Ask an actual therapist anything

Ask an actual therapist anything.

Delete system 32 y/n?

How leave agoraphobia?

What kind of therapy specifically ?

>The rapist

Why am I on this site?

I haven't really felt emotions (sometimes get hints of anger but mostly just sadness) for multiple years (about since I hit puberty). Is this psychical?

Do you also see symptoms that could be indicative of thought alterations in essentially everyone you meet?

If my friends start pissing me off the first reaction i have is instantly drop all contact and burn them. Whats up with this situation

You still there bud?

Am not OP but also therapist.
Friendship stems from the human need to stick together because sticking together means survival, and interaction with others is how we grow

Sometimes that interaction stops offering us value and when that happens its fairly natural to seek out new interactions that provide better enjoyment and opportunities for evolution, growth and progress.

Makes no sense to stick with friends just because they have always been friends, do what makes you happy so long as it doesnt hurt anyone. You talk as if they piss you off often, maybe you need to question why they are still friends.

I have proven that there is no point in life. From a logical stand point, all there could possibly be is what one would want. If using buddhist techniques (or whatever) one could rid themselves of the want, then what would be left to live for?

How often do you guys get this joke?

Dear Mr Therapist
I've had three dreams which involved my sister in a sexual manner. I've never done anything and never would but should I seek professional help?

How high is the sky?

Live and practice in Spain so they don't know. Some poeple are uncomfortable around terapists (they think we are charles fucking xavier or something) so I tell them about the rapist sometimes as an icebreaker. It works or it doesnt.

Its almost one year that I don't always remember what I dreamt the past night.
But when I remember its always the same thing.
It's a curly redhead, with beautiful green eyes, naked, over me.
I kiss her and nod.
And then she chokes me to death.
And I wake up breathe less and with half a boner.
And I do not know what do.
Help me doc, this thing is driving me crazy.

Why am I into pixel porn?
Why do I get sudden violent thoughts randomly?
for example
If I'm petting a cat I'll see images of myself slamming it against a wall or something similar
>save me op

friend is afraid to ry hard to avoid the realization that he wasn't ever that good
needs reassurance and doesn't believe that they can function
extremely depressed outgoing but end up driving people away because need constant reassurance
how not be

Always seek professional help if you feel you might need or, more importantly, want it. In principle those dreams prob mean nothing and you are more worried about them than you need to be.

But if you feel you want to talk about it to sort how any related feelings, by all means go talk to someone. Doesnt have to be "getting help", just keeping healthy and happy.

Like most shit logs smell like feces
His warm shit log smelled uniquely
He used my mouth as a toilet
His warm log was long and coiled

Every other brat did not respect them
They smelled his logs just to reject him
I promise that I ate the choice confection
There are countless recipes for Andy's warm logs

I lie on my back and stare at his ass roof
Leaking out turds were made into my food
He inspired me to eat more shit
Fire up a log from Andy Sixx

I fucking hate you little shits, I met a therapist at a party and you could tell she was analysing every little breath a took and she was saying nothing but trigger questions to see my responses. STOP FUCKING ANALYSING ME AND ACT LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN!

Why not do the same thing back?

Doesnt aound like a bad time to me
In all seriousness though, if it's disturbing you or your sleep and has an impact on your life, go see a therapist to talk through it. Posting here we cant delve into anything enough to help. Keep a dream journal for a while and write down every detail the moment you wake up, and how you feel. Take that to the therapist you see for better analysis.

Because I am a functioning human being from earth. Not an alien, why would you suggest that? I haven't said anything that could lead you to assume im an alien, why are you acting so weird? I bet you're the alien.

how can i get past feelings of shame stemming from childhood sex abuse? i was 10, he was 15, not forced and no penetration, but he used to touch me and tell me to touch him, got his 7yo sister involved and made us do shit with each other

i've recently started coming out as bi but it's taken me a long time because i have been ashamed of being into guys. my brain just instantly starts telling me it's wrong. i have had opportunities to fuck guys but as soon as it starts happening i get afraid and feel powerless. what do?

Hard to say with just that, could by anything from actuve imagination yo obsessive thoughts to repressed anger to..well a shit ton of stuff.

If you are confident tou will never act on it, just give it time and it should pass. The less importance you fggive those thoughts the less youll have them. Sort of a self fulfilling prophecy type of things

I've got severe depression and absolutely nothing has worked in the past 2 decades.
No amounts of sex or work or hobbies or drugs(prescription or otherwise), or therapists, or psyches have helped.
Can't say i've felt much of anything since age 10 or so outside almost crippling levels of depression. Its gradually gotten worse with age but its been slow enough that i've been able to adapt to it as it goes until fairly recently. Its spiked fairly hard in the past year for no reason i can figure and i'm finding it very hard to justify not killing myself on a constant basis now.
So far i've just been using life excuses to not blow my brains out and get on with shit. Ex: "can't kill myself now i got an appointment at the dentist and that screw them over.", "can't blow my brains out today i got a dinner date planned later what if they think it had something to do with them?", etc. hell, the only reason i get up these days is that it would screw my work over being a man short with no ready replacement.

have any of your patients died? like, committed suicide?

