Okay Sup Forums, I got something to get off my chest. So Get if off your chest thread, I guess

Okay Sup Forums, I got something to get off my chest. So Get if off your chest thread, I guess.

>Be me
>Be last year, met this girl on Tinder
>We go on a few dates, things go really well. We get along like crazy
>She's a solid 9/10 according to my standards
>We live kinda far, but she gives lifts to her friend (let's call her Grima, (pic related) every couple of days and comes to see me at the same time
>We talk a lot on Facebook, we both like the same stuff
>We start talking about really deep stuff. She opens up about her ex, how he used to rape and beat her. She telle me ''user, I've never said this to anyone, not in this much detail''. We bond over it, talk for entire nights about it.
>Fast-Forward a few weeks
>We've been dating for for two months at this point.
>We decide to go up to the city for a date, doesn't tell me she's bringing Grima
>Grima is a socialist, a femi-nazi and a hardcore vegan. She's offended by everything and complains the entire day
>We still have a decent time, despite her trying to ruin the mood (she pulled the chick's phone while she was driving, installed tinder and started swiping a buncha dudes, saying shit like ''Wow, this one's real cute, and it's a match!''
>BitchCanYouNot.jpeg
>After that day, I started feeling more than attraction to her. I'm falling in love
>Few weeks go by, we keep talking constantly but don,t really see each other
>We're still talking about some deep stuff
>We see each other again, things are a little awkward but we have fun. We fuck
>Finally.wav
>After this, things start to suck. The distance is weighing in heavy, we shared way too much, and she starts noticing I'm in love with her. She's not.
>I have to move soon, I can either move to her town and see what happens, or move to back to the city and move on, get a job in my domain.
>I've always been nice to her, always been honest. She's not used to it and is scared of commitment.
>Long story short, after that it's incredibly awkward. We stop talking almost altogether

Cont.
>I feel heartbroken at this point.
>Moved back to the city temporarily, for a formation
>I tell her how I feel, how I don't care how emotionally broken she is, and that I understand how she's not ready for commitment.
>She says she understands, and she's sorry that she didn't felt the same way
>Next day
>''user, I made a mistake. I've been crying all night because I feel like an idiot. You're an amazing guy and you treat me well.'' and such.
>Decide : Well okay, I was gonna try to move on, but if she wants to try and make this work, fine with me.
>The next couple of weeks, I start noticing her flaws, how she's always playing this back and forth shit.
>She gets pissed all the time, Grima's been poisoning her mind with her autistic shit (Grima doesn't like me, at all)
>I get sick of it, and stop talking to her. I go to talk about to a girl friend, because I have no idea what to do.
>She decides to set me up with a friend of her.
>She's a 7/10 but she's really nice, uncomplicated.
>We make each other happy
>Few weeks later, Grima sends me a message, saying how the chick was seeing her abusive ex, and it was all my fualt for breaking her heart
>''Fuck off, that's not my fault or my problem.''
>Chick messages me, saying how she's sorry for insulting me and how she misses me dearly.
>I tell her I still care for her, but this isn't working out. I'd rather be her friends

The thing is, Chick 1 is pretty much perfect for me (aside from the craziness). I care for her like I haven't for anyone in years, but we don't make each other happy. But nonetheless, I want to be with her. So now I'm stuck between her and Chick 2. I want to be with chick 1, but I feel like it's never gonna work. I know I could be friends with her, but she's always saying how she misses me and wants to be with me, but as soon as I give her attention, she runs away, so on and so forth. Where as with chick 2, things are simple and feel right.

How bout you Sup Forums, how you doing?

I'm sorry, Sup Forumsro, I'd say move to the city. Sounds like she already picked up what you laid down & it wasn't her thing. Better luck in the future!

Yeah, I think so to. It's just that I've never been with anyone that amazing, and she keeps doing this back and forth crap, playing with my emotions to get whatever it is she wants.

