So i cheated on my gf of 3 years
I always figured I was too much of a self centered asshole to feel guilty over cheating but holy shit was I wrong
Now every time she smiles at me, does something cute or when she cuddles up to me in bed i feel like my stomach is trying to drop out my asshole.
Can't even sleep anymore because she's lying there looking content and happy and shit and I remember what I did over and over man
I wasn't prepared for these cheater feels
Don't tell her if she's in a bad mental state, I made that mistake
it goes over time friendo, you'll want to cheat again soon and probably do it, just dont be an idiot and get rid of any evidence.
I've fucked around on a few girls. Never cared when I got caught. In a similar situation now. I haven't cheated but i've been texting a girl who wants to fuck me and man idk what to feel.
its rough
Tell her or not, but you need to leave her. Like this user said you will do it again and again until you eventually get caught.
Let her find someone who will truly love her.
And find someone you will truly love.
stay together, dont tell her.
love>morals
Once a Cheat, always a cheat.
I've cheated on every girlfriend I've had - simply because you get off on it.
I feel guilty for a small while, but usually only for a week or so. Then it goes and it repeats.
If you can cheat, you do not love user.
This
>female user cheats
>UR A WHOR KILL URESELF
>dude user cheats
>"it's ok man we all do "
serious note, if you did it once you'll most likely do it again, no matter how guilty you feel. You probably don't love her THAT much if you cheated in the first place and that might be what you feel guilty for. Give yourself a few months, if you feel like cheating again, break up.
I was in your position once. Ended up admitting the infidelity, she forgave me, and in time we got over it. The relationship is stronger now than ever.
You can't bury this. It's always going to rise to the surface.
Don't tell her. It will kill her. Break it off. Know you did it for her own benefit and that she won't be psychologically destroyed by your betrayal, and that you're also punishing yourself for your stupid actions.
You fucked up. Learn from it and don't do it again. But don't stick with this girl because you're a bastard and you know you're a bastard, and you'll never be able to see her smile without flashing back to it.
Conversely, telling her means she'll never be able to see you smile without thinking of you with some dumb skank.
>I wasn't prepared for these cheater feels
Man, I know how that goes.
how did it go when you told her?
>Don't tell her. It will kill her.
this user doesn't know your girlfriend. it will be tough for her, but it won't necessarily kill her. if you want to stay with her, just fess up and let her decide how she wants to proceed.
I was probably more of an emotional wreck than she was. The forgiveness was immediate, which surprised the fuck out of me. The topic would come up now and then in the following months, but she was honest about how she felt and I was honest about I felt so we got through it.
I love how you niggers always convince yourself that you tell her "because she deserves to know," and not just because you want to relieve your own feelings of guilt.
Tell or live out the rest of your relationship with that guilt
You realised she had probably cheated on you if forgiveness was immediate.
It'll go away eventually. I was in the same exact situation. We've been married for 9 years now, and I still haven't told her. I never did it again. The guilt was too much even when we'd been together for just 3 years, I can't imagine doing it again now. I'd say if you aren't planning on spending the rest of your life with her, you should break it off. I thought that over for quite a long time before I decided that I loved her, and I wasn't going to let one momentary lapse of judgement ruin what we could have. The happiest times of my life have been with her.
It was less about her "deserving to know" and more about me not wanting to carry around this guilt through our relationship. It's toxic, it makes the stomach turn. You can either deal with it or run away from it.
But keep making baseless assumptions and ignoring what I actually said.
doubt it. I'm not naive, we just have a strong relationship. tough for some to understand I guess.
That's not how honest relationships work user.
If you're 100% sincere from the start and admit that you fucked up , you can be forgiven.
Life isn't porn.
You're either.
Lying
A cuck
Or both
How the fuck am I cuck for cheating and being forgiven for it? Do you just have no idea what cuckoldry is or what?
Life ain't a fairytale either.
Tell her. The cheating isn't as bad as lying for months or years to the one person in the whole world who is supposed to be able to rely on you for anything. The only way she could ever forgive this is if you tell her what a disloyal, no-integrity flake you've been and showing her that you've learned from your mistake. Not because you got caught, but because of the guilt. If you keep it a secret, not only does it prove that you only love her in the way a that a child loves a toy that he would rather break than share with another child, it proves that you aren't even man enough to accept responsibility for your actions--let alone be capable of maintaining an adult relationship
Put yourself in her shoes. If you found out your gf cheated, but she told you right away, you'd be a lot less pissed off than you would be if she hid it from you for months, essentially proving she never loved you at all. Not in any kind of way you'd want to be loved, anyway. Instead of questioning what went wrong recently to cause her to cheat, you'd probably be convinced she never loved you at all. It would force you to question everything you've built with her and rebuilding that kind of trust is a lot harder than convincing someone that you fucked someone in the heat of the moment and regretted it
She's fucking other dudes and you must be aware of it. Or just Autismo..
