Hey bros, got a situation

Hey bros, got a situation.

>have girlfriend
>7 months now
>love her immensely, she loves me back just as much. Perfect relationship.
>but
>damaged goods
>the works
>im talking raped as a kid, raped as a teenager drugs, abused, broken family, self harm, eating disorders, you name it
>my life was nearly normal, basic middle class upbringing nothing out of the ordinary, one relationship before her, almost as perfect
>some days she'll bring up her past or I'll remember it heavily
>eats at me

>my birthday last week
>ask her why she dropped her uni degree
>"I dont want to live anymore user"
>as I expected
>talk her out of it
>not sure if its something i did or her past or whatever
>try not to dwell on it, just be strong for her

>what if we get married and have kids and she commits suicide then
>lol

General feels thread I guess.

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She was never raped, she wants you to fulfill her rape fantasy. Choke the bitch and pound her while shes dry. Make her addicted to you. That's the only way to get an attention whores mind off themselves.

I think this might help a little bit

You're asking Sup Forums for serious advice? Sorry, but you're not really going to get it.

I feel for you, though. I am dating a former escort and just thinking about how many men used my lover before I met him breaks my heart too often. He is also depressive when thinking back on his past and clearly regrets things really badly.

I don't know what advice to give you, user, but since you and I are.. roughly in the same boat.. just hang in, bro. Love is worth all types of pain.

You're not going to get serious advice but I do feel for you. I'd seriously try to find some kind of therapy if things are getting rough. If one therapist doesn't work, gotta keep trying. Good luck out there

Some real advice?
> You're in pretty deep
> Best you can do is get her in therapy
> She can't be in a working relationship with you if she's broken herself
> She needs to work on her for a while
> It would be best if you weren't in the picture
PS: You're not in love after seven months. She's probably just an attractive, loving good lay. A girl who's been treated like that is abused into how to be what a man wants.

Your PS is just wrong. I don't know OP's situation but claiming that you can't fall in love after seven months is objectively wrong.

Dude, having been a similar relationship, get out while you still can. There's absolutely NO fixing that shit, and it'll only get worse in time as it eats at the both of you. Sucks, it really does. But reality is reality and you're already in denial as you know this.

OP here, why exactly did you break off your relationship?

never date a bitch who tells you she was raped. 99% of these girls have some serious mental issues and 100% of that bitches think they deserve special treatment from everybody since "hurr durr my uncle molested me as a child my life is so terrible." As soon as you start to tell her that some of her problems are her own fault shes gonna run to the next fuckboy who "loves her for who she is" and doesnt want to "change her" as long as he gets some free pussy

She didn't straight up tell me, I had to pry it all out of her because of her self harm, basically told her no secrets between us and we should know each others past no matter what, I just got more than what I bargained

sounds like something that /r9k? could help you ot with.

Speaking from experience it's better for you if you get out. You know this already. If you are going to fall on that sword know that you don't have a right to resent her for all your giving up.

Also she needs therapy, and probably medication. Fun thing about brain meds is that all of them don't work for some people and the ones that do work may stop working after a while. You need her on board with helping herself. If you are the only one of the two that wants her to get better it's hopeless.

she is fucking a nigger

Dump her. Not worth the worry. Crazy women are the worst.

>what if you get married and on the honeymoon stabs you in the penis
>and then walks the dinosaur

Will you post pics with timestamp?

Is she getting help? Seeing a therapist? Getting medication? If you love her, help get her the tools to recovery.

She is fucking OP. No real difference. (Except for length of penis)

Feel you bro. I'm in my first real relationship after my divorce. She's way too young for me, way too damaged. Her father died when she was 8. Her mother brought in guy after guy. Most were abusive, some sexually. Her mother ended up getting arrested when she was 15 and doing several years in prison. As a result she's a mess. Pregnant at 16, kept the kid, works as a camgirl. Can't even legally drink yet but is hooked on Vyvanse. In short a beautiful, smart, endearing mess for a 33 year old guy. And I fell for her hard because I can't stop being a bleeding goddamned heart.

My advice is to run before you fall any more deeply in love with her. Short of that encourage her to get into therapy.

She COMPLETELY abandoned reality. Things got worse and worse until she literally could not describe the world around her in any coherent fashion. No shit, my entire family had a lengthy "intervention" type discussion (not argument, we never went there) about how the sky...isn't actually blue.

It's a little hard to describe, but her world - which isn't yours and mine btw - was 100% "filtered" through her life's experiences. When the cashier at Walmart said thanks and come back, it was because she would be "waiting for her next time". When the cop pulled her over for doing 80 in a 55, it was because he wanted to rape her. There was NO convincing her that this just is not healthy or even sane.

Would have replied sooner. Site been jacked up.