Shit, i jumped the gun. Chick 2, my man. Chick 1 needs to do a bit of work on herself & ditch Grimace before she'll be ok. Simplicity cannot be mistaken for dullness, life has many surprises hidden in guises.

10/10, made me reply, etc.

Chick 1 is never a long-term solution unless you have the emotional muscle (and patience) to basically strong-arm her out of her bullshit, and you need to be ready for the fact that she will be a very different person when she comes out the other side of it. If you can't see the person underneath, or you aren't sure that /that/ person is who you want, drop her and don't look back.

It's better for you, and for her.

Odds are overwhelmingly that you and she are going to make each other increasingly miserable for a couple of years then implode violently. Spare yourselves the trouble and just let go.

Girl 2 sounds like a decent run for a few months or so, until you get bored, but honestly I don't think you'll long-term it with either one.

So I guess just have your fun, but know what you'd be getting into up front no matter which way you go.

I hear ya, thanks for listening Sup Forumsro

Anyone else has anything to share? I've been drinking, tell me about your problems, maybe I'll be of help

Complicated shit. So, do you feel like you might fall in love with chick 2 ? If so, go for it. If not, back to chick 1, but you need to take the lead, to 'man up' and tell her to stop her craziness. She won't. But she may try to, and if you manage to canalize her, things will go better and better.

Yeah, I think so too. I don't mind her difficulties, and I really do care and want to help, even if that means we'll never be together, but she doesn't seem to be ready to to that herself.

Just out of curiosity, why do you think Chick 2 wouldn't work in the long run?

Pics of girl 1? Really curious

>why do you think Chick 2 wouldn't work in the long run?

The way you talk about her, dude. You went on and on about 1, but the nicest things you could say about 2 were
>She's a 7/10 but she's really nice, uncomplicated.
>We make each other happy

So, moderate but decent looks. Uncomplicated. Pleasant.

If you're not enthusiastic about her now, why would you expect to be more enthusiastic about her later? It sounds like she's more of a placeholder to you than anything. And, zero judgement. Like, having something nice and fun and light is totally legit, but it really doesn't sound like you see a lot of depth in it, and you can't make a long-term relationship out of "eh, it's not terrible."

Probably because your mind is stuck on another girl. Regret can be a bad thing and it'll corrupt your relationship with chick 2. Things like "I should have tried..."

Saved a few n00ds, but not sharing anything. Sorry Sup Forumsro. She's a tall brunette, nice ass, small tits but whatever, I don't mind. Won't share more, sorry.

She'll never be ready to change as long as nobody makes her change. You have to take the lead, to 'force' her to change. Or to run away. I dont judge, it'll be hard, exhausting and, in the begining, unrewarding. And you may fail.

Sure are alot of 10/10 girls in this world. Really makes you think

I see what you both mean by that. Difference between 1 and 2 is, I've known 1 for months and we've shared a lot, where as 2 we just met. She really is nice, and we do get along, I just don't know her a lot yet, and I'm still confused about 1. But yeah, you're probably right.

No problem dude, not holding a grudge. Wish you the best in the rest of your life!

Thanks user, I actually appreciate that. Godspeed.

Seems like you've fucked yourself out of a good thing. Learn and move on. Sharing shit is for when you're together and stable, especially if it's dark shit. You drop all your emotional baggage on someone unwilling to pick it up / unknowing what they're going to do with it and you've made it really hard for yourself. Works both ways too, she had no way of knowing what you'd do with that shit, maybe she was trying to sabotage the whole thing from the start because she knew she didn't want to get with anyone else properly, perhaps subconsciously.

Either way: you've drifted apart already, doesn't seem like she wants to drift back. Worth a shot I guess but financial stability > chance at romance.

every crazy bitch was ''raped'' by her ''abusive'' ex

Not to put too fine a point on it, but how old are you, dude? I'm guessing maybe early 20s?

This is the time of your life to be having all the fun you can while putting 60% of your energy into building a career for 30yo you.

You, your life, your work, your systems come first.

