I'm nearly 26 and I've never even kissed a girl. I've had chances to have a girlfriend, but I always blew it...

I'm nearly 26 and I've never even kissed a girl. I've had chances to have a girlfriend, but I always blew it. Now I'm balding and I am very depressed. My will and hope is pretty much broken at this point. I've turned to drugs in the last few months to deal with my problems and it's obvious to me that I won't last another 2 years at this rate before I just off myself or die from some kind of overdose.

Help. I'm afraid of what I'm going to do to myself after I hit 26 in a few months. I'm becoming more and more unstable every single day.

Stop fooling yourself into thinking love, sex & relationships are the only key to happiness.

Relax a little, go out & explore the world. Find something you can enjoy outside the refuge of your bedroom.

Learn how to play an instrument & take 1 to 1 lessons or join an evening course to learn & new language if you can afford either.

It's probably over a billion to 1 chance that YOU are actually here right now. Living & experiencing life, if you weren't born with a sliver spoon in your mouth, nobody is going to give you on 26 years later.

Grab life by the horns & fucking own it you cunt, its yours to do with as you please.

Aside from the drugs, what exactly are your problems? If they are social issues, I suggest you see a counselor / psychologist to help you improve in that area, as well as regulate your depression and the drugs you take.

Might as well not worry about being single until you stabilize yourself. You still have plenty of time to find a girlfriend at your age.

I'm in the same boat
>balding
>obese
>depressed
>feel more comfortable being alone
I been with 9 women tho.

I was working out getting buff and losing weight, but my ex left me and I stopped giving a fuck.

My mind is so fucked I don't ever see myself being happy honestly, I don't trust women what so ever.

you should probably just kill yourself /:

I am in university but I don't see where it's going to lead me and I'm almost graduated. I moved back in with my parents this summer and all my friends moved out together... without me and one other friend; that made me very depressed.
I spend days upon days not talking to anyone in real life sometimes and it drives me mad. I am very good socially... hell, I work as a waiter and make a lot of money just because I am so good at making people laugh and smile.

I am just so tired of having 0 support and having no one that really cares about me deeply. It makes me feel like no one will ever love me and having a partner is something I've wanted since I was a child.

So why is 26 such a magical number? Does it help you that I'm 35 and can look back at how youthful I was at age 25 (in photos and writing) but couldn't see it at the time? Bitching about "getting old" and grunting while bending down and back up.

For some help in your situation, it's really about trying to be happy with yourself and your choices. Or maybe not happy, but content and telling that shitty inner voice to just shut up.

For you right now "getting a girlfriend" would just add to the problems you're already having with your mental state and mood.

Find something you want to do, and get good at it. idgaf if drugs are going to be one of your hobbies, get good at it then.

But I couldn't talk Kate Marsh down from the building in Life is Strange so what the fuck do I know about this suicidal depression stuff?

What kind of drugs op? Marijuana saved my life.

Weed all of my life, molly for 2 years, acid for 1 year, and these last 2 months

I've totally abused Adderall and that's the drug that will kill me. I used it to work all day and night about 5 days a week. I do it because it makes me forget my real problems and instead just work. The next day is always hell though, I am usually extremely depressed afterward and can barely walk.

My youth is fading. It's hard to live your whole life with no affection from the opposite sex, and all the times I have gotten it, I am like a coward and refuse to believe it's real.

I am extremely good at video games and soar to the top levels of any game I play quickly, but that hobby is just an escape for me and always has been. I am also good at talking to people and making them laugh. You're right though, I do need something to focus on... but at this point, it just seems like there's no point to living life if I can't reproduce.

Hmm.
About the child thing.

Do you want to take the time and effort and sacrifice to raise a baby into adulthood (if so, great for you!), or is it just that general nagging feeling that you're failing to do the right thing by not reproducing?

- Me.
Not related to love, sex or relationships but here's my greentext regardless.

>Be me.
>12 years old.
>New group of friends.
>Start smoking weed & drinking.
>13 years old, smoking daily.
>14 years old, starting going to free parties.
>Start sniffing ket, mephadrone, cocaine, mdma etc.
>Dropped out of school at 15.
>No gcse's or qualifications.
>No work experience.
>Still smoking weed daily.
>Same group of friends.
>Went to college at 16.
>Stopped doing most drugs.
>Done 2 years but dropped out on my 3rd.
>18th Birthday, woke up got stoned.
>Fast forward a week or so & the existential dread kicked in.
>Woke up one morning, started to light a joint but stopped.
>Told myself I wasn't going to smoke anymore.
>Fast forward 1 year & a lot of sober arguments.
>19, one bad argument leads to me getting kicked out.
>Homeless, sofa surfing round old friends houses.
>Scrounging food, cigarettes, showers, clothes & shoes off friends.
>Wanted to start smoking again.
>Instead, started looking for work.
>Few odd jobs here & there but couldn't hold one down.
>20 years old.
>Get counselling
>Sorted myself out & moved back in.
>Continued weekly counselling sessions & doctors appointments to keep mental health in check.
>21 years old, few months pass.
>Land myself a full time job, 60+ hours p/week.
>Decent wage, holiday pay & enough days off here & there.
>Now I'm just waiting for the next bridge to cross.

