Whats your solution of dealing with social anxiety? Anyone have success stories of getting over it?

Whats your solution of dealing with social anxiety? Anyone have success stories of getting over it?

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Nope, that's why I'm on Sup Forums.
I do have some good advise though....
Always click the auto button whilst you're at the top of a thread, especially if it has questionable content.
Extra posts B4 404.

You don't.

Thats the trick.

wow i've been on this site over a year and didn't even know about that...I'm retarded

Can't tell if bait or not?
But yea I just missed out because I didn't follow that rule. 8 new posts according to the auto button at the bottom of the thread.

Bump for OP, he's clearly a faggot and needs as much help as he can get.

Last bump given unless OP stops been a faggot a contributes to his own thread.

well nobody is giving advice so what am I supposed to say?

Bump, stuck the same.

I duno, chat a little bit or are you socially retarded on here too?

well basically anytime I try having a conversation with people, my mind goes completely blank, I can't think of anything good/funny to say and I just come off as weird. When I'm with several people, after a few minutes I find that I slowly slip out of the conversation as the others talk more and more to each other until I'm basically just standing there trying to laugh along. I used to be so good at making friends when I was a kid and as I got older I just felt like I was different from everyone. When I see people who are confident and social, I get so jealous and just think "why can't I be like that"? I genuinely think my brain wiring is just messed up and I never developed the social skills that regular people have. I just want a way to feel like those people who can naturally have a great conversation with anyone, I don't want to be the weird and quiet person. There has to be some way to combat social anxiety I just don't know what it is. Thats all I've got to say

Meditated and used CBT.
Ditched loser friends, and changed my personality and interests a bit. Changed the way I talk and made a new friend.

The thing that helped me was a mixture of spiritual adventure, so the stuff that i did was taking DMT and reading about Taoism

im not trying to convert you, but this kind of mentality killed all my anxiety and made my mind more clear

I think I need to ditch some friends as well, I have several loser friends and I feel like they weigh me down a bit. I'm not blaming them for my problems but they definitely don't help my situation. I'm just scared because if I ditch them, I don't know when or if I'll find other friends so I feel like I'm stuck with them.

Meditated and used CBT.
Ditched loser friends, and changed my personality and interests a bit. Changed the way I talk and made a new friend.
Someone I actually like.

Are you me?

1st, quit watching porn and masturbate as little as possible. That stuff ruins your natural dopamine and serotonin balance which makes you unhappy/anxious.
2nd, start lifting.
3rd, learn not to give a fuck and be yourself.

Worked for me

I've considered DMT. Actually very recently I managed to get a connection so I might be able to get it if I need. Does it just change your mindset or do you still have to put some effort of changing yourself after taking it? Not trying to sound lazy and like I don't want to put in any work, I just want to understand how it would help.

>I'm not blaming them for my problems but they definitely don't help my situation.

It's you who's not helping, not them.

Have you tried drugs and/or alcohol?

Also.

Cock and ball torture helps.
Pic related.

Posted it twice like a retard.
Yeah man I was lonely but it was worth it in my case. Just power through with interactions with family and strangers. There is a dude who wants to be my friend who I met recently but I'm not sure if it's a great idea so I just ghost him.
Good luck op, try other shit too!

You retards know there's a [Settings] button which turns it on automatically in every thread, right? Of course you do.

Fucking newfags.

How can that guy just stand there?

physcadelics were the thing that opened my dorman social anx so idk.

Theyre no joke dont fuck with dmt unless you know what your doing with acid etc

Lifting is a hobby of mine. I'm not very big but it gives me a goal to work to and I definitely feel like I gain confidence when I look better. I might try to give the masturbation thing a shot. I've never considered it but I'll look into it.

mfw I tried this now im 93kg relatively lean and still a weird cunt.

Except now everyone just thinks im a cunt instead of a creep and that I choose to blow them off

Yeah, i understand ur consern, and the answer is no.

When the trip really hits you will understand all the rights and wrongs and how to eliminate your problems.