People like to talk about finding "the one" but it's bullshit. There are plenty of women in every city that will be great as fuckbuddies, girlfriends, long-term relationships, or wives, so if you miss one now, another is around the corner. Don't look to hard, just focus on being the best version of yourself and everything will work out.

The dating pool only gets bigger from here on out, so just don't sweat it.

I'd say date 2 right up until it isn't fulfilling (a week, a month, or a year) and then move on with no hard feelings.

You got this, man.

OP , you have to use this as a snowball to meet more and more women, keep rolling to the next one and build that snowball up.

Attention user: Every girl claims to have been raped and abused by former boyfriend...every girl

>maybe she was trying to sabotage the whole thing from the start
I felt that way too, honestly. I think there could have been something there, but she dumped so much on my head, expecting me to fix all her shit or run away, and I did neither.

She was in court, along with a few more chicks to get that guy to jail. There's literal evidence to his actions. Edgybait.jpeg

That's right, mid 20s. I've finished my studies and been trying to get a job for a while. I don't expect to find my future wife and fall in love right away or something, but I've got the time and energy. It would just be nice to have a decent relationship for once, not just fuckbuddies and hook-ups.

Not sure if looking for advice but:

-don't stay with any chick if she feels like you have "settled" for something but in the back of your head you feel like you can be happier.

-I have been married with a girl that got raped in the past, I threw love at her like no tomorrow trying to make her feel unbroken. If that girl doesnt (try to) fix her own mind first in a very active way, i can recommend not being with her.

I have no regrets but it sure cost me a bunch of prime years. I recommend nobody trying to carry a relationship on your own, because that is what you will end up doing.

Always try to find the relationship in which you can both love yourselves and eachother. Without that you gonna have a rough ride.

....ehmm..
thats it. Godspeed user.

Don't stick your dick in crazy OP. Best advice I've learned from Sup Forums.

see Funny how I've dated many chicks, and not one has faked something like that.

Thanks user, it's good to hear from someone who made it work

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>butshehot.jpeg
Yeah, that is the downside with crazy. They have hot bodies, cute faces, they are nice to you and seem to like you a lot. But you know, crazy has mental issues like depression, obsession, trauma... And they are just looking for a nice guy who gives her attention, so she feels good about herself or she gets into stalking mode. Fuck that shit.

ahh yeah and get yaself a girl and be complete honest about everything. Even your feelings towards her.

trust me, that shit will repay itself so hard.

Fair enough user.

> aside from the craziness

If your idea is to live with her until you die, keep this in mind: beauty goes away, crazy never does. If she's not crazy in a way that tickles your fancy, DROP IT NOW.

what is this? someone with social intelligence on Sup Forums?

Give us the feminazi bitch's name and Facebook

semi related but need advice
>22 year old autismo here
>never used tinder before
>try to limit my internet interactions to a minimum, prefer to talk irl
>no girls in sight irl
>want to meet grills
>is tinder something a retard like me should use?

Faggot

Do you have anything to lose? You won't necessarily meet ''the one'' or whatever, but it can't hurt. Worst that'll happen is you'll get experience

A decent relationship can be as simple as having someone else to do the laundry while you cook dinner, or whatever, and then enjoying the shit out of some netflix in relative silence, then having amazing sex the next morning.

Or it's someone you go kayaking, rock-climbing, hiking, camping, and berry-picking with.

Or it can be someone you can debate philosophy with, as the conversation gradually transitions into video game design and heavy metal history. (The two actually do run parallel, if you think about it).

If you find a girl who does all three, marry her.

"Wahhhh my ex beat me and raped me :..("

>goes back to him immediately

Hopefully he rapes her and beats her to death this time

I met my wife on Tinder.

I don't think she actually went back to him, pretty sure Grima's trying to get a rise out of me. But yeah, if it's true, fuck that cunt.

