Well Sup Forums I blew my chance

Well Sup Forums I blew my chance.

>Be me
>28 year old virgin
>Start fooling around with a cute 20 y/o
>Go down on her, make her cum
>Good night, but no reciprocation...

2 weeks pass

>Going at it again
>She says if I can make here cum again, I can fuck her right after
>Going down on her, shes getting close
>make her cum, grabs my hair pushes my face into her pussy even harder
>step back, grab condom
>Start sliding it on dick
>realize I've only got a semi
>watch her, naked on my bed, touching herself
>Start jerking it, trying to get it to fullmast
>Diamonds.jpg 404
>Try for 5 minutes to get it up... just cant
>Give up
>Lay in bed with her (naked still) watching her play Pokemon Sun

Talked to her the next day, she really didn't mind that I couldn't get it up. She was still a virgin too. We've known each other for a while, but this was only our second time being intimate. We're just friends.

Upon thinking about it more she now thinks her first time should be with "someone special".

Fuck.

Blew my chance. Couldnt get it up. Wont get another (maybe?) with her.

All that shit:
>"It happens to everyone"
>"Its natural"
>"Its stress/anxiety"

Yeah yeah yeah, I get all that shit, but it DID happen to me, and now I got nothin. Fuck sakes. Havent even jacked off since then, few days ago. Totally demoralized.

Your thoughts Sup Forums? You got any similar stories?

Pic kinda related, VERY similar to how her pussy looked (stubble, innie, very wet)

Nigga yoou only 28 who gives a fuck move on or keep hitting it who says this is your last chance? my nigga wtf

was the problem getting it up or in. with a cherry my problem was getting it in. kept going soft cuz i couldnt get it in.

Of all the things you can do with a woman going down on her is my favorite so I'd say ya done good

caring about 1 female who dont even reciprocate in 2016
LUL

Meant last chance with her.
Given that this was my first chance in 28 years, who knows how long till the next one. Not exactly attractive myself, and I dont really do the bar/club scene. Overall, I dont do much that would involve me meeting new people.

/thread

dude at least you got action.

im 30 and only fingered two girls in high school.

but im kinda asexual so i don't really give a fuck.

Dubs checked.

At least you got her to climax. That's not nothing.

Getting it up, just could not get it fully hard, and didnt want to stick a half limp dick in.

Yeah, this part was good, I very much enjoyed making her buckle under my fingers/mouth. Fucking fantastic.

I lost my virginity at a late age aswell after hyping it up for years. The same thing happened to me. I know its easy to say, but you literally just have to be more relaxed and used to it.

Oh and when you start being able to get hard, youll instacum a few times before actually being able to have proper sex.

Have fun.

True, that was my main takeaway from the first time we fooled around.

My main takeaway this time was "Well shit, at least a girl gave consent to let me stick my dick in her" which, I mean is a plus in on its own.

LULULUL SO FUNNY LUL!!! LUL!!!!!!!!! GET IT?? LUL!!! TWITCH MEMES LUL!!!

Sounds like performance anxiety or she is ugly.

I've never had a problem getting hard, sober or even drunk/stoned. I think you're just broken.

Your problem is the rubber. Boner kill. If shes clean & you trust her ask her to go on the pill for a month. You wont have this problem again

Yeah, that was initially my main worry, just two strokes and cumming.

Still, even if that happened, she wouldnt be the type of girl to care that much. Shes not really huge into dicks or bodily fluids. Part of why there's been no reciprocation.

you shouldve tried anyway. both virgins anyways. its pretty common to fuck up your first times.

Naw, shes cute, chubby, gamer type girl. Not like, 10/10, but not bad tits, and super nice pussy. Good look, good smell, and good taste. Not that I've had more than just her to compare, but it wasnt fish, so I'm fine. Plus I like innies.

I think the main issue, is thats she was pretty honest in saying she doesnt find me physically attractive. Nor does she really like dicks that much. I think that played into part of it.

My 1st wouldnt swallow, but all ones after her did. Hang in there

Next time we hang out we're going to get high. So we'll see how that goes. She loves to masturbate while high, so she wants to try getting head while high.
>I'm ok with this
Maybe the high will take the edge off?

It's just a thing you have to go through. As long as you can make her cum you're good. Truth is most girls prefer oral, if youre good at it. Give her what she wants and she'll let you practise, eventually you'll be good enough to fuck her and everyone will be happy.

Don't worry buddy.

yeah sounds like anxiety

Dont worry about it user. Happens to me to, especially with condoms.

Nah, shes 20, shes a nice girl, but there's no fucking way I'm doing anything that could remotely resort in getting her pregnant.

>only 28
>only
Nigger, he's practically a Wizard.