19-20 was probably my worst year, slept rough & went hungry far too many times when my friends finally had enough of me. I was 21 years late myself but its possible, just give yourself a goal & stick to it, don't let anyone, not even yourself get in the way of it. If you start it, finish it.

What makes you think university won't lead to anything though? What are you studying?

It sounds to me like you want to make actual, meaningful connections; these don't necessarily have to be romantic ones. If you have a hobby, try to find groups or hangouts in order to meet new people. There's many different ways in which you can make close connections.

Just remember that romance isn't the be all end all - it's not a magical cure for depression. If you want a girlfriend, great, but it's dangerous to glamorize relationships in such a manner. Focus on yourself before jumping the gun.

Economics. I have a 3.1 GPA from a mid tier school. I am not very good at all. I am awful at math.

Yes, I do want to make meaningful connections. I thought I had friends like that, but they are all getting girlfriends now and don't have the time for me. I've been a third wheel a lot this last year and every single time it reminds me of just how alone I am.

All of my closest friends also moved out without me, together. I am pretty sure I was excluded because I'm single and my best friend has his girlfriend living with him, who is also very close to me. Feels bad. I am drifting away from them now because I don't see them nearly as often now.

I feel so fucking alone.

you paid back those friends in any way?

When I was working the odd jobs I'd give who ever I was staying with 90% of what I earned the other 10% I'd use to buy my own cigarettes for the week, although saying that, two of the closest wouldn't accept any form of repayment, just the promise that if they ever needed a help I'd be there for them, which of-course I always will be.

You sound bi-polar.

You will go bald at some point, just deal with it.

first tip, becoming a mentally unstable drug addict probably isn't going to help you get a girl.

I was a virgin until I was 26, I had done a bit of kissing but but not much. I used to be pitiful shy.

then when I finally got with a girl I discovered two things.

1) I was rather good at sex despite lack of experience, my first girlfriend who was 3 years older actually didn't belive I was a virgin.

2) I have a well above average sized cock, which is never really thought before.

anyway the point is since then I've had plenty of sex though only 4 partners, I'm still not a player or anything and don't want to be.

looking back it was shyness and lack of confidence that held me back before once you get over that once it's not hard to do again. today I have a beautiful wife who I met when I was 29. But at your age I was a depressed lonely virgin too.

So give up the drugs, find a girl you like and let her know without being a dick about it and see what happens, doesn't workout try again.

Can't help you with career. That's for you to figure out.

BUT GIRLS...

Quit fapping and looking at porn for good. Could take up to 6 months to see results but you will be a fucking pussy magnet if ever there was one!

All this advice is bullshit OP. Just kys and get it over with.

two things not to do;

1) don't try and take the lead before your even in the plot as the song goes.

by that I mean don't convince yourself you're madly in love with a girl bottle your feelings up for weeks then gush it all at her at once. you'll come across as less potential boyfriend and more stalker. you need to let her know you find her attractive and want to spend time with her, get to know her better then see how it goes.

2) it's good advice to remember that their are other things in life being obsessive, needy and depressed are not attractive attributes people look for in partners. get a hobby that gets you out meeting people.

That's pretty encouraging. I don't think I'll be awful at sex, but I guess we will see. I've always been into weed and drugs though. I got all of my friends into it too and that kind of makes me feel bad.

I already shaved my head. I don't look awful. I'm am probably bi polar though.

Don't feel bad.
I am 29 and still am a virgin.
I've passed up on relationships because I am too picky.
I spend most of my time working or school (going back to finish my degree in Computer Science) with some occasional video games, movies or books.

I have a bit of cash in the bank and no debt so I feel comfortable with my situation.
I sometimes think about getting into a relationship and maybe calling up one of the girls who asked me out before but I always end up not doing it because I don't want to deal with the emotional baggage or issues that come with a relationship.

I might end up like my Uncle who is 67 and has never had a relationship.
What is weird is that I am pretty much a carbon copy of my dad in looks but he has no trouble picking up girls. Probably because he has a big ego and a very forward positive attitude.
(pic related it's my dad)

Sometimes I think that is horrible but other times I find myself enjoying life without any big problems to deal with and a lot of free time.

