B I need some advice

b I need some advice

i've been with my gf about a year and sex is getting stale. she doesnt do anything and i just fuck her missionary until i finish and she rolls over and goes to bed. I've begged her to try being on top or to suck my dick, but she doesnt enjoy either.

>inb4 complaining about sex
it's really getting pointless to have sex with her anymore and i don't know what to do

>inb5 break up with her
we're moving into an apartment together in a month for at least a year, i cant break it off for at least that long.

wat do

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try to get more violent with each sex

might bring in some spice yknow what imsayin

Talk... To her...? About it?

move her into different positions, jesus.

>I've begged

LOL this is your problem here

Talk to her about it.
If she does not talk, or does not tell you what she wants, or she tells you it's everything ok, find who is cheating you with.

Make her cum dude jfc

Enjoy the next shitty year of your life because you can't stand up for yourself. If you need a shitty gf to be able to have a roof over your head, you've got much bigger self sufficient problems and deserve to be miserable. Man up, grow a pair and roll the fuck out. At this point you can't see that she's just using you for a place to stay and is probably getting dicked down by a chad on the side. Don't play yourself OP.

i've tried some vanilla stuff. hair pulling, nipple biting. she enjoys it but it does absolutely nothing for me

I've talked to her about it several times. she usually ends up offended and feels she's done something wrong

The main problem, however, is that she does nothing whatsoever.

For once in my life i want to cum without having to work for it. its fucking excruciating trying to explain this to her.

she'll suck my cock for about 5 minutes before complaining her mouth hurts then stopping

she'll ride on top for about 5 minutes but it feels like nothing to both me and her

I took her virginity. she's too socially retarded to hook up with any other guy so im not worried about that

thanks for the replies guys

>rape

This

Ever considered toys? Maybe a hitatchi, some bed straps, or a nice dildo? I have a palm power that my wife and I use when we have sex. It's great to get her started and she loves riding it full blast while I'm fucking her doggie. Also missionary is ok but doggie is fuckin awesome. While not as intimate my wife loves it. Says it feels better and is easier to fuck her harder in doggie. Plus I make her use the palm power while fucking her doggie and she almost can't move when we are done. Try doggie first since that lil machine is expensive if that didn't work pick one up and try it out. Maybe explore her kinks a bit.

Don't talk about it, get fucking pissed. Smash some vases, and then after that never speak about it again, never ask about it again, she will wonder why you are not wanting her pussy, become rambo, spice shit up, act like you dont give a fuck what happens but kill any male who trys to enter the picture be jelouse, be alpha, get angry you fuck,GET THE PUSSY U PUSSY BITCH BOYS. TRUST ME OP, I WAS IN YOUR SHOES A YEAR AGO, IF YOU ARENT ALPHA TRY TO ACT LIKE IT.

Sounds like how me and my ex were. Sex was very boring and she would refuse to put in any where near as much effort as I had to. No blow jobs other then a few minutes of it practically sitting in her mouth then her complaining her jaw is getting sore. And the riding on top part, about 2 minutes and she's too exhausted to continue.

Im afraid you only options are to learn to live with it, and hope she suddenly changed, which she wont. Or you could simply start doing what ever you want with her during sex, and unless she specifically tells you no keep doing it. Or leave her for someone who's on the same level as you sexually.

I SHOULD MENTION DON'T BE A COMPLETE ASS HOLE TAKE HER TO DINNER STILL AND BE NICE AND SHIT BUT IM SAYING

>I've begged

FOR FUCKSAKES MAN THAT MAKES PUSSIES DRYER THAN THE SAHARAN DESERT, NEVER EVER ASK FOR IT.

Try to steer the conversation in such a way that is not her fault but that you want to do it for her. Getting your partner to enjoy sex can be a difficult process especially if you are the first. It's all about inexpierence and pushing your boundaries a bit and finding what your into. If she's eat rag-dolling she may not know what to do while having sex. Most women don't know enough about thier bodies in that way or are super uncomfortable or insecure talking about it. Like I said before toys might be a quick fix, but find out what you both really like through experimentation. Encourage your partner to look up stuff about strengthening her vaginal muscles to increase her enjoyment as well as her own.

I actually did pick up some toys from that free feminist sex toy website I found here a few days ago. hopefully that might help

>smashing vases like a cro magnon
i get the pussy anyways, its just really boring pussy

I might have just come here for someone to relate to, but I was sort of expecting this answer all along.

