WHAT TO DO?

WHAT TO DO?
-21/m law graduate (in Australia law is an undergraduate degree so you finish by 21)
-never drank, smoked, taken drugs, or had a girlfriend. kissless virgin
-very few friends. asperger's syndrome (self-diagnosed)
-been rejected by over 50 girls. I can be socially normal and confident. I dont think I have any issues of being too shy.
-last valentine's day went to a brothel. long story short it was quite traumatic. i saw everyone holding hands and i just couldnt take it. so i went to a brothel. they wanted ID. I didnt have ID. so i left.
-went to a brothel just recently a few days ago. met a few girls. they introduced themselves. couldnt find the courage to have sex or do anything. paid around $200 for a back massage
-feeling like absolute shit now....

please dont tell me to get out IRL and ask more girls out. even though I have asperger's I am not super-shy. I have a job. I have qualifications. I can be fairly normal and fit in quite well if I really try to - it's just that when I don't it becomes weird.

please do not tell me to find hobbies. i have many hobbies. i play chess. i used to play halo and call of duty. i have good grades - i graduated within the top 2% of my cohort with first class honours

suicide is also not an option. drowning is too slow. jumping in front of train tracks too risky - i could survive and have horrific injuries. and im not really much of a gun person. i think guns are illegal in australia. voluntary euthenasia is also illegal

i feel that my biggest weakness is my sex drive. the plain fact is that im physically unattractive (please don't say that I should get more confidence - I've been told at job interviews and IRL that I'm over-confident). i am ugly. and yet my biological purpose is basically to reproduce - to have sex, with women. i cant do that.

okay so obviosuly im a little emotional now so i will try not to do anything rash. hopefully.

if i could press 1 button and die painlessly it would be much easier

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have you considered visiting that brothel again? Nothing too serious, but don't get just a massage the second time. Try to escalate the experience, until you're comfortable with more and more.

there is no such thing as over-confident.
be proud if you are able to be confident, most of us cant.

goto your fucking local liquour store and buy some alcohol, i suggest appelton rum and drink some rum and cokes. then be lonely and buzzed

I have considered that. I think I probably will on Valentine's Day.

The girl I was with was a 6.5 or 7/10. I mean, she was blonde, but nothing too special. I wouldn't say ugly but I wouldn't say amazing either.

There was one more girl who was more attractive but she wasn't available for another 30 minutes (probably because another client had picked her).

So yea. I really dont buy into the whole personality thing. If you are as unattractive as I am physically there is really no hope, and plus if you have a personality that is markedly different from everyone else then it makes it basically impossible

I don't think so...

Who the fuck cares, I didn't lose my V card till I was 24, after that I went on a vag rampage and have now leveled out.

Go have a wank and feel good about not having to support some crazy bitch or having your heart shattered by someone genuine but being at different places in life. Plus you can't get a tissue pregnant.

Masturbation always makes me feel better. It makes me forget, if only temporarily.

1. yes genuinely you might have aspergers.
2. try something different than what you are doing, literally try anything before you kill yourself
3. dont be an idiot and determine your level confidence on what people tell you in a job interview, thats such a dumbshit way to view something

You state your biggest weakness is sex drive, and I think that is connected to your self esteem, especially around your physical appearance. Becoming more confident with sex takes time and experience. Try something simple, but outside your comfort zone, maybe a handjob or blowjob.

You'll figure out what you like, or what you don't (that can be more important sometimes), and at the very least, you're supporting a local business.

Oh and to add to that go do drugs. You're old enough to make stupid decisions then learn from that. You either learn you like drugs or you learn you don't. In either case you gotta get high, drug, fucked up or otherwise to know.

Are you me like 7 years ago? Stop being a pussy and go get some pussy.

I accept points 1 and 2, but really I think I was a little too over-confident in that interview. I said things which would make me seem like a jackass if I said that to another human being even outside an interview context.

I can be very confident, I'm not a shy person at all; but I can also be shy as well. I'm not afraid to ask girls out and ask them for their number, or strike up a conversation.

God I wish I was you.