I don't plan on meeting the perfect girl, just any girl that will find me interesting. See the problem is that I've always hated this sort of shit like tinder and all that.
>I'm never on my phone
>all I use is facebook really and not much of it either
also I'm better in person i think, from a picture someone might think I'm 6/10 at best, but a lot of people (especially girls) seem to like me much more after a conversation or just spending some time around me.

I don't want to make myself look like a desperate cuck in case some of the girls that I knew from school see me. People like to bring up shit like that where I live
>very small town

true story? is that app for all kinds of people?
>read what I wrote above to see if I 'qualify'

Hey Sup Forumsro.

This is coming from someone whose been through plenty of relationships and similar scenarios before wifing one. Been happily married for years.

You're not gonna end up with either of these women in the long run so don't stress yourself out.

>Use them both as learning experiences
>Bang away as much as you can
>Trust your instincts
>Hold out for the one you can't you can't live without.

Grima fucked her mind up about you and her relationship also never go out with a gf and their friends or your friends either women or men for some reason fucks up the relationship.

True story bud.

Not sure if you're into traveling, but if you use the pay-to-use version of Tinder you can start searching cities BEFORE you visit them. This is how I met my wife.

I haven't used tinder in a couple years but I would imagine it still operates more or less the same.

You know what's weird, though? I actually feel like a complete social outcast on Sup Forums (not that I'm a fucking social butterfly IRL or anything).

I actually am kind of autistic, but I'm not a NEET basement-dwelling fedora-clad neckbeard, so I don't fit in.

It's surreal.

There's all sort in there. You don't have to spend your entire days on it. Just say you don't like that kind of stuff, and you'd rather meet irl. That's what I usually and it's worked almost everytime. And you've got absolutely nothing to lose. If you dislike it, uninstall and that's that.

I read that real quick so might not understand everything
but from what I've read it seems like Grima is the problem, a jealous tumblerina who can't get laid because all guys are assholes that oppress her so she spreads lies and makes you look like a bad person.
Most likely afraid of losing her friend, the girl you're into.

Tough one really, seems like the only way to get her to stop spreading poison is to talk to her and convince her you're not what she makes you out to be. Good luck tho, because femanazis are almost impossible to convert

Chick 1 is toxic and will shit in your soul. She's not "perfect for you", she's just hot and you caught the feels. Chick 2 seems cool and shit seems good between you.

Never throw away something good like that. If you take chick 1 back, the same shit will happen again and you'll both be locked in this toxic cycle until one of you kills themselves. Chick 2 all the way.

Oh and also, yes you definitely quality. Kek. Just gonna have to suck it up and use your phone a bit more than you'd like.

I live in a small town too so matches were sparse here. When I started searching big cities I was shocked by the number of attractive grills who show genuine interest.

Just make it happen!

>stopped talking to a girl I was close with few months ago
>fool around often but she didn't want to fuck me
>we used to be around each other all the time
>see her a few times because we share the same friends
>she always intitates conversation with me, nothing more than some idle chit chat when I see her
>hung out with her and another friend over the weekend, shes giving me a lot of attention.
>talking to me in this soft spoken, kinda sexy voice. Don't know how to describe it
>saying shit like "oh user is going to get us lost." "don't do anything stupid like that again, user." Or just "oh anonnn haha" shit like that
>texts me the other night, I don't respond

I miss her but I still feel hatred toward her, she's a psycho bitch. I've done a good job at moving on, but she still lingers in the back of my head. I dropped her because she got together with another friend, but they're not bf and gf. What do?

thanks guys, it's been on my mind all day and it bothered me. Might give it a shot then, see whats up. Better to risk it than not doing shit and never knowing

Qualify****

This was my tinder profile pic.
My profile said i was an androgynous flaming faggot.

Still had many matches with 7+/10's to my surprise. Going to live together this summer with my gf whom i met on there.

If I can do it, you can do it.
Just be happy with who you are, and try to distinct yourself a bit in your profile, chicks a fuckton of matches so it is competitive.
If you are a grey mouse profile with the opening "Hi, how are you?" you just lost points.