She's just so god damned inexperienced and vanilla that is pisses me off, and she refuses to attempt to try anything new even after i plead for her to try ANYTHING. hit my cock with a hammer you dumb bitch, i literally dont even give a shit! just have an original thought of your own!

jesus christ it's going to be a long year. i think i'll just jam it in her ass next time we have sex

>smashing vases like a cro magnon

You arent worth saving OP, your a bitch, get rekt, you pussy boys deserve it, I'll never post again to you bitches, i'll just laugh while I get my dick sucked dry.

Is she on birth control? My gf was on it for the last 6 years and recently came off, her sex drive has gone from practically zero to a crazy level. She's also became much happier in general, best move she's made for years.

Bro I know is hard but you gotta calm down about it. It's all about support. You have to ease her in.

>she's too socially retarded to hook up with any other guy
that doesn't stop women from hooking up with random guys unless they are ugly.

My ex was like this. I really couldn't get to do much of anything. I mean come on, I might as well be fucking a dead fish. I want a girl who will actually take a little initiative when fucking.

What says is true, ease her in, however, if its been awhile of the ease in process and nothing has improved it never will. I was with my ex for 15 years. Over that whole time the only thing I managed to get her into that wasnt boring shit was anal. And she eventually started to like it more then anything else. But even that became somewhat boring, especially as I had an oral fetish and she was wasting the best dick sucking lips Iv ever seen.

But stick with her if you guys are getting a place together, just dont let her walk all over you. Talk to her about how she's not fulfilling your sexual needs. Make her fully aware that you want to try more and that she's not meeting you half way with it. Also find someone else on the side after making her aware of what she's not giving you, that way if she finds out about the 2nd girl she has no one to blame but herself.

I can relate to that.
Didn't find any proper contraception though, using condoms ATM

this really a thing? been with my girl for almost 6 months now and we've been banging for about 7 months, 1 month without birth control and the rest with her getting the shot

hahahaha

> hit my cock with a hammer you dumb bitch

best thing ive read in a long time

>>i think i'll just jam it in her ass next time we have sex

Again, thanks for all the responses my bros it feels good just being able to talk about this with someone.

She is, but I was with her before BC and now during, and I wouldnt say her sex drive or mood changed drastically. she might just be hiding some serious depression really well. regardless, she wont be coming off BC any time soon

plus condoms suck ass.

It's not like she's getting good sex. she passes right out after im finished.
Thanks fellas

I'll just have to keep pushing boundaries it seems like. even if I do find some hidden kink she has, it doesnt leave me in any better a position. the variety would help, but in the end its still me fucking her senseless while she does nothing.

I'd feel guilty as shit if she caught me cheating on her, but it's crossed my mind. i understand why people do it now. it just gets so god damned boring.

OP break up with that bitch. Women who appreciate you and who will express a sexual interest in you for years DO exist. I have been dating my girlfriend for over 5 years now and even though I have a small dick (5" long, maybe like 3-4" girth) she CRAVES sex from me. She sends me nudes every night still to this day, strips for me when we have sex, does kinky stuff like sits on my face, starts blowing me in the morning while im still sleeping, lets me take videos of cumming on her face, buys toys for us, sexy underwear, lets me eat her ass in the shower, literally BEGS to blow me while driving down the highway or in a movie theater. The sex after half a decade is still equivalent to the first few months. Seriously, tell your bitch to fuck off. If you don't I GARUNTEE she is going to just cheat, break your heart and say "well what did you expect you dont fuck me anymore" then you will be forced to live with her or kick her out and find a new rommate before you go broke. Just trust me, don't move in with her if she is already doing this. She wants a new dick. Im sorry bro...it is the truth.

Thanks user!

I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out after so long.

While I don't agree with the side chick stuff it is true that you need to assert yourself and not come off as a (and I fucking hate this phrase but, begging?
Cmon man, srsly?) Beta cuck. Comunicate, educate, and experimentate.

>It's not like she's getting good sex. she passes right out after im finished.
being this blind.

i understood this well this last year and im fucking 28....
if ur role in the relationship is alpha enough shell submit to what u want in bed

whatever shes saying "no" to (to you) theres some dude out there who can get her to do it without saying a word on the first night

Let her fuck other people and gofuck other people.

Or go for BDSM/fetish, saves lifes !

