I'm a post op mtf tranny and last night my bf proposed to me and i said yes. He's at work rn and im sitting here shivering and about to puke. I havent told him I used to be a boy. I kept putting it off and now I'm here and if I told him it might destroy him.
What do I do?
...really you have not told him, and you think a relationship will work on lies? if you're gay be gay but don't lie making him think you're a woman...
Is it a lie? I look and axt and sound like a woman, all my paperwork has been changed. Being trans at this point is just past medical history. When you date a girl do you tell her before the first date " yeah i had chickenpox when i was 4" no, because its weird to bring shit like that up on a date
LoL stupid. If real just "man" up and be prepared for the outrage. Next time lead with that instead of being sneaky.
Chopping off your penis and adding a hole while taking tons of hormone replacement meds is not just like chickenpox...
if you have an xy chromosome, that means you're a dude. I'm not going to argue over the internet about facts. Be honest and tell the fucking truth, if he was a faggot. he would have meet you at a gay bar, it goes without saying he thought you were a woman and NOT a man... if he beats you within a inch of your life, you brought this on yourself.
....it wasn't that simple to transition
Don't try and normalise your insanity.
Being "feminine" and chopping off your cock does not remove the fact you were born a male and no ammount of pseudo-scientific psychological bullshit can change that.
No, but telling him you're unable to conceive a child because you lack ovaries might be something he needs to know for his future plans
>w-w-what's this?
>oh, you know, a totally normal dildo
>I don't use it to keep my vagina from sealing or anything
>btw, I totally orgasm every time we fuck
This is such an unbelievable situation. You should feel bad for trying to make the transgender community look bad.
nice bait, except for the fact it's totally unfuckingbelievable
This is bait
Wait, people don't say if they don't have the chickenpox when they date? Fuck it, I am never dating, if a girl can't tell me that on the first date I just can't trust her. I need to know EVERYTHING.
fucking kys mentally ill faggot
checked and this
>I don't use it to keep my vagina from sealing or anything
Wait.
So even though the penis gets mutilated and turned into a weird sarlacc pit, it wont stay open?
Like if it heals enough its just a mound?
Exactly. It's fucking horrific. People who choose this really don't want a penis.
stopstopstopstopstoppleasegodnowhy
Brb gonna Google Image Search
post boipucci or leave
He already knows but probably doesn't want to admit it. Even the best surgeon can't turn a dick inside out and make a vagina convincing enough to fool 90% of regular, non-virgin, dudes. So, he knows.
Unless you haven't had his meat inside your meat....
Either way, coming clean now is better than later on when divorce becomes a messy and difficult process.
Implying we're just supposed to believe you.
TOGTFO, also time stamp you fag.
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OP, since you claim to be female, post tits or gtfo.
You could just be honest and tell him now.
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If he doesn't know, then you have been straight up lying to him.
You do not possess the ability to reproduce. Most men look for a good mother in addition to a good lay and a good friend. You have to tell him you're a man.
He may not mind; perhaps reproduction is not on his mind at this point in his life, or at all. We're overpopulated anyway. It doesn't change the fact though that by not telling him somewhat early on you have been lying through convenience.
Oh god i feel legit nauseated after reading that, thats terrible.
depends. if he wants children, you are FUCKED and should end it.
If not, its up to you since he might es well stay with you if he doesnt want to reproduce.
kys, it'd be an unexpected surprise for your boyfriend.
Today I learned that having chicken pox and not mentioning it on a first date is along the same lines as telling someone that you had a sex change and have been lieing to them throughout the entire relationship. Also have fun being single
let's see that post-op vag. I don't believe this until I see work that would have me fooled.
