I came back from a deployment and while there wife said she wanted a divorce and told me to move out of our house because my kids are used to me being gone and it would be easier. It's been a week now, and I'm still here. I knew she smoked before but she does it everyday and today she did it at my stepsons birthday party in our bedroom while my daughter was in the next room napping.ive had enough. I know I'm not perfect and I am an alcoholic but I've never gotten in trouble army or civillian wise and have been sober and going to meetings for almost a year. I still love my wife.I would love to keep trying to work on our marriage but she has been lying to me from day one, saying she faked the entire marriage and she treats our 2 year old daughter like second best. she is Keepin our kids from being reattached to me on purpose I feel like by doing whatever she can to discredit me and even lie. she snorted her "perscribed" percs in front of one of my soldiers the other day and frequently mixes alcohol, pot and pills to the point where she can bearly walk or talk straight. I want to call the police and get her arrested but I'm afraid of what's going to happen to my stepson since I haven't adopted him yet and how it will impact custody now and after the divorce . What will happen if I call them? I've only been home a week but I'm spcared of what's goin to happen to our children. She knows I know where she keeps her drugs and I'm afraid she will lie about that too. I'm active duty
There are resources available to you. Counseling therapy and so on. Get her involved and use them. Also, get her to stop smoking in your house. That could fuck you, hard especially if you live on post. Godspeed OP.
John Reed
> Shameless self bump
Help a nigga out. My buddy told me I need to call now... But we're not familiar with Kansas state laws at all
Tyler Richardson
She's set on the divorce and I know she will try to keep contact with my kids to q bare minimum if at all. She's already starting to do that and we haven't even separated saying if I don't leave the house I'm Messing up the kids even more . I know it's fucked up but should I call the cops and will this at least get me or help with getting custody of my daughter ( at least majority)
Josiah Wilson
Go talk to a Chaplin they can really help you out.
Caleb Wood
not sure if bait but i don't care sucky situation... sorry to hear about your wife and counseling may help. if it becomes a threat to the children definitely get the police involved there safety above all. thanks for your service man.
Ethan Reed
Not bait I'm debating on whether or not to call right now. I just want what's best for my kids and obliviously her isn't it.
David Gutierrez
>No new posts if you let the cops know whats up then they most likely will see the situation and if shes acting the way you say she is when they show up they will most likely give you custody its a sticky situation. i do hope you can get custody of both man
Henry Torres
You can always call you SL/PL or DNCO if you and see what they have to say about it. Its shitty but that may also cover your ass if you piss hot soon. They may even go so far as to put you in the barracks or a hotel room a for a bit to help chill shit out.
Samuel Clark
def do this
Isaiah Watson
What this guy said. Talk to the chaplain and if you have an NCO in the unit you trust I'd bring it to him too. The chaplain has an amazing amount of resources and can look at this from an empathetic but detached angle and recommend the best course of action.
Isaac Robinson
I won't piss hot cuz I don't smoke. Haven't even drank in like a year and stayin that way
Parker Lewis
Also, you are going to need a lawyer one way or the other at this point. I would recommend getting some serious legal advice quickly. I've seen too many Joe's get fucked over for not doing this quick enough.
Jordan Morris
Goin to jag in like 5 hours as soon as they open. My point is if I call there is no saving the marriage at all, and I don't want my step son to end up in the system. If I don't do this I'm basically allowing my kids to live in a house with illegal drugs....I'm goin out of my mind
Ryan Adams
Fuck a lawyer right now. You need to let your CoC know whats going on. They are there to help.
Brody Russell
man im sorry to say it but that doesn't sound like she wants to be with you get your kids the hell out of there you will find a girl that will respect you and what your doing for the country. and yeah get lawyer help man don't get screwed over.
Bentley Harris
86 her bro. At the end of the day.. you all only be dragging on the pain.. rip the band aid off and deal with it. Get proof of the drug use, for any legal action needed to get your kids. You cant change someone who does not want to change.. and you cant force anyone to love you..
Jason Baker
Fuck her. Get the law involved, and pray to god she fucks up. Divorce court overwhelmingly favors the woman in America, but with her drug problem, a competent lawyer could help you a lot.
Don't wait for her, start the divorce on your terms.
Brayden Diaz
Go back in time, developed simple basic life skills that allow you to hold an actual job, not have to join the army and abandon your family.
John Allen
I know. And I have proof I know where she keeps it. She's sleeping atm so I took her shit and put it somewhere else in case she wakes up and tries to hide it if I call the cops . Will this affect the custody at all? I'm pretty sure she is going to a lawyer, jag and my CoC tomorrow even thou I haven't done anything wrong at all.
Luke Anderson
hmmmm take pictures record maybe make sure your fingerprints are not on that shit i suppose.
Jeremiah Gonzalez
>Go back in time, developed simple basic life skills that allow you to hold an actual job, not have to join the army and abandon your family. fuck off filthy weeb and or neckbeard.
Charles Reyes
This is Sup Forums We may act like idiots (some of us actually are) but even we know when to draw a line. Talk to a Chaplin, a Priest, a counselor, a lawyer, anyone with legal power or political power
Here is my plan for you >1.)Adopt the stepson and any other step children. This is CRUCIAL if you want to keep your kids out of the system >2.)Record your "wife" doing illegal drugs This will give evidence that she is unfit as a parent and get her sent to either jail or rehab. Either way it helps >3.) Take pictures of ANY injuries that you or your kids get This will allow you to keep the house while she is locked up and get her away from you. You can limit her visitation rights to almost none >4.) Talk to your C.O. and ask for leave so you can care for your kids This will allow you to create an environment for them to grow and mature >5.) Stop drinking alcohol excessively Only drink socially and only at Bars. With will give your kids a positive role model
If you do this quick enough you can pull the rug out from under her
Dominic Jones
i agree we know when to stop being idiots this mans plan is solid go for it
Op here. So you think I should go ahead and call right now? I have her shit and she will piss hot if drug tested . Will my stepson be taken away from me??
Jacob Bailey
We are crashing a discord to solve OPs problem? seems legit.
Nicholas Barnes
This plan will take time If you have to call now but ONLY if the children are in danger If they are not in danger then follow the plan
Nicholas Allen
why the fuck do you give a shit about the step children? they are not yours. How long you been with this skank? damn you made some poor life choices son, you sound like a fucking e-2 that got shotgun married to a dependapotamus 4 weeks before deployment.
Gabriel Nelson
Something I forgot to add
If you have the cash create a bank account, put 600 dollars into it and don't touch it until you are 65
Tell her to give you hafl of the money the house is worth and leave the bitch
James Murphy
Op here. Technically they aren't but if she takes them without my consent legally I won't be able to do shit about stopping her.
Hudson Evans
Everything was literally fucking perfect until the last month of my deployment. She literally changed completely . I never saw his coming
Liam Hernandez
Hire a private investigator and stop being a useless piece of shit. She doesn't love you nor the kids. You need to ger her out of your lives.
Aaron Anderson
You should probably change any accounts with cash on them so she can't access them.If she realizes that you are going to do anything she might try to take you down with her. Also be very fucking careful OP I have had to help some friends with shit like this and things can get pretty bad really fast.
Thomas Brown
Then take picture of her using the drugs, take pictures of her abusing your kids (if she does), and get the kids to testify against her. A child's word carries more weight than a man's, and more weight that a woman's word.
Oliver Williams
The most important thing in this kind of situation is the kids. Make sure that that bitch can't get to them man!
David Miller
Planguy here do this. Can never be too careful
Andrew Russell
This made me so god damn mad I can't finish reading the article. I literally can't finish reading it.