I need some advice Sup Forums

I need some advice Sup Forums

I have been with a chick for 2.5 years. She was fat, and now she's just inbetween that and chubby. Honestly I never had any moments where I was like "wow my girlfriend is hot."

I was kind of pressured into the relationship...I stuck with it because I really fell in love with her...and we gave our virginities to eachother.

For almost 2 years I was happy...

Now another half a year in, I still love her to death, and I want only the best for her. I fixed her life from shambles and she is getting somewhere now and if I leave it will destroy her. She is very dependent on me and literally begs me to marry her every day, and she is genuine. I firmly believe that I am literally the one for her...but she is not the one for me.

I find myself fantasizing about all these other women I could get with, and I really really want to leave, but the thought of breaking her heart and destroying her like this, and separating our families is just terrible...

TL;DR I used to love this chick, she still loves me, I want to break up, but I feel like I'm going to kill her if I do...how do I muster up the courage to do it?

Quit being a coward. You're not doing her any favors, just wasting her time.

Don't be a dick just break up with her and let her find someone new

It's less than 2 weeks from valentines day too, do you break up just before the day or after? I don't know how this shit works, like I don't want to ruin the holiday for her forever.

Just be honest with her

Oh also, we live together still...and our lease still has another 2 months on it...

You know her the most, does she gove a fuck about valentines day? If so, I would wait a month and be honest after that if you still feel the same

It's two years, and you have a life ahead of you. Don't let one person make you unhappy.

Yeah she's super excited, she has plans and everything
And I've been feeling like this for a couple months now actually

Yeah be honest. It may take a couple break up attempts but she can't keep you forever if she knows she's making you in happy. I've done the same with my ex and she's accepted the break up and I did not let her talk me back in to it the third time

Let's see a pic of this land whale OP

I might post her tits for shits and giggles too I guess.

She might be fat but she has pretty nice tits

Break up when the lease expires. It sucks but if you don't do it you'll likely regret it later

I was in a situation like yours once. I married her. She made me miserable. Then she decided she was finished making me miserable and left me while taking half my stuff. Don't be a fool. You know what to do.

This.

Aren't you afraid of feeling alone after breaking up?

I guess im kinda in the same situation here, also 2 yrs together, she loves me more than i love her. She expects more from me than i from her. for me it feels 50/50 for breaking up. I'm not really happy now but im afraid i will be less happy after breaking up.

Yea a diamond ring wont fix shit, do what you gotta do OP

No honestly. I'm kind of devoid of emotion except for guilt. Guilt hits me bad sometimes. This girl literally would do ANYTHING for me. She would take me over her family, and she wants nothing but me. She tells me every day.

But I honestly just want to smash some hotter bitches and enjoy the single life again

Please

>I find myself fantasizing about all of these other women I could get with

But would they get with you?

Also if you want to break up, then do it. No point in being in a relationship if the one person doesn't want to be in one.

Stop worrying about other people's happiness, it's not your job to make other people happy. Faggot.

hard to conclude but if the only reason for not breaking up is feeling guilty, then the relationship is shit. and the same counts for me aswell

Yeah actually, there's a 9/10 Puerto Rican chick with a grade A personality who wants to chill with me Sunday night

She acts like it would be a big deal but I can guarantee you she already has a backup in case you dump her. Every girls has one. It won't even take a week before she's with another guy.

See if you can get her to open up to a 3some with another guy, Get her fucking other dudes with your blessing and it is very likely she will wake up to the realization there's more dick to be had out in the world, just like you realized there's other pussy.

Nope...we have access to eachother's phones, and are very open with eachother. She has never so much as even wanted anyone but me. It sounds how to believe but I am not naive, she really just loves the fuck out of me and just me.

lol I have talked about that with her before. She hates the idea of 2 dicks. She is willing, however, for a F F M threesome.
Funny thing is actually she told me if I ever break up with her she'd go lesbian

no point in marrying someone you dont wanna marry m8

Also, here's her tits for all the replies I guess

Then you just gotta be straight with her, and don't feel guilty for breaking her heart.

>I still love her to death
>I used to love this chick

I think you don't even know what you want yourself. So she was the girl you lost your virginity to. That's rarely the one you will marry. No shame in that, but the first decision one makes in a usually young age is not necessarily a good one. Ask yourself:
Are you unhappy because you think you are missing out on fucking around and being young?
DO you still love her?
Is this just a phase coming from the fact you only ever fucked one other girl?

If you really don't love her, do both of you the favor and end this relationship. If you do love her, leave her, fuck around for a while and maybe notice that shit isn't very fulfilling you probably will regret your decision.