Who does write these horrible articles
I'm not even as much pissed about the content as I am about the horrible style
What's up with the descriptions under the pics? It's always the same shit that already was in the text, and not enough
They just have to drive it further and just write part of the text AGAIN BUT IN CAPSLOCK
just tell him
also
Op if you don't want to tell the truth, well the only option you have is that you two make love after the marriage in the night with the lights out/off
>Today I learned
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>I don't use it to keep my vagina from sealing or anything
wtf
and this is exactly why i hate you people, "hurr durr we are not hurting anybody" , oh guess what you will probably give trauma to the poor guy once he realizes that he is in love with lie, good job
Thanks user, waiting or next bus because I hurled because of the article. Know why makes it fucking worse? I grew up in the mentioned East Bay Area and I'm 80% sure I know them.
This, fucking this.
Being completely honest here OP, if I was in his position I would be deeply disgruntled.
He WILL see you naked.
He WILL realise your genitals are fake
Tell him you're not really a woman and you can't bear children.
Say this before both of you waste money on a wedding
or it all works out well for both of you
Even if we agree that it doesn't matter anymore when it comes to actual gender, you can't deny it matters because he can't reproduce. Did that not crosse your mind?
You need to tell him. This is your last chance to start anew, if there is one
Otherwise you're selfish af and at least bail.
Unironically kill yourself.
You couldn't have made this any less believable
hey, op. You definitely fucked up by not telling him earlier, but the problem isn't just going to go away, and the longer you wait the worse it will become. You should really just be honest with him and tell him the truth now.
I'm not gonna go as ham as all these other dudes and say you deserve a severe ass beating or death... But you did do this to yourself and you are entering a realm where this guy might want children. So tell him the truth and quit trying to deny the fact that you lied to him your entire relationship. If you can't tell him everything you don't deserve him anyways.
this is what you get for this NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE bullcrap
sucks to be you or your boyfriendo
lmao
You should have told him a long time ago OP. It'll be hard but you have to tell him. Maybe everything will be fine in the end, maybe not. You can't keep on hiding this though.
This is probably going to sound like shitty advice but if you want to increase your odds of keeping him after this, be sure to be balling your eyes out before you explain it to him. This will put him in sympathy mode before you drop the bombshell. GL.
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I'll let you try my Wu-Tang style
Knowing most dudes, he'll be more upset that he been banging a post op tranny rather than a preop. If you are going to have sex with a transexual person you want I to at least be pre-operation because otherwise it's just a shity fake vagina and you can go out and fuck real pussy instead. There is really no point to having sex with a post operation transsexual person.
are you hot?
post pic with timestamp
Pics of your freakgina
wait
has your boyfriend seen your surgical vagina?
how do you not recognize that's not real?
wouldn't most guys prefer post opt because most guys aren't into dicks?
The top porn searches are like milf, teen, and tranny. So a great number of dudes like chicks with dicks.
Pics?
Tell him.
Such lack of imagination user.
You can still do the "true love waits" thing. Just ask to talk to her parents. Look through the Family Album; that sort of thing. Ask leading questions like, ". . .tell me about the most important events in your daughter's life." Interview old friends.
Only masculine dicks.
fair point
If the guy has any sense, he should know something is up once he's up close. Post-op trannies never look 100% natural.
This sounds stupid to me. How am I or anyone supposed to know if she can handle any kinky shit if you dont donvanilla shit?
This only works if youre into missionary for reproductive reasons, the sick fucks.
you must be religious
or really into romance novels
You better tell him OP. Foundationing your relationship off a lie isn't going to end well.
Stop being a faggot and tell him otherwise you are going to destroy him faggot.
Kek!
The transgendered woman in this article is literally a lesbian trapped in a man's body? I'm pretty accepting, but even I get a little confused at the convoluted mindframe that makes somebody spend all that money cutting their bodies to shreds just to sleep with women anyway. Hmmm. Gonna have to think about this one.
Those options were only if you were into no sex B4 marriage. See thread history.
If he really loves you, he will forgive you.
I very nearly fucked a few traps in my time. They're far more numerous (and far less ideal) than you're led to believe.
>you must be religious
Thank GOD for my gay friends who warned me off before it got too close.
lol OP is gonna get murdered today
watch cnn at 6 oclock
No, but you should tell him you're a faggot with a dickgina. You are still a man you fucking faggot.