Dude, when I can't get hard. I just slap my dick on and around their pussy. Kills the anxiety. And I get diamonds. I'm talking blood diamonds. Had a nigger jump through my window and try to rip my dick off so he could pawn it

It's possible. Will she give you a blowie? Might help. Good luck.

Yep, that was the whole point we started this. She wanted someone to make her feel good, and I wanted practice. Worked out well enough for both of us.

I mean, each girl is different, and like things different ways, but just in general, I'm getting better at reading the signs, hearing the way her breathing changes when doing certain things. That sort of shit.

I'm glad my wife prefers blowjobs and fucking to oral. I don't mind it, actually I like it. But fucking is way better.

Kappa

Condoms are only 98% successful. Pulling out is 97%. Just fyi

Ok, dude - clean yourself up & make yourself attractive. Shower more than twice a week. Brush youre fucking teeth & wash your ass. Cmon man - stop makimg tendies a food group.
For gods sake, buy new clothes - you dont need to wear shirts with pictures on them all the time.
Ask her about her day & what she would like to do. She already let u eat her box twice. Im available for more counseling if needed.

Shit man, I'm getting close. Already started growing out the beard (November).

This is the one thing I regret not trying in the moment. Think it could have helped, but missed that chance I guess.

Nah, shes got a thing against touching dicks. Which really sucks, but I've come to accept it.

Dont listen to this guy

If you think a condom is safer than the pill you're a fucking lunatic

No dont get high & try to fuck until ur good at it.

>Shit man, I'm getting close. Already started growing out the beard (November).
Don't feel bad. I've only had sex with one girl my entire life and I could give two shits about sex at this point. As soon as you get the puss you'll get bored of it quick.

If she doesn't like dicks, you best find someone else who does. You need a girl to be into your dick. You'll be diamonds then.

Getting more attractive starts with loosing some weight for me (really my main detractor), which is something I'm not great at doing.
Oral hygiene could use some work, but otherwise I have pretty good personal hygiene. (outside of November), facial hair kept clean shaven, shower every day, wear deodorant, dont wear "stylish" cloths, but well somewhat well fitting polo's and stuff. Worse I guess is the cargo pants I wear occasionally.

This - definitely move on or do something shes going to find attactive about you. Do you like her alot?

I'm not super into sex as is, or I would have maybe tried a bit more to get it by this point. That being said,I do want to at least try and experience it you know? That and hopefully not enjoy it too much, unless I can find someone willing to do it often.

A girl that lets me play with her tits and eat her out is better than no girl at all in my mind. Your right tho, and I do hope I can find a chick that wants my dick. Its no fucking prize, but (when it works...) its not that bad of a thing.

Corey?

Nah, we're not dating or anything, we're just friends. Like, we dated VERY briefly a few years back, got kinda close, but ultimately decided to be friends (Read: Friendzoned).

Shes been single for the past year or so, and I guess feeling like she wanted to be wanted (or some shit), so when I had mentioned to her in a chat one day, that I'd be ok with just going down on a girl for the experience, she said she'd be ok with that, as long as I understood (due to her own hangups in the past) that there would be no reciprocation.

Which is part of why I was so caught off in the first place when I suggested fucking and she didnt seem to mind.

Nope

Yeah but when she's telling you she isn't attracted to you and that can't make you feel very good. You've already got experience in eating her out and feeling her tits. You get no stimulation out of it. You're basically her doormat. Time to find a girl into dick. You aren't doing yourselve any favors, just her. Shits a two way street man.

Ok - you've made an honest assesment. Good start. Weight can be handled pretty quickly. Not saying to become a gym rat. Just eat in moderation & lay off the fast food for a while.
Upgrade your clothes & youre entitled to wear your cargo pants, but on occasion- listen to what im telling you & you need to beleive wgen i say it- you seem like youre sort of stuck in a rut, maybe a little depressed. You will fix your shit not for this girl whos not into your dick but the next you mihgt or might not know yet. Get into that mindset, user & good things will happen, you will be noticed.

Quads quoted me. Time for bed.

april 16th this year, 24 at the time, losing my virginity to a 17yo

pretty thug to make space in her.
both virgin (she thinks I'm not)
bit drunk but she too. we make it happen.
condom sunddely disapear from my dick
we found on the floor
probably fell during the struggle
she was so fucking tight that almost coundt go in. shit. if you did make she cum she will come back anom

you watch too much porn.

Don't worry OP that happened with my long term ex and it was humiliating. If you're a good guy she'll give you another chance. Going through a bit of a rough patch as far as relationships go, so I'm rooting for ya.

you sound like a fucking autist.

>maybe a little depressed

Well, I mean, last week my sister ran away from home (She lived with my mom, I own my own house), then a few days after my mom tried to kill herself. So yeah, you could say its a been a rough week I guess?

