Tell me Sup Forums

Tell me Sup Forums
Is it possible to be in love again after your gf cheated on you, didnt tell you and you find out?
Should I pretend I want to keep the relationship as nothing happened?
She said something like
>I was going to tell you, I promise

We've been together 4 years and this time it was a hard hit. I couldnt go out all this month because I had to work on a very important project. I know if I forgive her, Im taking the risk of suffering the same disgrace again and the next time she'll be sure to hide it far better.

>Inb4 being a cuckold, that will never be an exit for me.

If she cheated once she'll cheat again.

Virgin whos never had a gf here
I dont know

Truth

No, it's over, magic is gone.

This. Find a girl to bang right before she comes home from work or home w/e and as she opens the door and witnesses you balls deep say
"I was going to tell you, I promise"

Thats what I fear the most, but I also fear being alone again.
Im not even angry, Im so disapointed, I cant trust her anymore. I tried to get over it but I cant help thinking everything all the time.

>We've been together 4 years and this time it was a hard hit.
>4 years and this time it was a hard hit.
>this time it was a hard hit.
>this time.
So she has cheated on you before? And what makes you think she wouldn't do it a 3rd time?
As hard as you might think it would be being alone, it was be harder to always have that little voice in the back of your head always putting doubt into your mind, Is she cheating on you again? What if she is just using you? What if she is going to dump you tomorrow?

save yourself those doubts and just leave her, it will be tough for a month or two but after that you will be stronger than you were before.

Moving on is hard but dating a person who cheats on you is harder. "I was going to tell you, I promise." is not an excuse or an apology.

dump that bitch op and distract yourself with work.

Its also almost impossible to watch porn or have sex as it reminds me every damn time to the cheating. Even when she admitted it while crying Im not really sure about that.

So yes, I think I should break up with her, its not going to be like before anymore.

Nah, its the first time (I think, you cant ever know with girls, they lie to you so easily, like drinking a glass of water). But yes, Im thinking the same, it would never be the same.

I have to stay at home most of the time -working as freelance- so Im in front of the computer and even spending saturdays. She doesnt really like all that and ends up going out with her fem. friend or having dinner outside. I was never the jealous type of guy but Im not stupid.

The trust is gone now. It doesnt really matter if she actually cheats on you or does not. The problem is that you can not and will not fully trust her ever again. So, next time that the coffe she is having with her friends lasts for 30 more min than anticipated, you will be tortured inside, thinking, is she fucking someone else again again again?!
Get a new relationship OP.

has anyone got more of this girl?

If you forgive her and let her inside your bed again, you are giving her a white flag for cheating you all over again. And guess what? It will be worse.
Because she knows you dont care, you are giving her your trust and she is taking it and smashing it directly to the floor.

As hard as it may sound, dump her, its better to be alone, there are other better girls.

Never go back. Then she has power over you because you need the relationship more than she does.

Thanks, thats what Im thinkin user, now everytime she is arriving late, or doesnt answer a message or anything I will be suspecting of her.
And Im the kind of guy who cant work or do anything under that pressure.

Im already 32yo so I thought this girl could be the one after so many failed others, but I guess its better to open my eyes and face the truth.

Pic related, have some more, even I dont really care about porn anymore.

please feel free to post more for Sup Forumsros that do care

Im 31 myself. Mate, you will find someone else, I guarantee it. Dont let your fear stop you from having a good relationship.
Fight for your happiness man!

She is from an old set, I dont have it all. Follow this path :
Autentic Set Elin from sweden, there are 295 different pics but I cant find the full set anymore.

Thank you user, I think the best its to break up and start a new life. I dont believe it would be a great idea to continue being with her after all this, who knows what would happen in the future.

I should pursue my projects and building a future and work instead of breaking my mind with this kind of issues.

mate, one LAST piece of advice for you. DO NOT FUCK HER, as in litteraly, DO NOT HAVE ANY MORE SEX WITH HER, TRUST ME ON THIS ONE, if you are horny, just wank, DO NOT ROLL THE DICE ON GETTING HER PREGNANT.

(OP)
Sure you could love her, but does she really love you? I think the answer is no man. Don't keep the relationship, it's a poisoned chalice, make sure you're the one that ends it as it'll keep your head straight in the weeks to come.

"I couldnt go out at all this month because...." DO NOT blame yourself mate, this is her fuck up not yours.

Take the hit, gather the experience, learn the lessons and move on to better things.

OP again, Im actually surprised about you, Sup Forums. I was expecting a cuckold thread, beta male, you deserve that, post pictures, and all the shit that you can expect here but hey, I was wrong.

Thank you for all the replies, I somehow knew what to do, but I wanted some user comments and opinions. Its going to be hard after 4 years but I think it will be for the best.

Gotta do watcha gotta do. Just try to remember. -you- arent the one who threw away those 4 years. She is.

I honestly think advice Sup Forums gives gets worse during the day and better during the night. That's what seems to be the case, from what I can tell at least. Maybe the night crowd is just a more chill bunch. Maybe it has to do with some country or another being mostly asleep, I don't know.

I don't agree with the people that say that she'll do it again.
As someone who has been cheated on before and stayed, I suggest you leave.
The distrust is not worth it.

You can never trust her again.

Get a good hatefuck going though.
Facefuck her before leaving.

Think about it as an opportunity.
You have no obligation to her anymore. If you like her, stay with her, fuck her good and enjoy every moment. Be selfish as she was.

I bet if she sees you being careless, she starts to worry and fight for you. And sex will be good when the only thing matters is to fuck the brains out of a cheating whore.

it's entirely possible to love someone who cheated on you still. But relationships also need trust. It will be a long time before you feel you can trust her again.

Is it worth trying to work through the trust issue she's created? you have to decide.

well, time is better spent recovering from the relationship rather than rebuilding it. at least then you can work on finding someone who meets all your wants and needs, ect. but also cares about you, and if shed do it once shed do it again if she hasnt already done it. women do some skandelous shit b

OP dont fall for it. Even if you love her a lot. I was in your same spot. Forgive her and tried to go on. Six years on our back and guess what happened.

She was staying at her parents home, came to my place, fucked like our best time. Next thing she did, was to disappear. Didnt answer my calls, texts, anything. From time to time every 48 hours she told me
>Im the same, I didnt change! I did nothing wrong! you can keep doing your stuff as always, we can keep seeing each other!

10 days after that, she changed her profile picture on whatsapp with another dude, hugging together in her bedroom.

She didnt want to meet, give an explanation, take a drink, nothing. 6 years and she did that.

Run away now you can.

I know even my case could be a lot worse if I was married or with kids, but hey.. its still pretty fucked up.

Besides her cheating on me, she also lied sometimes, she is too jealous and kinda bipolar. I always treated her so well and tried to give my best. I guess its her payment, some people never change.
Everytime she did something wrong it was always my fault, she got angry at me with no reason. I need time for me too.

Thats pretty fucked up mate, big hug and hope to get well. Woman find everything so easy, even if they are chubby/fat/ugly/skinny,older or younger it doesnt matter, they will always get men around. ALWAYS.
But for us, its so much harder, you cant keep being the same guy you were in your 20s.

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We still want the pics.

You need to ask yourself a few questions and give it a lot of thought.

If you believe she was going to tell you and stay, will it happen again?

Will it ever be the same?

Has she cheated more than once?

Will it ever be the same?

Can you be happier with someone else?

Will it
ever be
the same?

Pretty much this. Cheating the first time is by far harder than the second time. It will happen again and you will not know

fat ankles... make her agree to do some ATM, tear her up and hatefuck her then dump her whore-ass.

True love is only possible once you realize that true monogamy is never possible