My girlfriend left me via text about a month ago. I think about her every minute of every day...

My girlfriend left me via text about a month ago. I think about her every minute of every day, but she blocked me on every social media site and on her phone.

I know this is probably the worst place to vent my feelings, but this shit sucks. I really want to an hero. I have no motivation without her being around. Even got fired from my job because of it... I've contemplated going to her house or her job, but that seems creepy/stalker-like.

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kill her

Great idea. Totally.

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if you really care about her and feel like theres a chance to salvage it, sure, go to her house, why the hell not? If youve been there before it really isnt that creepy, unless she told you to fuck off and never talk to her again or something
what did you even do to scare her off?

Ex texted me after she moved out of my house while I was at work. Thought I was going to marry her. Hit me hard for a year.

Looking back at it now I'm happy it's over as she was too chicken shit to speak in person.

It'll hurt but keep on keeping on man and don't be that cunt. It'll be depressing for a while, just don't stare at her fb and move on. It'll pass and you'll be happy again. Bitches are everywhere that want some dick.

It was some dumb shit - her friends convinced her basically. I don't really wanna go to her house because she's not there often and last time I went, her father was there for some reason and he pulled a fucking shotgun on me. Maybe I'll go to her work?

But I don't want anyone else. I've tried. I know girls that I could fuck in a heartbeat, but I don't want them. I just want my ex. I don't really see that changing, either...

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but just use as a backup

Don't do that. Ex was convinced to cheat through friends/family and to break up. Not worth your time. Not first time I was cheated on either. If they are convinced through others words they are not worth your time.

definitely
if her friends convinced her then shes basing it on social image/value rather than an actual relationship, and by now, if shes not a cunt, she'll have realized she fucked up / misses you but shes just too ashamed to realize it

Yeah I know that feeling all too well man. Been there, done that. Sperged and begged. Wasn't worth man. I promise you'll save yourself a lot more depression and pain if you just move on.

I know what time she works on Fridays. Guess I'll go in then. If it doesn't work out, whatever, can't say I didn't try. If it does, good.

She told me lots of bullshit like that she still cares about me and loves me when she broke up with me, but I never really believed it.

First off, killing yourself over a girl is pointless. Don't be a faggot

Something better will come along.

Not worth putting your friends and family, assuming you have any, through a bunch of heartache because your too much of a pussy to get over it

I don't see myself moving on is the thing. On average it takes 21 days to break a habit, but I still have a really bad habit of thinking about her.

This

Except maybe that last part about bitches being everywhere. I can find them. But the rest of it is true and solid advice

>friends and family
Right...

I assume you meant you can't find them?

Homie trust me. Just got out of a three year stint with a girl. still think about her almost every day for the past four months and as faggy as it sounds I have dreams about her. But each day it gets a little better and I'm happy right now even though I miss her. Just tough it out and things will be fine. Or become a raging alcoholic and watch your life deteriorate over a bitch. Both options work

Wow I misstyped on Sup Forums and wasn't called a faggot/cuck/retard. Yeah I can't find them, also not looking but I got porn so who cares

Doesn't sound faggy. I have dreams about my ex, too. I dream that I'm there in my bed holding her and I wake up alone. It's the worst feeling.

They are everywhere, I just don't want any of them.

I know how you feel OP. I've lost girls I loved very much, I was even engaged once. It's a temporary thing, to be depressed, it's not going to last forever. I used to have clinical depression. I'm not depressed anymore, I'm pretty happy. We'll always have shit days but in the end, you're not going to be depressed forever. Killing yourself is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It's always going to hurt those around you. If you're not going to care about yourself at least care for those around you. You'll find someone else some day that will make you even happier than the bitch that left you. You don't want to be with a coward who can't even break up with you face to face, then block you on everything. You'll be happy again some day. Just give yourself some time to recollect yourself, think, and calm down. It's going to hurt for a while but you'll recover soon enough.

Appreciate that but I'm not the type of person who normally has dreams you know. So it's weird that she started showing up on them. It's not like we're having sex or being all romantic in the dreams. It's just that when I sleep she's still there. I do normal dream shit it's just she's there and still in my life. Then I wake up and realize I haven't heard from her in months.

