>turning 23 next month >still virgin >never been in a relationship >no friends >work alone >live alone >don't have family >horny as fuck day and night just want to be touched dont even care who at this point even with those standards still cant get laid somehow.
My question goes out to any anons in the same boat (if there are) is: how do you cope with it? How do you deal with the emotional pain of nobody on earth being interested you, how do you deal with feeling like what was supposed to be the best and most energetic years of your life were squandered living like a senior staying home going to be early on friday nights ect? Also how do you deal with the physical discomfort of never getting to feel another person's touch?
Like I feel my skin crawling right now and im so desperate for connection that it makes me impatient with small talk polite b.s. and that makes me come off to people as autistic when im not im just sooooo tired and impatient when it comes to the pleasantries of getting to know someone at first. I can't take it anymore I just want a friend or something :(
Tyler Ross
>it makes me impatient with small talk polite b.s. and that makes me come off to people as autistic when im not im just sooooo tired and impatient when it comes to the pleasantries of getting to know someone at first I got bad news for you...
Noah Taylor
whats that chepe?
Colton Barnes
I'll bite op I need hobbies, income, average sleep, average work hours, weight to height ratio. I might can save you
Adrian Flores
I was there, then I was in many relationships, and I'm single again and not enjoying it
1) The most important thing is knowing that you can get out of that depressive hole that you are right now 2) You need to MAKE AN EFFORT to move on to the next stage in your life. It is going to be VERY unpleasant at first, but it will be less and less unpleasant, until at last will be just a little 3) What you need to do? LOVE yourself. OK, sounds corny, or gay or whatever, but that's what you need to do. Be an hedonist. Always seek your own pleasure, your own good, and TRY to find it in thing that make you some good. For example: Do you want to get touched? Save some money and hire a hooker, and lose the fear of pussy. You can do that a couple of times. Do you like video games? CS:GO for example? Ok, play videogames, but you can also play paintball. Try to get out a little. Like sports videogames? Maybe you can try some sports. Like to watch martial arts movies? Aim higher, practice a martial art yourself. Learn stuff, do stuff. Try to make your life interesting by doing things that you like. In some point you will be doing so many cool things that chick will like you, and you won't be doing anything "special" to attract them, just being you. The best you that you can be.
Adrian Rogers
Also 4) Watch some RSD videos and download the book RSD Ozzie Physical game
Easton Howard
This is great advice thankyou. And truth be told I did used to be more active like how you described when I was 16-18yrs old then around 19 I moved out of parent home and things changed and yea ever since then ive been slowly dying inside feeling like a 60yr old man in a 20yr old body
Nathaniel Green
So wait...are you saying that having those things is what allows you to cope? I could see that i guess
Jacob Clark
in a similar situation, the thing is everything i've grown to enjoy doing has been a solitary activity for as long as i can remember
Dominic Richardson
>dont even care who at this point even a she he?
Wyatt Phillips
Solid advice here OP. Do some shopping on Backpage. It's basically like hiring any other tradesperson or contractor. When your no longer desperate for pussy you'll feel more relaxed and comfortable.
Ian Lopez
it comes in waves, but the waves have steadily gotten smaller over the years.
Colton Brown
you need to find something to be passionate about, like a hobby, or a cause.
Connor Brown
implying a male who looks female wouldn't be the ultimate human
Aiden Ortiz
no offense but i literally felt sad for you reading that. How is it that we are so overpopulated infrastructure is fucked but everyone you talk to says they're lonely.
Colton Foster
look up the mouse utopia experiment
Landon Nelson
>Save some money and hire a hooker I once hired an escort to watch madoka magica with me .
Grayson Roberts
i see you fucked her hard user
Noah Peterson
i'm one of the beautiful ones
Benjamin Scott
I know someone else made a post but here's my take.
I'm 20 years old and trust me, someone probably has liked you. I'm literally autistic and have had several people tell me "I think she likes you", though personally i'm not really interested in a relationship. I'm not too good with small talk either but you have to work with it. Also killing your self because your a virgin is pretty ridiculous and doesn't make sense. If you are a human SOMEONE has liked you, even if they're not your ideal partner.
Get some friends, join a club / group, go out sometime. Trust me, the littlest amount of interaction pays off for your social life.
Mason Young
pretty much
Wyatt Powell
im open to guys and grills but not anything inbetween bleh. With no family or friends for so much of my life I find myself seeking a mental/emotional connection more than a sexual one. Also I hate SJW and pop culture bullshit and for that reason i gravitate more to males
Connor Kelly
i sleep and smoke weed and walk far distances in all kinds of weather to buy groceries.
Benjamin Fisher
Also in my opinion DONT hire a prostitute, that's just a cheap way of doing it.
Nolan Bailey
thats a really extreme example, for one it got to the point were mice were walking all over each other, and another was the mice are very territorial animals, much more than humans. just not a comparable situation
Jayden Nguyen
Lol, this was literally me in 2012.
Luke Ward
>SJW and pop culture on Sup Forums its just a sexual fetish and nothing more
Owen Hill
joining a club or group would be fine if you wouldn't disagree with the other people in the club,
i tried out the anime club at uni, absolute cancer
tried to start a band, everyone wanted to do something different, ect.
