Every spring I get the urge to leave my wife. It's weird. Everything in our marriage is fine, she is a great woman, very supportive and loving. But I get this urge to leave her, but not to fuck around. It's almost as if I begin to "love" another woman, and fixate on her, and nothing sounds better to me than to have the opportunity to pursue her. I think about this woman all day, and formulate all the different ways I could conceivably get out of my marriage while causing the least amount of pain.....Then it goes away I suppose, and I am happily married man again, until the next spell come over me. Thoughts?
kill her and wear her skin keep the eyeballs as a pair of trophies
Austin Parker
Ive been there with my ex now op... this is normal, see if you can spice up the relationship, more sex, get kinkier, roll play, take her out more, anything. but if time passes and you still have these feelings... leave her man, trust me it'll help
Henry Walker
I'm glad I'm not alone in this. We are both 27 but have been together for 10+ years. The sex is top notch, she's great in general. I guess I want some risk, I miss the chase. She is still head over heels for me. Idk man, I just really want to fuck some other women for once I guess. It's tough
Connor Sanchez
>She is still head over heels for me Imagine her fucking someone else every time you think of leaving.
Adrian Wilson
I'm not sure if that bothers me right now.
Mason Collins
If it doesn't then you should move on
Justin Reed
testing
Tyler Kelly
This might sound gay, but I think I resent certain things the further into the future we get. We cannot agree on a church, so we go to hers, but I hate it. I have picked up some hobbies that I am interested in, but she is not interested in getting involved with me (at least not now). She just doesn't make me laugh very often. It's a bunch of little stuff, that alone don't mean much, but when you think about it in perspective, it's a bunch of little things that piss me off.
Blake Clark
That's a classic symptom of bi-polar disorder. Are you bipolar?
Christian Flores
OP let's be real here. Are you happy with your wife? It's possible to be happy with the woman you are with but still get the urge to leave. If you are happy, you should probably think that maybe you are thinking about leaving her because you have been married to her for most of your adult life and never experienced anything else. If true, then this urge to leave is a natural thing and not a result of you not liking your current relationship.
Charles Gray
So its normal, and should most likely stay?
Blake Rodriguez
I never considered it honestly. It doesn't seem to me like I am bi-polar. What makes you say this?
Ian Bailey
OP, you always want what you can't have and trust me if you leave her it's not all that. life will be fucking weird and not what your fantasy makes you think. If I were you, stay. Fucking stay.
Lucas Myers
yeah. And you get annoyed by things she does? Big deal. Literally everyone in every relationship gets annoyed by little things. Your job is to figure out if those little things are worth it and if you enjoy her enough.
Ian Thompson
Because urges to cheat and hurt those you love, when cyclical, could be a sign of bipolar disorder.
It's just one symptom of a larger condition
Andrew Gutierrez
Good advice from Sup Forums thanks anons
Daniel Mitchell
I think it's human nature. As a single guy i know to be on the hunt in spring and fall bc girls are on the hunt.
Thomas Reyes
Also OP, there are plenty of things in life that we desire but once we actually get, don't make us happy. Have you ever bought something really expensive that you looked forward to for a while? How happy did that thing make you after a month? Being single and chasing after whores is like that.
Sebastian Hall
I'm not really interested in bagging whores. I kinda just want to date around, flirt with pretty women, and settle down again. as crazy as it sounds
Nathan Diaz
Are you a generally creative person?
Levi Long
absolutely, why?
Easton Robinson
Is this relevant to why I feel this way?
Benjamin Sanders
Yeah, I'm the guy who thinks you might be bipolar
Grayson Wilson
fuck lol. I'll get it looked into. But honestly, I really thinks it comes down to me settling, and that's where the feeling of happiness comes from. I have been told many times leading up to our marriage about how I am better looking or too good for her. Of course no one says shit like that now that we are married, but I still hear those things in the back of my head sometimes
Dylan Wright
You should talk to a professional about being potentially bipolar
Jack Jackson
It's because there is no baseball or football on TV.
Dark days.
William Evans
>Thoughts? You're immature
Aaron Thomas
fair
Benjamin Evans
This is robert lowell. He was a poet who suffered from bipolar disorder, in his day called manic depressive disorder. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Lowell
Read his bio and bio and poetry and see if it speaks to you
Leo Hughes
This is why you shouldn't get married until you're well into your 30's. you have no life experience to compare your wife and marriage with.
Jacob Long
I know how you feel OP... I just left my girlfriend of 18 years. I had been wanting to do it for years, but never had the balls. It's a relief, but the uncertainty of what comes next is both exciting and scary...
Grayson Torres
thanks user
Elijah Ramirez
jesus, that's a lot of history to give up. I hope it is all worth it.
Nolan Ramirez
Try marriage counseling
Dominic Bailey
Yeah but sometimes the history becomes a chain around your feet keeping you in an unhealthy relationship. The feeling of "well we've been together so long, that we might as well stay forever". In the end I had to face the fact, that I really didn't enjoy her company anymore... But it was the hardest decision of my life.
Jace Gonzalez
Is that what it ultimately came down to? Or was there something really big that pushed you to end it?
Nolan Bell
This guy sounds like me but much deeper into the woods. I'm perplexed at how accurately you identified me and found my likeness with minimal information. Congrats to you user. I am impressed
Jackson Martinez
Synchronicity
Jacob Morales
It was more the combination of a lot of small things. But I guess I started engaging other girls more during the last year. Nothing crossing the line, but just talking and meeting a few for coffee or beers. That kind of made me realise that I was looking for something else. But mostly it was the fact that we were fighting a lot, and that we had become kind of distant from each other mentally. I stopped cared about being right, and just wanted peace...
Gavin Wilson
I think you are secretely gay and that's why you are unhappy. You just need one up the arse from the "woman" you dream about ("she" surely has a penis). Let it happen. Let a man shag you well.
Gavin Parker
this
Dominic Clark
kek
Robert Clark
homohomohomo
Noah Barnes
OP please take some advise from a guy that was where you were are dipped my toe into it and regret it as the worst choice of my life. The emotional turmoil that will result if you stray from your vows will mostly be on her. Right now you are thinking of only yourself, but she is the one that will suffer the most. You may stray and regret it and recover quickly, but your wife will go through months or YEARS of suffering and you have NO IDEA how many things in your life will get destroyed.