We're open mind with my gf and try everything. You just need to open her mind et interest her in sex. If I was you, I would have left her years ago, find someone you can share your fanstasms !

cro magnon detected

Hahahaha so true

ah fuck, in hindsight that doesnt sound as good as it did in my head.

Every time we fuck. literally every time we fuck after we're finished i ask "was that good, was there anything good or bad? and she'll just say yes or nod then go about her business. there's no lack of communication on my end, i just can not get the dumb bitch to talk to me to save my goddamned life

She's ultra jealous (and I am too, its fair) so open relationships wont work.

I guess i'll just start straying further from vanilla sex until she either objects or leaves. both sound fine to me

again, thanks bros for your advice. hopefully someone else benefitted from this thread as well

>was that good, was there anything good or bad?

Stop typing OP. Your clearly trolling now. I knew I was responding to a bait thread, never again.

Either you're fucking a zombie or you are a really lousy fuck.

>Every time we fuck. literally every time we fuck after we're finished i ask "was that good, was there anything good or bad?
Ok this is gonna take a minute to to our some my wife is shit in the hotel I'm in but I'll tell you about my wife and how our sexual activity changed with the addition of experimentation and GOOD comunication. Let me see if my comp will connect and I will type it for increased speed.

yeah yeah, i undertand. my autism knows no bounds. what am i supposed to say to her?
"Thats some good fuck wasnt it baby?"

probably both. it's a fucked situation all the way around. we've only been with each other, so i cant tell if im a good fuck or not because the only measure i have to go by is my sexually retarded girlfriend

>"Thats some good fuck wasnt it baby?"
My sides

Being jealous is a non sense, it's fucking useless.
Do a therapy. Drop your testosterone. Being jealous ruin your life et prevent you of lot of experiences.

The better thing is fucking fuck a couple with your gf xD

Okay man listen here and listen good ed boy. I was with my mrs for about 3 years before the sex started to get a little stale but that's okay. Different stroke different folks ya feel me?.
Now first and foremost. Girls being socially retarded does not stop them from fucking other guys. Also having taken her virginity is also in her eyes more incentive to experiment (cheat). At this point she possibly thinks you're bad at sex or just aren't trying.
First things first. Let her know you love every inch of her body. I don't give a flying fuck of she had cross-eyed nipples on pancakes above a stood on roast beef sammich you tell that bitch that every wrinkle and Crack in her skin gets you rock fucking hard. Girls feeling sexy is the biggest turn on in the world to them. They could have their dream guy in front of them but that don't mean shit if they think you think they're not attractive. Let me know if you want part 2. This is solid advice believe me

I'd trust him he sounds like he's from the old country. Perhaps the son of a shephard

just came in here to post that this is the funniest filename ive seen in a while, thanks.

Sure, i'd love to hear more

Hahaha if it was good, you wouldn't have to ask.

GIVE UP, there are two types of people, the dominant and the dominated, OP is a dominated and his gf a dominant.

I know it should be pretty damn plain whats good and what's not, but i'm telling you this girl is nigh autism level of sexual inexperience

she's masturbated twice in her life
i had to teach this bitch how to masturbate over webcam because she was too embarrassed to touch her pussy in front of me. I wish i was joking.

So when my wife and I were dating she was very scared of being intimate. So much so that when we fell asleep together at a friends house she was afraid we had sex the previous night. This was a combination of family oppression, lack of self esteem, and just being young. The first sexual experience we had was that after pushing and pushing I finally fingered her, but no more than that. I went all out. I could've sworn my right wrist doubled in size afterward. I fingered her so hard I popped her hyman for god sakes (yes she was a virgin but was in multiple prior lesbian relationships). The first thing i did because i was insecure is that i asked her did you cum? Did you like it? Was it good? Like a fucking puppy and looking back on it i should've known i did well from the look on her face and the way she acted during. Moving on we eventually have sex not too many days after and it was resoundingly Ok. I started to panic and again and again time after time i kept asking if she liked it and if she came. I got mixed responses but most were "yea it was fine". Now i may be dumb but im not stupid and i knew i wasn't where i needed to be sexually. Eventually we get her on the pill and we go for it without the condom and I came faster than Usain Bolt with a jet engine strapped to his ass. She also feeling a cock for real for the first time came pretty quickly. I thought i fixed it!
Wrong
It became stale and i wasn't getting her off every time. I told her it bothered me and that i feel like i cant satisfy her. It made me feel like less of a man. She reassured me that whenever we had sex it felt good and that it didn't matter if she came or not and that she just liked being intimate, but that wasn't enough for me. So i did some research on my own personal fetishes. I bought toys. I even tried pet play with her. (that got a bit wierd) and we just kept dialing it in. Even today we aren't perfect sexually but we are getting closer every time.
Cont.