Don't remember the name of the disorder but it's nothing to worry about, 100% of the people with it don't act on their impulses.

How do I stop liking somebody?

How do I close a growing rift between me and someone I care deeply about?

I really wronged them, and I worry that no amount of apologies or reparations will ever make up for it

What's a good way to prepare yourself for suicide? I already know the method I'm using and have my noose ready, but what's the best way to prepare mentally so I don't back out?

First know that this is normal and you're ok and will be ok. Time heals, but talking accelerates that. Some things require a lot of talking and thats ok. Sounds like you are doing really well by yourself tbh, coming out is huge. Talking it out can help a lot.

Go see a therapist, will do you a world of good and you will not regret it.

Can you see them in real life on a regular basis?

pixl porn excites you abstract/peripheral sexual impulses. maybe there is something you ant see up front that is making you hungry and horny.

Bumping myself, I need help.

Is masturbating to sadistic porn normal.

Yes, I still interact with them frequently.

But our conversations seem more distanced and forced than they used to be

I like to eat pussy and be held by a woman. Why does it feel so good and how can I capture and continuously feel that feeling?

reassuring
Ive had them for a while...its really a disorder? fuck me man
theyre like flashes of me being violent..
repressed anger kind of fits...guess i gotta use the stress ball more
I get really mad fast some times and I just breathe/pace it out but I guess its still getting to me
thanks

Do you play league of legends?
Also from where are you and in what are you spezialized

i can't afford a therapist that's why i'm asking you..

could be a number of things but sounds like alexithymia. Look it up, go talk to someone if it worries you. Not everyone has to experience emotions in the same way, but if it's making you unhappy, investigate further and go talk to a therapist.

We can answer questions on this thread but everyone should also know that issues that concern you will always need much more talk and interaction and q/a than a thread on a shitty board can give. Talk to someone, it'll help.

God I wish I could remember the name of the disorder, really sorry that I don't man, you're textbook. It stems from anxiety and can be treated, also, don't think about it, accept the angry flashes and know you won't act on them, it will lessen the effects and quantity of them.

That's the problem: you think that a therapist will give you a solution, but a therapist is the solution. We don't hand out cures: talking to a therapist and being asked the right questions or thinking about things in a new light is the cure itself.

I can tell you to be more confident, to try to slowly build up to sex with baby steps, to be open with any partners so that they know what you're going through and are considerate and good about it - and it's probably all good advice, but nothing beats talking through something yourself.

How do I stop fapping?

It's killing my time and drive to do anything else. I'll get home and on the computer and try to do something productive but I'll inevitably just end up fapping the night away.

I can't afford too, and the reason it bothers me is that from an analytical stand point I can't find any meaning for my existence, or a reason to live. Without the ignorance of emotions to persuade me I feel suicidal.

ok thank mr therapist

How does it feel if you have to invent one disease after another just to look like you were doing something scientifically?
How does it feel to be part of a shadow criminal justice system which is used to lock anybody away without a trial or a court decision just because you label him/her mentally ill?
How does it feel if the roots of your discipline are guys who thought hysteria was caused by a hungry uterus who bites the brain, an Austrian charlatan called Messmer who simply loved to touch teen girls and an idiot called Freud who was obsessed with the non-existing sexual phantasies of little kids?

tl;dr: How does it feel to be the scum of the earth?

get a gf and open a chinese restaurant
what motivates you to keep them as friends? make a list of pos/neg things about your relationship with them in the present, ignoring the past. See where it leads you.
you say that and yet you haven't been able to feel for years, and are still here. So any suicidal thoughts (which, btw, please do not go through with) don't have to be related to the lack of emotion, right?
And emotion is only a part of you. If eating a burger and fapping makes you happy, even for a while, that's a good reason to live. Live for the small things, the large things will come

Do you need to talk
:)

Why can't atheists define atheism? Why?

In Buddhism it isn't about getting rid if what makes us human it's about understanding it and trying to live above the wanton. The point of life slowly becomes null to the fact that you just have to live it and find worth in what you do, find worth in what you accomplish. Because there is absolutely no point to living.

*Mesmer of course
Nope, thx.