DMT is the most loving drug i have ever tried, it's like a wave of love hitting you and really gets your mind in a clear flow of thought

the feeling of paranoia is non exsistent when you trip on DMT, but remember.. don't fight it, just give in and let the trip guide you further

ive started reading a book called how to win friends and influence people. Its pretty basic stuff but its helping me a little. Not a bad read either

He feels socially anxious and doesn't want to lose the girls attention.

Well, I've suffered from it mixed with depressive episodes, an panic disorder and an general anxiety disorder. It's not completly over, but it gotten to the point, where I can function like everybody else. It took like 5 years of therapy and a lot of drugs. But nowadays it's more like an constant buzz in my backside, than something, that makes me uncapable of living on my own.

god you still dont understand psychedelics.

Im glad you had a great trip man but dmt is not love hitting you its your subconscious taking physical form in front of you. Your state of mind determines what happens.
People who recommend psychedelics for mental illness's have never had a mental illness

Drugs. Oxy or morphine

So how much has it helped you exactly? Do you just feel more comfortable in social situations naturally now because it changed your mindset? Do you find it easier to talk to people and do you have more friends now?

Dude I use to have the worst social anxiety imagine able, now I'm all good. Check out yourbrainonporn.com.

Also gtfo off Sup Forums and go out/make real interactions, it's gonna be awkward at first but you'll get better

it probably wont help unfortunately. I tried it to see if it would help my social anxiety. AMAZING experience none the less. Im sure its helped others tho..research about it.

>Meditated and used CBT.

How did cock and ball torture help with social anxiety???

>Having your browser remember EVERYTHING.
No thanks, I'll do it manually newfag.
Even if I do miss the occasional creepy post.

Fuck I hate you DMT freaks. It's a fun drug but it isnt some magic shit like the universe giving you a blowjob and solving all your problems.

well the mistake of the usual psychology is that they kind of want to program you; at least what all have in common is the assumption that all your possible behaviors are determined by some principle. and while there surely may be emotional structures that show up and make it seem like you are determined by them they still ignore the possibility that you simple are making mistakes when judging your surroundings. you have to understand the social situation you don't feel comfortable with. to not feel comfortable with something is absolutely normal and can happen in many ways so don't worry about being bad or something. have you thought of the possibility that you don't need to say something good or funny? the difference to being a child is that most people don't expect it's probably going to be fun with you in the first place. fun is not something that matters in general; first things first. you should want that your desires are satisfied. by acquiring your satisfaction others might be useful. try to interact only with those that are good for the path you want to take. you don't have to deliver something to be good or funny or make a friend. you have to seduce others into your ways. you are, in the first place, not existing for them, you simply exist, and it would be understandable if you care about your well-being first of all. and if you do that, if you interact only with those that meet your expectations of what is good your the path you want to take, relevant people will start to respect you, girls will like you more because you know what you want and you are trying to find a way to get it.

Give me back my (You)s

I just take valium. I act like a total prick but at least I dont care.

everyone is posting shitty answers so i thought i should give you an actual proven way to fix this
I'm one semester away from getting my master in Cognitive Psychology, and have already began shadowing Clinical Psychologists
if you want to treat your anxiety, without heavily dosing yourself on medication that will make you into a zombie, you need to do something called behaviour modification therapy.

What you do is essentially take your anxieties head on, and purposefully put yourself in situations which would make you anxious, with the goal of desensitizing you towards your illogical anxieties.
We just treated a patient last month who had Agoraphobia, which is the fear of public,crowded places, like a stadium or market.
We advised her to essentially go into these crowded areas and embrace her fears.
An important aspect of this is to take it step by step, don't shock yourself, modifying your neuropathways takes time and effort.
Look at it the same was you look at a muscle, you can't work out too hard otherwise you'll tear the muscle up and become isolated until it heals.
Our Agoraphobic patient has already been improving and is much more in control of herself, merely because she is more familiar with the setting which makes her anxious

you know what it really is ? it's the thing that hit me that it really isnt anything to be scared of, just go with the flow and don't plan anything, that is when all ideas of conversation hit you

i hope you understand what i mean, i kind of flipped the table and found sense with it all

Thanks for the kek user. +1 Internet to you m8

it will show you what you have been doing wrong but after the realizations you still have to put effort into it to get better.

