I struggle with premature ejaculation. I believe it's due to stress reasons.
>background I used to be fat and unwanted. Then I lost weight and puberty happened and I'm actually attractive now.
But every single sexual encounter I've had has resulted in premature ejaculation and it's only gotten worse now that I'm more aware of the issue. I last like less than a minute or two. Very unfulfilling for both of us. I
I come here to genuinely ask for some help or people who have experienced this in the past and can help me out. Any strategies, of changes in mentality, products, etc that helped?
Aaron Rodriguez
Practice mastrubating until your about to cum then right as its about to happen flex kegels and don't let yourself cum, do this multiple times. It'll take a couple of months but it definitely helps.
Jason Nguyen
after that search " cock hero " on pornhub and try to complete it.
btw if you don't normally fap there's not much you can do you are probably going to have to start fapping to fix it
Carson Foster
This is personally me but idk if itll help you but i used to only last for like 30 secs, i started edging day after day to videos i liked and its been 4-5 months of this, now i can last for 2 hours (my longest 2 hours 45 mins) but this is just by myself. Hopefully it'll help you. Also i sorta doubt it has anything to do with stress, just dont over think it. It could ruin your train of thought while youre on her lol
Robert Sanders
I've been able to do this before masturbating occasionally. I just don't feel it would be strong or effective enough to work in a real scenario tho :/ (OP)
Levi Garcia
I definitely over think. But no it's different cause when I fap I can last long. Real sex though is difficult to control. In general I just feel like my dick is overtly sensitive
David Perez
that's the problem, soon as you feel like you will be strong enough you will also be able to last much much longer even without doing it
Tyler Cox
had the same problem took 20mg of prozac a day can last 10-20 minutes (which when you're not an exaggerating faggot is pretty decent) If you don't have depression or anxiety do a SHIT ton of foreplay then they won't give a fuck because they've already came and are super sensitive afterwards
Owen Ross
Try to think less of the girl and how hot she may be. It's strange, but try to focus visually on something weird, ugly, or odd on the girl. It takes a little time, but it's all in the head. Sex is a mind game.
Liam Hughes
The answer to your problem is cardiovascular fitness.
Premature ejaculation is mainly physiological and not rooted in stress, anxiety, or self-consciousness like many people assume.
Sexual stamina is largely based on your ability to perform the actual movement of fucking consistently and with focus without fatiguing over long periods (30 min-1 hr). Ejaculation is the physiological result of a combination of stimulation of nerves in the penis and the fatiguing of the PC muscle until it begins contracting involuntarily. It literally cramps up, and those are your ejaculatory spasms.
The key is to keep that muscle in shape with things like edging while you masturbate and have sex, kegel exercises (yes, men can do them too), and being in good cardiovascular shape so that the efficiency of transfer of oxygen to all of your muscles, but particularly the PC muscle, is sufficient to increase their stamina.
The only other contributing factor is frequency of sexual activity. If you haven't had sex in 3 months, you're going to be really horny. When you have sex, you're going to be antsy and over-stimulated, and there's almost no avoiding cumming relatively quickly. What I talked about earlier will be effective in alleviating this, though.
Easton Perry
fuck i lasted 20-30 mins b4 ssri now i go for 2-3hrs if i even get hard >dont go ssri
Luis Hughes
Shit... I'm pretty sure I'm depressed / bipolar. I haven't had it medically treated or looked into at all ever. I'm ok right now though I don't know if I wanna mess around with anti depressants. I don't want any bad side effects. And I feel sus having it written on my medical record...
Aaron Morris
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this helps too. find a flaw. focus on it.
Samuel Jackson
Holy shit that pic is good. Have more?
Alexander Flores
This. I came within minutes until around 17, when I tried doing this. A month later, I could last as long as I wanted
Brayden Green
Damn. I can last hours if I wanted too.
Not even that I don't cum for hours, but that I can stay hard After cumming
>multiple times
Asher Rivera
No I dont. Thats the best ass/pussy combo Ive ever seen.
Charles Scott
Yea now that I think about to, I've never had a consistent chick I've had time to explore their body and get to know that well and fucked day in and out. I've only had sex like 8 times with different girls. But we were never dating or anything so it didn't go beyond that.
Benjamin Lopez
am the same. but when i smoke weed i can go for as long as i want. have done a few hours before.
i recommend weed op
Blake Long
>Thats the best ass/pussy combo Ive ever seen. well take a gander at this.
Justin Gomez
you're obviously taking the wrong meds or too much 20mg
Aaron Thompson
Thats normal, you need practice thats all. Good luck my friend
Angel Baker
Masturbate less but don't stop. When you do make it last longer - at least an hour. When fucking have fun and forget about what she might think - you end up putting a better performance in. These should help.