See needs help. Lots of it.
relationships are drugs to these kinds of people.
They take what they want from you sure its "give and take" until you just rub her the wrong way, or maybe she starts getting convinced that this other nice guy is just that much better for her then you.
She needs help cool off your relationship be supportive get her to support groups.
Otherwise you just gonna be the next in a long line of fags that have "raped her" emotionaly or physically.
get her healthy and balanced.
Shit what is with these fags starting these OMG WE LOVE EACH OTHER. but clearly not enough to have a positive safe mindset where her love of you is able to push her past the "rape pain of vagina problems"
good luck sir and fuck yourself

This. Fucking all this.

Get the fuck out man. That's not the normal kind of crazy. That's bath salts in Florida crazy just waiting to explode.

shes gonna hit every dick on the asshole tree until her rope pulls tight and her shoes fall to the ground.

>732856052
I know everything on Sup Forums is fake but if this isnt.

My wife is very similar to this story.
Get her therapy, be there. Remind her of all the good things when shit is bad.
I've been with my wife for almost 15 years now, and there are still some bad swings of depression, but we've gone almost 5 years since she felt suicidal, which is a masive victory for both of us.

Also we're not having kids, just so she won't pass any of her issues down. We're just happy with us.

Dump her crazy ass NOW!!!
It's selfish. It's somewhat callous. But, believe me, it's the best for you in the long run.
If you want to help her, direct her to a competent therapist and ABANDON SHIP!!!

wow 15 years already. Tell me were the drugs good when you a kiddo.
>"we've" she trapped you good.

Fuck. Same thing only I'm 32 and my ex-wife was the one who was crazy. Molested by her dad's room mate.

The thing is I was away training when we were first dating. She was at a guys house and fell asleep on the couch. She said she woke up.and he was raping her. She didn't want to call the cops but I made her. To this day I still wonder if she was actually raped, or cheated on me and felt regret.

Tl;Dr stay away from the crazies. Great sex, but don't fall in love

I agree with your point to the poster, but I do think they are still in the honeymoon phase. Real life hasn't set in yet.

what is this can't read shit

I love Sup Forums so much

I think you've already seen that there's a variety of responses from the realistic (hung in there but it was hard work and heavy lifting for years) to the predictable "dump the crazy bitch" posts. I think it can work, it won't be easy and there's still no good guarantee of success. You can't fix her and there's a probability she can't even make herself better.

My only advice would be to take it day by day, and not to feel guilty if you decide to walk away. It's her life, not yours and you are not responsible for it.

If you're going to hang in there then be supportive without being enabling, learn what you can about therapy (and put yourself in it! You need support and tools too!) and what you can do to help (from professionals, not from Sup Forums).

Good luck, user. To both of you.

Basically advice from an older user from years back. I'm not sure I'd consider it entirely applicable. Here's the transcript since uploads are blowing chunks right now.

1. Although I do not believe in God, atheists ca be (and usually are) annoying as religious idiots. Keep both your beliefs and lack of belief to yourself, no one wants to hear it.

2. Circumcision is the worst decision and well-intended parent can make for their son. I am circumcised but I do not delude myself into believing that I am experiencing sex the way nature and evolution intended.

3. You are friend-zoned because women construe your excessive emotionality and ant as feminine and needy. A woman wants to lose herself and feel secure in your masculinity. Most women are emotional and neurotic enough without having to deal with your emotional bullshit.

4. Never tolerate a woman’s bullshit. If a woman is emotional and upset, distract them: pick them up and dance, tell a story, take her for a walk. If that doesn’t work, leave her alone. If it never works, dump her. And remember, infidelity is never justifiable. A woman who uses you to rescue her, she will eventually use another man to rescue her from you.

5. Emo and self-pity is narcissism disguised as ddepth, and this is why people resent your woe-is-me bullshit.

6. Contrary to popular belief, depression is not a painful experience. Depression is a numbing strategy usually developed in childhood as a way to keep you safe from the consequences of your anger. An emotionally healthy person can allow himself to feel anger without reacting to it. When you numb yourself from real pain (anger), you block off the joy in your life and become depressed.

>con't
7. Cigarettes stunt emotional growth. Smoking seems fun because life at an early age is relatively easy. But look at a smoker in his/her 40 and tell me they look happy.

8. Japanese culture is not amazing. Japanese culture is oppressive and stifling and that’s why so many nips kill themselves. Weeaboos have Peter Pan syndrome.

9. Spend time with other men. Spending time with a hunting party (camping, sports beach, pub etc) creates a sense of belonging, well-being and safety in this world. It is also how we make connections.

10. The older you get, the more you market value increases. At your age women are over-valued in society. By the time you’re 30 or 40, it will be a man’s market. Don’t be in such a hurry to commit.

