I'm an asexual 20 year old guy, pretending to be straight, AMA

I'm an asexual 20 year old guy, pretending to be straight, AMA

I feel you there Sup Forumsro. Same here.

fucking todd

Why do you feel the need to make this thread that no one cares about?

Because I'm a frustrated individual ;)

I know that feel. Performing for the masses. Who am I? The reflection of my act(ing)ions or who I tell myself I am when no one's around?

>asexual
>implying OP is not just incompetent to get with anyone

While I have been with girls, it is for exactly the kind of people that say asexuality equals being incompetent that I would rather pretend to be straight.

Why are you pretending to be straight?

Why not pretend to be gay?

i know the feels,im gay,i act straight

Well I have tried to explain it to some strangers at times, the only reaction being either 'are you gay?' or simply being ridiculed. Hence I would rather keep up a chirade then hassle of being a known 'asexual'.

beating your meat to furry and shota porn is not considered asexual op

Would you start a relationship with an asexual woman?
How much shit do you get for being asexual?

If you are Asexual people pity you, but when you are gay you are a faggot

Why would people pity asexuals?

Because sex doesn't feel good for them

I am a level 31 wizard. There is no stopping me now.

> ITT: Sheldon Cooper visits Sup Forums and is a faggot

It feels good for them, they just don't have the motivation / driving force to seek it out.

Just don't tell people about your sexuality, no one wants to know what the hell you do with your genitals, no one will ever ask, so don't try to get attention like vegans or hipsters.

That's like saying you pity someone for never getting to have chocolate.

While I would prefer solace, if I could create a social safe haven for myself with an asexual woman, I most likely would. Most people just don't understand what it's like having no urge to have sex whatsoever. The most shit that I've gotten when trying to explain it, which I do seldom and vaguely descriptive, is mainly from straight guys and a select group of women that either refer to me as gay or a loser.

I getchu. My family is worried about me since I've never had a girlfriend, but they haven't given up on me completely because they know I was sexually active in college. Nobody seems to process that I'm not gay, but I'm not interested in having a relationship either. The idea of a guy not wanting to pair-bond just fails to register.

Hey so
Do you at least fap? Have sex dreams and cum in sleep? Where does the cum go???

Frustrated?

FRUSTRATED

My brain, which works properly as shaped by evolution, is interested in furthering my genetic line. That means that, every night I don't a)drink and smoke myself into a stupor or b) lie in the arms of a beautiful maiden, the instincts contained therein scream unendingly that I'm not doing my fucking job. That I am an utter, utter failure.

Exactly
How does this invalidate the point?
It's better to bepityed for never getting chocolate then being thrown away by most of your friends because you make them feel uncomfortable because of your faggotery

Lol, that nigga ain't asexual he anti-sexual.

Asexual means you function, so you're sexually viable, but the driving force--the urge--to enter a relationship and FUCK isn't exactly there. Most asexual people jerk off like normal people but are content to remain single indefinitely.

Man this sounds too familiar :(

I wonder why I don't get that feeling...? I only feel like a complete loser when I'm unemployed, not taking classes, and HAVE been drinking. As long as I'm doing something productive I could give a shit about propagating. I jerk off, clean up, and move on with my life.

>all I need to feel like a useful human being is to act like one
>my life is so hard Sup Forums

Most asexual people jerk off? I literally have no sympathy for you.

So you jerk off but too scared/don't want to deal with the shit that comes with relationships?

Why the fuck would you label it asexual, just say you're not into relationships! You guys are fucking retarded

Life goes on, man. Shit gets easier even if it doesn't get better--though it usually does, as long as you don't fuck anything up too badly.

Make peace with yourself and learn to depend less on the approval of others, even those you care about. Obviously keep track of what's important to you, but you'll never please everyone. It's better to be happy with yourself and be alone than be miserable and have the approval of those around you.

That's how I look at it, anyway.

So, do you ever jerk off? Did you ever have sexual urges? Do you want kids sometime down the line?

My $0.02, its a bit of a blessing to have no sex drive. Seems to me you could still enjoy sex, just dont need sex. Pretty sweet spot you are in, look on the bright side...

>don't want to deal with the shit that comes with relationships
It's this, mostly, but some people aren't even interested in having sex or being intimate. Masturbation is just taking care of an urge that builds up.

Imagine there's music playing that everyone enjoys and tries to dance to. You hate it. But every time you shut it off, it eventually turns itself back on--but louder and even more obnoxious--until you give in and half-heartedly dance for a while. Then it winds down and you hurriedly shut it the fuck off again.

>SOOOOO hard

K, then

So you do have a sex drive, you are just not comdortable with it. You are not asexual, you are just confused

>sex = masturbation
>having sex = being in relationships
Lol, wut? If you're not even interested in casual sex, with anyone, you're asexual. Jacking it doesn't mean you're some forever alone faggot who'd fuck a passed out Stacey behind a dumpster, it means there's nothing wrong with your glands and you respond to physical stimulation.

>confused
You know what, sure. Maybe I'm not asexual. I might just be misanthropic, alexithymic, autistic, emotionally unavailable, or lazy.

The result is largely the same: I don't want to fuck anyone, date anyone, or build a life with anyone. I want the means to live comfortably and pursue my interests. Fun as it may be, jerking off is so unproductive that if the option arose to maybe just not have a sex drive, there's a fair chance I'd go for it.

Confusing, right?

Im not even touching the stupidity of that statement.

I masturbate from time to time yes, as strange as that might sound, it's not a sexual thing for me. It's stress relief, it doesn't cancel out the fact that I don't have the urge to have sex with women or man, liking to prevent it. The most arroused I have ever gotten by porn for instance was out of pure childlike wonder at the forbidden fruit and ofcourse that faded like snow in front of the sun.

No one cares about asexual people. Its like opening a book and finding only blank pages.

Yet you adress it.

Gray asexual here. I know your feel user

I kinda feel you/OP, but I also get depressed alone. Shit sucks.

Being asexual doesn't diminish the fact that you are a human being, how does sexual drive influence your achievements? History books aren't filled with the greatest sexual prestations right?