>What's beating Gilbert Grape.

FUCKING KEK.
And. The image. What's the context?
I'm so fucking confused.

Well then I say this sincerely, you're making a mistake in life by continuing the relationship.

Yup. Take control of her. Stop being such a pussy. All chicks are naturally submissive, but some hide it or want you to lead the way

We've become very fluid with each other now to the point that we go from dom/sub play to puppy play to toy play back to back. Sometimes its one sometimes its a fetish circus. It became so fluid because i started to ask her to try to elaborate right after sex.
Instead of did you cum? did you like it?
It was what part did you like the most?
What felt the best? What was the most fun? At first you shrugged it off with an IDK but i kept pushing and eventually she started opening up. As we were together more and our relationship flourished i pushed her with questions that made her think and when she shut down on me i forced her to think about it. It's all in the wording. Does she like porn? If so what kind? Can you imitate that fantasy? Have you heard of this fetish? I'm kinda into this, wana try it out next time? Eventually you will find something that will blow your mind and you will be all over each other like white on rice. Make her think. I know its hard for women to think but fucking make her.

Have her read 50 Shades...to wake up her deviant side
But don't touch her until she's halfway done and
Use a vibrating cock ring

Now today she even asks me questions that I asked her. Now that I've peaked her interest sexually she wants to know more and wants to try new things. Also don't be afraid to communicate while you're fuckin. You don't have clairvoyant powers and neither does she. If you have to say it to her that you aren't a fucking mind reader and you want her to tell you what you want to do. Who knows you may even like the sub role and she may like being a fem dom. Accurate communication and questions that provoke thought instead of a direct response. Open ended questions will give you better insight on what she's thinking until you can get her to communicate more with you. Questions?

grow a bigger dick OP LOL u clearly cant satisfy her. shes gaurenteed riding some other dude. do u make alot of money and infact have a tiny dick? thats the problem u cant fix that.

OP, I have one answer that you won't like:
She does not find you sexually attractive.

This might have different reasons. Maybe you are too beta, meaning you don't have enough spine, success or hobbies / interests of your own. Or it seems to her that you could not have other girls anyway. Or you got fat. Or you don't shower enough. Or you are really not that good in bed.

Either way the answer is the same: Find out why you are not turning her on. In the worst case you will find out she is a lesbian or not really into you at all. In the best case you will go to the gym, learn how to lick her really good by reading some stuff about it and putting TIME into it, learn to fuck really good and learn how to be an alpha male. Maybe get a better job and some new hobbies. If THAT does not help you at least KNOW it was not about you. And you will be a better man afterwards.

Man, i feel like we walked down a similar path, or maybe i'm on the path you were on years ago.

believe me, i've pushed. i've sat her down and said "what part did you like the best?" the best answer i've received is "all of it is good user" and i get so pissed with her lukewarm cop-out answers

she's never watched porn, never masturbated, i dont think she knows what the word fetish means,

>I know its hard for women to think but fucking make her.

OH user HOW I'VE TRIED
after dealing with this woman it makes perfect sense why men beat their wives up to the 1950s

that is actually not a bad idea at all. that is a wonderful idea actually. thanks user, you get my homemade dude gif as reward

man thanks for the help. i'll try to talk with her more during sex and get her to talk more

unemployed, 6 inch cock. i just have a way with words

thats the problem OP get a fuckin job and some dick enlargment pills ull be alright. lol best of cuck bud

>unemployed
>6 inch cock
>way with words
my man

anyway op, sounds like she's a cold and not giving person. let her know that you are getting nothing out of this relationship sexually. it's not your fault, if you have in fact tried to make it better, then it's on her now

I don't get you guys. Girls want to talk about EVERYTHING BUT SEX!
What is so hard about that? It takes away all the thrill, the impulse, the passion, the romantic.

Be a fucking man and just DO it instead of talking about it. Talking about sex is fucking awkward and cringworthy if a man does it.