11. Do not have a child with a woman unless you have been with her for more than a few trouble-free years. If you have a kid with a cunt, prepare to support a family that you will NEVER be part of.

12. Sometimes your dick knows things better than you do. If you can’t get it up for a particular woman, that is your subconscious telling you that she is not right for you.

13. Never marry a woman unless she love you more than you love her.

14. You impending sense of doom is nothing but emotional residue – there is nothing wrong. Even when something is wrong, nothing is wrong. You deal with problems as they arise, no big deal.

15. Honor is a male abstraction, don’t expect women to understand.

Gt rid of it
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she won't not after a healthy stable relationship with kids. You really need to be there for her 'tho when post Postpartum depression hits the fan.

Also get her to therapy!

Op, call the cops on the fucking rapist.

This. Sad but that is it. At least OP is not the one who broke her in first place.

Friend of mine ended up impregnating a girl far less bad than yours. They both deleted facebook, we arent seeing him anymore, its all fucked up.

Get rid of her or stop caring about her problems but believe me, if you stay together with her she will fuck you up unless maybe you get professional help...

I recommend you find someone you love just as much who is mentally healthy. Its not that difficult.

Don't stick your dick in crazy.

How many families need to be destroyed and fathers isolated from their children before men take real notice of the warnings?

hero

This is the smartest, wisest thing I've ever read in internet. It follows some of the lines of thoughts I've went number of times, but I don't think I've could write it open this brilliantly.

Thank you for this post.

Well, I know if you put "lol" at the end of this post to lighten the situation, then you must not really care about her. So fuck it OP live life!

Golden answer of the Gods.

OP as someone who has been in your exact situation, she has an emotional void inside of her, you will spend every ounce of yourself trying to fill it and "make her better" and it will never be enough.

> cont
16. OP is a faggot

ya wont she will prob cheat on ya first bro if she aint already chatting up people on friendface

There's another one that I can't seem to find at the moment, even better than this. Stuff like

>if someone's asking you to fight for an ideal, find who that ideal primarily benefits
>Don't denigrate your spouse/mate behind their back
>Young men have the most power and the world is terrified of you and is trying to suppress that power
>Weaker people will try to undermine you to gain your attention and be seen in the world
>Stop wasting energies on attacking others based on sexuality, it's a waste of time

OP here, so many replies, all of them appreciated, even the first one, I love this place.

I posted my situation here to get opinions on what other people would do. In saying that, I've already consigned myself to being with her until she gives up on me, whether she leaves me, cheats on me, or kills herself. It's the least I can do to help make up for her shit life.

>but why user

She's incredible, literally. She has it all, looks, smarts, voice, morals you name it. Its quite incredible really to see that with all the cards life dealt her, she ended up being such an amazing person anyway.

Idk maybe its a self worth issue, am I being too selfless, fucked if I care. Love is a good thing but it isn't the greatest thing, and I'm willing to take the gamble to see her grow.

There are more people around. Dump her ads and move on. Life is complicated enough as it is without having to take someone else's shit on as well.

>what if we get married and have kids and she commits suicide then
>lol

Is this a YLYL? Because I lost

People who have suffered sometimes become really nice peoples.

My advice would be therapy, or you'll have to break up.

Why the fuck are you dating damaged goods? Rape victims make terrible life partners, I figured that shit out when I was like 16. The truth is OP that she can't ever be the woman you need her to be. Anyone on this board would tell you to dip set and find a woman who isn't a goddamn greasy horror show.

This

Tell her to stop whinning and get over it. If she tells you you're too harsh and shit, just say you need a woman that you can trust and if she isn't strong enough to fight in this life then you'll have to let her go.

This guy is 100% right. Anons, do yourself a favor and read this

It's from an old pasta, artard

Dear OP,

I've been in a similar situation only the girl I was dating was less broken then yours. You gotta understand that some girls can't be fixed and they will take you down sooner or later. Do yourself a favor en leave her asap.

Bitch an impending sense of doom mean my patient is about to unalive, that shits important to know. Means something is actually wrong.

Get her into therapy ASAP, or get out of the relationship.

Your dumb user.

Guarantee she has a personality disorder.
Guarantee said rapes and abuses are fictions or exaggerations.
Guarantee she's feeding off your attention and sympathy.
Guarantee she quit uni because she's a lazy pos

In my experience, people who have lived through legit trauma hide it and try to live their lives.

I wouldn't be so quick to jump to that conclusion friend. My former girlfriend had a similar upbringing with rapist pedo parents and was put into foster care. The new foster family continued the abuse the day they got her, raped her until she was old enough to work and run away. She killed herself and I can assure you the night terrors were not fabricated. If only that had stomped out my captain save a hoe complex, but that's a conversation for another thread.