Ian Jones
>someone probably has liked you.
Mason Allen
I'm 28, I've got a couple of really sound friends but we're grown and busy and don't see each other much. Got a decent job. Small but loving family. Yet I feel exactly like you OP
Every relationship I've had has been emotionally abusive and nearly all ended in being cheated on Outside of relationships be it at clubs, bars, tinder, okcupid, no one is interested I'm a decent looking guy with the world to give, but no one wants it. I try to talk to my mates about it but they dont understand what its like to feel like youre less attractive than a pile of steaming dog shit down a pissy alley
how do I stop being foreveralone?
Joshua Nguyen
>anime club >absolute cancer
bruh what did u expect
Mason Sullivan
>someone probably has liked you
Ayden Young
i don't think it's too far fetched to compare the 2, the rise of metrosexuality and herbivorous men in the developed world is pretty telling
Joshua Martinez
>i tried out the anime club at uni, absolute cancer I did as well, was there a fat neckbeard that screams real loud? cause all the times ive done any social thing anime related there always seem to be one of those.
Jacob Perez
i knew it was going to be cancer but i was being coerced to at least attend one session, suffice to say i left when my laptop battery was running low
Robert Moore
a bunch of greasy guys and a few troll women getting hyped over dubbed mech animes from the 80s
Ryder Cox
not from overcrowding none that metrosexual herbivour or whatever shit happened within Kowloon Walled City, and that was the most densely populated area in human history
Caleb Ward
Maybe because you didn't know yet that there is a lot of interesting people, great, fun people out there. People in the same situation like you maybe (even girls). People that can enjoy having a time with you, doing the things that you like. That's one of the reasons why you need to expand the things you are doing, try different things, so you can maybe meet someone interesting. But the main reason is to be better yourself. Improve yourself
Isaiah Reyes
What do you look like OP? (you have no friends so its not a problem)
Look DO matter, and there may be things you can improve on
Carson Carter
I left when the person next to me started humping the table.
Nicholas Mitchell
one of the troll women kept trying to talk to me and i wanted to vomit
>someone probably has liked you
litterally everyone who's liked me has being scum
Gavin Jackson
bird of a feather user
Juan Cook
it's not just population density, it's also access to resources, if the people living there have to work for their resources the same results won't occour
Parker Cook
...
Julian Bailey
if you can find a girl in my area who likes j&k-pop & plays instruments that isn't cancerous, you would deserve a medal
Jose Cox
Im not a /soc/ fag but since its my thread alright
Hunter Wilson
at least my cancer isn't spreading if i keep to myself
Leo Richardson
This. I feel so guilty of the whole "dish it iut but you cant take it routine" I hate feeling rejected but then I reject landwhales :\
Owen Lewis
maybe you should stop wearing mommy#s boots
Colton Green
Join the military, kill a few brown people. Marry an ungreatful cunt, shit out kids that'll resent you. Live alone as a bitter old fuck that trolls CNN because your opinion is all you have left in your pathetic existence. Or do drugs, fuck dumb sluts and develop a skill for dangerous situations.
Leo Sullivan
i don't want to believe i'm one of these people
Lincoln Foster
perhaps the racism isn't helping your cause
Gabriel Diaz
You dress like a faggot. But looks arent your issue.
Nathaniel Adams
Step by step, man. FIRST focus on yourself. TRY to do things that make you better, physically, emotionally, etc.
In a book (that helped me a lot, and I read because I was feeling just like you) found the analogy of the moth and the flame: The flame naturaly attracts the moths, but the flame doesn't TRY to shine TO attract the moths, it shine because is the way it naturally is. The more the shine, the more the moths are attracted. In the same way, if you improve yourself, by reading more, by going out, by taking lessons of.. whatever, your "shine" will attract the girls by itself, because you will be happy doing that, and because you are happy you will be more social, and then more confident... and chick like those things. But is a process and is long. Right now focus in YOU. And quit bitching
Dominic Watson
thanks? Good to know at least one thing
Jack Collins
that implies that it isn't women who are the flame and we're all the moths being attracted to it
Charles Roberts
this nigga.
Charles Bailey
idk what you meant by that, but he has a point. humans are strange creatures, one of the few that the female of the species are the ones that go out of their way to make themselves appear attractive and colorful, whereas the men tend to be more drab.
Elijah Hill
women are already attractive to men, some are just more attractive, all flames will attract moths, the brighter flames will attract more moths
Brandon Reed
what if im the kind of fire that just wants to burn everything?
Landon Reed
my sides!
Angel Johnson
this does not answer my question
Carson Gutierrez
And women are moths too. We are all flames, we are all moths.
If you improve yourself to be "brighter", you WILL attract "moths". The brighter flames will attract more moths, and maybe, between them will be a couple that is worthy
Lucas Clark
where is this universe where women pursue men?
Hunter Long
worthy of being burned? ah yes. I think i understand your analogy now. Its the perfect crime.
Easton Lewis
yes, burn the happy ones the smoke of their joy will allow us to attain the same happiness
Robert Hall
This was my main mistake. Well.. it is. And is the mistake of all my friends in the same situation. We put so many BUTS instead of trying things.