Come home from work, say no word, bend her over the table and fuck her really hard for 5 minutes, cum, don't say anything, kiss her, pull your pants up, get a beer.

That is fucking more attractive than a fucking beta asking if he dun good.

And on the weekend go for the opposite. Massage her without getting sexual. Take your time. Do it for 20-30 minutes. Then turn her around and slowly lick and finger her till she fucking cums like never before. I don't care if this takes 60 minutes. Just do it. And when you are done kiss her and grab a beer. No you won't demand a blowjob. You are not begging for shit.

Be a man dude. It will take not too long and she will start riding you like you are the fucking mastercock of the universe. Because you fucking are.

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>it makes perfect sense why men beat their wives up in the 1950s
>implying the reason men beat their wives wasn't what you're dealing with and was instead because the expansion of the military industrial complex had negative social/medical impacts on the psyches of a largely repressed, homogenized consumer culture

uh oh....is it happening?

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>unemployed

there you have your answer. are you also at home all day?
dude, there is no mystery about you. forget your small cock it does not matter.

you are boring, you are not succesful, and you beg for sex. simple as that.

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Start by getting a hobby that you don't do at home. Gym e.g. or start a band, or go fucking paint trees, just be GONE. Let her know you have something better to do than hanging around with her. Let her know you are interesting.

Than get a FUCKING JOB. NEETdom is really really unsexy.

oh shit forgot to explain this to you

a chaturbate whore was pretending her retarded brother was in the background of her cam to excite the viewers

of course the retarded brother is actually her BF/FWB, but the horny viewers dont give a shit
see:
eventually the retarded came on her chest and walked off

I dont know user, did you make fun of niggers yet?

> "all of it is good user" That's when you get specific bro. You gotta start getting crafty with your questions. Like I said before it didn't happen overnight. Try the toys and if you have 60-80 to blow buy a PalmPower. It's small and and like dropping a nuclear warhead on her clit. Take her by surprise with it too. Have it near by and start missionary then when she's good and wet spin her around grab a handful of her thigh/ass ram the shit out of her and take the palm power put it on her clit hold the button until it hurts to hold from the vibrations in your hand and eventually make her hold it while you grab her with both hands and make her eat the pillow while you shes carpet bombing her carpet with the PalmPower. Then while she's about to climax let go with one hand and grab her hair and pull her head back as she fucking skyrockets of this plane of existence.
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I can prove OPs girlfriend is a american/europoop/cancuck basic whitebitch.

im slow playing lol

You're white- I mean right though, she's as white as they come. basic PH 14 basic ass white bitch

not that you asked, but i'm a full time student in college take your NEET lovin' ass and get out of here

anyways, i'm officially abandoning thread. spiderman is here.

Thanks for the advice my esteemed colleagues. i feel i've come away from this discussion with some answers to my questions, even if they're the answers i wasnt looking for.

night lads

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Look my dude, I'm gonna break it down for you. Sex and communication about sex is paramount in a relationship. Either you sit her down and really let her know this talk needs to happen (which you said you did) or tough it out for a year since you got that place together. Now this clearly isnt an all of the sudden problem so moving in with the bitch probably wasn't the smartest move.

BUT, here we are. I'm gonna make an asshole suggestion but its for the best. I'm assuming you're what mid 20's at the oldest? Spend this year stacking your money and honestly just stealth some dating sites. Yeah yeah they're full of fat bitches and feminazis, but there are a handful of decent chicks. Best way to look for other options while you're stuck in your situation.

I'm the kinda guy that moves from relationship to relationship, I'm almost NEVER single for any length of time. If you're at all like me you'll wanna have the next one all set up. Hell if you REALLY like her, just have your current catch you fucking her or deliberately leave some shit open. She'll get mad and move back to mommies and daddies and you'll have a whole joint to yourself. Bitches seriously dig that. I pulled more pussy in the 6 months after my gf left me for cheating cuz i had my own little spot than in the entire rest of my life i shit you not. You have options, not great ones but you have options.

She's not gonna all the sudden open up sexually, time to ditch her and move on.

Yeah basic american white bitches are fucking the worst in bed. They just lay there like a corpse and do nothing. Fuck you're lucky if you get moans...

Not my style but hey man what ever works for you. Me I'm a big communicator and big into some fetish stuff and so is my wife. We have awesome sex and she's the instigator over half of the time. I just found what works for me and thought I'd pass it on. If what i recomend doesn't work OP go for this anons idea. It's simple and might work. It's all about finding what you two need for mutual sexual interest.

