alone...All the time...Noone asks me how my day is going...what I have planned..What my major is...
Honestly if it wasn't for the prozac there wouldnt be a point in living.
Can i get moar of this, i fucking love this chick...
poison the ocean then....
life never gets "easier"
You should have figured it out by now at least how to bone multiple chicks near the end of highschool.
Going into college I was set.
College sucked because of the morals of my peers.
I wish I tried harder
After college sucked because I couldn't find a job because I dropped out of college.
Going back to college is good because I can go to school for something that I want to do.
I wish I had tried harder in school and not cared about banging chicks, getting into fights, and getting shitfaced and high.
So yeah, focus on school kid, stop fucking around.
No, it just gets more stressful.
The thing about being a social fuckup is that you're going to keep being a social fuckup until the experience of being a social fuckup teaches you how to not be a social fuckup. Throw your ideas at the wall and see what sticks. You have to get over your fear of social rejection because it's gonna happen so fuckin much, holy shit I can't tell you how much, but those aren't the people you want to be friends with anyway. Find what makes you happy, DO what makes you happy, fuck everyone else, roll with the punches, you'll make friends. College is when most people grow the fuck up and learn that they need to be happy with themselves on their own first and foremost. You don't owe anyone in this world anything but your own happiness, you just have to keep chasing it no matter how hard it gets
College is just another span of 4ish years, don't look at it like a bookended milestone. It's still your life and you're still in charge of it
>How I managed to get any girl to sleep with me
Fuck off normie.
Unless you're going to a really good college, it's probably not going to get better.
My life didn't get better until I finally got out of college and moved away from home.
no, it gets worse
but you've got (at least in my experience) easier access to drugs and alchol, so it's a 50/50 for commiting sudoku or not
Listen kid, I make 17 dollars an hour dealing cards at a casino, please try hard in school so you don't end up like me. I'm going back to school so I can become an engineer. If you don't focus now, you're going to wish you did. To become successful you need to not have friends, you need to give up girlfriends, partying. You don't want to be successful as bad as you want friends or to party or to fuck. Man, grow the fuck up. This is a dog eat dog world, these fucking authoritarians try to keep you focused on entertainment, ads, sex, anything to avert your eyes from the true goal. Go and be successful, then when you're making six figures you can fuck anybody you want and can find some pals.Now isn't the time to be happy.
17 in a casino is not bad, dont be to down on yourself. Others wish they had that.
I only bring home about 1000 a pay and have to stand for 6 hours a day.
id kill for that, i work more hours and earn 2/3rds the pay
some people cant stand
ungrateful bitch
my advice would be to join a club at college.
I joined a rugby club at my community college and made a few friends and eventually formed a social circle. The club didn't last but I made friends
You seem pretty knowledgable. So tell me what you think of this.
My best friend of 7 years has ditched me. We did basically everything together, even went on a beach trip together. I did so much for her, even taught her how to drive. Now she's gone, she got tired of my shit. My jealousy, my weirdness, we just didn't vibe like we did years ago. On that same beach trip we got in a huge fight because we barely spent time together she was hanging with other guys and I was getting jealous.
So now she's gone. I felt used and betrayed. She's cut off all contact with me. It's over. Because I'm an idiot.
EASIER IN COLLEGE. HAHAHAHAHA
Literally life gets worse for every milestone. The easiest you will ever have it is as a kid. It gets harder in high school. Harder in college, even harder after college. Then you have kids and shit is just down the fucking drain by that point, you wake up, and like, you love your family, you love your kids, but jesus fucking christ it gets hard to go on day after day.
Yoyu think you dont have many friends now? 20 years from now you won't have ANY friends, no one to do shit with. Your family will occupy all of your time and effort, unless you're a total piece of shit and ignore them to maintain your friends relationships.
HAHAHAH A EASIER IN COLLEGE
Haha I'm just saying there's better jobs you can find if you just work hard, if you're working somewhere you dont like go back to school. Sometimes I think I should've tried harder in school. I went to school without books most of the time, or pens or even paper. I'd just sit there listening. Did well on tests but never did assignments.
Do I enjoy my job? No.
Is the pay alright? Yes.
I've had my highest highs and my lowest lows in college. But here is my advice.
Put yourself out there, OP. Step out of your comfort zone. Join organizations, don't be afraid to speak up, and whenever someone asks you to hang out/go to a party, never say no. At least not initially. I made the mistake of saying no my freshman year, and I robbed myself of a ton of memories. I've since made up for it, but yeah.
And remember, all you need is a couple solid friends. Quality >>> quantity. And once you find them (I have no doubt that you will), never grow complacent. Hang on to them. You'll need them, and they'll need you.
Good luck, OP.
Other opportunities will prevent themselves. Had a friend like that, we fought multiple times, ended up becoming fuck buddies, plowed through the pain. Then we got into a major fight and never spoke again. By that time I was looking at other girls and like I said opportunities presented themselves. The thing is, in the end none of it would have mattered. I wasted something like 2 years on a girl who literally has no meaning for my life. Without her I would've probably focused on my shit more instead of trying to figure her out.
You need to do what's going to make you happy man. Look forward the next 10 years of your life, not just the next 10 days.
present*
Highschool
>didn't do anything
>didn't think I needed to study
>failed
>made my parents unhappy
>went back for a victory lap
>graduated
>nobody came to my graduation because I graduated a year late
>got into a shit-tier college
College:
>lived with 3 guys who sucked
>girl down the hall liked me but I had a girlfriend
>start cheating on girlfriend
>everyone says they're going to tell my girlfriend
>never went to class because I was too good for it
>was learning how to add taxes onto sales (common sense)
>wanted to drop out
>parents wouldn't let me
>dropped out too late and now it's on my permanent record
>didn't write exams
Work:
>worked at a factory
>worked in retail
>worked at a factory (again)
>worked in the hospitality industry
>currently working in an office building
Plans:
>go back to school this september
I have to finish 5 courses and achieve an overall average of 90%.
This is what I'm telling you guys, if you're in high school right now, focus, if you're in college right now, focus.
It's taken me 3 years since dropping out of college (2013) to now just to fucking recoop.
Actual, true advice which I feel is something All who feel like you should try listen to.
Calm the fuck down, stop trying så god damn hard, it is not a fucking race, fokus on school, focus on being a good person, dont reinvent youself or some other shit (no offence other user, I do not agree with your advice).
It will get so much harder in regards to work, but you will feel you actually get somewhere.
And if you are at peace with yourself and dont rush life or strive to fuck any chick asap because reason, you will be ok.. just please calm down, let the hormones settle.
Also: fuck thw whole makeover bullshit or trying to disguise yourself as what you percieve as attractive. Be 100% on point with personal hygeine, bathe regularly, shave monobrow and shoulder, neck and back hair put on a decent deo (not axe) and you are good :).
Fuck hairgel and fuck 200$ shirts.
I have seen people have fun, be happy, score etc. Vearing a 30$ duck costume... and they were 3/10 but lived by above advice.
Best of luck Op and other anons.
Remember to relax
Kind regards
user from denmark