Luke Howard
nah bro its happened on 4 different ssri's the one i am on now is the least bad. doctor wont let me go off.
Mason Nelson
Never had this issue, not even my first time. That lasted like 1 1/2. I tend to have the extreme opposite. Not all the time, but often enough. Fucking for two hours kinda sucks if you only come once. Wanna trade dicks for a month?
Hudson Foster
You shouldn't make getting a girlfriend a goal to solve your issues with PE though.
You should look at it the other way around. Guys who last in bed, are successful with women, and end up dating the women who they really think are the best they can do, do so because they have sex with a lot fo different women. They treat approaching women like the percentage game it really is. Approach women all the time. Literally any time you see a woman you think is attractive, immediately go up to her and say hi and talk to her. It literally does not matter if it doesn't go well.
We have this deep, intrinsic, tribal-mentality fear that if we fail with more than a few women, we will be viewed by "the rest" of women in our "group" as some sort of terminally undesirable pariah. But that anxiety is obsolete and unreasonable. There is no "rest of women" for this expectation to be based on. We have no "group". The reality is that the enormous numerical of majority women on this planet, and even within a given city or town, do not know each other. They cannot share awkward stories with each other about how you were awkward or hesitant or unsuccessful when you approached them, so there is literally no long-term recourse for approaching a woman and crapping out other than momentary embarrassment.
So just go for it.
Nathaniel Gomez
Pretty good but the photo's blurry.
Ian Martinez
Ok, going to get into some real methods here, I'm 43 and still have sex on a regular basis. But, this user has some solid advice. Other things you can do, jack off 10-15 min before sex, unless you have a hard time getting it up, this does work. Or have sex, take five then start again.
Alcohol. Now yes, whiskey dick is a real thing and I have seen it effect many of my friends through out the years, but you could be lucky like me and still be able to get an instant erection no matter for buzzed or drunk you are. If I get buzzed to near drunk, I can fuck anywhere from 1-3 hours before cumming and even then I'm ready for round 2 and it's gonna take at least another hour.
Viagra. This shit isn't just for people with ED. If you want to fuck, cum and keep fucking, cum and again keep fucking and never lose your hard on, this shit is the shit. I swear by it. I have no problem with erections, but I can give my girl a hell of a ride if we fuck for 5 min I cum and then im ready to rock for another 20-60 min before cumming again and even then I could continue. I thank my friend who turned me onto this shit.
Different companies make desensitizes for the penis which you apply so many minutes before sex (KY makes one). They can work, but eh... As they are not cheap and you are just using Novocaine to numb the skin, might as well buy some oral gel.
Edging helps, and remember to keep your legs fucking relaxed, you'll want to tense up those muscles for more feeling and that is just going to make you cum faster. And yes there are kegels for men and that shit can help.
Good luck user. Hope something helps.
Jack Reed
I've been thinking of stopping masrurbating for a while and see if that changes anything. How often should i be masturbating do you think?
Jose James
Fuck yes dude please trade
Zachary Morris
I already do this. I have game. I just can't finish the deal when it comes to sex lol, so disappointing tbh
Zachary Jones
ha, if only it were possible. I'd do it for while, for sure. Good luck user.
Lucas Ross
if i've learned anything it's that masturbation is no training ground for sex. i deal with it too OP but i'm an uncircumcised pleb. here's a few tips i've picked up
switch up your rhythm. don't thrust consistently, alternate between slow and fast every 7 or so thrusts
get out of your own head. drink if you have to as long as it doesn't lead to whisky dick. just don't get lost in your own thoughts while you're fucking. that equals game over.
break if you have to. if you're on the verge of cumming just stop and finger her or give her oral. she won't care as long as you don't stop giving her attention.
by cheating like this i can drag a session out and make it last for around 30 minutes. not gonna pretend it's perfect but i haven't been cut loose by any women yet.
Brandon Parker
Same here, OP. Was fat in HS, lost weight & got /fit/ and girls started to want me. I have a 5.5''x4.5'' and ejaculate in under 30 seconds (no exaggeration). None of my Gf's has had an issue and I'm able to stay hard most of the time, but one of my one-night stands couldn't hide her disappointment.
Jonathan Long
I probably would last longer if I drank. I just don't drank often. I commute college so I'm not on that drinking party life yet
Chase Perez
You know that muscle you use too hold your pee? Exercise it. Google it If you want
Jordan Reed
Not exaggerating when you can actually do it retard. You stop and go, Its called self-control. The only problem is that the shaft hurts afterwards (obviously) People actually last long even on video.
Josiah Watson
Prozac is used off-label for premature ejaculation. Nothing suss about it.
William Powell
I'm , weed makes me more sensitive and I bust even faster
> alternate between slow and fast every 7 or so thrusts I can't even last 7 thrusts sometimes. With my current Gf, I got so excited because she was a petite qt3.14 virgin I came before I even penetrated her.
