I'd like to open this by saying that I don't really care if anyone reads this or not but I not that it's no true...

I'd like to open this by saying that I don't really care if anyone reads this or not but I not that it's no true, and that I would only be fooling myself.

Im 22, and I just graduated college. I had written a section here describing what this is about, but I think ill just let you read it instead.

I met this girl at swing dancing. I am 6'2" and quiet, reserved, but I did sketch comedy in college so when I open my mouth its usually to say something funny, though I dont really say a lot of things. She was shorter by a lot. Maybe 5'4"? She had big blue eyes and she was always smiling. I was a regular at the swing club, and she was new, so I showed her a lot of stuff and we connected and really talked a lot. My friend mentioned that it seemed like we got along really well and that I should say something to her. That night she added me on facebook. She had a boyfriend. The next practice she didn't show up, it turned out that she was in the band and they had set their new schedule right on top of our practice, so she couldn't go anymore. I continued to go to practice, and went on and off with an old ex that was part of a failed, but not entirely horrid relationship. But I was incredibly lonely, and just wanted someone that cared about me to let me love them. 3 months past and this swing girl experience was nothing but a memory. I didn't go to the club anymore. It got taken over by someone that was new and I didn't like going anymore.

Cont?

Ill give it this one bump then if no interest ill probably just let it die.

pic not related, cmon 4 chan bros.

True story? Go for it. But if you post more pics we're gonna fap, so keep that in mind.

very true story.

I get a message from her on facebook on night and we talk. I check her page and she no longer had a boyfriend. I immediately felt like she was talking to me because she wanted the same thing I did and I went for it. Our first date was incredible. We went to a shitty "pizza place" that didnt even serve pizza. We sat and talked so much and had so much fun that it actually took us over an hour to order our food, hardly ate a thing, and then the waitress turned on the vacuum cleaner to clear us out of the restaurant. We couldn't stop laughing the entire time. There was something so genuine about how we connected and we continued to see each other. I would try really hard and put way more effort into planning dates then I normally would. Some of the ideas went from picking out a recipe in a cook book, going to the store, and cooking it together, all the way to seeing a dance showcase, going to a hockey game or going to parties. It was always something different, and we were usually awful at whatever it was that we were doing, but we always had so much fun. She would send me snaps constantly and normally id be annoyed, but for once when a girl did this I felt ok about it. There was a party at her house, as she was in the band, it was a band and sports party. She invited me and I showed up not knowing anyone at all except for her and I think that night was when things really began to change.

Is this story going somewhere? If not I'd probably keep reading it anyways, it's different than what I normally do (which is mostly nothing).

Or am I a newfag and this is copyshit?
Is it a comedy sketch?

Oh, you continued.

its going somewhere

She opened up to me and told me about her past boyfriends, and how her last relationship ended really roughly. She told me she "didn't want me to be some shitty rebound". To this point I hadn't made a move on her. We'd been seeing each other for about a month, but I always struggled with the first kiss. Different girls like it at different times, and I really struggle telling when they want it sometimes. But we kissed that night, and we ended up falling asleep, fully clothed, holding each other on her bed that night. She slept in a sleeping bag all the time because she was cold and we were really far north but if that was as weird as she got, then I really didn't mind because shed ditch it when she had me to keep her warm. Things after that flew by pretty fast. We started to call each other boyfriend and girl friend, and we continued to have fun together. Then everything changed. It was like a 180 degree turn. It happened so fast I dont think ill ever understand how or why. But it was potentially the most depressing month of my life. Winter break had hit, she talked to me via messaging the first few days a lot and after that kind of faded. I tried to convince myself that I was just feeling lonely because I was staying by myself in the college town because I had to work. There was literally no one around, no one stays for college break except for about 1/3 of the people who work restaurant and retail. I basically spent the next month feeling like she didn't care anymore, then convincing myself that she just was with her family and being happy and I had nothing to worry about.

She came back, and I didn't find out until after she had been back for a few days. She messaged me "we need to talk. is tuesday night ok?" my stomach dropped and I just felt empty and weak. It was Sunday night....I had to wait two days for a converstion to happen that I already knew was going to take place. Tuesday night hit and when she told me I didnt really react. I had already cried. I had already lost my sleep. I just didnt have any energy left to care at that point. Part of me even wanted to display emotion, if nothing else just to show she was hurting me. She just turned to me and said "I was expecting you to be angry or something...." I decided to white knight it and said something that played down the significance. She drove me home. and We talking in the parking lot for awhile. I just wanted to know why. She had no answer. After talking for awhile she actually hit on me...and I left the car feeling really confused. We talked again the next day and decided just to ride it out for awhile and see what happened. That was probably the worst choice ive made in awhile. And I do stupid shit all the time. The next weekend my aunt was diagnosed with cancer. My grandma had been developing alzheimers and it just got to the bad part where its no longer cute, and she now cant remember things like "your daughter has cancer". My mom called me crying explaining that grandma couldnt remember and that she had to keep calling her. I wanted to be there so badly, but it wasnt enough to get an excused absence to want to keep your mom company. I was going to go home that weekend though. I messaged swing girl and she came over. I just needed someone to keep me company for the night and none of my roommates were home.

cont?