You are not making her cum else she would be into it.

Ever hear of foreplay?

and why does she ever say no to a position? there is no argument

>I've begged her
Fag. No woman wants you to beg. Unless you are a fucking cuck or into some very specific dom shit. You've already ruined your relationship and sex life with her. Move on and grow some fucking balls with the next girl.

is all u need to say OP grow some balls.

>moving in with someone when the spark is already gone
Lmao you're going to have one hell of a year. Just end it now pussy.

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Welp OP is out so no reason to try and throw advice. Have fun spooderman
/thread

Eat her out, make her cum. use your cock the right way. Be the effing man and just take control.
fuck her sideways.
doggy.
on her belly.

Christ! do something unpredictable so she are taken by surprise!

>I've begged her to try being on top or to suck my dick, but she doesnt enjoy either.

Time to move on

Sauce

Protip - end it. It's only going to get worse over time.

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Kind of sounds like she has anxiety about sex. Try starting off sex a lot slower and just kind of cuddle for a bit and work your way into sex. It'll help make her trust you a lot more and you can try pushing her to do other things. If she isn't horny enough she's not going to do anything though, but maybe if you work your way into sex a lot slower she'll be able to get into it more.

Invest in kamasutra books. Tell her you want to spice up the sex and that it would mean a lot to you if she put in some effort to try stuff out.

If she's not satisfying you just tell her that she needs to not lie there like a cold fish. So what if she gets offended, you aren't going to get her to change without talking to her about it.

There is an alternative though. It requires some acting on your part. Basically, exaggerate how much you enjoy things that she does which aren't her routine. If she rides you for a little bit, even if it's not great, pretend that it is. Convince her that you actually get more out of alternative things.

If you can swing it, try sex on things other than a bed. Maybe a couch or a table or something. Something where she lies down and you stand up.

Hi OP. I've been with wife 9 years or so and know your situation well. We used to have really good sex with variety, but then it got completely boring. She has low sex drive, only wants to cum once a month or less. Here's things you can do:

1) Enjoy her passivity, treat it like 'rape play'. I've gradually trained my wife to play up to this a bit.

2) Be a bit rough. If my wife wants to just lie there, I tend to grab her by the throat, pin her legs right up, etc.

3) Maybe you can get her to try some mild roleplay, which doesn't involve much effort. I sometimes I get her to say 'no please' in an adorable voice. A couple of times she said 'no please, I'm just a little girl', at which point I blammed like a cannon. This kinda shit works if you are a pervert.

TBC

4) Trade favours with her. This is my top tip, and has worked wonders for me. I've had sex 5 times in the last 4 days, not because she was horny, but because we traded. E.g. I will give you a back rub if you suck my nipples while we fuck. I will take you out for dinner if we fuck twice tomorrow. Women are essentially whores OP, in that they have a commodity and don't want to just give it away. The funny thing is, I would give her a back rub or take her out to dinner anyway.

5) Related tip. Try a points system. My wife HATES blowjobs. One time she cried during it and said she never will again. Then we agreed like once a year to please me, but that didn't work. So I implemented a system where if I collect 5 points, I get head. Points can be for any random shit she wants me to do for her. Couldn't make this shit up. I've averaged 3 BJs a year for the last few, which is pretty shit, but better than zero blowjobs ever.

6) Final gay beta suggestion. Have you tried doing loads of shit to get her 'in the mood'. Once women are in a relationship for a year, most of them don't just want sex instantly anymore. Invest some time and try doing some special shit to make her feel like a snowflake one night, and maybe she'll get into it and ride you like a unicorn.

7) Have you considered getting basic sex rations from your girl, then going to prostitutes or finding a fuck partner for other stuff? Men have been doing that shit since the dawn of time for a reason. You don't really want a nympho slut for a partner, but sometimes you do want a slut.

Sounds like a beta girl

There's a very nice book called 'Sex, the guide to getting on with it', or something like that
It won several awards by psychologists' associations because it's quite ingenious. Buy it and read it together.

>implying she will agree to read it, or be enthusiastic about any change

That's the issue with formalised advice like sex books. Both parties need to agree that something needs to change, and effort needs to be invested. If they agreed that. they probably wouldn't need a book.