The 1/2 Minute Orgasm Saga

The 1/2 Minute Orgasm Saga

(Part 1 of 2)

I have returned here after a long hiatus in the hope of correcting this problem of mine. Based on readings around the net pertaining to a link between pornography and premature ejaculation I took a long break from the more exciting components of the internet.
Well I can now personally confirm that for me personally at least, pornography was not the root cause. Now, in learning this I have again lost another excellent entangling relationship grown over weeks with in under a minute.
This is far from the first time this has happened. I have lost the interest & respect of more women in under a minute then I can count on my fingers. These all sting, and their concatenation is weighting heavy. These are women I see regularly, had met through friends and work. Relationships with meaning; not only for me but them all as well.
At this point both I am out of solutions; not getting any younger I have come for advice. I feel I can not continue to pursue women, currently not anyone i like or respect in any fashion. It is as far as I can evaluate unethical for me to continue to present to anyone, to try and form a sexual relationship when I know that I cannot provide. When I can not hold up my end. When I can not hold me load for more then a few breaths.

(Part 2 of 2)


Now let me color in the rest of the picture. I have been experiencing this as long as I have been having relationships. I have never had a problem erecting or maintaining, but once inside I can only hold on for at most a dozen or so thrusts. After experiencing this first in my youth I let this sector of my life take a back seat for half a decade. In that time I build a self-sufficient life (home, car, good job, a fist full of dollars) and got quite fit.
When I met a women I could not simple acquiesce I rejoined the delightful fray. As always, I was quite suave and things were getting thick. Alas, again I left my partner unfulfilled and in need of a washcloth after only a few thrusts. The budding relationship hung dead from above my bed. Now just another face across a party room, or out on the street holding a secret of mine.
Now simply imagine I have copied and pasted the above paragraph here eleven time over with varying but unimportant details for the purposes of our deduction below. which brings me to where I am now. Out of ideas and considering throwing the towel in all together on this section of my life. Please give me an Idea to cling to, some hope. Any ideas or questions are welcome. I some of you would like to hear some of the stories, I do not mind covering them within. Ever time I share them they weigh significantly less.

I will take your Hail Mary now. Thank you for the long read.

Cant let this die.

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dunno what to tell you op. tried jerking off like an hour or 30 minutes before sex? or maybe where a condom to reduce feeling

dunno buddy, try edging and controlling your breathing,i used to be a two pump chump too.it will take time/months prolly/ but if you dont try to last longer and dont train to last longer you wont last longer

Done and Done. If you can find a google result for it I have about tried it. Additionally, I have consulted 3 medical doctors. No fruit was born.

go on ssri antidepressants. they make it harder to cum.

kegels? Im doin some right now

I had discussed this previously. I it an side effect if i recall. Hmm. This may be a new avenue.

I have doing them for two years now. Question, How long can you hold yours? and can you breath while you are holding?

This
Trazadone made it hard to nut.
You can always start smoking meth.

Do suspect that for a person who is otherwise mentally normal, would they go mad (manic) if they took any of the ssri family?

What is your native language?

Also lots of street drugs and pharmaceuticals and homeopathic medicines can help you fuck longer, try any drugs?

Christopher Mcdonald would make a killer gman in a half life movie

Native to USA, Have spent the majority of my working career abroad.

I tried what i could find whiskey, cocaine. The first left me limp, the second, left me sweaty and shrunk.

Quite true friend.

they perscribe them for off label uses. For example some people are prescribed an antidepressant to help them quit smoking and some are prescribed it for premature ajaculation. It would probably be a pretty low dose.

I can breath while doing them yes, I can hold a standard kegel clench for well over a minute if I had to; the push, or 'reverse kegel' is a little newer to me and Im still not sure Im doing it right to be honest, but I can hold it for maybe 15 seconds

Yes, I located the prescription i had when i quit smoking. (Citalopram) So it does seem we have ruled out the SSRI solution as my third victims encounter considered with my quitting.

Well Fuck All. I can hold for 15 seconds or so while only breathing in. Have to release on the out breath. It, would seem. Perhaps I am only doing what you refer to as a reverse "kegel".

Can you post your source, further Investigation is needed Immediately?

I used to have a similar problem. My gf blows me before sex, I return the favor, and when I'm ready to go I last way longer... Maybe try that?

I have no one source, but I have the same problem as you (not nearly as bad) and have done thorough research on the topic of kegels - a lot of reddit discussions helped me get a grip on the technique. A standard kegel is where you flex the muscle between your asshole and your nutsack, you can feel it with your finger to help you start. Its the same muscle you would use to stop the flow of urine. A reverse kegel is supposedly equally important but much more difficult to isolate - its in some sense the opposite, you flex the muscle used to push urine out. I would do more research on kegels if I were you. Ive been somewhat dedicated for a few weeks now and am noticing a more active dick in general...more morning wood..more random erections..

Get circumcised. Never have to worry about it again.

just here because Macri

That man is perhaps not who you believe him to be.

Well that serves as a confirmation.It would appear I have been doing reverse Kegels for going on two years now. And conversely to my determent have never preformed a standard kegel.

u just have to imagine the mostache

Here's my advice dude, from someone who lasted like 30s on his first time, and now can easily last 20 minutes (not that 20 minutes is a world-record or anything). No two bodies are the same, but hopefully it can help.

These aren't things I did specifically to gain more stamina, but they are things I have been doing differently, and have since gained more stamina:

> Jerk off HARD when you jerk off, so the vagina feels really light by comparison. Get your dick kind of used to needing it rough.

> Don't jack off with lube/soap/ whatever, just do it raw, or don't jack off at all. Then always use lube when you fuck, or always get her really wet first.

> always edge yourself like crazy when you jerk off, sometimes don't even cum, just pack it up and get on with your day.

> Stay fit and eat well - seems like you're already on that one.

> Don't flex your cock while you're fucking. When it feels good you kind of flex by default, but if you can resist it, you won't really cum.

> Don't look at your own dick while you're fucking - it's too arousing, try to disassociate.

All the best, I wholeheartedly wish you well.

Quite valuable advice. Some of which i have seen before, and some of which is newly cast. I suspect the roughness could improve things greatly. To elevate the expectation in opposition to the loose and wet reality.

Oh, yes. This is ringing still truer with further though. I always handle things with finesse throughout my life, and in this case perhaps to my disservice.