Cont

You gotta start what you finish OP


Or something like that

We talked and she started acting weird. Like, really strange. So strange that It was beyond apparent that she didn't feel right about something. But I decided that she would come to me in time, and I didnt really want to start drama that night, because I was already so sad. When we went to bed she turned to me and looked at me with her beautiful blue eyes and said..."user I did something...." I didnt say a word the whole time, I just waited and listened "When the band went to New York, we were at a party with a frat and I was really cold and we could either sleep in our cars or sleep with someone, and I ended up sleeping with one of the guys from the fraternity....I know that its like not a big deal and stuff, I just wanted to let you know because I wanted to make sure that we were on the same page"......"what are you talking about?"....At this point it hadnt really hit me yet. And I was mostly confused by her logic, taken back, and mentally preparing myself for a shit show. "We are in an open relationship you knew that right. Like I didnt cheat....I was just doing what im allowed to do."...."...We never talked about that, thats not something you just assume....thats kind of a major thing to talk about, and weve never said anything like that". I asked her to leave that night.

Cunt?

Bitch

Bloody cont m8

The worst part was that my bed smelled like her now. I didnt fall asleep that night. I deleted her from facebook, my phone. Everything. I didn't talk to her, if I saw her in the gigantic all purpose building that you are likely to see almost everyone at least once in awhile in I wouldnt look at her. I was bent on the idea of not forgiving her. She had wronged be and it was her choice. She had taken my value down to one nigh of something with a guy she would never see again and had no future with. It was all for one reckless night of enjoyement and fun right? right? This is what I told myself over and over. Theres no way I could let her back into my life. Not after what she did, not after the way she did it.

Cunty?

Ah but you did. Only reasonable

And then ??

i would say good story, but i assume the cringiest parts are still to come when you take her back and she fucks you over again

Pics of bitch?

damn bro

No continue?

Women are all evil cheating whores. Play vidya and don't let them into your life. They'll only end up hurting you.

The next months passed and I had found a new girl. I had found someone I was happy with. There were problems and it wasnt perfect but it was nice. It took my mind of things and she was very sweet. I didnt really feel like I could love the same way that I had right away though. I mean, who could? Could you blame me? Im human, just like anyone else and I had dealt with a lot. My aunt passed away. My new girlfriend supported me through it. Until I found out that I wouldnt be staying in the area and that she would. She was great but we hadnt seen each other for that long so long distance didnt make sense.
I received a phone call

HOLY FUCKING SHIT
got moar ?

And then??

You know, I saw this bs website the other day, that went on and on how you have to play girls by keeping them unsure about the relationship they said it was like a cat and a string. If you dangle the string just out of reach, the cat goes nuts. But then drop and give the string to the cat, and it plays with it for about ten seconds then gets bored and goes away. And the point was the minute you declare your feelings and get together and she stops chasing you, she loses interest and goes elsewhere. It doesn't matter how much amazing fun you have together or how well you get along, she loses interest in you as a romantic partner. You become just a good friend at best.
I really didn't want to believe that something so awful is true, but I'm beginning to think that this may be how it is.

retard

Bumpage

Mor

Reverse image search it you fucking newfag

Le fin?

Thanks user ;)

And then??
Jeez talk about microtransactions
Speed it up , sugartits

Or not OP

> you know it's summertime when greentext stops working

She died of cancer on June 11th. Ill let you put the pieces together. As you want to, I dont think I could write out what actually took place in my mind at this point. Swing friend had been asked to call me and explain to me what happened. I was left with "she wanted you to know that nothing happened in New York, she slept in the car with me and everyone else. She wanted you to know that she was trying to protect you, and that she says "thank you". Best of luck user, im sure it wont be easy. Let me know if you need anything.

wait what

So swing girl was dying of cancer. But told you she slept with someone else to not hurt you... Cannot handle these feels Op

Nailed it

so she was a lying whore. Fuck her, I'm glad she's dead.

glumo

>glumo
wat?

I really hope you are about to say that you walked your dino to clear your head. this shit is real heavy man, I'm sorry for ya user.

Hmm I've been in 4 ltr and about 20 flings.. I definitely think this is true with some women. They want a challenge, just like we do. I know if my g/f became hell of fucking clingy it'd be unattractive as fuck and I'd be out.