On the other hand chances are you will meet someone that fits better with you, there are so many goddamn people, if you wait and are carefully on the lookout probability will work in your favor.

Dude I am literally you but 12 years in the future. Fell for this girl super hard like love at first sight. But the weird thing is she's not particularly attractive. Now she's overweight, poor hygiene (for a girl at least) and just plain. But she wants marriage and kids and I've been too much of a pussy to leave.

Now her parents constantly ask me when I'll pop the question etc etc. We haven't had sex in about 7 years and then before that she's so frigid and scared of sex we only did it a handful of times and she always had to stop because she started feeling to embarrassed. I'm nearly 31 and I've never cum inside a girl - I'm practically a fucking virgin.

My gf is also an only child with no cousins or relatives under the age of 60 so my efforts not to get her pregnant (which in my case would need a miracle - even if she wanted to fuck I don't think I could stomach the thought of her) will literally end her entire family name and bloodline. That sounds ridiculous but it's true - I've ended her family.

I recently got through cancer and might need chemo soon - I'm hoping I do because it leaves me infertile so I won't have to make any more excuses to her family asking us when we're going to have kids. Just need to find a reason not to take the sperm bank route.

tl;dr - OP BREAK THE FUCK UP WITH THIS GIRL BEFORE YOUR LIFE BECOMES A LIVING NIGHTMARE.

Jesus that sounds terrible...at the very least my current gf is OBSESSED with fucking like every day. I just don't like seeing her belly...or her thighs too much

OP, pussy is pussy. I don't mean anatomically, i mean that at the end of the day, sex is just a small part of a relationship. If you aren't content now, its not going to get better. Just break up with her and see where life takes you.

Just break up with her. I'm in the almost same situation except I've been with mine for 8 fucking years, and each year it gets a little bit more miserable

I guess you just have to acknowledge that it won't get better over time, and the longer you wait the more it'll hurt her when you end it. It'll suck, but breaking up is the right thing to do.

And no, it won't literally kill her. She'll be better off after a while.

I haven't read anyone's comments here, but just want to say I went through almost the exact same thing. I helped her out and she really needed me but I ended up losing that "flame" for her. I really know how you feel.
Haven't got much advice except just do it.

its normal, the longer you're together the more you see her as a person living with you than a lover
i doubt there's many people that still are as passionate after years than they were in the first months. Its life, 20years married

I just feel like every time I want to say it to her all she does it smile at me, and she is adorable, not sexy or anything, but adorable. She just looks at me like I'm her reason for living and hugs me and does whatever for me. She does the sweetest things before I can open my mouth. It makes it feel impossible

the most honest thing i can say to you is that you may be happier staying with her. I had an awesome wife, of 15 years, and that nagging grass is always greener shit on my mind. Now I miss her, (were divorced about 18 months now) I could have worked on the shit that bothered me and we would be happy together. First things first, try to make it work you got 2 months to see if you would be happier or not, but you have no kids, arent married, and theres nothing holding you back. Seriously think about leaving a girl that really really loves you. Its not too bad when you get to the second kind of love, after the infatuation peroid. Hope you read this

Oh top of everything everyone is adding, if she loses weight, those titties are going to sag so damn much.. So there's that

I did read, thanks for the reply

Yeah man, those are nice boobs too. You never know, she may get hotter with age, you could express your concerns, (dont tell her everything without a counselor... its dangerous ground) I am coming out of the funk, my wife was never happy either, but 15 years, and then it was over. Like I said, may stay may leave. Gotta think very carefully. I cant hear a song or anything without a pang of sadness, but Im moving on. Good luck

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All I read was me, me, me. Maybe she got you as a safety net OP. Get over yourself.

You just have a gross misunderstanding of the situation is all.

Congrats on letting this drag out for 2.5 years

everyone is responsible for their own self esteem, user. someone being so addicted and dependant on you is a sign they're not whole as a person, they don't love themselves - so how could they love you? they have a lot of therapy and growing up to do.

DON'T BREAK UP YOU IDIOT!
FUCK THE SHIT OUT OF HER ALL THE TIME AND CHEAT ON HER WITH OTHER GIRLS AT THE SAME TIME

IF SHE FINDS OUT OH WELL WHO GIVES A FUCK YOU ALREADY FUCKED THE SHIT OUT OF HER LIKE EVERY DAY AND YOU HAVE BACKUPS
BEGIN GATHERING BACKUPS NOW YOU PUSSY

NOW!!!! YOU ARE IN THERE FOR PUSSY FOR LIFE YOU FUCKING IDIOT

So 2 long term unhappy people, 1 dependent and no dignity and 1 downright chikensheet and no dignity
Or
2 separate people who will be unhappy for a short period but will attain dignity and possibly find someone who completes them ?