I remember doing a doctorate 10 years ago; undergrad semester had finished so I was desperately looking for a housemate to share the rent. In comes this gorgeous 19 year old who was fleeing an abusive relationship.

She moved in, and in the biggest rebound fuck in the world, we had sex. For my part, I was just an aspie guy that was thrilled someone was taking an interest in me. For hers, her string of abusive partners had set her standards so low that she thought she had a winner because I was capable of cooking and cleaning a kitchen.

She was pregnant in 6 months. That was 12 years and 4 kids ago. She is now 104 kg lazy judgemental bitch. She finally got her licence at 30 (!) cos I hit the roof and told her I was leaving. She's proud of the fact shes lost 5 kg and she's still morbidly obese.

Chill OP. Trust me you're not missing out on anything. Fuck women.

I have severe anxiety which is basically the same thing as asbergers and have had the same problems. What saved my life was finding a comfortable place I could go to retreat whenever I wanted...but it took a while to get to that place. Id say wait it out, find a balance you can handle. As for the girl situation maybe try having a drink or two and going to bars to meet women? Or online dating could work

your biological purpose is not to reproduce. thats a meme. biology doesnt give a fuck about you. it didnt give you a purpose.

what you have are biological urges (in the form of hormones) to have sex. stick that tiny willy in some hot bogan cunny. baby popping out is just a side effect.

drinking and drugs is low tier bullshit. if you cant have fun without them, youre not worth being around. dont even worry about that.

youre supposedly a smart guy right? ok brainiac what is your goal? to get a girl? be more specific what type? write it down. now what can you do to get that girl? write it down. then go fucking do it

if you want tips on girls: 1 they just wanna have fun. if you can make them laugh, thats all you need. 2stop being a whiney victim. girls dont like it, i dont like it and youre better off if you stop making excuses and work toward solutions. 3 dont be a boring fuck

Lol, dis nigga got bitchslapped by life.

> law graduate
> i think guns are illegal in australia.
> i graduated within the top 2% of my cohort with first class honours

wish i had your imagination

Wow.

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It's true lol. Look up all the law schools in Australia. Almost every law school in Australia accepts high school leavers and if you study law you will graduate by the time you are in your very early 20s. I did graduate with first class honours in actually in the top 1.1x% of my cohort so yes that was inaccurate... lol. I emailed the faculty and they sent me an email confirming my rank within the cohort. I dont gain anything from lying to you buddy

and youre still not sure if guns are legal or not?

They are legal but you need to get a license and that involves a very lengthy process. You also have to face random inspections or something. That's why I hesitated in saying they were legal.

I'm 19. I've never drank smoked or done drugs either. Never had a real girlfriend either, just girls who were interested in me and I was interested in as well who I hung out with. I've kissed one girl who I think I was in love with, but I'm not sure I could do it again.

It's not because I can't talk to girls. I actually can make them laugh, and I genuinely think I'm a pretty funny guy. I have some bad acne with a few scars, but if I didn't have the acne that will probably calm down a lot within the next year or two, i think i'd be pretty attractive.

My problem is a crippling, crippling anxiety revolving around sexuality. I'm not asexual, but I just can't imagine myself doing things with girls. The idea of fingering, fondling, etc. irks me at a subconscious level. I sometimes question if I'll ever lose my virginity simply because of the horrible anxiety I have about higher level sexual interactions.

I know I'm not nearly as bad as OP, but just wanted to say this so he knows he ain't alone. It happens to people with and without aspergers. I'd like to hope it'll happen sometime in my life, growing and maturing past this wall of anxiety, but at this point I'm not sure.
I've always taken comfort in that there is much more to life than sex. Of course, sex is great. And it's a great milestone. But I think you should take comfort that in the grand scheme of things, just do what makes you happy, and grow as you can. It helps.