Fuq a thot ho niggas

You're going to let a chick decide your fate? Grow a fucking pair pussboi, because obviously she took the pair you were born with. You'll get over her user. Time heals all wounds. Step up your game, don't get attached for 3 years, and be selective. Work on yourself and you'll not regret it.
If not, kys.
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I just got out of an 8-year long sentence with depression. I feel myself going back in to it because of this breakup. When she broke up with me, the emotional trauma was so bad that I even had a fucking seizure and woke up in the hospital the next day (I was unconscious for 28 hours). I don't see this pain ending, but that's how it was for those 8 years, too.

It'd still suck having those dreams. There are streets I walk down and I have memories of going on bike rides and shit with her on those streets. It's rough. I want to move away...

Not be be dr. Fuckhead but it kind of sounds like maybe there's something else going on right? And maybe she helped you cover up the problems when you were together but that doesn't mean they went away. Focus on you user it's what's best right

I already dealt with the issues on my own before I even met her. It wasn't her covering up my problems or anything... it's just that now that she broke up with me, it reminded me of them.

Yeah I find myself going near my home town except to visit my parents cause I know she's still living around there and i just want to forget. Reminds me of that movie with Jim Carey. Something about eternal sunshine of the mind

Fair enough man. It's annoying how a girl can fuck your up mentally beyond just the relationship you had. Hope you can figure things out again and at least you know you'll always have fellow anons to talk to here on b

I don't even enjoy going outside or going in to certain rooms in my house anymore.

Yeah, it was a breakup for me that sorta activated my depression for a few years. It's a fucked feeling, I know. You share so much with a person and one day it just cuts off. You'll find someone else that will make you happy again. Who knows? One day you may just wake up and feel refreshed. Honestly there's no certainties. I'm sure you're old enough to know life is a cunt but don't let some bitch bring you down. She wasn't worth anything if she pulled such a coward move. People like her aren't worth your time. You just take some time and recollect yourself. Don't think about how she may have made you happy, or how you'll miss her because not long down the road you won't miss her and you'll realise how much of a cunt she was. Instead, you focus on how you make you happy. You don't need a coward in your life to make you happy, you need you, your friend and your family. Be selfish for a while, make yourself happy. Do what you want with your new freedom.

It's hard to pull that trigger, but ya gotta fucking squeeze. I made excuses for 4 years. Either financial, career wise, mental health, whatever. First 6 months were hell. I'd sit and look at the wall in my apartment until I fell asleep. I barely unpacked. I drank for weeks at a time. Played tunes that made me cry. But, eventually it became easier. She was and is the past.
I'm gonna go jerk off now.
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Weird choice of words at the start but I agree with this dude. Life gets better. Depression isn't permanent.

Well that ain't going to help man. Weak advice but just try to find anything to keep your mind busy and distracted. Pick up more hours at work if you have a job, buy a new video game, pick up some kind of hobby . Not saying it'll make you forget about her but the less you think about her each day the less it hurts. So if you're working more or doing something that makes you think about other things it'll help. You'll still have those bouts of melancholy but they should at least become less frequent

You're correct in calling her a coward because only cowards break up with someone over text. However, I don't believe that "you only need you, your friends, and your family," crap. I want a significant other, and I want her... even if I can't have her.

I've tried distracting myself, but in the moment - playing video games, doing work, etc - I still think of her and how it used to be.

You'll have a significant other eventually, obviously she isn't the one though. If she treats you like shit in the end she's not worth your pain. One day you'll find someone nice, may not be her, your next girlfriend or the one after but you will eventually. Gotta crack a few eggs to make a life omelette. The reason I say "you only need you family, friends" etc is because they're the ones that will try to keep you happy in the mean time. Along with yourself. You need to keep your chin up.

I'm in the exact same boat right now, my ex asked me to move out and has blocked me completely because she needs her space, so give it to her and don't be a fucking stalker. It sounds like you're codependent (which I have been before with my ex-wife) which is unhealthy. Read "Codependent No More" and keep yourself busy working, exercising, playing sports, anything to make yourself a better person for the next woman who actually deserves you. I know it sucks balls bro but drinking and fixating on the good ole days isn't going to change anything, so move your ass and get busy livin.

