I just got a new GF and she is relatively pretty and I actually have feelings for her

I just got a new GF and she is relatively pretty and I actually have feelings for her.

now to my problem. whenever I'm about to get it on with a chick that isnt below my league, I have difficuilties performing because I actuallly care wether or not she likes it. my last pretty girlfriend broke up with me, because I couldnt get it up the first time we were gonna have sex (didnt outright say it, but she broke up just the morning after)

I really dont want that to happen again and eventuelly settle for a slag cause time is running out and I eventually want children.

what do?

get a boner before you initiate sex?

going back to the case last time, I had one when I started but lost it when I couldnt get it in cause she was all tense and never went past medium wetness.
there was no bringing it back after

user If you're that nervous just use viagra, or remeber to use your mouth and fingers as a distraction

its just a mind game man. Ive been there. have you tried dom / sub stuff? if youre dominant it can make you feel like the more important one, that she should be pleasing. just try it out. not too hardcore the first few times

try using viagra or cealis

already thought of that cause it seemed like the only reliable choice, where I live im pretty sure they're prescription only though and I dont think I'd get a prescription as a 23 year old

we're blessed to always have orgasm and people are shit like this
just think how her hot pussy will feel like especially if she's above average and you'll get a hard on

Then get a prescription. You'd be surprised how easy it is to get viagra. Just tell you're doc there's nothing wrong with you; you just can't get it up when you want for whatever reason

what if I told him the actual story like I just did. is that enough to get one you think?

Don't have children or sex

I have pretty much the opposite problem when I fuck when I'm nervous I just can't cum I'm fucking diamonds trying and trying to pump the bitch full but I can't when I just get too tried I just give up and just finish myself off I just want to bust a large fucking nut inside

You should try and not date girls that are stupid enough to break up with you for sex.

As long as she wants you, she doesn't care. The girl you were with before didn't even see you as a person, so the quickest fix is to not be stupid and date girls that don't have an IQ below 90.

have you tried not being a faggot?

we're exact opposites then, that's what I get when I fuck chicks im not attracted to. they don't take that too well either though

>stupid enough to break up with you for sex.
I feel like her problem was not getting no sex, but feeling rejected from me not being able to perform

no fap february.

do it. you'll be hard even before she gets in the room.

at least don't fap for a week.

>bitch
>nut
You're a piece of shit human being

she was an empty piece of shit, dicks don't have on/off switches like a fucking light bulb

Good advice.

was thinking about that too, maybe fap only once or twice a week and without porn. I rather pump her full with cum after only 5 humps rather than have a soft noodle

Possibly. Don't form a reliance on it though. It's just sex nbd; don't think about it and have fun with it. She'll like it regardless. She didn't choose you because of sex anyway.

>>bitch
>>nut
>You're a piece of shit human being

>she was an empty piece of shit

lol shit calling the toilet ceramic white

This will help. Less fapping equals more raging boners.

Ye

Just tell her you're nervous because you think she's so pretty. She'll love that, probably be really patient because you said so too.

best say that before it happens right? so she's prepared and it doesnt sound like an excuse

I went on a train trip last year and wasn't able to fap for about 4 days. Every single girl got me hard, even ugly ones.

and the hot girls made me actually try and approach. something I'd be much more nervous about.

I really should do a no fap again.

Tell her you watch too much porn and so real life girls are kind of a boner kill

I was once on a 7 day comaping trip with no fapping and eventually wanted to fuck a girl printed on a billboard

tell her to pull her pants down slowly and bend over so her pussy is right in your face.

the visual should help you

I said that and my girl though that I wasn't attracted to her and was all like yeah I don't think this is going to go very far if you don't see me that way

slow down on your wanking faggot

Have you tried being not a beta cuck?

Dude, there is an /adv/ board, but okay:

There is no quick fix. This is a kind of performance anxiety and it is a *very* common problem.

You will overcome it by doing what you can to reduce the pressure you put on yourself to perform. You will be able to get hard when you don't care so much whether you can get hard.

This isn't easy to do, right? I suffered from this myself, user, and there were multiple times that I could have lost my virginity but didn't because I couldn't get it up. In the end I'm kind of glad things went the way they did, because when I did lose my virginity it was with someone I was in love with, and the other girls were just bar hookups (or rather, bar hookup misfires) who I'm glad I won't remember for the rest of my life as my first.

I was finally able to get hard with a girl when I was able to trust that she wouldn't judge me if I had trouble performing, and because *I* stopped judging *myself* over my performance.