Alcohol and weed

try taking some ayahuasca in with a shaman in the jungles of south america and you probably will change your mind... taking dmt while being alone is not nearly that effective, it is just too powerful to be used without guidance

Go out more often, the longer you let it get to you, the harder it'll be to deal with it. You don't necessarily have to socialize, go to a park, sit on a bench and observe. Being around social beings will, in turn, cure your social anxiety.

tl;dr Go out more and stop posting on Sup Forums about your faggotry (Good luck champ)

Kind of the same for me, but I didn't have to quick, just stop jizzing

KEK, have you ever tried DMT m8 ?

i have done it 8 times and i have only positive things to say about the drug, and im not benefitting of lying to you about my experience, that's just what i really felt, so faggot pls

I stopped smoking weed, the anxiety vanished shortly after.

Wow, will I feel my pineal gland de-calcifying and my third eye opening? It's just a drug dude. You're like those guys who think weed is the cure for everything.

I used to have mild social anxiety and after a low dose Al-lad trip i was able to get over it.

This might be the wrong advice but it works... get an adderall prescription and just save it for whenever you have to do something. It lasts a day and will completely erase any anxiety you have. You just can't do it too often. Also build up your comfort level by doing things progressively more and more out of your comfort zone.

I beat social anxiety with drugs. More specifically mixing coke and weed, I discovered that high I did not felt any anxiety at all.
Ended up with a huge coke addiction, gave up drugs and the anxiety came back.

nah, it's more like the whole universe is fucking you deep into the ass until you realise that you are fucking yourself you fucking faggot

Yes I have. It was great. I didnt go through a worm hole and become a beautiful shinny version of myself or any of that shit because I'm not a faggot who thinks drugs=enlightenment.

Shamans are not a bullshit matter man, if it was all a front people would die in the jungle, but Shamans take good care of people and try to help them in any kind of situation

Sucks, here, have a few rails.

I've never heard of that concept before and it actually sounds interesting and probably a better solution than taking drugs (although I was considering DMT). And thanks for taking the time to write that for me, I'm definitely going to look more into this and hopefully find somewhere nearby that can help me

cookies are for fags

I've been dealing with SA for over 6 years now, i'm only just starting to get over it. The trick is to actually do something about it instead of spending your valuable time contemplating how to go about doing it.

The only method proven to free people of anxieties is to face them. As scary as that sounds it is the only way to do it naturally, without drugs or psychiatrists poking around in your head... half the time you'll never feel fully cured with those methods anyway. You become dependent on them and blame your success (if any) on them.

Stop smoking weed, Stop looking at fucked up shit on the internet, figure out who you are and accept yourself. Then go outside and talk to people. Fight the negative thoughts with positive ones, it's easy to say "what if this happens." just respond to that thought with "what if it doesn't."

It's a process and the results won't happen right away but you can over come it. You'll always have anxious thoughts because it's a normal thing, the problem is that you have them constantly. It's the adrenaline, you have to train your body to get used to it... the only way is to face it. good luck to you and anyone here with SA. It can be done, i promise you.

Yeah I'm sure these guys that live in fucking trees are just, like, so in touch with the universe man. They dont have a Starbucks so they must have the keys to unlocking the power of your mind.

Don't tempt me, you demonic seal.

Did you have a breakthrough? and pls don't tell me that you think that a breakthrough is a myth cuz when you really break that wall you can feel that there is a difference in "trip quality"

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Keep em faggot. Nobody likes you anyway.

thank you.

Fucking kiddies first discover psychedelics think they've found the answer to life itself.

Yeh we all took acid at 16 you havent discovered shit you tryhard hippy faglords

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I appreciate all the answers that everyones giving, there are certain "solutions" that I'm not gonna try but thank you for taking the time to suggest your ideas. Hopefully this threads giving others with the same issue as me (I mean, this is Sup Forums) some help as well :)

No I didnt have a 'breakthrough'. Same with magic mushrooms and acid. I thought 'wow these are some nice sensations, I'm having a good time'. If you need a psychedelic drug to make you realise shit about your life you're a pretty weak person imo.

