I have a problem. My first girlfriends were virgins (though I didnt do shit with them...

I have a problem. My first girlfriends were virgins (though I didnt do shit with them. it was a different time) last two weren't. With the last two, it had always been an issue. I am still a virgin and I'm glad. I'll only lose to someone who's also a virgin and with whom I get to truly love.
I've got these questions for you:
>Did you lose your virginity to a virgin? If not, how did you cope with his/her past?
>Do/Did you feel pressured into losing it?
>Would you only lose it to a virgin or not?
>Have you been with someone not virgin after losing your virginity? How do you cope with his/her past?

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1. no
2. no
3. no
4. huh?

Oh shit, I forgot one question:
>Are you a virgin or not?

1. Yes
2. Not by friends, but certainly by the "pressure" building inside my dick when I would feel her titties.
3. No but I'm glad I did.
4. No.

>yes
>no
>no
>yes. I am an adult.

I was dating a virgin after the one I lost my virginity to and I broke up with her, am now with someone who was not a virgin and am much happier because we are more compatible.

The more time that passes the less chance you have in finding a virgin, so just accept that you're gonna end up with a non virgin, do you honestly think you're gonna find someone at 25+ who is both attractive and a virgin? That being said, don't go and fall in love with the first person and get into a long term relationship with them, because you'll feel shit that they're more experienced. Go fuck some uggos on tinder or some shit and get your number up so you're on equal experience levels with the eventual 'one'

why are you glad you did?

1. No. And you cope with it by not taking yourself so seriously. The world actually doesn't revolve around you. There will be few instances where you're actually the first to do something (or someone).
2. Pressured myself because I was a late bloomer (lost virginity with 20) - seduced a girl two years older, had her take my virginity and dropped the relationship. Not a good way to do it. Would've prefered a prostitute in hindsight.
3. That's nonsense. Two virgins going at it is going to be the most awkward shitshow you'll ever see, especially when all their expectations of the act are either derived from romance novels/movies or from porn.
4. I have, I cope with it the same way I cope with it in 1.

You seem pretty fucking immature.

If I wanted to lose it atm I could. What if the "future one" thinks and feels like I do? What if the table flips?

I'm not immature. I just feel like shit when I realise how they've been fucking others in the past while I'd be "giving my v-card to them" and making them special. I guess we just have different points of view. I'd much rather not feel like shit because of this.

Well, if it's that special to you, you should probably do it with someone you love without regard of the status of her hymen. They'll be special either way, might as well make them carry the whole weight.

Because it made it something special between us. We are married now and both have only ever been with each other. This is an unpopular opinion but that's the way it's supposed to be.

After losing my virginity at 22, I thought it would be way otherworldly experience. Nah, just sex. Like jerking off, but better. She was 20 years older than me and taught me wild stuff. Was dissapointed because put pussy on the pedestal, but athe the end of the day, my world didn't like change or anything lol.

>the way it's supposed to be

yeah, but you did lose it to a virgin before. I don't think how it went for you was any bad. Quite the opposite. You've been always at the same level.

your putting way to much fucking thought into this. You have low self esteem and are insecure about people with experience (which is natural). Virginity is not special its just apart of life get rid of it and move on. If it special to you then lose it with another virgin that way your tiny ego isn't hurt further. However, upon losing it you will find its almost nothing and wonder why you cared so much about it.

I am a female. I lost my virginity to a virgin. I felt pressured, but I liked losing it to a virgin. I took three virginities after that. Two of the three guys didn't tell me they were virgins until afterwards. I felt bad, but I guess that's what they wanted.

The problem is that I still feel like shit and I feel like they are... say... dirty. Harsh word, but it is how it makes me feel. And it annoys me now that I'm feeling pressured into finding one real soon while she's still a virgin. And yes, saying this all makes me feel like shit. Glad this site is annonymous.

Is it national faggotry day? So many retarded threads today

Virginity isn't worth shit dude, honestly. It's nothing special, get rid off it and enjoy having sex.

Unless she's religious girls don't get like that. Lose it now to someone you don't like.

Holy shit. The girl in this picture looks exactly like my sister.