But I think OP's situation is different. He didn't seem overly clingy, it seems like his g/f was self conscious to the point where she needed more than one dick to make her feel like she's attractive, and some girls are like that unfortunately.. Some guys are too.

My ex worked at google making like 140k a year and I though she was the smartest pretty girl I've ever met. I loved her so much I saw passed all the red flags. But after we broke up, I realized I fell in love with a fabrication I made up. She wasn't anything like I thought she was, and when I realized this she became very ugly and fat.. she was a little over weight.

I'd consider yourself luck OP. At last you found out now and not later, at least you can find someone who won't do this shit to you. You'll get over it, and you'll feel great again, just takes time. Fuck self conscious bitches like your ex tho man, that sucks.

Is this some "The Fault in Our Stars" bullshit??

oh, my, god....cannot even begin....

Nigger this don't make any sense

Then who was phone?

this made my day ngl

So in order not to hurt you, she decided to hurt you...
Wimmin logic

Nah that's gay. She should have told the truth. All she has done is fuck you up more. She's retarded. And ded

TTTTHHHHIIIIIIIISSSSS

This

Damn dude.

Qft

I dunno, I don't think I want a challenge, just someone I love spending time with and admire, who feels the same in return. And the relationship grows from there.
If someone is too clingy too fast, that does feel like a turn-off. But maybe because the few times that happened to me, the people who did that were kind of losers. You have to have a lot of respect for someone to love them, it might be impossible to love someone if you don't respect them.

So fucking true

I didn't know cancer was sexually transmitted

Well you had someone that really cared for you, you should be happy. Most people just want to use and abuse you.
My point is you should move on and be happy with the memories u have.

Feel.

I am 38 and never had a relationship, and most likely never will.. I do not understand women at all, and they definately don't understand me..

But I feel you user.

See

Update:It was swing girls friend, a friend I knew well and got along with. She was always nice to me and was generally really cool but as with any relationship when things go south you kind of just break it off with friends as well. I almost hung up phone immediately. But I couldnt, because a part of me still had feelings. A part of me still wanted things to be ok. We talked for awhile and she asked a lot of irrelevant questions that didnt make sense. She asked a lot of questions that had no point. Like how I was doing etc... I just wanted to know what was going on with swing girl, because i knew thats the only reason she would be calling.

At first I was uninspired when people werent reading. Thanks for the support anons

I'm going to end up like this. I'm a programmer and the only thing that makes me happy is writing code. I need to move to a city and start going to clubs to try to meet somebody. If I could find a girl who likes writing code too, I would be seriously happy

Yeah, I just don't get it.. At all.

So it was swing girl who died? Pardon me autism, but I thought is was the long distance relationship girl.

Like someone else said, saying you slept w/someone isn't very logical when you have cancer -- which is why I thought it was the long distance relationship girl with cancer (-- however, I can understand that there was logic behind it and there's no way that would be an easy thing to do).

I'd also like to say, this I way more interesting than my grandma's soaps. (If it's not the fault in our stars bs.)

wait what? swing girl knew she would die and told you she cheated on you so you wont develope stronger feelings for her so her death will be easier for you? or did you mean your aunt, in this case this wouldnt make sense

They have autistic dating sites dont u know?

this is some bullshit copypasta. I've read this story before.

Roed

still young enough to learn and do something about it.

someone should,have told you a long time ago, that it is just practice.
try and keep trying. to socialise with women.

you'll fail a lot, but failure paves the road to success.
each time you will learn something new

exercise, eat healthily, spend time outside, start hobbies, challenge yourself, MAKE opportunities,to talk with women - about anything.

don't aim to have them as a girlfriend or to fuck, just talk.

build your abilities and your confidence.
if they seem to like you, accept it - don't ask why, or doubt it.
then you can flirt a bit, complement her lightly, not constantly.
escalate,things, touch her arm - touch her hair, when the moment is right and she looks you in the eyes - kiss her.

start practising now. a year from now you will be a new man.

Can you find the pasta?

I don't really have a lot to live for to be honest. But I want the best for my fellow user's here. I care about all of you. I don't want you to end up like me. It's harder than it looks.

How did you know I was Autistic? :)

copy pasta would be more well written then this.

try this join social activities, keep at them, become good.

swing dancing is a good example. any kind of dance class.

I am changing user, I am about to embark on a 2400km (1700 mile) walk across my country with just a backpack, and staying in backpacking hostels.. To me this is a challenge and a sign that I don't intend to give up on life.

Still, I find it hard. I find it hard to talk, I am an Aspie. We Aspies tend to get picked on a bit on here, and out there too.

But thankyou. I am still young.