Say in your profile your are an autismo, girls will find out anyway, maybe you can score a hot other autismo-girl.

Those were my tips
Good luck brah.

im lurking if ya wanna know more

No problem. Remember what I said about the pay-to-use version. If you take my advice, I suggest beginning by searching the nearest big city.

Best of luck and happy hunting.

I am 34 years old and going to drop the biggest dose of truth ever on not only op but a lot of people in this thread. Tinder, POF and so on are full of nothing but bottom of the barrel bitches. They may look hot but 99% of the time they have exhausted all their dating options within the circles of people they have known since childhood (That 1% being people who may have relocated and know nobody in their area of course). They think that if they turn to online dating they will find Mr muscles bad boy ( keyword being boy since most of them are striated up self centered pussies) full of tats and what not. You will never find a real woman on these sites, just a bunch of childish girls that will leave you the moment some one better looking comes along. I am not judging your looks but on an honest scale you have to be a 7/10 to have been going this long op. Once she finds a 9 or higher she is out. She came crying back to you because a 9 did fuck her over and she got a dose of reality but it is not until these bitches have 2 kids under their belt that they start to figure out what really matters in a man. Best advice I can give you... Stop worrying about finding someone and just live life, the right woman will show up in your life or is sitting right infront of you and you just don't know it yet.

Holy shit this made my day.

FUCKING KEK

why kek if i may ask?

Don't waste your time with chick 1. No one needs drama and instability. If you have strong feelings keep going with chick 2.

Damn bro, had some bad Tinder experiences I take it?

I wouldn't go so far as to say 99% of the women on Tinder are "bottom of the barrel." I've had some awesome conversations and made genuine friendships with some of them too.

thanks man! I'm confident that this may work after all now.

just a quick question (and some back story)
>my friends tried to convince me to use tinder
>always said no because didn't like it, didn't feel like I need it
>now that I'm setting it up it asks me to log in via facebook
>don't want friends to find out
>don't wanna feel awkward for the rest of the day
it doesn't let me log in any other way. Is anything tinder related going to come up on my facebook and be public?

yeah but you should not use tinder as a main source for potential girls.
There are some good quality wife material girls on it...

BUT
its hard to find m so use tinder as an extra option

>This was my tinder profile pic.
My profile said i was an androgynous flaming faggot.

Fucking absolutely comedy gold and genius, I love it sir. Makes sense that you were able to get matches because you gave them a good chuckle from the start!

Don't overthink it, user. Most chicks on Tinder are easy going. Just go out, have some fun and then who knows.

So let me get this straight, she's a tease, goes back and forth and plays with you? Fuck that bitch user. It's normal to still think about her every now and then, but don,t let her ruin your mood for nothing, pal. (I might have understood wrong, if so, please explain)

Exactly. Also, KEK

Fuck... greentext fail

Never tried any of these sites, just watched a lot of my friends go through it. I have met women through my career and the paths it has taken me down. I met my wife many years ago through work and was really good friends with her for many years. My online dating observations also come from knowing a lot of women I grew up with using it and their unrealistic standards when they themselves are nothing but trash that we only keep around on Facebook to watch the enviable down fall... Its like free cable.

If you really loved chick 1, there wouldn't be a chick 2

It only syncs your friends and your pictures. To my experience, no one has ever found out (or cared). You won't get matches with people you already know.

Wrong. That shit never works unless she's willing to make that change. If not, then you're wasting your time and your breath

>Being this autistic

Meant for

No you're right, she would throw sex right in my face but would never let me go any further. Its just annoying when I see her, shell be flirty with me then try to hit me up later on like its nothing.

Fair enough! So you have witnessed many failures on Tinder, but have you witnessed the wins???

Also KEK!! Love that last line

Yeah? Well fuck her (figuratively), she's not worth it.

This post deserves trips of truth; however, they're nowhere to be found.

Agree 100%

Bitch #1 can fuck right off

The faggot here, no fb wont show anything about your tinder BUT if a profile has mutual friends on fb, it will show in tinder.