Instead, I focused on having fun and making *her* feel good. What mattered to me was that I had a good time and that she had a good time. That absolutely can happen without penetration. Also, sex is inherently funny. It's honestly ridiculous. If you have sex and from start to finish, never laugh once, I think you're doing it wrong. Being goofy and acknowledging what you're doing is funny goes a long way toward relaxing. It's impossible to laugh and be afraid at the same time.

tldr:
You are extremely normal. You experience is extremely common. Be patient with yourself. You'll be fine. I'm not worried about you.

Try to get her off first before you even pull your pants down. That way, if you can't get it up, she won't care as much.

this how i ended up fucking whores all the time.
I cant get off unless I have zero respect for the girl im fucking.

Yeah maybe in the build up to the moment, don't just drop it randomly kek

Good advice. If you are having issue getting or keeping it up, go muff diving and let her noises get your pecker hard again.

I'm kinda that far already, but I really want to get out of it before I'm ultimately there

Well said

Go to parent's house for dinner and steal/ask your dad for some. Every dude over 50 has cialis.

my dad died three years ago

DONT HAVE SEX TILL YOURE CLOSER.
youre simply too scared/worried. So just dont have sex straight away. If you can just do other stuff first. Once you know each other and trust each other you wont be so worried and youll laugh at your performance anxiety

Well there are pluses and minuses like anything
on the plus side i literally can have sex whenever I desire.
On the minus side you aren't going to take a whore to the company picnic (though i have to the xmas party a few times)

Exactly. By the time you get her off, you'll be much more comfortable knowing that's she's already happy and it'll be your turn.

buy them on the internet idiot. Been doing that past couple years myself. Plus after you mash good the first few times you wont need them anymore. Shit from india and take about 2 weeks to arrive. Work great. I get Kamagra Oral Jelly personally but you can get viagra cialis or whatever looks good to you.

that all seemed kinda shady to me and if I'm gettting it atall, I'd rather get a prescription

What site would you recommend for ordering?

Literally comes in the same pharmaceutical box and packaging same as you would get from a prescription. First few times I paid for tracking, was extra. Never did again. Always arrives in plain brown package. discreet. Try it don't be a bitch.

where do you order then?

I shop the prices. Only order once a year or so because don't use or need often. They all come from the same place really its just different sites selling the same thing. google "viagra online" or "kamagra oral jelly" and check them all out.

looks like kamagra oral jelly . me is ok
so is pharma express rx . com

Yeah, there are hundreds of sites that offer to sell this stuff. I just want the domain name of a company that actually fills the order, and uses legit medication.

V I A G R A
enjoy

I had the "get really hard but can't blow my load" problem for several years. For some reason after starting using a fleshlight for fapping, getting myself to blow got a lot easier during the real thing. I think getting yourself comfortable is a bit different for everyone one way or another.

I'll check my throw away email I used and see if I find the exact site I used

Set up a prepaid credit card and DONT give them your real phone number or they will be harassing you for 'refills' for the rest of your life. I get about 1 call a week from 'Canadian Pharmacy' trying to sell me some Diclofenac (not related). Fucking indian bunch of cunts

Cool, thanks Sup Forumsro

looks like last time I ordered the site was rx-z . com

They don't appear to be active any longer. But I'm telling you I've ordered 3 times from 3 different websites and its all the same. here is the email I was sent. The website used to track the package is different from where you order.

Ah, thanks for looking that up for us.

This one looks fine. They all have the same layout just a different website. I'm convinced they are all just second hand websites and your order will come from the main factory or whatever regardless. Just find the cheapest price.

lmao, the guy looks so embarrassed and the girl has his face just shaved

>to laugh and be afraid at the same time.
I'm just imagining the Joker asking you if you still believe that twenty minutes in...

lol but yea just like other user said, give a fake phone number 100% or they will call you from india asking if you want refills. They don't need your number to ship to you.

This. Hard but it works

Same sort of boat OP, my girlfriend does stuff to me and it's great but I never cum. I think she's starting to take it personally, but really I know she doesn't like cum and it's all I can think about the closer I get.

Sounds like she needs exposure therapy.

I was traveling alone and staying with others (summer activities I got to do) and I couldn't fap for two weeks felt amazing mind was clear but the slightest thought of a girl or sex made me diamonds hell my dick rubbing on my underwear almost made me wanna cum once I got home I let it go and haven't got back to no fap that long