AY NIGGA THIS SOME BULL SHIT

One of the best stories I've read on Sup Forums. Sorry for your loss user.

I'm a little younger than you. Had 1 ltr, dated a small few, one of those serious.

Last time dated someone where we really connected in a major way, more than anyone ever before. Had lots of fun together. I'm a decent enough guy, look fairly good, decent shape, not an uncaring asshole, make really good money. The person I was dating not so much, but I was way into them anyway, because of who they were as a person. But our relationship was really sporadic, kept waiting for them to engage more, to spend more time together and get our relationship off the ground. But a few years passed and it never did, and then they bailed. Why bail on something that is as close a connection as I've ever felt I'm my lifetime? And I know they felt the same. But they bailed... still a mystery to me. Now I've just been focused on running my business instead, and stacking up money. At least I know how to do that. It's not what I want, but after years of trying I've mostly given up. It takes two to tango, and I can't control how screwed up most other people are.

Not sure if trolling, but I also don't care.

The writing definitely changed since the first post. It reminds me of Winston's journal in 1984.

I'm in a worse position than you.

I dug my way out of solitude. Had my first real kiss at 28 or 29. Sex at 30 or 31 I don't remember.
3 years of emotional turmoil -
then when I was finally recovering and thinking about the future alone again away from her, my testicles atrophied overnight. Lost all libido, permanently tired. My emotions are practically gone,

Almost a year and a half later - seen maybe 10 specialists, no diagnosis, no treatment. they don't have a clue.
My life is ruined and I don't even know why.

I have a friend who is a programmer, a pretty cool guy. But definitely the programmer type. He's 50, been married for at least 15 years to a woman who runs a clothing store. How he managed it, I don't know. I forget how they met...

Life is practice, social skills are part of that too.

Good - keep challenging yourself. Keep a record of your walk, post excerpts or a link here when you've done it, inspire others.

I saw that movie with Robert Redford and Nick Nolte...

I've dreamed about biking cross country for years. Highly doubt I will ever do it.

Thank you for this. I honestly don't care about fucking at all. I just want to meet somebody who I can relate to on more than just one level. I want to feel connected to somebody in a way which I haven't felt before. Most women are not attractive in any way to me apart from physically. I really hope I can find somebody who is smart and into the same things as I am. I think I just care about having somebody close to me at all times, so I don't have to feel lonely any more. I really just don't want to feel lonely any more.

just do it.
then you'll always have done it.
instead of always regretting not having done it.

one day you'll be too old to do it. don't hesitate.

OP, your shit gave me feels. Right at a time when I needed feels, but like, didn't need feels. Knowhatimean?

Dude, get busy livin'

Girls, and guys, seriously scare me sometimes. I feel like I can't trust anybody because they could change at any time and just steal from me or do something else to hurt me. I know that this is the wrong way to feel, but I can't help it. I have seen it happen way too many times before, and heard so many stories both on b and reddit (both sites lack credibility, but still). I honestly don't know how to trust people, and which types of people are most likely to be trustworthy.

I might already be too old. Plus, would have to abandon my business, put my financial security in major jeopardy. Such is life.

How old are you?

Don't look for perfection, it is an amazing feeling to be with someone you feel comfortable with.
Build yourself up man, your mind, your body, your skills, your socialness. It will raise your confidence, and people,will sense this confidence. You'll also feel you deserve,their friendship of attraction.
Don't do it for them, do it for yourself.

Start building good habits and work toward being who you want to be, every day.

Check youtube for Arnold's six rules.

practise trusting people. trust the! with small things at first - it will help you overcome,that feeling.
if they break or bend your trust, you can withdraw it to an extent.

see also,how they treat other people.

have to risk in life though, life is risk.

I dunno. Do you have any intuition? I have pretty good intuition on who is a flake and who is not.
But apart from that, my default is to trust everyone, until they give me a reason not to trust them. Then I back the fuck away,
But you have to trust by default to get along in the world, otherwise you will have life paralysis.
You'll just have to take a risk and hope for the best.

36.8

Greetings, future self. Enjoying the VR porn?
How is Trump as president, btw?

Financial security isn't happiness.
You aren't too old either, just out of practice.
The beginning is difficult, like learning a new skill or playing a new game.
With time and repetition, you become better and more comfortable, soon enough you start enjoying yourself.

Make use of your time. Money is only there as a safety net, but if you aren't going to jump, what's the point of having such a big net?

Most of the people I used to talk to seemed to not want to talk to me and did some nasty things. I don't know if it's my fault or if they were just shitty people. That was in high school though, so it doesn't really matter. I have since been writing code at home and working with my dad. I'm 19 now. I really want to get a job in London so I can live by myself and feel less worried about bringing a girl home because my parents are awkward and I really don't like talking to people in front of them.