>underrated post

Thanks, I'll make the list and see where that takes me.
I have a lot of personal issues that lead up to what I did, but trying to make things right is more important to me right now.
The guilt makes my anxiety go through the roof

Mainly yes, but the suicidal thoughts come specifically because of the lack of emotion, I can't find happiness in anything, which makes life just a never ending dull event. At the most I find discomfort and not comfort in life, I have to do tasks that are chores to maintain myself just like everyone else, but unlike everyone else I don't have any opportunities to feel positive emotions to balance it out, making life one long stretch of pointless endeavors.

Does sound pretty paranoid. It worries me that there are people who unable to access resources to help them.

Dealt with manic depression for years, developed a safety net of friends and family that I can trust. Can't imagine being convinced that they didn't have my best interest at heart.

By the way thank you for the help you provide people.

Why be angry about it, watch from a distance with apathy, save for the occasional chuckle.

gr8b8m8
Usually, get to know them more. If that doesn't help, then maybe in doing so they now like you too. If not, then give it time.
yup, so long as it doesn't bother you or make you feel bad, and so long as it doesn't affect anyone else, there's nothing wrong with it. Don't worry about being normal, you do you and fap to whatever the fuck you feel like.
fap before turning on your computer. Use phone if you need porn. You'll probably be more inclined to finish quickly if you don't have 3 screens to fill with porn.

funny thing about buddhism is it predicts it's own demise, which in my opinion makes it the religion (or philosophy) which holds truest to itself

Is it bad if i want to waterboard my girlfriend.

i've been waiting around for this girl to reciprocate love, i feel no attraction to any other women but her. She's told people(her friends/ family memebers) she feels the same way but, she's just not ready for us being together. I struggle to get out of bed, and it's rare that i'm not thinking about her, i have tried cutting her out of my life for a little over half a year in hopes to alleviate, and just the constant feeling of inadequacy looms over me, enveloping and vice like, some times i cry thinking about our past, like growing up and shit and most if not all of my thoughts are incomplete sentences. i also feel like im stagnant as time moves forward. halp op

Love that artist. A beautiful soul.

I need serious help with grieving. My cousin died unexpectedly at 17 3 months ago. A week before she did, we were supposed to hangout. Bailed because I'm a fag like that and no big deal we can just reschedule. Now I can't stop beating myself up over the fact that I missed out on the last chance to see one of my favorite people

Hm ok do you fake emotion when around others?
Yeah there's nothing I can say to him right now that'll convince him otherwise really. Glad you're doing well mate.
Guilt is just dislike of the person you used to be. Accept that the fact that you feel guilt is indicative of rejection of that past version of you, and focus on improving the present version of you. Guilt is good - if you did a shitty thing and don't feel bad, that's more serious.
Sounds to me like you're evolving and becoming a better person. Maybe your friends remind you of a past version of yourself that you don't like?
well depends if she's into it I guess. If she is, be very careful and do your own thing. If she isn't, maybe she's interested in roleplay.
Damn that's rough. Take up other projects, fill your days and find pleasure in small things. Time will pass and it will get better - something will change. She'll come back to you and if she doesn't, it wasn't meant to be and your thoughts will adapt. You're resilient and will be ok.

No one answered this. Interested in hearing answer

Don't let your heart grow gold. Let your heart be furtile so her memory can grow in your heart pure. Remember her unflinchingly and with joy so that the best parts of her shape you every day. That way she can't die fully, because she's still in you, affecting this world.

I don't think I've ever read on that before but I'd believe it. Impermanence is an important part of buddhism so it makes sense. Not to say at all that I'm a well versed buddhist or anything, just spent a lot of time hating life. Buddhism helped with accepting things as they come.

Sorry for your loss. Important thing to remember: last isn't best.
You bailed on your last chance, but fuck maybe you'd have ended up arguing or something. That last hangout would have just been one more time you saw her amongst probably lots of other times you spent together throughout your lives. Memory isn't chronological, and if you had met up you'd still be torn up about not meeting up again.
Don't be upset about bailing, you had no way to know this would happen. We can't spend our entire lives spending time with loved ones in case it's the last chance - we need time for ourselves and that's ok.

Because he shouldn't do it. Not gonna help anyone kill themselves over shit that, if they live, they'll get over 5 years later.
And you will. People underestimate time, seriously. By killing yourself you're not just killing who you are, you're killing all future versions of yourself, just to save some temporary suffering.
Please, don't do it. Get help. Talk. In 10 years you might be happy, and it's worth the risk to give it a try.

How do I forget the things that I did that is embarassing? I can still remember all the things I embarrassingly did for the past 5 years, making me wanna hurt myself.

I think there's a lack of answers because there isn't much you can do. The body tries really hard to stay alive even when the mind keeps trying to end it. No matter how sure you are you'll still find resistance as you attempt the act.