I'm a pre-op MTF transsexual lesbian who self-identifies as a straight cis male.
you have 2 choices, do the manly thing and confess, express your full feelings and hope for the best
or do the womanly thing, never tell him, lie and if he wants children just claim to be infertile so you will have to adopt.
Those are your choices,
his manliness is down to how many man qualities he still has, the fact he actually thinks to tell him means he's still got atleast Some male empathy left, cos born females lie and cheat to their benefit instinctively, so actually telling him is manly, never doing so and just claiming infertility is children/periods comes up is the womanly thing.
repeat after me "due to a birth defect i was born without a womb and thus can neither have children nor do i have periods"
Because technically true in that you believe your birth gender was a defect.
You act like it's never going to come up. If op days nothing, eventually op will get sick, or cancer, or in an accident and medical issues will eventually come up.
>you know dear, we've been married 30 years and I've never seen you in your period and you having started menopause yet?
Well that clears it right up.
see that already got countered.
Uhh I proposed to my GF last night. If this is you im coming to axe you bitch.
translation, i am a man that is attracted to women that wants the body of a woman and tell everyone i'm a straight born male that is happy in his body.
Well I guess that would work. I still feel it's a matter of time before something comes up.
Trips of truth, axe her dude
At the end of the day OP, as far as I know you can't biologically have kids, a lot of people who get married want kids. You should let him know
really, it's up to you, OP. It's probably best to tell him just to get it all out there, but if you think he may hurt you, maybe do it in a more social setting or with some close friends or family. I agree it is just medical history, but god forbid some asshole end up outing you to him rather than him finding out from you. Good luck, OP
just tell him maki... if he doesn't accept it then he deserves being destroyed emotionally...
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>really it's up to you
Welp I'm triggered. I'm sure you would be just as cool with a dude lying about aids, or telling a chick you love her and will marry her to have sex.
>really it's up to you to admit you're a liar
You're not wrong, faggot.
You are a complete piece of shit.
I'm fine with people being trans if they want, whatever, but you also need to accept that just because you consider yourself a woman doesn't mean everyone else would necessarily agree with you.
People have the right to know what they're getting into in advance. If a guy's straight and isn't comfortable with the idea of being with a guy, you essentially tricking him into it is a shitty fucking thing to do. Should've told him right from the start and let him make up his own mind, but instead, you've now put him in a position where someone he loves is not who or what he thinks.
You didn't want to do something difficult and tell someone who might reject you the truth, so now you've shifted that difficult decision onto him. You force him to become the villain by having to possibly reject you because you were too much of a little bitch to take responsibility and do it yourself.
I have nothing but contempt for you.
Ultimate irony is that due to the Not so small number of Genetic Hermaphrodites, even if something medical came up, you can deny ever knowing you were genetically male. "but i was always a woman, i was just born with a birth defect" results in a flawless defense that means at most you go down as one of the many women who are genetically mixed, just like the many men that are genetically mixed. cos XXY is a fairly common result it turns out.
Everyone's cool with lying until they're lied to themselves.
He's an idiot if he didn't notice the difference between a post op pussy and a real pussy.
>Not so small number
Suppressing actual numbers
In all honesty, at this point, you have to tell him. I know it may not seem like that big of a deal, but if (or, most likely when) he finds out, he will feel even more betrayed and hurt.
>Jessica paid for her breast augmentation herself but the vaginoplasty was covered by her insurance as required by California law after a doctor said it was medically needed.
Mfw California melts off into the ocean
If you're sterile and in a long serious relationship you're supposed to tell your partner about that.
No different from your situation.
Probably right. Assuming that op had no friends or family that could eventually tell someone on purpose or accident. Also medical records and payments for surgery and medication. If I was a tranny there is no way in hell I would risk it. Not to mention the constant stress and weight of the lie over a lifetime. It's a real possibility no matter how tight you think a secret is.
>implying a communicable disease and life threatening is anything like being transgender
kek
you're an idiot
*comminicable and life threatening disease
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