Damn what a sluuuuut

I can tell you're a virgin because you haven't realized how much better the dirty ones are. They're the ones who ACTUALLY enjoy sex, and have it often because they're hot enough to.

Well, looks like you're a faggot who fell for both romance movies AND porn.

No low self esteem and no big ego either

so non-virgins = dirty and spoiled for you? Dude get your bullshit christian propaganda out of your brain, fuckface

You're not that experienced if you think that's slutty. I haven't even explained what a slut I am. I have a horniness problem.

No offense, but I would hate to be any of those guys.

They all did it because they wanted to... they had fun... but okay....

At least I'm not a cuck

lol propaganda. It's just how I think and feel

even the third one?

I feel you man. Not so much on the "dirty" part unless the girl is a whore, but I agree with the idea of finding a virgin. I'm the user who said it was the way it's supposed to be btw. All these guys telling you to just ditch the virginity and get with the experienced girls because it's more fun are only enjoying a shallow imitation of what true love and good sex with the person you love is like. If all you wanna do is get you rocks off that's one thing... but you can do that yourself or with anyone and ultimately it's unfulfilling. If you want to experience real companionship and meaningful sex, wait for the right person (virgin or not, but preferably virgin if possible) and stick with her... and LOVE her, don't just fuck her.

ITT: insecurity and low self-esteem
People fuck other people. You're not special, and getting a "virgin" is no better or worse than someone who has had a partner or multiple. Get over yourself.

Why do you care? You're overly focused on an issue that has no measurable effect on your life to the point that now it's actually having a negative one because you're denying yourself one of the greatest possible pleasures you can experience with the limited time you have on Earth.

I'm not telling you to spiral into degenerate hedonism, but I promise you this overly puritan shit is going to make you miserable in the end.

I know it was sarcastic I'm just busting your ovaries chick. Horniness is only a problem if you let it run your life though honestly.

Great reply and advice. I can see by your words that you are the most experienced and well mannered. Thank you, man. Forever appreciating the help.

>Did you lose your virginity to a virgin? If not, how did you cope with his/her past?
No. I had known her for years, including when she was a virgin. If I had had game as a kid I could've been the one, but I fucked that up, so I takes what I can gets
>Do/Did you feel pressured into losing it?
Yes, but not by anyone else. I pressured myself because it's a pretty simple rite of passage. Modern males have one simple task to become a man, and if they don't do it in a timely manner then something is wrong with them.
>Would you only lose it to a virgin or not?
No. That's dumb if you're 18 or older. Normal people have had sex by then.
>Have you been with someone not virgin after losing your virginity? How do you cope with his/her past?
I'm an adult, I have sex with other adults, we all have our own past.

Especially the third one. I blew his mind. He had never had a blow job either.

Yes sir anytime I'll be here all week.

and that's probably due to your education and parents, you can still question it and come to the conclusion that it doesn't make any sense

If you are a hypersexual cock-hungry slut you are absolute wife material in my book. Let's hook up.

It already had a lot of influence in my life and it will keep having until it is fixed.

It did when I was younger. I try to stick to porn if I'm not in a relationship. I'm terrified of STDs. About 1 in every 5 people in America has genital herpes, and 90% of them don't know that they have it.

>implying that women don't lie about being virgins
I doubt anyone here can spot a real virgin.

Do you regret anything?

Yay!!!

Name?

Damn, that's like the opposite of me. Lucky him.

>I can see by your words that you are the most experienced

Oh, come on. You're seeing that because he told you what you already decided you wanted to hear. Don't come asking for advice if you aren't willing to be objective.

Lol way to just pick the one who agrees with you as the 'most experienced' and ignore all the other advice.

He's right. Wait for the right person if that's how you feel, but most of the people telling you to lose it and then look for that right person are saying so because you 100% are not going to find true love if you limit your dating pool to a tiny percent of the population that reduces every year you age.

Waiting for a virgin and finding true real companionship will likely not both be possible.

Well if you don't know you have it it must not be that bad huh??

>yes
>no
>no
>yes

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It was kind of fun. He was talking to me as a friend and explaining how hard he tried to lose it. He was 22 and I was 18. I was just like, "I'm really good at it. You should let me do it." We're still friends. He has a girlfriend.

