Id never thought id say this but I guess I know what fucking someone and getting no pleasure out of it feels like
>be dating this girl for 3 months >don't find her very attractive,she's not repulsive but she's not really my style either >take her virginity >she's really cool and calm and things are going great >have 0 feelings for her, barely like her
fucking her today like 1h ago
>wasn't very interested in plowing her >kept losing my boner >she had to suck me off twice to get hard again >didn't cum
meanwhile with my best friend >pop boners just by being around her >fuck her nice and hard every time >we've been fucking for 4 years even through relationships and we never get bored of it.
Will I eventually feel attached if I spend enough time with my gf? Iv never dated someone i wasn't initially really into.
does it get better with time? I can see myself with this girl for years but someone im stuck on the first impressions
>she makes good money >shes smart >can make good conversation >could be a good life partner and travel companion
That's pretty much where I'm at right now user, and it doesn't get any better. It's a very good relationship, the best I've ever had by miles, but honestly the sex at this point feels like a chore. There's just something there at the molecular level that's either present or nonexistent. It's not your fault, it's not her fault, it's just not there for you and there's really nothing you can do about it.
You're just going to have to decide if you can live with it or not. Remember, 99% of the time you spend with somebody in a relationship is non sexual, even if you're fucking like rabbits. You have to decide which part is more important to you.
Jack Foster
have you talked to her about it? Maybe you can find something that will help, or maybe you can stay in a romantic relationship and then both have separate sexual relationships with other people
Thomas Bell
sound advice
>99% of the time you spend with somebody in a relationship is non sexual I figured this and I couldn't ask for a better life partner everything works out the only hick is sexually speaking she's not my cup of tea
there's just something there lacking... >it's just not there for you and there's really nothing you can do about it. fuck this annoys me
>have you talked to her about it? this would kill the relationship ill never mention it to her
>have separate sexual relationships with other people thats my temporary solution my best friend (girl) wants to meet my gf and make it seem like were just good friends but deep down she's the one i see to get my rocks off. kind of like a mistress. we'll keep this going for as long as it needs to, possibly having kids with both (without my gf/wife ever finding out about the other kids/relationship) we talked about all this with best friend, she got really horny to the idea and finds it hot
with 90% of women i just wanna pin them down and fuck them till I cum inside the pussy
but with my gf I mostly feel like a good friend instead of just wanting to pump her full of cum its weird, iv never had this feeling
Eli Parker
I know man, it annoys me too.
I've learned there's something you can do if you're finding the sex a bit bland or stale. You can spice that shit up anyway you like. The problem is when you get into the "absolutely no physical pleasure" aspect. There's really nothing to work with at that point.
I basically have to force myself to have sex right now and it's awful. I have to use my imagination to even get an erection with her and I NEVER cum with her. Not fun. But the best sex I've ever had was with a girl that was a hellish nightmare to even be around so I picked what would make me happy most of the time.
I get that some people get to have both but we're not all that lucky. Good luck to you. I feel how you feel.
Blake Clark
If you go soft and she has to suck you off twice to keep you hard, she knows there's something wrong.
>kind of like a mistress. that's the best way to ensure the relationship ends in a huge fight.
If you're not feeling the romance and sex obviously isn't there, just end it and get with your fuck buddy. It's painful for her now, but less painful than finding out you're sleeping around behind her back months or years later.
Blake Martin
Had kind of the same chemistry with my current gf. I think she realized it and began to make sex more interesting. She'd show up to my apartment in the middle of the night wearing a trench coat over some sexy lingerie and will beg me to fuck her ass. This kind of "jumpstarted" things in the bedroom and now I can't get enough. You should talk her into doing something really taboo that you like and see how it feels.
Have you and your best friend ever dated?
Isaac Hughes
I hope you understand that there is a 100% chance that this will end in unmitigated disaster for you. You're going to have to choose and the window for a safe exit gets smaller with each passing day.
>feel like a good friend instead of just wanting to pump her full of cum Welcome to stable relationships. If you're anything like me, it's because deep down you have some semblance of care and respect for this person and she's not just a walking fucktoy to you. In my experience this is a zero sum game. There is a wealth of difference between a fuck buddy relationship and a stable, functional relationship. This is the unfortunate price you have to pay.
Connor Mitchell
holy shit this sounds like me right now >I have to use my imagination to even get an erection with her this literally happened 1h ago with her >I feel how you feel
I get that my gf has needs and ill never allow myself to be a cuck or something like that, but as we get older im guessing we'll be less horny im already almost 30...
doesnt your sex drive start to diminish once you reach 35+?
Juan Edwards
you should take some DHEA. I began to feel my sex drive, motivation, and energy plummet at 28 and have been taking two DHEA pills ever since. It works wonders. Get it on Amazon.
Asher Adams
>stable relationships Speak for yourself I'm in a 10 year relationship and she rocks my socks so hard that she's broken porn for me. If it's not her or someone who looks just like her I won't even get a semi
Leo Price
>Have you and your best friend ever dated? we dated briefly for about a month or so then I got a gf and ditched her
we hooked up a few months after that and weve been fwb/good friends ever since
we both had relationships that lasted 2+ years and kept fucking on the side
id marry and stay with my best friend if she wasnt such a fuck up complete opposite of my gf >no prospects >no job >if she has a job, its a low salary shitty job >no education >money drain >spends all her money on drugs >steals >shes been to jail
Christopher Richardson
I'm the guy you were replying to and I'm 27 now. I can tell you that it's not constantly on my mind like it used to be, but the mood definitely still strikes me. I don't think most people completely grow out of it.
The problem is that women have the complete opposite. My girlfriend is in her early 30s and she gets hornier and kinkier with each passing year. She asks for it pretty much every single day and I'm struggling to summon the energy for it even once a month.
best thing to do is just cut it off with your gf and be with your best friend
Luis Clark
Known fact that chicks peak at 30 and guys 18 with there sexuality, i find way more chick are DTF one nighters on tinder at my current age
Jonathan Roberts
> it's because deep down... I wouldn't of had come to this conclusion but its the one that makes the most sense. and yes I dont see her like a walking fucktoy but as a good person instead.
Gavin Gonzalez
wouldn';t a multivitamin work just as well?
my multis have l-argine and zinc in them same as dhea
Angel Smith
I would but best friend isnt the best life partner
I think I might cut off my best friend actually if things keep getting serious with the gf. it'll take at least 18 months before its serious as id like it to be
Ayden Jenkins
Maybe you just like fucking "deadbeat"/scummy" type chicks it is pretty hot
Isaiah Ortiz
from previous advice, exercising and losing weight would help your situation. also not looking at porn, talking with your gf and making her do kinkier shit
Oliver Hall
nah that doesn't do much for me I noticed that I find white girls a lot more attractive than brown girls from this experience
