No offense but if you're 21+ and never had a gf, you are so far behind it's not even worth worrying about anymore...

No offense but if you're 21+ and never had a gf, you are so far behind it's not even worth worrying about anymore. It's not going to happen. Even if it did, which it won't, you would be so inexperienced she would drop you in 1 day. You have to understand girls are hooking up and having relationships from the age 13 onwards. You're a fully grown man and you haven't even held hands. You cannot recover from that.

teen/young adult girls like older +30 daddys with a big bulge in their pants

>gonna be 21 next month
fucking hell, lads.

>big bulge
I'm only 13cm
gonna kill myself, hold on

i losed my virginity at 23

>25
>never had a relationship with a woman

complex

>Girls are hooking up from the age of 13
Yeah, maybe in Slovakia

>tfw no more qt azn gf to hold hands with and cuddle

In the west they start at 14, some earlier

Very soon there.
Gotta start trying I guess.

>tfw muslim

feels good ahahaha

this is you?

>be 26
>never had a real gf before
>meet some girl on a penpal site
>talk for almost a year
>finally meet in person
>have first kiss with her
>didn't know how to make out
>lost virginity to her
>sex every time we had it was terrible because I either couldn't get hard or couldn't stay hard
>it's from years of fapping to porn with my deathgrip hand
>disappointed her
>trip ended
>we never talked again after that
>have performance anxiety now when it comes to sex
>can't get it up or keep it because of anxiety
>turned down opportunities or just bitched out and didn't make a move with girls since
>didn't want to disappoint again
>this is my life now

If you're older and never had a gf and never had sex, you're fucked. It's never gonna happen and if it does you'll be so inexperienced you'll be a let down and she won't want it.

>meet some girl on a penpal site
>lost virginity to her

your problem

your text is shit also just like this thread

At least I've had sex.

and it fucked you up for life

worth?

To be honest, I've found that smoking weed helps me with the erections. I got high with some friends once and went home and fapped and was rock hard the whole time.
Next time I find a girl I want to be with I'll be sure to smoke first so I can perform.

I know, I don't even cogitate having a relationship anymore, I only want to kiss some random girl in a club/party once, I just want to feel validated once and then I'll be satisfied

The worst of it all is I can't even complain, in 22 years I had multiple chances with girls but I assburgered out of them all fuck

Now I just want to feel the skin of a woman once and my suffering will end, I know anything more than this is impossible, the mental damage is perpetual

Stop measuring yourselves by partners and sex you cucks. Just do something contributive with your life - or don't. It doesn't really matter, just enjoy it without getting tied to something and stagnating.

> tfw still remember her perfume

JUST

you can't really ignore something so natural and free that happened to everyone around you except you

this. The whole having sex and a gf is totally overrated. It's not that of a big deal that if people never experienced it.

t. normie who had multiple gfs

This what bitter virgins say to justify to themselves not experiencing what most of the world has.

tfw 27 and never had gf. never held hands, kissed, or anything

>I just want to feel validated once and then I'll be satisfied

hahaha godspeed my friend, but I tell you what
I don't know if it's going to be good for you or not, but I know this: you will crave it again. the ride will never end. it's going to be even more suffering if it feels good. you will always want more.
this is a perpetual need like feeding, drinking water, sleeping and shitting. the only difference is that lack of love/validation is the one that kills you the slowest.

At this point i don't even want a gf. I enjoy being alone, so i'm a possible schizoid.

Three guys I know had the first gf and lost virginity after 21, all of them are still with the girl, one of the guys was 24, the other one 26 and the last one 22

If girl right now came into your room, gave you hug and a kiss you would want it again

I had this exact same problem. Years of jerking it to porn since I was 14 and had access to the internet completely ruined me sexually. I couldn't even get a hardon when I was with my first gf at 19, and every subsequent girl after that until I turned 25. I blamed it on everything else but me but deep down I knew I had the problem. Some girls would straight up cry and ask me If I'm not attracted to them, one even became a lesbian because of me. The only girl I could kinda get it up for was my first long term relationship where I believe she genuinely loved me (although she was inexperienced and thought I just needed time to come out of my shell). I would get rock hard looking at porn though SO I knew there was definitely an issue with that.

I looked online and tried the nofap thing but it doesn't work. The problem isn't fapping but a) what you fap to and b) the way/frequency in which you fap. My go-to was sitting in my pc chair with tab after tab of hardcore porn open then I'd spend hours edging and deathgripping my cock. So I swore off the pron and only starting masturbating while lying in or on my bed with a bunch of lube, and no deathgrip (going softly like trying to simulate a vag). I could barely stay hard at the start and couldn't cum, so I would just leave it for days until I got so sensitive that I'd cum anyway, sometimes at half chub.

It took a solid 14 months before my brain did what they call a hard reset and my libido went back to normal. Depending on the severity of the porn addiction it could take longer or shorter. You owe it to yourself to try it man, don't let it ruin your life like it almost did mine.