Glad so. Sup Forums needs more smart people.

>and that's probably due to your education and parents
or maybe the lack of it

It barely shows symptoms in most people, but they can still spread it, and then the next person can have horrible horrible horrible symptoms. Like 1,000 bee stings to the clam.

He didn't act like a child and talks from experience

If virginity is that important to you, that's fine. Just realize that isn't the case for everyone; avoid looking down on/insulting people for not having the same priorities tastes as you.

You owe it to any partner to be upfront about something like this (not first date, that would be weird, but when you start getting intimate). You can't build a healthy relationship if you're constantly viewing a partner as inferior.

I lost it to a massive whore. I wanted to save my virginity for a girl who i loved also.

> work with slut super cute very tight body face average as fuck
> get drunk af with the boys down at the skatepark
> one of the other bros wants to bang her so she gets an invite
> head back to bros house drink so much i throw up and go lie down and pass out
> wake up to her on top of me kissing me and giving me a wristy
> dafuq.jpg
> taste of vomit in my mouth and she is loving it apparently
> best wristy of my life
> tell her im going to blow my load and try to make her stop but she doesnt so i shoot a giant load all over the sheets and my mates bed
> fuck fuck fuck go to find mess and there isnt any
> bitch was riding my dick and how fkn drunk i was i thought it was a handjob
> first time for me was getting as we coined the term wristy rape
> furious, kick the bitch out never talk to her again

Bitch quit the job as i told everyone what she did. Technically raped as i wouldnt give consent evet especially to a massive slut who in gr10 had already fucked 20 older guys that I knew of.

> Tldr got wtisty raped

Another friend had a land whale do that shit at a party for senior year finishing. His gf went ballistic on the beach and he was passed out drunk. Kekkles

i "supposedly" lost it to a virgin but i dont think he really was. op youre putting too much thought into this, you dont need to "cope" with your partners past.

Does his girlfriend know about it?

I'm certainly not the "most experienced". They are correct.

Not impossible either and I currently don't seem to have any other remedy to it

1, no, we fooled around when younger highschool years, after hs we did it. wish I would've in hs when we both were but whatever.
2, the urge in my dick when feeling her up I did
3, meh It it what it is
4, yes and I don't care as long as my partner is clean i.e. no stds

Oh sounds like bedbugs. We had them once and I had no bite marks whatsoever but my wife was covered in itchy sores.

I don't look down on them. Not completely. Just on this "specific topic". It is hard to explain

I regret being a late bloomer, but that's not really my fault

And, actually, yes, when I was 20 I was still kind of hung up on sexual stuff the same way that OP is, but I was having casual sex with a really sexy 22 year old. I wanted an exclusive relationship, but she wanted to keep it casual (i.e., she wanted to keep fucking all her other casual boyfriends too). We broke it off amicably because neither of us was willing to do it the way the other wanted. I regret not just getting over my own hang-ups and doing things her way. We could've had much more fun together.

How old are you?

The most common curable std and most people dont even know they have it is Trichomoniasis. Most college people who fuck a lot have it. Commonly mistaken for thrush.
1 in every 100 people have it

no, you dont deal with it, fukkem and move on
no
no
yes. WHAT IS THIS COPING WITH THEIR PAST!? IM JUST FUCKING HER

I remember being 12.

Uhuh, and I'm telling you from experience that having had sex before doesn't somehow detract from the experience when you're doing it with someone you love.

You could argue I wouldn't really know, and I could argue the other guy wouldn't really know because the situations are mutually exclusive. All I can work with is reasonable assumptions, and speaking from experience, when you're making love to someone genuinely special to you, the absolute last thing you're ever going to think about is anyone else you may or may not have fucked in your life. It's just them and you.

Again, I'm not telling you to go nuts. I'm just saying you're overly preoccupied with something that isn't worth a fraction of the energy you're putting into it.

She knows he's not a virgin. He hasn't been dating her that long. I was there when they first met. I don't know if he told her that we had sex. He probably hasn't told her, but it would be soon to talk about his sex past. They've been dating for two weeks.

Wow, that leaves me no words. How much do you regret it happening?