Do you really think you're good looking? One day you'll be old and ugly then what will you have? You can't escape age

lol naw she is SUPER happy with me

I am pretty attractive actually. I am like 7-8/10 and she is like 5/10 no makeup 6/10 w/ makeup

nobody can complete you, you can only be whole by yourself, then you go out into the world to find someone to share the joy of life with


if you think being content and happy with life comes from anywhere else other than within, you're gonna have a bad time

Just explain how you feel. You're a fucking couple without communication things can only get worse.

I broke up with gf of 7 years the week before valentine's day
don't let these days ruin you, you'll end up spending money that'd be better spent elsewhere and trust me it's not worth it waiting for v-day sex

user think the shit thru first, don't just think how you want or think you deserve better I am a piece of shit who has a girl of his dreams who thinks the same I love my girl to death but I question if I'm loving her less and she loves me more, i know I'm the only one for her, that she trusts and lives and cares about n so far she's the closest I've had to girl I actually love, I don't know if I truly do want to spend the rest of my life with her but I can tell you this I probably will, she's basically my best friend, I trust her more than anybody, I'm not madly uncontrollably in live with her but I do love and care for her and me being with her is giving her the best I can. If this girl really lives you and wants to get married I think you should be finally consider doing it, your gonna have years and years of maybe finding someone you like enough

Real advice bro, marry her. Real women aren't supermodels and ones that make good wives definitely aren't. Marry her and make an honest woman of her. If you leave you will regret it for the rest of your life.

don't leave her try to move into an open relationship. win-win

Marry a women he doesnt love? Fucking great advice

Op dont waste your own life just because she wants you. You dhould do what you want and whst you feel is core to you.

Think that will this improve your life if you stay with her.

Already talking to other women and making plans fuck off op I could care less about what happens to you

No one is happy with being dependent
It drains the soul
It fucks with dignity
Its a lie and a false dawn
In years to come, you'll be to blame 'too controlling ' , 'never let me do anything ' ...
Experience talking here

Goddamn it now I'm conflicted now that you guys are arguing haha
This just sucks. Basically go get some great pussy now and risk never having a perfectly loving relationship or deal with lame-ish pussy whenever I want for the rest of my life and secured dedicated wife

couldn't* care less

He just thinks he dosent tbh, if he didn't love her he would enter be asking us, as for you newfag, oldfags know about life and fucking up if he leaves her n she's not the one boom life is gonna be lonely and a lot of searching if she is the one and he leaves her it's gonna be depressing and sad until he could get her back that's if, love isn't something to play with being alone forever is just sad, means you missed a whole section of life

Marry her! You're the world to her! Somewhere deep down you love her or this wouldn't be an issue and you could just easily move on.

Bro stay with her and focus on your relationship for your sake idk know you from the underside of my ball sack but me i had broken up with my girl a couple times it feels right at first then you just realize all your missing and won't have anymore, even If 3 months from now your 100 percent ik I can't spend forever with this girl at least you'll know and not wonder how life would a been with that one for you, with out my girl I'd be a sad depressed loner still serving up the fiends and college kids

Look at your hand...
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..Thats the most loving relationship you will ever have ..

Sounds like you've helped her out as much as you can. Help yourself out user, you can't move past this girl you obviously don't love if you're still with her.

But I could care less user.

Real shit Sup Forums is a terrible place to get advice 90 percent of these anons jack it 4 times a day n watch porn during study hall, stay with her, talk to her, spend time with her, and focus on her, it's not easy but you'll know

You have been deceived by porn and cheap girls on tv movies amd adverts, you are making a grave mistake and you will regret it if you leave, you won't find anyone who loves you again, and you will live in the past if you destroy what you have already built up with her, this is the classic capitalist decadent problem of our society, don't fall for it

One of us

Yeah you're probably right, but I think it's more about seeing some advice and then thinking about it myself, it helps to get some fresh thoughts in.

Honestly one of my biggest fears is that I may not find another chick to love me like that, let alone a virgin.

I've seen so many stories of chicks that just screw guys over, and I know she would never do that to me.

agree, "chemical" love wears off eventually and usually around the 3 year mark wich seem to be your case.

You seem to have a perfect girl if what you want is a family someday. She only had you wich is nice also, weight can be lost and you said she's on a good way already so that's not an issue.

Life is full of oportunities but you will never find your 1st love again, you will be in love and it will wear off again, but as time goes by, your chances of finding that pure girl will get close to null so just be sure you wont regret it later, grass always greener..

Why don't you tell her to lose weight, even be a little mean about it? If she loves you that much she would...