> "2 mutual friends, and who the friends are"
but who cares Tinder is nothing to be ashamed of

ahh like that haha

I would like to a "focus on my career" but I'm not really that passionate about anything. and I'm not good at anything naturally. time is passing, but it seems my options are still narrow

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Here having a Feminazi friend is a pretty good indicator of the shit she's willing to put up with from womenz. If things are getting weird, abandon ship man! Fuck that. Don't move to her town, you'll regret it and you know you will.

This is some heavy shit, man. I say if things are going straight between you and Chick 2, you should stay with her. Try and stay friends with Chick 1, don't let those old feelings die for nothing. Instead, just stay friends. If she can't move on from her loss, then all you can really do is be there for her as a best friend. Once you maintain a steady friendship with her, tell her why it didn't work out as a relationship. Nobody likes missing their chance, but if Grima is really the cause of this falling out, tell that to Chick 1. Let her know why you stopped talking to her. Otherwise it might end up eating at her for the rest of the time you spend together. If she reacts poorly, then you always have Chick 2 to level things out.

Good luck my man. And god bless.

Yeah I'll continue to do so.

This is accurate.

No one cares. Internet dating is normal now. What are you afraid of? Kek

>Being on /b
>Calling others autistic

Kek bless you

Yeah, that's what I thought too. I'll give her some space for a while, I've already dropped some bombs on her and she's still in that phase of ''back and forth cuntery''. I'm not one to hold a grudge, but I think she is. We'll see. And I can't say I'm in love with C2 yet, I've just met her. But I like her a lot, I'll be pursuing that in the near future.

When i download a torrent i never seed

Other than the occasional friend pull a hit and quit I have not seen a full meaningful relationship develop from any online dating sites.

Don't take my two posts wrong. I am all for Sup Forumsrothas hitting up these sites for for a good ol pump and dump with these rats who are trying to figure out if their relationship with their drug dealer is platonic or not. I wish when I was younger it was that easy.

There is no such thing as narrow options. Take the job even if it sucks, become the best at it, build an awesome resume and once you do find what it is you want to do it will reflect better to be a hard worker who made it far in a shifty company vs someone who bounced around trying to figure out what they want to die doing after 30.

Well it happens everyday, user! People are always forming lasting relationships after first meeting online!

I do agree that the pump and dump strategy is much easier though. Depends what you're looking for.

They very well could be. I have never witnessed it and from my experiences have become jaded over it. I guess a better piece of advice for op is not worry about her. If she wants to act like the bitches I have come to know on these sites then move on to find someone better. Relationships are 110% in both directions and if she lived you she would let it show unquestionably. Don't settle, become the standard.

>opens up about ex
>how he used to rape and beat her

Sounds like Grima needs a dose of reality. That bitch is solely responsible for her friend's unhappiness, but she won't see it that way. Maybe one day chick 1 will get sick of Grima's shit, but unlikely. Sucks Sup Forumsro but if "the one" exists she won't be so totally resistant. Keep looking

He needs to give us her name so she can get the cockblocker of the year award and be inducted into the hall of fame.

Or just become friends with someone who has no problem running a good defense to jump on that grenade. You know... Tell her he agrees with all her man hating bullshit, nut in her cud filled gaping throat that spews fourth 4 years of gender studies doctrination and never call her afterwards.

This is solid advice

Op here, still lurking.
Top kek. She once claimed she had ''autistic tendencies'' to explain her retardation and her ''inability to feel or care''(her words). I'm not kidding.

Re read your story.
>She's a 7/10 but she's really nice, uncomplicated.
>We make each other happy

You have the answer already

Those are the easiest to pull defense on while your homie gets his Dick sucked in the bathroom. It is all bullshit fantasies conquered up to get attention so have a good friend who is awesome at spitting bullshit to play the game.

Truth.

If she wants to be with you she will tell the Rosie O'Donell Janeane Garofalo half breed to kick rocks.