BUT I don't know anyone BUT I tried so many things and I failed BUT all the people in the groups that I been were cancer BUT there are no girls in my area BUT maybe the girls are the flames BUT maybe I will burn them
I told you, it will be very unpleasant at first. Breaking the routine is always unpleasant. Come on dude, just try it.
Christian Cruz
It happens, man.
Nolan Nelson
i think you missed the point of my post i just dont like people i am the fire, yes, but the kind of fire that only breeds destruction or maybe i just need to find some other pyre and we can burn long into the night
Luis Bell
so edgy
Asher Morgan
I believe that is not that you don't like people itself, but you feel awkward talking to them. That's just practice.
Maybe you are that fire, maybe you are not. Why thinking the things will come out the worse way possible? Where that way of thinking has lead you? Right here. Do you like here? No? So change
And YOU WILL find some "special" chick, but not doing this that you are doing right now: nothing. Do things, for you. Chicks will appear when you will be busy taking care of yourself.
Hey, gotta go to work. Nice to meet you user
Brayden Clark
special in quotes like those that are used when talking about a retarded person
Adrian Perry
yup because theres absolutely 0 romantic substance in despising everyone and then finding someone that you dont and eloping with them, carving a path of destruction through whatever country you happen to be in definitely 100% unromantic
i feel like people think im the op im not, but this is hilarious me, personally, im fine being alone. sure the hand grates after a while, but its worry-free, no strings attached. no small talk, no excess spending, just me and mine.
Ryder Miller
ordered an onahole to change up the jerking game, could add something new to a non existant sex life
Adrian Perez
bought an onahole changed up my entire sex life but, still dont have one
haiku'd
Owen Russell
Pull a columbine. Just go vent your frustration by shooting up a public place and claim it's because women wouldn't give you the time of day. It's a reasonable excuse.
Bentley Anderson
Become interesting. Tomorrow is the first day of your new life. You can use it to start improving yourself mentally, physically, and socially or you can use it to continue living your life in the exact same manner you've been living it for the past 23 years. It's all up to you.
Logan Johnson
waiting to see if it actually does change it up or if it's terrible and i go back to using my hand
Andrew Gray
what really helped me out was having a surrogate woman, strapped some fake tits to a pillow and beat off underneath cant see the dick, only see a pseudo effeminate form and experiencing pleasure, brain thinks im actually having sex, orgasm is way better still a functioning member of society somehow
Connor Fisher
you fuck pillows and think you're a functioning member of society?
James Ramirez
This is a dark universe indeed.
Adam Flores
...
Adrian Murphy
Op.....squirt dot org The answer to all your prayers!
Camden Evans
woah, woah, woah, i dont fuck the pillow, i beat off underneath it. its a psychological thing. and yes, i am a functioning member of society, im a salesperson and deal with at least 50 different people a day sure, im definitely fucked in the head, but i grew up on this board, that was a given
Easton Brooks
sales people are some of the most messed up people, trying to sell things to people you don't know consistently messes people up
Charles Ortiz
oh god yes. i see repeat people some days and they recognize me and treat me like a friend and all i can think is 'who the fuck are you?' but i just smile and nod and they buy some shit and the boss keeps signing the checks.
Charles Parker
25, unemployed and bipolar, do have family and a couple friends but I cut myself off from everything in periods. >worst person to give advice
I guess all I can leave you with is, don't give up. If you actually try to be social and leave the house, you're bound to at least make one friend. It gets easier from there.
Gabriel Reyes
>how do you cope with it? The terabytes of porn on my NAS
>How do you deal with the emotional pain of nobody on earth being interested you? By hating them back
>how do you deal with feeling like what was supposed to be the best and most energetic years of your life were squandered living like a senior staying home going to be early on friday nights ect? By not considering that as squandering my life. I've had plenty of interesting hobbies during that time.
>Also how do you deal with the physical discomfort of never getting to feel another person's touch? I've come to hate the touch of another. It feels invasive.
James Hill
well, i had my fun lying to you nerds, getting you to believe im some freak. guess ill go outside and lie to some more people if i were honest, then id truly be alone
Julian Lopez
Get a job on a cruise ship, join the military, do something that will FORCE you to be social. Also get a job on a cruise ship, everyone fucks everyone.
Jack Myers
Dunno where you're from but here everyone who works on cruise ships is from a 3rd world shithole working for 4$ an hour.
Care to share your experience?
Jose Hill
not op btw
Camden Brooks
that post? no, no. of course its not the op. course not, the op wouldnt lie to you. the op is just like you, sad and alone. the op is definitely not trying to coax out your innermost emotions just so he can crush them you can trust the op, trust me
Blake Richardson
seems legit
Jaxon Hernandez
100% legit trust no one
James Young
u wan sum fuk?
Wyatt Campbell
yus
Evan Ortiz
well I want an ice cream taco, but I aint getting that shit neither! damn aussies
Cooper Perez
Jesus fuck, dude. Get an escort. That's what they're there for.
Aaron Gomez
>ice cream taco that sounds like an innuendo, also very gross also also, aussie?