Me and my gf have been together for about 6 months now and we fuck quite often, but its never her asking. Its not like i'm bad at sex either, i eat pussy like a mad cunt and she can usually hardly catch her breath by the time we're done.
It kind of gets on my nerves tbh it'd be nice for a change for her to take charge and surprise me once in a while, but its always me doing shit to get her in the mood.
Jaxson Roberts
shes fucking someone else bro
Luis Sanchez
Don't ask Sup Forums my man, ask her.
Don't be nervous about it, she'll appreciate the honesty.
Grayson Collins
This is normal OP, married fag of 14 years here
Brayden Reyes
girls like to be dominated., she wants you to not ask, but to tell her when to spread her ass to you. so yes, it's normal unless she is a slut.
Julian Thomas
So sorry OP, but this is how youll start to lose interest in her... Happened to me. In her head she loves you initiating it but is too blind to see that you want her to let you know or show you by engaging you.
Connor Hall
>Don't ask Sup Forums my man, ask her. I get what your saying, but i Sup Forums is a good place to ask about shit like this. You filter out the idiots and the trolls and you end up with honest no bullshit answers.
thought that might be the case, darn.
doubt she's a slut, very shy type
Jonathan Bell
Don't listen to these morons. There's a ton of reasons she doesn't initiate, just talk to her. Tell her you like it when women initiate things.
Mason Roberts
normal, if she's not declining you sex then you've got nothing to worry, if she didnt want it, she would simply refuse you
Alexander Sanders
I've told her multiple times, still never picks up on hints that i'm horny or does anything spontaneous.
good point, she's only ever said no once and that was because she hadn't slept the night before and was to tired, which is fair enough
Jason Carter
I had this problem too My gf rarely asked or initiated sex, but always wanted sex. Then she would get pissed or insecure if we didn't have sex for a while One time she complained that we hadn't had much sex in the recent weeks, so I told her how I got tired of always being the one to ask for it Since then she has been initiating sex more and we have been having sex more frequently
>TL;DR tell her it's bothering you and things will probably get better
Thomas Parker
thanks, i'm suprised, this has been really helpful Sup Forums i was expecting mostly shitposting and if i was lucky one or two helpful posts but this threads been really insightful
Gavin Hernandez
(you) have the same 'issue' with my gf, wwe tlaked and she cleared out this to me: womens dont think about sex as much as men, they also need to be in a mood, thats why you need this all romantic bullshit, like flowers, cinema etc, take her out for a proper date, drink some good wine afer at home and she would jump on you by herself
Its simply: for men sex is mostly physical pleasure, for women its more mental, they need to feel love etc. Of course if they're not sluts
Jason Howard
I dated a girl who was the opposite
She initiated everything all the time, we shagged minimum thrice a day but holy fuck it was like fucking a plank
I dumped her, dated her 2 years later, still same shit so i dumped her again
We had good relational chemistry but i fucking hated the fact she was a fashion victim and always wanted to take stupid pics to post on Instagram
Nathaniel Cox
She probably is with you for convenience.
Try not initiating sex at all for 2 weeks.. if she doesn't pull you into the bedroom by then, she's not sexually attracted to you, but to your resources.
Michael Peterson
yes it is
that's why ducks are superior to women
Owen Perez
Women use sex to get things, they understand, even if they're not consciously aware, that sex has a market value, and it's more valuable if you're the one who has to seek it.
Ever heard of lesbian bed-death? A lot of lesbo couples never have sex, not because they don't want it, but because they're wired to seduce their partner into initiating, and they're both holding out for the other to become the demander, so that they can be the supplier, and determine the price.
Jordan Bailey
Some women just need the hint, other may just never do it because reasons.
Hope you don't let that get to you too much, but be a shame if things went downhill bc of that. On the other hand, if this is a deal breaker to you, act accordingly, but you'll figure it out, user
Hudson Price
Thats why you stop having sex or initiating when the girl tries to use sex as a negotiation tool. You pretend you can get it anywhere else.. If you fall for that, she'll use it all the time
Cameron Brown
Better to ask the lady fam. It's her you're asking about, and no one knows her better than she
Angel Hall
same shit happens with me and my gf. at this point ive lost interest in the bitch. shes put me through too much shit and i cba to apologize for nothing anymore. im slowly getting my stuff back and then gonna break up with her. i tried starving her of sex but she really didnt seem to care. i cba with her now.