And you're right, I know that if I adjusted my diet it would go a huge way. And there are some things (cycling, swimming) that I would not mind getting into, and would help my cardio, if not directly weight loss.

Go kill yourself because your obviously a faggot

Well you cant let her use you for much longer. I would try & get her close to cumming & say your jaw hurts or you want to play your DS. Shell either leave which means shes wasting your time or shell be so annoyed shell demand you finish & thats when you say youll finish after we bang. If you ate her box well enough, and drove her insane, she'll do whatever you ask. If not practice on someone else. Dont be a cuck

Eh, not like an addict, but it prob doesnt help. Most likely going to lay off it for a while anyway.

I guess thats one thing I'm glad of, is that at least with her there was no pressure or humiliation (from her). I still felt shame/guilt, but she held nothing against me, so thats a plus.
Hope you manage to get through your rough spot annon!

Nope
Nope

Tho actually kinda surprised the topic went this long before these responses. Fuck Sup Forums you're getting weak I guess.

Still, thanks to all the Sup Forumsros who shared their thoughts and advice!

Don't worry Op, Happened to me the first time I got laid in college. luckily I learned to control my anxiousness by getting rid of the condom and going in raw before I went limp. Never had a problem after the first time, hope that helps.

Yup, almost identical, but a lot younger

>Be me
>19 year old virgin (happened last June)
>Living in a nice apartment
>A friend texts me
>"A friend of mine was kicked out of the house and I can't let her stay here cuz parents"
>I knew this girl for 2 months but haven't seen her for a long while
>noproblem.jpg
>at 21:00 she comes
>I didn't have dinner, I don't know if she did
>Watch a couple of movies until 1:00
>She's been half an hour being cuddly with me
>start moving my hand around her tits
>ohhellyeah.png
>she got up, turned off the lights
>tried to nut, but aw shiet, semi
>she tries to help me, for like 15 mins
>MissionAborted.exe
>"It must be nerves, user"
>she went to the shower
>I sat naked on the couch
>thought "well, not everyone start the championship winning the first match"
>let her sleep until 7:00, I had to go to college

That wasn't quite a good experience, but I attribute the fact that I couldn't get a full erection to the lack of eating. If you're going to nut, be sure to eat first. Otherwise (and this might sound videogame-ish) your energy drops like fucking hell.

I've never fucked after that. Eventually, someone will come. First time, like they say, is quite overrated. It's great to do it with someone special, I assume, but still, most of the times sex is related to pleasure and not just something "special".

You did it once. You can do it again. Don't give up my nigga.

Yeah, so much taboo and and shit around sex. Like, I'm not saying everyone become sluts and sleep around, but not every sexual experience needs to be a special snowflake.

Tho, I can see how that additional emotional layer of being close to someone could add to the experience.

Thanks man!

next time this happens :

1. get the condom.
2. lay on your back
3. ask her to come on top of you
4. heavy kissing
5. grinding her pussy on your dick if possible
6. put condom on. if unsure, kiss while doing it.
7. hold her by the hips, and penetrate
8. choose the angle that you feel most
9. choose the speed that you feel most
10. enjoy your first sex

the key here is to
a. not "pause" the mood while putting the condom on.
b. distract your mind and senses (touching, her on you, grinding, etc)
c. kiss because it will put you at ease

Do you need to grow the beard? I'd lose it until you got this on lock. Find another girl regardless of this situation- her hangups are holding you back. Cmon man, youve got a lot of dudes pulling for you here. Sorry about your sis & mom.

Sounds like your putting too much pressure on yourself. Stop focusing so much on her if she's already dtf and use whatever kink/strategy you have in the back of your mind to normally get hard and get off. She probably wouldn't have even noticed if you weren't fully paying attention. Make it about yourself as much as you made it about her... imo

I know 28 y/o virgin and he's still got it and apparently you do too. Cute chubby gamer girl sounds nice. He's actually very attractive.

I wouldn't take her backing down too personally because chances are that she'll come back.

Sister is in a safe place now (with her father), mother is in the crisis support center, so shes in a safe place, and doing a LOT better.

Beard comes off next week, December 1st.

Even with her setbacks, I'm still mostly having a good time with her, and I enjoy making her cum, even if I'm not getting much out of it.
We're both clear on the fact that once it becomes an issue that I'm not getting any, we're both fine with stopping.

Sex with current gf is so much better than sex with random hoes. Emotional layer definitely adds to it.

Thats the hope I guess. I'm down to keep fooling around with her and making her cum, as I do enjoy it. I'm sure if I get her horny enough (and manage to actually get it up), that she would be receptive of the idea of fucking again in the future.

Still amazed I got her to agree to it in the first place.