The thing is, I miss her and the good times I spent with her. I miss how she used to make me happy. I want her and I don't want anyone else.

Forget her, when you dump someone because your friends said so, how into you was she really? Easy she wasn't.
Now go and fuck all her friends you stud

I'm not a fucking stalker if I want to go in to her work for a god damn chicken sandwich and maybe a chat about how she really fucked up my emotional state, you closed-minded prick.

I feel you bro. I still have re occurring dreams about her usually 1 or 2 a week and consistently on the 24th for the past 3 years. It is strange. I will often dream of me going back in time sometimes to parallel dimensions to warn her about the breakdown and hospitalization I would have. I dream of her and I just talking like we used to like everything is ok. The hardest part is waking up and knowing that it will never go back to being that way.

just kys yourself normalfag you don't know real problems

I know how you feel. I was hospitalized too. Hopefully sometime it'll change and I'll dream of someone else, and I'll be able to have that person. But for now I don't want anyone else. I hope things change for you, too. I hope someone is able to put dreams in place of the ones you have now about your ex.

I'd save that chat for a 1 on 1 convo not while you are spilling spaghetti all over the floor while fat Martha is breathing down your neck trying to order a fucking chicken sandwich.

It's only been a month. In the grand scale of things, and emotions, that's not a whole lot of time. It took me 4 - 6 months to get over my biggest relationship and two years later I still think about her. Like I said, it's fucked to share so much with someone for it to then be suddenly cut off but you'll recover soon enough. One day you'll want nothing more than to not be with her again.

Go ahead and mope around as long as you want. It'll do nothing for you. At all. Any closure that you think you may get one day is nonexistant.
And if you finally decide to stop cosplaying as a real life Eeyore, go and make something of yourself. Work out, get a better job/learn a trade, etc. Do something productive and improve yourself instead of daydreaming about what could have been with a girl that didn't even have the audacity to leave you in person. I want to believe you're more then some depressed slob who thinks life is over because some insignificant girl decided to leave you.
Have some self respect and grow a pair.

You're clearly mentally ill, and not in a good way. A 1-on-1 conversation can be had while she's on break at her work. She decides when she takes her breaks, too.

been there only time is gonna help
this happened to me 2 years ago now she's the one that wants me back

Why do some people still care about you after you've fucked up so bad?

Nah, I want that closure and I'll get it some day. Also, I didn't really read the rest after that because it was probably just you being a prick.

took me 9 months, you'll get there

I didn't fuck up. She did.

Thanks man. I hope that maybe someday I'll dream about someone new. In the mean time I am doing alright. Just working, going to school, and am trying to get back into running and volleyball. things are going alright man. Time heals everything. and sorry to hear about the hospitalization. I know that can be pretty rough. I hope you are in a better place now man.

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Give a listen bro, just got out of a 6 year relationship myself. This always makes me chuckle

I was talking about in general for everyone.

Jumping to conclusions is a sign of insecurity. And everything I typed was in hope that you'd move on and be something more.
Go ahead and be miserable then. See how far that will take you.

The hospitalization was indeed very fucking rough. Injected with Haldol to the point where I got temporary tardive dyskinesia and suffocated on my tongue and nearly died. Horrible.

I don't have any other choice, I can't control my emotions. I'm not a sociopath.

I'm not accusing you of being a stalker, just telling you that you don't wanna go that route unless you have a QT hanging on your arm and aren't going to sperg out on her. If there was a future together she will come back to you, trust me on this bro.

Damn that sounds pretty crazy. Some of those anti psychotics can have weird side effects. We you dignosed with schizophrenia or something? And were your symptoms drug induced/related? Just asking because I came down with schizo affective and had a downward spiral after an LSD trip.

I don't plan on sperging out on her. I plan on ordering a fucking sandwich and telling her how I feel and that's it. I'm not gonna get angry or make a scene, I'm gonna get closure and get food in my stomach then leave.

