I'm scared to have sex

i'm scared to have sex
what should i do?
(male virgin here)

so you're scared, huh? I WANT YOU TO FUCK ME JERRY! FUCK ME NOW!

Have sex. Exposure cures fear.

Why are you scared?

Theoretically I know how sex works, but I am too scared to actually try it out in real life.
I fear that I embarrass myself beyond belief with the girl.
The thought alone sends shivers down my spine.

Is there a reason you might get embarrassed? Premature? Small penis?

Get drunk or high, find a cougar

Yeah, I understand. The first time it is a bit scary, but like anything else you have to take a leap of faith and experience it. Sex is supposed to be fun, stop pressuring yourself. Just let it come naturally.

The size is not a problem.
The foreskin can't be pushed over the glans, but that shouldn't be too much of a problem.
I just fear that the girl (not that I have one lined or anything) will reject me and laugh at me for not knowing how to do anything

It's not that easy.
I'd have to find someone to have sex with first, but that's another problem.

Don't do it. It feels terrible and you'll hate yourself afterwards. Best to try with your best bro first, that way when he pumps his warm, thick seed into you it will make you feel pretty.
>See that mountain over there?
You can climb it.

Relax i failed the first time to got so nervus i couldnt get a boner.

Anxiety has gotten worse over the years, so I fear that it's too late to take a leap of faith.
The fear is immobilizing me even thinking about sex, can't even imagine what would happen if I were alone with a girl and sex was about to happen.

kill yourself

That's not really a realistic scenario. If you let her know you're a virgin she'll be cool.

Do some meditation, that'll help ya overcome your fear of intimacy.

It's about being naked with your whole soul.

You'll screw it up, OP. They'll just laugh at you. Don't bother.

ok guys, I'm 8 Years old. How to sex with the females?

Loose your virginity like a normal person with a drunk one night stand.

I think that my age might get a different reaction out of the girl. She'll probably run away way before it could lead to anything.

Ask him to spit first

Lie say you are drunk or you was molested as a childed you will get so much pussy chicks dig sob storys

How old are you?

Your age being?

be scared, be very afraid, I lost my V card at the age of 24 and immediately got herpes for life. Now I'm a leper and too much of a moral fag to not tell other potential partners. I'm 34 now

Ok, so how old are you?

Gross

I don't like my body (tall and skinny) and I don't like myself.
Getting naked is something I try to avoid.
I just feel this immense pressure when it comes to sex. I always imagine it like I'd have to defuse a bomb. I have no idea what to do, but when I do something wrong things will turn ugly.

There are dating sites for that, take your treatment and fucking relax. Plenty of chicks have the herp too

All you have to do is not go for her ass hole the first 2 times and you will be fine

I'm 34

Oh might has well pay for it get a hooker

Look, it's really not that big a deal, just be willing to take instructions and do what you gotta do.

What did you do when that happened?
Was she disappointed? Did she make fun of you?

Ok, not tragic. Are you a troll, and redeeming features? Do you have your own place and a job or money?

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KEK
>he's 34 and still on Sup Forums AND a virgin.
>Whats it like to be a living stereotype? Do you jerk off to anime as well?

I couldn't bring myself to go to a hooker.
I'll have to know the girl pretty well before I could try anything, so one night stands are out of the question as well.

I'm not a troll.
"redeeming features"?
I have my own place, a job and a little money.

Honestly trying to provide good info, go on backpages text hooker tell her your first timer. When she shows up tell her you want to talk first she'll notice n eventually start it. Pretty much will happen automatically 0 effort will be needed on your part ~200 hr

I know.
Not much I can do about it.
(Pretty good movie though)

Feels pretty bad.
Not jerking off to anime.

Don't worry about your age man, like I said before stop worrying about everything and stop pressuring yourself. The first time I had sex I was nervous I couldn't even get hard. No one expects you to have a huge dick or be a God of sex unless you're a pornstar or just fucked a lot In general. Stop worrying about things that don't apply to you. Just live in the moment and do it.

Funny, smart, "sensitive", want to be a dad and don't mind raising another dude's kid, nice face, etc.

I couldn't even round up the courage to get naked in an hour with someone I don't know, let alone do more.

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Hi guys

hmm.. not sure you need courage like i say shell take the intuitive. Watch the beg. of pretty woman movie that's basically what happens he wasnt really down just happens..