Wtf, are u 13 years old or something ? Shamans really heal people in the jungle, do you think that they went to a big city to get a medical degree?

Nope, they fucking learned from their elders and really healed people on a regular basis, with as you may refere to it as "treehuging"

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Until she relapses....
Which she will.
Then the hole is twice as deep and twice as hard to climb out of.
Just saying.

JOIN, MATEY

>Muh noble savage
I'm not talking about using plants as medicine when a dude cuts his leg. I'm talking about how they smoke shitloads of drugs to talk to the spirit of the forest. They can learn all about healing without all the hippie bullshit.

it's not that i need these things to realise shit, i could just as well do some meditating but i chose DMT, and if that's magic for you idk what's reality

>Socially awkward guy.
>Sit in a park.
>Observe.
FFS OP if you follow this advise keep your hands far away from your dick.
I mean far.
Like outstretched... constantly.

>I dont need cocaine to socialise, honest. I just take it instead of learning to socialise.

now can you tell me how they can learn about healing without "all the hippie bullshit" ?

I still can't understand how you see it as bullshit when it works ?

glad i can help in any way.
Honestly, you won't find any help through drugs, especially for socializing.
Humans are meant to overcome things on their own, i've tried every drug under the sun, and yes some do make you feel good, but that is incredibly temporary and just a distraction on the grand scale of things.
And mind you, i'm not advocating for anti depressants either, in fact my goal for my career is to totally steer clear of that bull. I anything DMT woulds be better than anti depressants, but again i have an honest belief that humans can overcome things on their own, it's not easy but easy gives nothing, Only that hardest things in life are rewarding.
remember that if you can, and in the end, you'll be like teflon, everything will bounce off of you

Hippie bullshit= smoking fucking drugs
What part of that are you not getting? Why do you need to be tripping balls to learn what plants to grind up to treat an infection?

exactly this and while you're at it quit taking drugs and eat real food

Anecdotes and personal experience aren't counter arguments in science.
Just saying.

OP will now be one of those weird guys who sits in a park all day and makes parents feel uncomfortable.

well i don't think relapse is the proper word.
If she does stray from the path, then that would actually help her in the long run.
Many people don't know this but "relapsing" is actually considered a silver lining in many cases.
We have many drug addicts who relapse and end up stronger then before, in fact many doctors consider relapsing a natural process of beating an addiction

an occasional wank is fine especially if you're single. but porn is no no

the hole would actually be incredibly easier to climb out of comparatively

It also helps to have a positive attitude you miserable douche.

Weed, dmt, shrooms, acid.

So what do you masterbate too? I swore off porn recently and now I think about my female friends and feel pretty dirty about it.

I don't, I just keep people away

That's what alcohol keeps telling me.

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Endure through it long enough to create stable bubbles that you feel safe in here and there, and in time, the gaps will fill in. If you have people to go with, good.

>be me be 23
>Have le qt 3.14, in-between jobs after working a pretty awesome contract
>Constantly impaired by anxiety for no reason
> Met a friend during last job, who actually cared enough to ask questions and listen
>One day we're at a bar and asks me all the deep Q's and I couldn't stop myself from crying not sobbing just tears constantly streaming
>Go to her university class after the bar (I have no highschool degree) do assignments and get an A
>Return to life with qt 3.14 and just feel wrong
>Mfw I'm obviously not living up to my potential
>Mfw there is so much baggage on everything I know and love
>Throw out everything I own and move across the country
>Find out I'm the autist
>Forced to act despite anxiety
>Nothing physical left to have feels attached to
>Never get anxiety again
>

alcohol helps a little
pro:I even leave the house like once in a week
contra:I'm an alcohol nao

>keep your hands far away from your dick
and especially keep your hands off the irl l0lis

don't be that guy with ugly teeth who got 40 years in prison for licking his stepsisters butthole

I'm serious DON'T

Why does this thread hate me?

try alcohol

what do you mean?

who are you?