Psychology has come a long way since then. Science didn't exactly begin as the most objective of studies, but as we became more objective and reasoning over time, the hard sciences have become parsimonious disciplines. With psychology we're slowly getting there, but still have a lot to learn because ultimately, we're attempting to unravel more complex mysteries, a large amount of which we have to make inferences about due to their being unobservable/unmeasurable.

tldr: science had fucked up roots, too, and you're overselling the whole "shadow justice system" diagnosis thing. It's not as simple as that

I've been getting this wierd feeling like sometimes.thing don't feel real and then my vision gets blurry and heartbeat goes up. Any idea user? Maybe this is a better question for a doctor...

meh those experiences build character. I've done some pretty stupid shit and sometimes it keeps you up at night, but just know that you were doing your best under the circumstances and with the information you had, and that you're a better person for it. Someday you'll tell someone you love about this ridiculous shit you pulled and laugh about it. It's ok, part of being human is fucking up sometimes.

are you a guy or a stupid roastie whore?

Sounds like a disrealisation episode. Could just be a type of migraine; do you get headaches after? How long until it passes?

I don't drink much water and might be dehydrated but still not sure... It scares the fuck out of me cause it happens randomly

yeah some therapists are shitty people and will do shitty things, but many of us just get a kick out of helping people.

Does it happen out of nowhere or are there any stressors involved? Anxiety does something similar to what your saying for me.

Nvm answered my question lol

well water helps mate, we do sort of need that to survive. You know what helps me with water intake? Shot glasses. Get a big shot glass (3-4 gulps) and keep that and a bottle next to your computer. Every time you see it or notice it, drink a shot of water. The bottle is gone before you realise it. Sounds wierd but works.

And answer the questions, how long does it last and do you get headaches afterwards? Also do you have trouble recognising your surroundings or other people when it happens? Does lying down make it better or worse?

I thought maybe I had schizophrenia but I think it's just anxiety, I have bad social anxiety sometimes and other times not, also when I smoke pot it makes it way fucking worse and I start thinking the strangest things

Whenever im drunk i cry, and not a little, but like crying my eyes out and cant stop. Why is that so?

I can't exactly process anything when happens and I start to lose sight of my surroundings I just try to think of something familiar and happy I like, and yes laying down helps but I have school happens a lot there as well. It doesn't happen often at home

Faggot

yeah pot does that. If it makes you feel bad don't smoke it. If you enjoy the high, try edibles instead, it's a different kind of high, maybe less paranoid.
you probably don't have squizophrenia. Anxiety is waayy more common.

Drink more water, and when it happens let it happen, know that it's a part of you and don't let it worry you. If it's anxiety that'll help a bit, and with time it'll pass.

well why do you get drunk? Do you feel shitty while crying or just cry?

Well i get drunk bc its fun at first with friends and such, but if i drink like more than 4 shots i get blackout drunk and i only know that i cry because my friends tell me afterwards so i have no idea

Does mindfulness actually work for anxiety?

Anxiety sounds accurate then. School can be rough as hell, anyone telling you that teen years are the best of your life have some high-ass nostalgia glasses on.

School is when you're emotional, hormonal, learning how the world works and everyone treats you like your opinion doesn't matter yet. It'll get better man, bear with it. Anxiety is normal, wait for things to stabalise as time passes.

Yeah I'm done with weed now I used to smoke everyday until I had a bad experience with it where everything was clay and I fell into blackness

thanks dad

Do you think people with borderline personality disorder are bad i.e manipulative and attention seeking?

Op here. You should give yourself a 12 month plan. If you are not happy by next April you should commit suicide. I'm doing it this October

I'm a trap but because of where I live it's near impossible to find a cute guy to cuddle with, I get by but I really just want someone to talk to who understands me :( wtf do I do?

I never thought about my guilt like that
I honestly want expecting anything super useful from this thread, but you've actually helped a lot
I'll keep working on being a better person, and use my guilt, rather than let it keep Me down

What if they've already said no, and we're still friends? How would I try to force myself to not like them then?

I know it's not this simple, but if doing X causes Y, and you don't like Y, stop doing X. If you can't have fun without drinking, either get high instead, or find company that you can enjoy while sober

Yes, it does. Not because of any spiritual bullshit (although believe that if you will), but because it practices breathing, relaxing and meditation, which help you put your thoughts in order.
Think of your mind like a room with lots of boxes full of stuff. As thoughts come and go throughout the day you remove things from the boxes, but don't get time to put them away. Eventually you trip and fall over something.
Mindfulness is a form of meditation that helps you keep that room tidy.
kek
no, a disorder is never inherently bad. It can be a factor in causing harmful behaviour, but doesn't have to be and most frequently isn't.
Yeah making the plan is a good idea. Not a fan of the second part, but start with the plan and see where it takes you.
Move elsewhere. Prob can't happen soon but eventually will. Life is long, no rush mate. But get out of there the moment you can.