Also, what are you looking for, like a model type -banging bod, but dumb-, shy, freak? Maybe you need to lower your standards for the first time, then get in where you can after you have a bit of confidence.

on a more serious note. you are letting your fear of something that will probably never happen (ridicule) stop you from engaging in relationships with women. Even if she does ridicule you, so what? you got to fuck her, you won, and now you dont have to be terrified with the next chick.

I wouldnt say this to many people but you need to be more selfish. dont miss out.

Everyone is scared at first. You need a girl (or guy if that's your thing) and let them take control. You'll learn eventually.

At my age the girls usually already had sex with at least one person before, so they know what to do or what to expect. Then I come along and know absolutely nothing and it will probably not any good for them.
If you are used to something and then somebody comes along that knows nothing about it and you'd have to teach them I can see that this can be frustrating and that they'd rather stay away from me.

What are you scared of?
Not being "good enough"
or getting hurt
or STDs
or Babies?

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Sometimes funny
I don't know if I should consider myself smart, but since I can't figure out the sex thing I would say no
Probably "sensitive"
Don't want to be a dad or raise another dude's kid
Don't think I have a nice face
I'm average at best, nothing special

>afraid of sex
Okay, I've got this one, I can tell you faggots why OP's afraid.
>be op as child
>parents don't want you so just throw you outside and hope you get hit by a bus
>walking down street one day
>see police and crowd around building
>walk over to see what the fuss is about
>old woman covered in shit being escorted out of building by police
>she's screaming about the devil corrupting babies by fucking them
>she grabs you and screams in your face "YOU BELIEVE ME, DON'T YOU BOY?"
>"THE DARK LORD SATAN WILL CORRUPT YOU WITH SEX"
>"HE'LL SHOVE HIS DICK INTO YOURS AND RIP IT IN HALF FROM THE INSIDE"
>police drag woman away
>you're left there, traumatised
>run home
>cry to parents
>they don't give a shit
>no therapy for you, faggot
>develop phobia of sex
Only way to fix it is therapy, OP

My man, no. Just no. Some chick will be happy to "teach you" -read train you- to fuck how they like. It's a thing man, I swear. Besides that whole innocent angle would be a challenge for some girl if you can get the balls up to approach. What is the worst that can happen....her not fuck you...check: there now, but if you chat'em up some one will bite. It's statistics.

I'm overthinking a lot, so I couldn't relax enough for things to just happen. I can't imagine it being any good when I feel scared and awkward with a total stranger.

+1 I knocked it @17 with a 14 yo
I mucked it up solidly, hurt her so bad she didn't even like sex ever again.
Ive been with 7 since had every issue, condoms, whiskey dick, blow too fast/ slow.
Each times different they know, you should to. All you do is try again another day. .

I'm not looking for a super hot model type.
The problem is the sex itself.
It would probably even worse if the girl is extremely hot.

I know that you are right, I'm just not selfish enough, especially when it comes to women.
She could talk everyone she knows what happened and what should I do then? Move away?
If someone would ridicule me like that I wouldn't try it again after that.

Ehh sex is a social game far before a physical one. You could be brilliant, but shite with the head game. Average is fine, just shower and smell good. Wear some descent clothes and pretent that you are the man when you first approach.

Have sex

Hurting her (physically)
Not being good enough for her to enjoy it
Being awkward in general
Not being able to look her in the eyes afterwards ever again

STDs and getting her pregnant also play a role, but not as big as the rest.

Fair enough new plan then go to rub maps go get massage.
Youll put yourself in a position where your naked with a hot chick from the start. Shell flip you over n slowly touch your balls n say you like? Say yes if you feel something, if your no were close say no thanks. You still got a massage and were naked with a girl n she felt your junk.

Trust me man, I was in the same situation, though was 27.

Did some zen for some, years, then some retreats. Booze, drugs didn't help, only meditation.

Told the woman, she was gentle, guided me. The trick was opening up.

Man, if you can't cut the mustard...lick the jar. Get her off and a doubt she will be running her mouth about you being a shite lay if you can make her cum.

Finding that special someone is another problem.
I can talk to girls, but I can't move things into that direction. It's always just smalltalk or something and in the end I either never see her again or we're friends.

Best advise by far

Most girls prefer finger than anything
1 in the hole moving come here
1 on the clit moving over/ around the skin cover

happened to me as well. i ended up giving her head and we just laughed it off and tried again next time.

Dude,just be more confident.I had the same problem,but when I did fuck up,I realized it is OK to fail sometimes.Just don't be afraid,because if you are you will be like that for the rest of your life

this

I already do the showering and descent clothes thing.
Just don't think I look like a "man".
Maybe I'm just not made out for this "game".