Thanks for your contribution. (I am the OP)

okay, good enough explaination. to chip into the thread, im 23, im finishing my civil engineering masters degree and I kind of used to be like you, i mean i was a chad in highschool but didnt get laid until i was 20 or so, thats when i decided to tune down being way too confident and proud, dont do it. Its easier to tune it down than to restore it.
ive uve been dumped by 50+ girls then keep trying, seriously its not that hard to get a gf if u want one, just chill. if you are confident in yourself thats enough, if ure funny then shes already yours, if ure not just get her some gifts or flowers and alcohol. life is not that complicated girls just want to have someone they can rely on.

>i have many hobbies
>chess and video games
get a fucking real hobby that gets you outdoors and interacting with people in real life
indoor rock climbing, join a social competitive sport team.
both those hobbies are fucking shit.

on my defense, im really bad at typing cause im thinking about way too many things at once and jump between them but still dont feel dont, practice dating girl with movie nights, you spend like 30$ on a date and you can test yourself in a 1on1 situation for 3~4 hours at least. If its awkward then whatever, but at some point you will become good enough or will meet girls that have the same sense of humor as u do and you can start going on more expensive dates with those

I enjoy them though :P

OK, so fellow Aussie here, and someone that came from being aspie as fuck and now does OK for himself.

I thoroughly recommend getting pissed, Alcohol is social lubricant. Yes it's coarse and yes you should be able to have fun without it, but it also helps ease awkward social situations. Especially sexual/romantic ones, at least the first couple of times.

If you're dead keen not to drink then fine, find a social activity that will put you in contact with women. Then, and here's the key, don't fucking hit on them. Just fucking hang out, enjoy their company, you'll learn that they're people too, when you do you'll realise that picking up is just a matter of reading people and you'll probably find yourself getting hit on if you don't come off as the guy that's just there to fuck.

When you do finally get your dick wet it will be fucking guaranteed to be underwhelming, just accept it. It's like driving a car, you'll be shit at it first time.

But seriously, stop fucking worrying, literally no one is too ugly to get laid, just enjoy yourself without women and they'll be naturally drawn to you.

i see

I will be starting a job next year - very early in january - so im not sure if i would have time to play around too much

as much as i am interested in girls, being a graduate lawyer is pretty tough work and you are expected to perform if you want career advancement

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We are getting into semantics here, but yes what you have said is correct.

I've never claimed to be a smart guy. I enjoy learning new things and the fact that I have earned a law degree doesn't mean that the learning journey has come to an end.

My goal is to get a house. I want to become rich. Again, this is such an obvious goal for many law graduates. It is certainly not to get a girlfriend, but it would be extremely nice if I could.

that's crazy

Where did you retreat?

you post pretty often here, do you even get advise?
Only thing I can tell you: Life how you are doing it doesn't work out so you have to change stuff and stop with all that angst.
You want to go to a brothel? Do so for fuck's sake. What do you think how man politicians and sports stars get escorts. Our managers from VW are known to go on sex vacation in Brazil and south east asia and nobody gives a fuck and it weren't the whores who ratted them out. Hookers want to be discreet.
You are ugly ok that's shit. Confidence won't solve that but being more self conscious because of it will do you even more harm. Accept it and aim low. The only thing to get a hot gf is by starting out as friends and making her notice you would be a nice couple. Won't work.
There is never a 100% guarantee thuings will work out but try out shit god damn

>never drank, smoked, taken drugs, or had a girlfriend. kissless virgin. paid around $200 for a back massage.

Well at least you know what's wrong with you,
also nice tits. Get out more, faggot. The only thing holding you back is you not your assburgers.

Burn charcoal in your garage with the doors closed. Just lay back and fall asleep when you start to feel tired. It will be painless.

Interesting method. I've heard of that one... my biggest problem is that I can never quite muster the courage to go through with it

Just start the car in your garage and hang out awhile with all the doors closed. Maybe read a book and take a nap.

>fleeing an abusive relationship
that's where you fucked up. Abused women aren't damsels in distress you have to save. They have a warped view on men and relationships and are always looking to get themselves into new shit with men

Anal sex

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What state user?

Cincinnati

Aus law degree in US?

>claims to be lawyerfag
>doesn't know if guns are illegal where he lives

If you are in AU user I will take you infer my wing and teach you too live.