No, it was a very bad hospital that drugged every new patient that came in. Saw it happen. I was so drugged out the first two days that I was asleep for the entirety of them (48+ hours). There were "Patients Rights" advocates but they never did anything.

That still seems like the wrong place to confront her, think about how you would feel if she did that at your work. It seems inappropriate to ambush someone like that, but you could go in and ask her to talk sometime for closure maybe.

Where else would I do it? Her house, where her dad may be? To pull a fucking shotgun on me? No thanks. I have no other options but to do it at her work. She has a ten-minute break option and I bet you she'd spend it on talking to me.

my gf cucked me about 2 years ago. some of yall got a fetish for that shit but it basically broke me. havent recovered... anybody else going through this?

It's not a matter of controlling them. It's admitting to yourself that you're worth more then what you've experienced, and moving UP from there. This girl isn't going to bring you anymore happiness.

Well you know her well enough so if she'd be cool with spending her break talking to you then go for it then.

You don't know that and neither do I.

WHY CAN'T I BE GOOD AT ANYTHING
I'M MEDIOCRE AT EVERYTHING I DO.
FUCK ME

My ex-wife did that and it hurts a lot man. In fact, our marriage never recovered from it even after a few years. I did slam some strange when she was out of town and felt better about myself though. Just accept that there are a lot of whores and you can't always tell which ones are until they cheat on you. You gotta remember that you're a catch and get back out there and be a man. Ruminating about her cheating is basically you trying to maintain control over something that's not yours, you can never control another person no matter what kind of ideals you have about relationships. She will always be a cheater so you dodged a huge bullet that some other poor asshole is going to knock up and be stuck with getting cucked on the regular.

better than sucking at everything tho tbh fam

Assuming what you wrote is true, she blocked you via phone numbers and social media. If she still wanted to be in contact with you, she wouldn't have done that. Why are you convinced there's still something more?

Because she told me there could be, that there was a possibility of such.

I mean, I've heard it before and it was probably a lie to soften the blow - but I don't know that. That's why I want closure.

20 yr old pre-wizard here, each day i realize how gross girls actually are after the long lack of them. they just suck dick and get fucked and what not, and have other peoples hands all over them. being alone sounds way sicker tbh lol

Hang in there. Your ex is very childish. You would be better off with someone who doesn't treat you this way.

when you know you suck at everything you don't try
but i'm mediocre and i still have hope, i should just kys mys

You're not the first person to call her childish.

I feel bad for you. Dump her nudes.

funny thing is I was a man about it and kicked her out etc and I was feeling alright about the situation.. then she came back and told me that the guy she left me for cheated on her and she was a mess.. so naturally i forgave her and whatnot. thought it could work. then she left again and this time severed all connections.. all she wanted to do was be absolved of her guilt and I gave her that. I felt like a huge beta cuck after that and its really fucked up my life. even though I can intellectualize it and time has given me perspective on it, it still affects me and now Im a changed person

Why would I keep them?

>killing yourself over a female
fucky keky

fuck you

Do you work at a car dealership? Do you ride horses?

Let me tell you a story.
Towards the end of senior year, I sort of had a thing with a girl. Gorgeous girl. We'd make out and be close, but she kept that to herself. Didn't really want anyone to know what was going on between us. When summer came along, she completely blew me off. I'd ask her if she wanted to hang out, and she'd always tell me she was busy with work, even though Facebook showed her hanging out with other people. Wasnt till the end of summer when people went away for college that she started giving me attention again. We started dating, but I always wondered why she ignored me then. And each time I'd ask her, she'd cry and give me a different story; she was busy, she was depressed, she didnt know if I'd get along with her friends, etc. I'm almost certain she was pursuing someone else, and came to me when everyone else left. I'd ask and ask and this became a sore spot for her. I broke things off because if she wasn't going to be honest with me, I wanted nothing to do with her.
I still don't know why she ignored me then. Maybe I wasn't as attractive as someone else. Maybe she slept around with others. Idk. But I know I'm worth a damn now, and moved on and up.

That's rough dude, but that's all she'll ever do in her future relationships. You did the right thing though.

> > I'd ask and ask
Problem solved. You owe me $ for my coaching, bitch.

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