How jaded and cynical do you have to be to believe to think forgiveness is a fairytale?
We're married now, one car between the two of us. If she's fucking other dudes then she's doing it within a 5 minute window and claiming she's going to the bathroom or checking the mail.
Which is pretty impressive.
You sound like an 18 year old millennial.
You were selfish to cheat on her, and you were selfish to hurt her further by telling her, just to ease your guilt.
You try to explain it to yourself by claiming it's so "toxic" to the relationship to carry those feelings...
If you aren't man enough to shoulder the burden of your choices, then you should spare her feelings and just end it with her and leave her with her dignity. Now she will forever have to bear the scar of being cheated on... The self doubt, the shame that she wasn't good enough... And all so YOU didn't have to deal with any unpleasant feelings.
It's sound more like you're a toxic person.
But that's ok, keep justifying your selfishness so YOU can feel better.
ignore this guy. What she doesn't know can't hurt her. The pain she'll get from knowing what you did to her isn't worth the absolution you may or may not get for your guilt.
Assuming you want to maximise her happiness, then she'll be happiest if she never finds out you cheated on her. However, if she does find out, she'll be happier if you only did it once and were so wracked with remorse that you never cheated again than if you cheated on her a bunch of times - so don't cheat on her again.
They're so filled with hate towards all women that they would only fault her for cheating on you even if you cheated on her as well. They're so narrow-minded that they can easily comprehend how they could personally cheat on a girl who they love, but they can't fathom the idea of a woman cheating on a man they love.
Don't expect them to be rational
lel beta faggot detected. You think women have any sense of honour? Think they'd do the same for you. You're dead wrong.
I was going to comment but you pretty much nailed it!!
>You were selfish to cheat on her
no shit
>and you were selfish to hurt her further by telling her, just to ease your guilt.
nah. it's a poison in relationship, you have to face it. running away and not telling her why would have been even more selfish. she made the choice to forgive me and to stay with me, women aren't these fragile porcelain creatures incapable of making their own decisions or dealing with reality.
or my wife isn't anyway. maybe your girl is. or maybe you've never had a real relationship with a woman.
I've cheated on my wife with men for the last 8 years.
Pretend to be a Trump-supporter.
Pretend I love my job.
>mfw my whole LIFE is a lie.
Ignore this guy
"What she doesn't know won't hurt her" only -appears-to work in relationships that don't. The guilt will pile up with every anniversary, every birthday, every child she gives you. Until, assuming you're an even remotely decent human being, you will tell her.
dont take advice from anons who haven't learned their lesson yet. They give the kind of advice that will only let you avoid seeing her cry and hate you temporarily. Ultimately, it's what a selfish child would do to avoid guilt
suck it up fag
this. and you can't pretend your emotions A) don't exist and B) aren't going to affect the person you're living with
Hit it on the head
It's not about not telling them because they're fragile... That's your own machines coming out. It's human decency.
But just forget it. I've known plenty of people with your mentality over the years, and there is no way you'll see any different.
BTW: oldfag here. Been married 15 years, together for a little over 17. Still fuck four or five times a week, and there's no one I'd rather hang out with than her.
Some people might want to be blissfully ignorant. She isn't one of them. And besides, this ignorance wouldn't be bliss, it would be stress and uncertainty as my inner conflict affects my emotional state, and thus her emotional state.
The only mature thing to do is to face the music. Confess your sins. It has made our relationship stronger, to know that we can overcome shit like this and be honest about our emotions.
But if you want to claim that hiding it from her or leaving her without explanation is the better option, that's great, more power to you.
Thats what you get for being a fucking asshole OP
let he without sin throw the first stone
Topkek
My gf cheated on me. I will breakup the next few days probably
don't do it, just forgive her
This is just one option. It depend entirely on your relationship whether forgiveness or a swift death is the best option. But try to keep an open mind, don't let resentment make the decision by itself.
Repent. Confess.
Guilt means you still have some moral fibre left, the longer you wait, the greater the damage will be.
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