>you would be so inexperienced she would drop you in 1 day.
this happens every time I meet a new girl. but hey, at least i keep on trying.

>hree guys I know had the first gf and lost virginity after 21, all of them are still with the girl

that's a common thing.

the older you are when you have your first romantic relationship the more likely you are to stay with that partner

I have a girlfriend and it may be nice to know someone cares about you. But not having her isn't that bad to be honest. People should stop being so depressed not having a gf or sex. It's all cultural phenomena where if you never had sex, you're supposed to be a loser by society. I say that's bullshit and making it worse for people with social anxiety

this is fucking insane, thanks to Sup Forums i WILL make sure my potential children are filthiest normalfags possible

I see, at least I'll get this weight off my shoulders, I want to be touched now ;_;
>Some girls would straight up cry and ask me If I'm not attracted to them
kek, tell the story of this

it's a common problem nowdays. internet porn has completely ruined a lot of people in our generation. I can't imagine what it's going to do to the next given that internet access is far more readily available and faster

>I just needed time to come out of my shell
you normies have funny lexicon

>one even became a lesbian because of me
shiiit i'm laughing for like 5 minutes without stopping

at least some dating counts?

that's haram in your country

I was kissed and hugged by the hottest girl of the class back in high school and i do not want it again. If anything, her advances on me made me feel anxious and awkward. I only enjoy the attention from girls, like being worshiped like a celebrity or actor, but actually having contact with them is not cool.

Got my first gf and lost virginity at 31. After awhile my autismal anxiety disappeared after I stopped giving shit about life. I didn't worry so much anymore about women thinking I was a loser and it allowed me to talk with them honestly. Eventually I found a fellow shy, autist gf who was in the same position as me and I wound up marrying her.
It isn't as hopeless as these other anons make you believe if you just allow yourself to forget about your own ego and do what's best for you
Tl:Dr it's never too late

that sounds depressive as fuck dude

21 here, feel your pain m8

I'm actually not that bothered about ever losing my virginity any more, doubt it'll ever happen. Just want a nice gf to cuddle more than anything.

Personally I hate how society views people like us as losers. Why can't we just be left alone?

you are me

>Why can't we just be left alone?

But, thats all you have.

All alone

Questions for my fellow virgins: would you say the problem is more mental or physical?

Definitely mental for me. I look ok and I'm healthy, I just have depression, no confidence or charm with women

>23yo
>tfw haven't had a conversation with a female since I was 15
>tfw I'm my parents only child
>tfw a couple years back my parents were thinking about having another child before my mother had menopause, but chose not to have one because they thought I would give them grandchildren

I mean all the jokes towards virgins. All the snide remarks and put-downs, even on here.

Why does someone's sex life or lack of it matter that much to normalfags?

It doesnt matter much to them, they will just laugh and think its pathethic, but they dont think about it all the time.

>tfw haven't had a conversation with a female since I was 15
are you detained?

it's not even the real question, it's a mental problem in almost all cases

>>tfw haven't had a conversation with a female since I was 15

damn son

>be fin
>not going to the public sauna to find qts

Not really, when you are young you worry about what everyone thinks of you and it distracts you from doing what you want. It took me longer than most to realize that everyone is a little bit fucked up in the head and that it's ok to not be a normie and that their are a lot of others who suck at being social too

jesus this is so cringe

Unless you are bound to wheelchair or look like literal Quasimodo looks are not a problem. Provided you dress like human and keep basic hygiene with decent haircut.

that's what I mean though. why do they have to laugh and think it's pathetic?

god people are cunts

Because it is pretty pathethic desu..

yeah that's what I figured.

i just don't think my personality is cut out for relationships and normieshit

No, I just haven't had any conversations with women.

I mean if you count me saying "thank you" to a cashier as a conversation, then sure, I've lots of conversations with women.

shut up

same here. women just seem to dislike me. always have

> tfw I love normie shit like Game of Thrones and going to music festivals, but I'm still an autismal virgin.

you don't even need to have proper haircut
i have long hair and beard without any proper care and the girls still approach me, but somehow my fucked up mind forms a testudo formation when a girl wants to approach me

Why would I? I look like a monster subhuman can't even stay without shirts

If you're ugly/fat and isn't doing anything to fix this, you shouldn't even think about things like dating just accept it

Stand up straight, no one looks attractive slouched like that.

one girl i dated for about 2 weeks and every time the possibility of sex would arise, i'd bail because i knew i couldnt perform. eventually she got me in a position where if i bailed again she'd definitely know something was up so i had to suck it in and pray that i could perform. well all that pressure and my "problem" of course led me to being softer than mash potatoes. she was straddling me and doing all this foreplay and when she realized that nothing was happening she looked at me in a kind of sad-confusion. she asked if everything was ok and that am I just not attracted to her, which I had to pretty much console her and say yeah i think you're really hot im just tired etc. then i spent a sleepless night next to her in bed and we parted ways in the morning. shit was awkard as fuck

yeah looking back it was super pathetic and all that. now i just laugh and thank fuck that i corrected myself and don't have to be in any similar situation every again

this hit pretty hard

I sort of know what you mean. I've always been good at sport and I'm friendly enough. But with women, I'm just fucking awful.