I'm a tall skinny fuck with no self confidence, it's a scary thought the first time but you have to remember that nothing BAD will happen once you actually have them in the sack, or you're fist deep in her.

I had what I would consider the worst thing that could happen, happen. Lost boner as I went to fuck the hottest chick I had been with (highschool super babe) we laughed it off and I ended up deep inside about 10 minutes later, been with her for about 3 years now. Don't sweat anything about it, just go for it.

I was scared to and missed out on a ton of pussy. Finally manned up and fucked. She's not going to care if you cum fast or how good you do. Just enjoy yourself

Rub maps is for the US only.
The idea is pretty nice, but I wouldn't be able to go there either. It sucks feeling this way.

FUCKING RETARDED, FUCK A WHORE. IT WILL GIVE YOU THE CONFIDENCE YOU NEED TO FUCK NORMAL PEOPLE YOU AUTIST SLOB

10 years later I got a chance to bang high school girl. First night couldn't get my guy going said its late we can try tomm. Next day i was sick tried n failed again. It happens not going win them all.. life goes on

How did you find the courage to open up to her completely?
People around me know that I'm a virgin, so that is no problem, the problem is acting on it.
Didn't you fear she would ridicule you the first time you had sex?

Ehh, chicks are far less picky about looks than you may think, but they love confidence. There are tons of basement dwellers who have punched their VCard. Are you in the US? Try tinder, or speed dating out of your area. That way you can work on your chat and not get zoned.

And if I'm not able to make her come or when she doesn't want to start that way?
(Or if I hurt her?)

I'd been with many girls before, but couldn't get hard. None of them ridiculed me.

The meditation really helped, a sort of surrender to the flow thing. Also the sex ratio in yoga circles, for example, is such that you'll find women.

I really dont think any humiliation you endure, if any, will be to that capacity. I guarantee that you will not have to leave town.

At the end of the day you are just going to have to take that risk. This wont be better when youre 40, itll be way worse.

What situation would you prefer, having sex, which results in a reputation for being bad in the sheets among her friend group which is the worst case in this scenario, or continue living with this hanging over your head?

And how do I get more confidence?
Things go bad pretty regularly, so I'm constantly losing confidence instead of gaining anything.

Dude, pussy is built to take a pounding. They push a baby out of there. Just be mindful of the clit and the rest just kinda happens. No chick is going to be surprised if you can't make her cum your first time having sex with her.

Now you just need to tell me how I should manage that?
Where would I find a girl that would be willing to do that?
How can I initiate contact when I'm not confident?
How should I even get naked when the fear is still there?

1) 90% girls can't cum
girls will rarely cum during most experiences, they know this that's why sex can last n hr it just feels good.
2) Ive only hurt a virgin popped her n a small vagina girl hit the back.
They will tell you asap, say sorry rub the clit. Thats like a reset button

And how did you man up?
What did you do differently?

How do you know that nothing bad will happen?
How did you all ignore these fears?

Just don't let it get to you.
You just have to come to terms with yourself,and then you won't be scared of messing up,and you won't be sad when you do,if that makes sense.

At least that's what worked for me

Look man I'm not gonna call you a fag but have fun with this it is something you have fantasized about so get on it.

I'm not in the US and I'm hesitant to try things like tinder.
I have tried speed dating once, but aside from talking to some girls nothing happend.

Didn't they take it personally that you couldn't get it up?
I admire that you could move on from there, I just can't see the same thing happening to me.

Talk to any fat girl just make her your friend, problem solved. You can take as long as you need. Then drink with her say funny sexual comments. Just tell her your a virgin n want to be with her. You'll feel like a weights been lifited n shell feel like your her personal prince. win win Good luck
Fact: All fat girls want to feel wanted

I hope you are right.
I guess having a bad reputation would be a little better, I just don't think I'll be able to find someone to have sex with in the first place.

I know that girls are not as fragile as I think they are, but to me it feels like they are made out of thin glass and I'm like "The thing" from Fantastic Four.

I would be overly cautious so I'd try to make sure I don't hurt her and that she enjoys it.
I just have to find a girl that is not just willing to have sex and teach me everything, she also has to be incredibly patient and understanding.
Now where do I find a girl like that and find the courage to talk to her?

I'll have to get over the fear of messing up, but that's not that easy.

Aside from actually telling the girl that I want to be with her (too shy for that), I did exactly that.
That's how you end up with female friends.

No, they didn't take it personally.

Yeah, it's an interesting knot to solve, gives you a lot of insight into life and the human mind. Sometimes messy, sometimes embarrasing.