Elijah Brooks
you know they say the best teacher is failure. haven't tried it myself but i bet if you were to have sex on a routine like going to the gym, you'd eventually see improvement. practice makes perfect. you just have to get through the initial shame.
Lincoln Gomez
I feel you man
Kevin Hughes
>take Viagra >fuck gril asnd cum quickly >cuddle/suck nipples eat pussy for 10 minutes >get boner redux >fuck again, this time like a rock star
Better living through chemistry - it works.
Ian Johnson
that has more to do with #2. get out of your own fucking head.
alternatively if she was a virgin she didn't even know the difference between good sex and bad sex. so either way chin up.
Jackson Sanchez
>fuck gril asnd cum >eat pussy for 10 minutes Nasty fucker
Jonathan Martinez
Refer to previous advice then. The only other advice I can give you is that when you're with a woman, you have to develop and get in the habit of maintaing a dominant mindset.
Our society has developed and evolved to offer much more social equality to women and level the playing field in a lot of ways. The problem is that our sexual impulses have not been molded through any kind of selection in nature to keep up with this.
When you have sex with a woman, it is supposed to be an act of submission. Sex is the physical manifestation of that; she is so obsessed with you that she allows you complete control over her, and lets you invade her. She is devaluing herself for your pleasure, and you are supposed to respond in kind. You're supposed to throw her around, dominate her, and display to her that her submission is warranted. When you have sex with a woman who you feel pressure to treat with fairly and equally, including in the bedroom, this may not affect you consciously, but your primitive ape brain is telling you that you're treating her that way because "she's high-status, she's out of your league, she has another man in her life, that man is probably superior to you, he might be back at any minute, shit" and pop. You nut.
Develop an assertive, dominant mindset to take on when you're in the sack, follow the previous advice, and the rest will take care of itself.
Juan Jackson
Kek. I told her it was normal if guys think a girl is really pretty. We have fun, I just wish I could last longer for her benefit more than mine.
Landon Garcia
I've actually been trying to implement this ever since I found the red pill last week
Dominic Morgan
I deal with the same thing but what really keeps me from blowing my load too early is if they hurt me like choking, scratching, etc... I mean I obviously like it but at the same time im thinking about the pain and not how awesome it feels so then i'm good to go.
Anthony Collins
that's the pro-tip. make her cum first even if she tries to pull you on top of her.
Grayson Jones
I second this. Go for a mile run twice or thrice weekly, do some pushups, hydrate, and smoke pot. When it's sexytime, just be chill as fuck. Also, rub one out in the morning and it will give you a huge amount of confidence in your ability to last longer at any point in the day after your recharge time.
Josiah Baker
When you've done a lot of fucking, if it ain't nasty it ain't fun.
Julian Reed
I always eat out the girl first and make her cum before I even think of penetration, and whenever ur about to cum just eat her out
Josiah Jackson
Fuck all of that stupid red-pill, pick up artist bullshit. What Im talking about is based on biological impulses that we cannot deny. Women absolutely deserve to be treated and paid equally in every aspect of society. But if you want to keep a woman happy, you had better be prepared to show her who's boss in the sack.
And you won't nut too fast. Which is nice.
Andrew Martinez
i would pound her ass while her parents watch.
Grayson Nguyen
I'm not too sure, OP. Sometimes I can last for 20+ minutes straight fucking, and other times I blow in a minute. I am a former alcoholic though, so I'm not sure if it has anything to do with it. From my experience, there isn't really any mental or physical technique that you can do to prevent it. What happens, happens I guess. My gfs ass, just because I feel like posting it.
Sebastian Collins
I use to be able to pretty much cum whenever I wanted 9/10 times now for the last 8-9 months I no longer can last the same amount of time. On average it would be about 15 minutes but sometimes it can be less than 5. Any help please!!
Christian Sullivan
naught trips of righteous deviancy
Austin Martinez
such a nice little body
Kevin Miller
You might be a fag. Naw, u r a fag/
Colton Barnes
Masturbate.
A lot.
Makes the tip of your dick number and more used to the feeling, takes you longer to finish. Downside is having a numb dick and if you watch too much porn it adversely affects your sex life
Ian Richardson
Fuck you, i can barley get hard half of the time cause i watch so much porn. I can last hours, usually don't cum. curse and blessing
Dylan Flores
uh don't think porn is the issue bud, might want to look into erectile dysfunction
Jace Rogers
I'm 18 its definitely the porn. I can get hard totally sober and can fap like 5 times a day with a major erection. Maybe its because I have pretty bad anxiety or something. I can fuck for a while but I can only get off if im fapping. I think if i went like one full week no fap i would probably come early and have no problems.