You know what, I'm a couple months away from 22 and honestly feel the same. I don't know how to solve this problem. Men have probably been dealing with it for milleniums

3.1 GPA is decent, but even if it wasn't, understand that there's always steps you can take to improve your situation. Don't obsess over a grade you can't change - focus on your university work, improving your maths, looking for jobs to apply for.

Can you be sure that your friends are drifting away because you are single though? It's possible, but maybe there's other factors involved. That said, if it really, REALLY bothers you, I suggest just straight up talking to your best friend about it. There's little point in speculating and beating yourself up about something that may not even be correct.

Remember that you are the one that has to make the changes you want in life. You can't expect a girlfriend to drop out of the sky - make a list of your goals and potential steps to reach them.

I'm going to sleep, so this is going to be my last post in this thread - good luck with everything user.

you making any money?

Yah but not much. More time is spent in school.
I make enough to pay for my 2 bedroom and only have around 10k in the bank. I have a car and a bunch of electronic shit too. I don't have a lot left over after paying all my costs every month. Something like 400-500USD left over a month if I am lucky.

you fucked in the long run

Well most people are fucked in the long run with a lot of jobs being lost to automation.

At least with a computer science degree I can making a living and have a lot of paths I can take just in case one of them is not in high demand.

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Just take some fucking lsd or dmt for your quick fix, I know that's what you're here for.

You should probably join Stormfront, where you can be with your own kind

I'll never go bald, but I'll never grow a beard either. That's the tradeoff.
I'm 20 and look 12.

Balding?
SHAVE YOUR FUCKING HAIR OFF.
I started balding a year ago, shaved it all off immediately when I noticed. I'm not gonna be some balding loser, shaved head pulls way harder. Get clippers, shave it down, get a razor, and smooth it out. Don't be a fucking pussy. Own it.
>Bald > Balding

I told my best friend last year when we were on molly how badly I needed help with girls. I told him another two times during the summer about how it's eating at me. He doesn't really want to help I think. I think he wants to compete with me. I realized this year that he is just very self interested and unless I can help him, he's not looking to help me.

I already did that a year ago. After I did I started getting a lot more attention from girls.

If you don't give too much of a shit about him after having realized this, knowing he doesnt care about you, try saying that shit directly to his face, and see what he does. It'll be comedy gold, however he reacts

Go to a psycologicst, a Jungian, not a Freudian.

I will one day very soon. That's not the only thing he has done to me this year. There was a girl interested in me after my first time pleading and he went for her himself. He would always do things like... we'd be playing a game at an arcade, he would be winning, then he would snapchat her him winning. It was honestly just really insulting and almost pathetic from my eyes. I actually won that game but wasn't a fucking asshole to snapchat her me winning.

Yeah. I thought he was my best friend, but I guess it's time to move on. His mom once told me he is selfish by nature and I should have just listened.

you need to overcome the lack of support. It sucks but the only person who you compete against is yourself and only you set your own limits. Eat healthy, get jacked, do things you love and get good at them, get education and become rich. While this is very general you need to realise you don't need any help, you simply want it. All of us do, but we don't always get it, you gota show that you can can do anything by yourself, independence is strength and self sustaining mind is the key to anything in life. Be your own God, make your own rules, set your goals and get them. People will see it and start gathering around you sooner or later.

So this is a big part of self-confidence, not keeping people around you who don't actually support you. I struggled with it for years, just trying to be kind to everyone I met. All it ever got me was misery and regret, feelings of being used and stepped on. Friends don't make you feel like that. If they do, then they aren't your friends. It's not the easiest thing at first, but after 3 or 4 people, cutting folks out of your life will be easy. Do not settle for less than you deserve in terms of platonic relationships. You are who you surround yourself with. What kind of person do you want to be?

I'm sorry this dumb shit happens to you. Don't let it fester into hate and misplaced anger. I believe in you. You are only human, but you have a choice about being the best human you can be.

People did gather around me, for a long time. But after this year, when I fell into this depression, I can feel people drift away. I was on my way to making it in the world really and everyone saw it, but now that I'm down, it sucks to feel like I'm all alone.

But overall I think that some of my friends are good people. They just don't know how to help. I need to help myself really.

It is becoming misplaced with anger and negativity. I was a really positive person for years and years, but after all this, after 2016 really, I am so angry all of the time. Even at work, I sometimes just go to the back and punch things just because I am so fed up with, well, my life. Feels really bad. I just want people who care about me as much as I care about them, but I suppose that is what anyone wants.