How would you go about initiating a long distance relationship once they've already left?

How would you go about initiating a long distance relationship once they've already left?

So i graduated high school last year, and my 3 friends decided to go to college for whatever reason. I've been talking to her, about once a day. We talk about how her college is going, we share memes, etc. Yesterday she told me that after a month or so of college she's not made any friends, and I'm the only person from back home who talks to her on a semi-daily basis. I've always kind of cared for this girl, and I really feel like she's miserable. I'm not super happy either. Any advice, Sup Forums?

Pic unrelated, first thing i could find on my desktop.

Get into a relationship with her? Not anymore complicated than that lol

Idk man, we've been friends since the 7th grade, so moving up to bf/gf level, or even breaching the subject might ruin that.

you feel me?

Drive out and spend time with her? What do youean start a long distance relationship, if your just friends then become more then freinds. I swear people get more autistic evey day sense harambe died.

I don't think it would at all. Worst case, if she's not interested in you, she can say "no" and you two can continue to be friends. If she has mutual feelings, than there should be no problem. Just be flirty, yet sweet, understanding and honest. A true friend would emphasize with you.

Thats some hollywood beta bullshit, your not going to ruin your freindship by asking if she wants to go out with you

Give it up.

This story has played out so many times before it's like a broken record.

She will meet some new amazing guy and completely lose interest in you and then whenever you call her you will be bugging her and looking like an idiot.

Find somebody new before she does.

I think what he means os that if you dont lock that shit down fast then your gonna miss your chance, be the chad, dont let the chad be you.

But before calling it quits completely, if he legitimately likes her then he'd have nothing to lose by trying it out

If you have to ask Sup Forums for advice, its already too late

She's across the country. :(

Thx guys, that makes me feel better.

darn man, that makes me feel infinitly worse

Thats what im saying, but if he needs to ask Sup Forums like the other guy said, its probably not even worth trying

Sup Forums has been a source of motivation since before I was even old enough to use the site. It's the only place i know of to quickly and anonymously ask for advice.

it also has some good porn.

Lol asking Sup Forums isn't all that bad, since he's most likely a beta pleb and can learn a lot off the alphas

Text her:

>why haven't we fucked yet?

And let it play out from there

Heres what you do, ill lay it out really simple for you.
1) Tell her you might be stopping by where she is for a bit, ask when she would be free to hang out.
2) car or plane to get out there, rent a hotel, chill with her for a bit
3) Dont be a beta and tell her how you feel
4a) if she feels the same way, promise to visit more often
4b) Shes says no, your still froends and text and shit
5) if 4a, repeat steps 1 and 2

(Same person)
Before you even bother repplying "i dont have the money"

Step 0) Get you shit together before you try to start a long distance relationship

just checked the flight price. 600$ for a round trip. I've never bought airline tickets, so there may be some hidden fees or some bullshit. Pricechopper says 600. That seems reasonable to me.

I might try it.

I think most people can afford a damn plane ticket...

Its Sup Forums, you never know

Check prices for other city airports near you, it might be worth driving to anthother airport first to save alot of money on tickets

Lol assuming he's in the United States

On top of that

google.com/flights

Is usefull as fuck

...

that site thinks KSI is MSI?

anyways, nearby airports exploit brings the flight down 11$ if i want to drive 106 miles from CRP.

kci*, mci*

I mean shit its google, im not a magic relationship fairy. You might just have to deal with paying the 600, for round trip its not terrible

you're fine man, thanks for the help.

No problem, that wierd though, I live near KCI and it shows up fine for me on google

And of your headed to KCMO and your both 21, hit up the power and light district, its baller as fuck. Good place to go hang out, see bands go to bars. Look it up if you want

And you can drink in public within the power and light district so you could buy some bears and fine a place to be alone and enjoy the lights

The primary way you develop intimacy with a woman is through having sex and you're not going to be having any sex in a long distance relationship. There really is no substitute for sex either.
Men have the additional problem that women tend to have sexual selection. On average, it's easier for them to find willing men. This puts you in a very bad position logistically because that means any man in any one of her classes is in a better position to have sex with her, hence build that intimacy, as opposed to you who is miles away.
The deck is always going to be heavily stacked against you in a long distance relationship.