Logan White
maybe she is shy. You could both sign a written contract, that each of you has to engage sexual activities twice/thrice a week. You could also agree on documenting the initiations by a form which has to be signed and co signed by each of you. This form could look like: DATE: PLACE OF ENGAGEMENT: INTIATED BY: DURATION OF SEXUAL INTERCOURSE: PLACE OF SIGNING: DATE OF SIGNING: CO-SIGNING: WHITNESS (OPTIONAL):
Julian Hill
Why the fuck don't you just talk with her?
John Gray
>very shy type >she dosnt ask for sex you now see why? if you still dont feel good about it, ask her, its good for your sexlife to talk about it
Caleb Parker
I'd say she's just a type of person that doesn't ask.
Girls are like anyone, some have a high sex drive, some have low. And some have different ways to express it.
In my couple, sometimes it's me initiating, sometimes it's her. Mostly me though cause I have a higher drive. But sometimes I'm just lazy as fuck and she climbs on me like "commee oonnnnnn" and I'm like "HHmmmm okkkkk..." and then bam I'm ignited.
So I'd say it's just a random trait of her personnality to not have her ass on fire but to respond normally when you arouse her.
This, or she's SO SHY she doesn't wanna look "slutty" even to you.
But I'd go for the first theory.
And no, it doesn't instantly mean she's fucking someone else.
Connor Williams
Wow, I'm glad I don't have to treat my girld like a fucking princess snowflake every other day just to get in her pants.
I mean, she isn't as horny as a man, but damn, a good kissing, titty fondling, pussy rubbing and it's ON.
Must be so annoying to have to spend all this energy just to have a fuck session.
Fucking american snowflakes girl man lol
Jace Bell
Either shy or selfish, by your description i'm leaning towards selfish. Even a shy girl will try to please her man, the selfish just stay there getting off and not giving a fuck if her partner get's off.
I'd start looking for options if i were you. Also in my experience the "talking it over" has limited results.
Kevin Brooks
this is the classic /b virgin answer
Gavin Stewart
Well she doesn't think much about sex with you, that's for sure..
Love when people are always looking for emotional cushions, just try more women, you'll see it doesn't works like that.
Grayson Martinez
Try this:
start kissing, touch her parts, clothes on, make her breath start to change, them stop go get a water or something...very natural.
Make many attempts, leave her blue balled, untill she begs for it.
Trust me, i dont have a gf
Noah Hall
>WHITNESS (OPTIONAL): NOT OK
Levi Smith
my ex was alike. i asked her few times why she isnt doint anything to start fucking and she always answered that its a mans job to initiate. can you believe? probably she thought that sex for pleasure is only a men desire, she dont need it but occasionally will do it for me to keep me at her.
also i kinda often asked my ex if she is in mood for fun to which she sometimes replied do i need to ask. so, the next time i just started to caress her tits and pussy. she was just laying like a fucking piece of wood, and when i sticked my cock inside her she then said that I even didnt ask if she wants it... >WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU >womanbrainlogicerrorimmadatyoucauseyourright.jpg i fucked her anyway but she was mad whole next day...
Christian Howard
>i fucked her anyway but she was mad whole next day... kek
Bentley Fisher
A real catch right there. Why did you even marry a fish like that.
Austin Williams
lol damn dude
Ian James
Once you give off the slightest vibe you R upset the whole thing is ruin
David Martinez
I agree, but I don't believe it's just all the materialistic stuff unless you're boring as fuck.
Jayden Murphy
seems legit
>womens dont think about sex as much as men i don't think any statistic on this is true or accurately measurable at all. >they also need to be in a mood you could say this about any individual. even if one isn't in "a mood" they can become in "a mood" under the right circumstances. >thats why you need all this romantic bullshit yes and no. a lot of that is because of a brainwashing fantasy they've had in their heads since childhood. another reason is because of social situations and approvals.