Rip user, atleast you nearly made it i guess

Good to hear. It also sounds like you like her. Just dont put your eggs in her basket. Please make some changes you can make quickly, haircut, clothes, hygiene. Do you make any money? Id find someone else to take out for dinner & not make yourself too available- she should theoretically start to be more into you & accessible for your dick. It seems like a game but it needs to be played. More questions - ask

Post a pic

I made fine hourly, but my hours have been SHIT lately. But I make enough to own my own house. I'm not poor. I'm usually the one people turn to when they need money. That being said, its mainly because I'm good at managing it, not because I'm raking it in.

Like, if Need be, yeah I could buy new cloths. but at the same time, I'm content with here I am. I'm not desperate for attention, and while I wouldn't mind some sex, I'm not exactly begging for it either.

I'm mainly still a virgin out of lack of trying. Which I guess is what separates me from my room mate (who isnt a virgin, but hasnt had sex in years and years, and gets super pissy about it). I dont seek to validate myself though a relationship I guess.

Also, with regards to liking her, I used to yea, but I'm actually pretty happy with my ability to separate feelings lately. I enjoy making her cum, I like her as a friend, but I dont really have much feeling towards her other than that. Not like I had a few years back at least, when we dated briefly.

My first time with a girl was when we were both 18. Partly because of nerves and partly because the condoms wouldn't fit I couldn't get it up. Eventually we just fooled around and slept the night together. In the morning she gave me a handjob and I came ll over her.

Later I didn't want to use a condom anymore so we didn't have sex for a while, just some fooling around. Eventually I suggested buttsex and she said that she lost her virginity to buttsex when she was 13 and was open to the idea. For like a half a year I fucked her ass on the reg and got blowjobs and boobjobs when I wanted.

She was literally crazy but that buttsex was sweet as fuck, even now 15 years later I'm addicted to buttfucking girls, It's just better. I digress, but that's my virgin story.

Ok my final piece of advice to you is to get out & find a social group to drink beer or wine with. Not saying to get hammered, just do it for social reasons. I know you're saying you're not desparate or going crazy to get laid, but you are thinking about it & clearly would like to try it, so i think yove got what it takes to make it happen. You've got the blueprint & material list

I know you're trolling but at least try to be more creative.

Might try this, could be fun in general. I'm not huge on crowds, but I can handle small groups of strangers pretty well. I'm enough of a sarcastic prick to be liked on first glance most of the time.

Thanks for all the advice man. You have a good night

No this dosen't happen to everyone. shoulda got her to suck you off, at least that could have gotten you hard.
I have no idea why you couldnt... pokemon girl possibly too ugly or fat to turn you on? yet you eat her out... idk man go to /fit/ improve your life.

Dude, I've been around. Trust me, it's not always going to be hard as diamonds from the start. 9 times outta 10 though, the feeling of a nice warm wet hole will get the blood going in the right direction... 3 or 4 slow ins and outs and you're laughing. Don't worry about it.

me again (not a troll, just a fuckboy and asshole)
I find i go semi sometimes when i put the rubber on. if you know she is clean tease her pussy with your bare cock then wrap up, or have her put on the rubber for you. make sure the condom isnt too small also.

u dutch?

I isolate myself when I feel down but I've got some pretty solid friends that are helping me through it. I'm def hitting the drugs harder than usual but I'll get through it.

Sex is awesome but like everything the glimmer fades. once the novelty wears off you get miserable with that person, then hopefully you get some hate fucks in then move on. Gotta find that one person that completes you, that's when you've hit it. If she doesn't want to get with you and she breaks it off she probably wasn't that someone. Don't worry, you're okay. Good luck!

I just had a somewhat similar experience a few hours ago, user.

> Be me
>Not virgin, but might as well be.
>Passible as mildly attractive
>Be crazy in the sack, because years of sexual frustration
>"Old flame" texts me out fo the blue
>coming through town tomorrow ect...

> Night comes, we meet up, get frisky pretty fast
>Things are fun, but shes kinda acting like a dead fish
>Get her off with my hands, and she basically passes out.
(Obvious mistake in retrospect, but I was excited so whatevs)
>Dont even have the energy left to try and wake her back up for my turn, go to sleep.

>Next day
>Shes fun, but completely disinterested in sexy times
>Get bored
>She leaves

The end. Sill got the fuckin blueballs, but Im not even feeling like faping ATM. Sad face.

Maybe you just don't like girls

Well if it makes you feel better literally my first time i couldn't get it up. It was at a party in the woods...haha everyone knew the next morning.

Best part is she was 15 & i was 19 then.
Haha...dont feel too bad man, it actually does happen to others. You'll get there eventually

First time with a new girl, I've had nerves come up and kill my boner a few times.