>I've always kind of cared for this girl, and I really feel like she's miserable. I'm not super happy either.

Great. That means that if you stumble into any of the usual pitfalls of long distance relationships it's going to be that much more painful to wade through.
Either find a way to close the distance or settle for being her friend and being open to the possibility if she's still single after college.

I know what you're thinking, and no, entering in a long distance relationship isn't a safe guard against her finding someone else. It never is. Women aren't like library books that you can put on reserve like that. If you're not there, not physical present, doesn't matter. No label of "relationship" matters.
Some beat the odds, but not many.

I actually kind of agree with this guy, going back to my 5 step plan, if you cant make it out there atleast once every 2-3 months you might be out of luck

Looking back on the first post, you guys are probably around 18-19 years old, I know I gave you alot of tips on airplanes and shit, and I know It my be hard to accept, but why not just find another girl, and if "the one" is single after college, meet up. Its your life you can make that call, but you do have options.

>The primary way you develop intimacy with a woman is through having sex and you're not going to be having any sex in a long distance relationship

I think this is false, but i'm having trouble figuring an argument against it. I guess that's a bad sign.

Sex releases oxytocin and other hormones associated with "love". TBH, love is just her mind saying: this is the most effecient and likeable way of getting my body to produce more natural drugs so I can feel good, and he provides those drugs by fucking me.

yeah, but those same drugs are released through masturbation, something that I'm well aware she does quite often.

2 things, if shes that open about mastubation with you then shes probably not gonna deny your advances. And 2, shes not WITH you when those get released, so she has noone to associate the feelings with. (i.e. pavlovs dogs)

Nothing quite gets a woman "stuck on you" as giving her an earth-shattering orgasm or 2.

If masturbation was such an adequate substitute, why would you even care about getting with this chick anyway? You could just rub one out and be done with it, right?

I'm telling ya, there's something special about it. It is the primary way you build intimacy. The only way? No. But in terms of millage, it's the difference between taking a jet versus taking bicycle.

so i have to get her a framed picture of me for christmas.

ez!

A framed picture of you naked, there has to be sexual assosiation, feel free to take that risk, if you do I better see a post from you on christmas about the reaction

Not sure about this, man. earth-shattering orgasms are cool and all, but I think there are alternatives.

masturbation releases sex chemicals, but I want a girlfriend who can give me more than a boner.

Get used to masturbating

this feels like armchair psychology to me...

Once you get tired of masturbating, your gonna have to spices things up.

Hope you find sticking shit up your arse pleasurable.

he said with all the edge of a sophomore.

Most teens right out of high school who are typically seen as bound to succeed there are too busy with studying, one or more part time jobs, doing activities that enhance their portfolios, extracurriculars that allow them to get closer to professors, etc.

They don't have time for friends much of the time and it doesn't bother them because they already had the mindframe of an adult before they ever even started the application process. Even if you end up going to a college that personally fits you better than 9/10 people, those people are the ones who are most likely to truly succeed no matter where they go.

Tell her to put the memes user.

I've read and reread this post 3 times and i'm having trouble comprehending.

>but I think there are alternatives.

It's not that they're alternatives and more that they're the other "girlfriend/boyfriend" things you do along with the sex that also build intimacy. If they were pit against each other, it's the difference between taking a jet versus taking a bicycle, sex is always going to be the vastly more powerful tool at your disposal--not that it should be the only thing you ever do.

>I want a girlfriend who can give me more than a boner.

it's not really about you actually. I mean, yeah, great that you want a girlfriend who is amazing in other ways, that's totally cool, but girls tend to have sexual selection. It has more to do to in keeping her interested.

I mean think of it this way, think of all the stereotypical boyfriend/girlfriend things you can do. You can watch movies at your place, hang out and chill, just enjoy being around each other etc. etc. etc. Can you already see the problem? Yeah, this is the same shit you can do with your best friend or your brother/sister. Great if you want to be her bestest-best friend ever. Poor for having a romantic relationship with her.

you keep using that jet vs bicycle thing, but that's something you read on buzzfeed. I will admit that sex can strengthen a relationship, but I really dont think it's integral. Think of all those people who 'save themselves until marriage'

and also, long distance relationships are a common thing. Sure the stereotype is that they dont work out, but i guess i'd might as well try.