>Its simply: for men sex is mostly physical pleasure, for women its more mental, they need to feel love etc. Of course if they're not sluts bullshit baby boomer thinking.
Gabriel Brown
who said i married her? she was only my gf, dumped her last year because i was tired of her bullshit
Kayden Rivera
reminds me of an ex i had. real fucking problem if you want these kinds of girls for LTR unless you wanna spend the rest of your life competing with male strangers she sneaks peeks at.
Zachary Nguyen
>"is it normal" half the time if you have to ask, it is never normal >chicks never ask for sex depends on the chick for frequency but about 99.9% of chicks will ask for sex >"its not like im bad at sex" you probably are
she prob cheatin bro, if she aint asking, then youre not her first choice
Eli Parker
interesting angle. i don't necessarily agree with this though. i say op should go along with something like this, but not change anything else. if she gets all whiny and acts like she isn't attractive anymore, she is pulling your chain op, and that is a wake up call to leave her.
Dominic Adams
Sex isn't constantly in a girls mind, even if you become horny it's beyond easy to suppress the urge. I really don't believe majority of girls are even bothered about sex that much, even if they do enjoy it at the time. A good 50% of the time she's just doing it for you, but she'll never admit that of course.
Charles Murphy
Bro, my girl rarely asks for it unless she's just coming off her period. Then she basically begs for it...
Gabriel Thompson
who are we kidding Sup Forumsro, no matter what we say youre not gonna listen, so good luck with some bitch using you, till she gets bored and dumps you
Sebastian Wood
hahahahah
Joseph Miller
Don't be an autist about it. Tell her you'd enjoy her starting it once in a while and that it would make you feel good. If you get her flowers or some shit once in a while, she could find a way to tell you she wants to be fucked.
It's not rocket surgery
Juan Kelly
Mate every girl is different. Especially once they settle in. You gotta keep it fresh and exciting. Its true what they say women mainly have sex with their mind, if theres no sexual build up or situation it'll be harder yo get her horny
Take out on dates or bush walks and fuck her in the wilderness or something everyday basic same can get a bit stale and a woman will settle in. So just do more shit to keep her excited and the excitement will lead to horniness
Joseph Barnes
>tfw grillfriend has higher sex drive than me
Dylan Perez
this
Elijah Sanders
the shy girls are the freakiest man trust me. shes probably embarrassed about how crazy she is. she wants to not seem slutty to you.
William Wood
>Is it normal for chicks to never ask for sex? Some girls, yeah. I was with a girl for 4 years who never initiated sex. I was fine with it because I'm naturally dominant but it's not out of the ordinary. Talk to her about it. The best part of being in a relationship is working out what gets you both off.
John Martin
Just fuck her till her mind brakes. When i banged my gf for the first time. I made a lot of crazy shit 5 nights straight. Then she started to just beg for it. The thing is.... i want to know how does it feels when you do anal. I mean it should me tight right? But how about the girl? She will feel good or not?
Zachary Thompson
>you get sex without asking
whats your problem? go back to r9k fucking pleb
Owen Davis
Women want romance more than sex whereas men want sex more than romance. You say she doesn't initiate sex but when was the last time you did something romantic for her?
Do something very romantic for her and she will probably reward you with sex
Jackson Myers
Believe me user ur lucky.
My gf often asks for sex and it can be so awkward when I'm not in the mood, she wants it way more often than I do. She once almost broke up with me actually because I just wanted to chill instead and watch a movie maybe but fuck it's hard physical work.
Sebastian Lee
Just read this
Jace Richardson
:/ isn't a good place to ask by this question. There is a lot of things we don't know.... Ask her to be honest & ask her.
This could be a she is just submissive and like it, you have more Sex drive than her, maybe she faking with you... Could even be she's to stressed to think about it or she's looking for / has a guy on the side.... Only she knows.
Julian Flores
Ive only turned down sex twice in my life, and it was 2 different Women.
They absolutely cannot handle rejection, they buy wholeheartedly into the "Men want sex 24/7 and are just barely in control of their primal urges". So when you say "No" to sex, they don't understand. They take it as a personal insult or begin wondering whats wrong with them that made you say no.
First Woman went absolutely psycho and started a screaming match.