I've gotten worse over the years socially though. Haven't had any friends in years

>the girls still approach me
so you're handsome then

that has literally never happened once with me

i'm definitely not, the highest rating i got on /soc/ was 5/10

get a grip nigger, not everybody is judging you 24/7 following every step you make.
you just lack practice, start talking to any female, preferably ugly fat ones who you dont want to date, go to some normie action with your friend if you have one and just talk to strangers, its really that fucking easy, it may seem super hard at beggining but you will feel so good after it

but since this is Sup Forums, 7th circle of Dante's autistic inferno you probably wont do any of that

just remember, you cant stop time and it will only get worse

have you considered telling her about your addiction?

>if you're not sexually experienced she will drop you after the first day

Then she's nothing I'd like to keep regardless.

then I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me then

maybe women can just tell i'm useless

>but since this is Sup Forums, 7th circle of Dante's autistic inferno you probably wont do any of that
kek

it's too hard and pointless for me

What about the one that cried?

that's another thing that scares me too

if i somehow got a gf, then she discovers i'm a virgin and flees

i'd probably just accused of abuse or something too. safer to stay on my own

I don't think op was talking about sexual experience. it's the basic social skill that matters when keeping a girl company

life is pointless, we will live for 70 years and then blackout forever most likely, you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain, stepping out of your comfort zone is best way to grow as person

>mfw gay, ugly, autistic, and hate faggots

I lost

ahahaha

Well even if you have the social skills to take her to bed, you'll still need to perform/be good at sex

It's a dead end

At least we will purify human's genetics by not reproducing

Always safer to stay on your own regardless, trust no one.

That is true as well, not all of us can be socially experienced and/or good socially.

I'm a fucking wreck socially myself which probably explains a lot.

HOWEVER (no meme intended), if you manage to connect with someone, be it a girl as a potential partner or a person as a friend, if they do not accept you for you who are, i.e not very good socially and dump you because of that, chances are they were not worth your time anyways.

>At least we will purify human's genetics by not reproducing

premarital sex and pron should be banned from western world. it's the only way
good point

How did you two meet? Where can I get a shy autist gf?

Why even care about having a gf when I can eat junk food and play vidya all day instead?

Are you me, Pekka?

>even cat breed at 1 yo
we supposed to heating up at 13-17
after 20 everyone become seems inexperienced, the hormone performance are down.

because you don't want to die alone fatty

But why would I care? I'll be dead.

she was just a girl i had met we hadn't been seeing eachother for long enough. to be honest i could have but she knew a small number of friends and i didn't want any rumors to spread. i'd rather she believe that i wasn't attracted to her, i mean she still could have told ppl i can't get it up but i would have found out by now i think. the girl i was with for close to 2 years, well i was pretty ashamed and never told her.

she was an international korean student who i met in a club (i used to go clubbing a lot when i was younger) and basically strung her along for about 3 weeks of no sex. i got it into my head that i just needed to be more comfortable around her and maybe id be able to get it up but the pressure i was feeling was so immense i'd never be able to do it. the last time after a series of frustrated nights that i was with her, she had got all her housemates to leave her apartment and it was supposed to be an all night sexy time. well when she realized that mr johnson wasn't coming to the party she excused herself to her bathroom and started bawling her eyes out. my parking permit was only till 6am and i was mortified by the whole situation so i just got out of there. we never directly spoke again but one of her housemates contacted me about a week later saying what a piece of shit i was for not telling her i was attracted to her (phew dodged a bullet), and basically she was really looking forward to getting plowed by a white guy while on her studies here and i very well might have turned her off the whole idea. fun times

Do you get comfy neetbux?

This is actually kind of true. Sadly, rednecks and the kind usually have a lot of children, so the autistic's efforts to not reproduce will all just go to waste.

>girls are hooking up and having relationships from the age 13 onwards
so what you're saying is I shag some 13 year olds? sounds good, thanks for the advice, user

its not that dude, its the ride there that will fuck you up

Even if I could I'd never have kids

Have 1 kid, with a good woman and not a cunt (It's rare I know, but they're out there) and pray that it's a boy. If it's a girl you have your work cut out for you my man.

>How did you two meet? Where can I get a shy autist gf?
Sorry I'm late with the reply
It was someone I worked with so I had a lot of opportunities to overcome my anxiety. My only real social skill is being funny so I just tried to make her laugh. After about six months of working with her I gathered the courage to ask her to come with me to eat after work and she said yes and it progressed from there.

Lmao no

I'm a permavirgin and no way would I want a son like me

I didn't kiss a girl until I was 26, now I'm 29 and I bang sluts at concerts a few times a year. I've still never had a gf but I want to keep it that way. Literally nothing about being in a relationship appeals to me, I just want sex.

What changed?

I'm the reverse of you. If I wanted sex I'd just pay a prostitute