Exhibit A of the shallow imitation.

I don't have it! I'm just talking about those god awful pictures they showed us in health class.

Fuck sleeping with virgins. Been there done that. I want a woman that can ride a dick like a rodeo star and suck a golf ball through a garden hose. Op is underage b& MODS MODS MODS

i was a supervirgin in my mid 20's, lost it to a friend of a friend who had fucked somewhore between 10 and 20 guys. it bothered me for some reason but i didn't have a conscious problem with it, i just didn't like feeling like she had done all these things and had all these experiences that i didn't have. we dated briefly.

your best bet is to fuck someone who isn't a virgin, and keep doing that, and just make a bunch of stupid mistakes and learn from them. then at some point you'll be with someone who has fucked a million guys and that will bother you a little or it won't, because you'll be satisfied with what you've done in your past.

also, when you start doing things, you'll understand what it feels like to have used to fucked and cared about someone, and to not give a shit about them anymore, and that will help it not bother you.

17. No need to ban me, tho

In need of a feels thread, /bros.

Make me cry.

Glad you don't have it. Be careful out there. How old are you?

You would probably regret it, though

Oh man never admit that.

I lost my virginity when I was 13, to my highschool sweetheart who @ the time was 14 also a virgin. We didn't make it past 18/19 together respectively and that fucked me.


Yeah..I wouldn't of wanted to lose it to anyone else.

Current partner is younger then me by 3 years (21 now, 18 y/o gf) She's had sex with 4 other guys and at the start it put me off but I'm the one smacking her face and strangling her now so idgaf but I doubt this will last too marriage, I want to die alone.

1. No, I didn't think about it. I accepted it beforehand and moved on
2.Yes. I was 22, and i'm a guy. No explicit pressure to "get some pussy", but with every passing year there were more stories about more sex, more often. I wanted my own stories (even though i'd never actually tell them to 90% of the people sharing their own). I felt left out. Little did I know the story I would end up having would be so bad that i'd swear off until I found true companionship.
3. I wanted to, but as you get older it becomes less and less feasible/reaslistic
4. My losing-my-virginity experience was so bad, I have not had sex in the 3 years that have passed since then. But the urges are strong. While i haven't had sex, I've given/received oral, and that too, was with someone whom I did not have any companionship with, nor did I even know, and further solidified my resolve to limit myself to familial and/or intimate relationships for anything sexual.

Unless the person is astronomically attractive and I would be an idiot to pass them up.

Having more sex with her? No, I don't think I would.

Who gives a fuck if your partner has a sexual past? How fucking old are you? 14? Have some confidence.

> most girls lose their virginity to chad in middle school
> the remaining virgins lose their virginity to chad in college
> mfw i miraculously found a qt virgin but she was saving herself for chad

Plz kys

But seriously at your age you can outright ignore all this "there's no virgins left!" stuff because I promise you there are more virgins than you think out there between 16-25. Just gotta know where to look.

Making them special?? Are you a woman by any chance? It's just sex. Perhaps you should find yourself a nice man.

I can see why no one has wanted to fuck you.

This is the internet, you are 18 at all times.

It's not just "me and them". It already happened twice to me. I've felt shit in both times and didn't want to lose it with neither of them.

Maybe not, but comments like viewing them as 'dirty' would probably be seen as offensive if they new you thought of them like that.

The social context is also important. Women have historically been looked down on for not being virgins; so many people will see it as backwards/offensive to want something like that even if it is just a personal preference.

If it is something you want, be ready to build a long term relationship with the person. If they view virginity as important as you do, it is also likely that they will not see it as something 'to get rid of'. Speaking from experience; my wife and I are each other's only partners we were together 3 years before we had sex, been together 12 years now (married 2).

that's not how vaginas work you asshole

In which case you have some fucking problems. Go see someone.

Fucking fag. Do you want to lose your virginity to a broad who doesn't know shit about sex? Or an experienced professional who knows her way around a cock, can service it properly and knows how to get herself off.

You don't get an achievement for losing your vcard, but you get mocked the longer to put that shit on a pedestal.

Go Get that dick wet, boy.

She'll probably start giving you the weird looks. best of luck

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