Gf or lack of gf feels thread?

gf or lack of gf feels thread?

What's it like actually having a connection with someone?

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its real nice... i hear.

Broke up with my girlfriend last year, It was such a stupid mistake. I miss her so much...

brah, I know that feel

Had a couple chances to have something nice I think, fucked up both times.

I'm on the same boat. Anytime I see a couple, or anything that could remind me of a relationship I can't help but think of what could've been, ya know user

ya I know, user. It hurts.

Honestly, I just want someone to hold on to and hold on to me sometimes. A nice soft warm girl to hold while going to sleep would be amazing...

Yeah I thought the same thing, found a girl in college that I could fuck/cuddle with. But even then user with someone like that you're only hurting her and yourself by using a girl like that

I understand what you're getting at. But I'm not built for "casual" things I guess.

I've actually come to adopt a "no sex before marriage" philosophy for many reasons.

Honestly, since I was 6 I've wanted a gf just for the emotional connection with someone. Anything and everything else is just bonus imo.

Are you still a virgin user?

Terrible.
Constantly worrying where she is

Wondering if she loves you back

Constantly doubting if you're worthy

Feeling this pit in your stomach when you're away and thinking she's with another guy.
But all of these feelings were right.

I am actually. 22.

There was a girl when I was 16 that was practically ripping my clothes off one day, but for a number of reasons, not least of all not wanting my first time to be with her, I didn't go through with it. We were actually bf/gf at the time now that I think about it.

Yeah I lost mine at such a young age, I guess I could say I don't regret it only cause the girl was really cool and all. I just thought I would be spending my life with her. It was a good call user on your part. It's less to think about when it comes up. You always ask yourself if she hates you for taking hers too, or if what you did was even what you wanted.

no, from what she told me she wasn't a virgin at the time.

If she was, I might've actually gone through with it actually.

hmm I'm watching a porno and the dude said he can't get hard just by looking at shit, a girl has to stimulate him
this got me thinking, I must be sexually underdeveloped since I can get hard just by watching porn (also I'm a virgin)
what can I do to develop sexually? have actual sex? will I ever develop to a normal level or am I a lost cause (im 20 yo, 6.5 inches, not a lot of girth)
thanks in advance

nah, it's a mental thing. I've been with around a dozen girls in the past, and thinking about things will still get me hard as a rock. I'm also 20. I guess if you have sex and then you 'can't go back to porn' then you won't get hard from watching it, but I think it's likely that the dude is blowing smoke out his ass to sound cool I guess.

idk if that's particularly a bad thing. I can get hard pretty easy if I'm in the right mood and I just chalk it up to a high sex drive/libido

Does get awkward if in a bad situation to have wood at 22 years old tho. Teens have such an easy excuse

Yeah I could see how you'd hesitate. Do you think you're still going to find a chick that is also a virgin so that you could lose your virginity's together

>finding a virgin in the (((current year)))

It's highly unlikely, but a man can dream though.

With that said, not going to marry a slut though. Like, I'd depend on the kind of relationships they had sex in, but the most I'd be willing to accept is like, 2, maybe not even that. I'd be hard pressed to marry a girl that had sex with more than one guy tbh.

Me 28
Her 25
She virgen
Me not
She vergin bc god...
No sex ... Bc God...
Hate my life
Don't want to be alone
Go to Mexico and fuck lots of hookers
Not sure how I feel
Don't want to be alone
Hookers provide more than I get at home

Idk know what to do

Stop being such a slave to your fucking dick, user.

If she's a virgin she's good. If she's a virgin because God then she's super good and you should wife her immediately assuming everything else is good between you guys.

You want to date someone who won't touch your cock???

How long???

What connection its just a hole for my dick

Relationships are about so much more than getting you dick wet, user.

I feel bad for those that don't know what I mean when I say that.

Also, if you're white, get married and make more white babies

Thinkink of breaking up with my gf of 2+ years...
living together in a new city since a few months but i feel like we're too different, she is not as crazy in bed as id like her to be and my love is slowly fading, while shes still very much in love. Also looking too much at other women and porn nowadays again.

Wat do? Is it the living together? Are these enough signs? Im lost in this since a few months

Having a girlfriend leads to even worse feels. Moved to this city in 2012 to be with someone, end up breaking up a few months later. Im still here, with a younger, hotter girlfriend that I can't fucking stand, somehow more lonely then when i was single.

Woman I moved her for is in another state now and recently married. She put on weight but I still ache seeing her smile that way to another man.

Being forever alone sucks, but aching for someone you had and lost is somehow worse.

Define crazy in bed

and also, if looking at too many other women and porn stop. Could be causing your problems. Porn especially. Porn might be giving you unrealistic expectations of sex.

But expand on too different. I mean, 2 years is a long time. Could it just be momentum that kept you together tho? Just be honest with yourself, and her. Maybe by talking to her you'll be able to work it out.

I know that feel, but my best advice is to just move on brother. It's hard, but you have to do it.

Yeah, several times I thought I did.

It's like living with a ghost sometimes

Just gotta stop thinking about her. Take it day by day.

Don't feed into either. If you gotta purge her from social media, do it.

Feels fucking rad. Especially when she's as into you, as you are to her; it's not some beta imagined thing in your mind.

Oh, been there done that. Afterwards I cut out her, her friends, just uprooted from anything mutual.

Got rid of anything she gave me and all the pictures. Deleted any way of contact. Doesnt help that she has a distinctive, easily googleable name.

Theres always something that brings back memories and jogs that little what if thought in the back of my mind. I logically understand its pointless, yet it remains

Just means she meant a lot to you, pal. Just have to carry it with you I guess. There's someone I know I'll always carry with me.

Literally, there was a girl back in 7th grade that's the reason I know love at first sight is real.

Appreciate it bro.

What happened with 7th grade girl?

story time pt 1

>be me, last summer
>summer job at uni, friends working it with me
>on-campus housing, work together during the day, then at night, hang out, play dnd, play pokemon go and whatever else we feel like
>election
>all of us #BernieOrBust cuz college
>watched him gradually lose
>DNC happened, we were all pissed, watched the protests online
>I started looking at 3rd parties
>Once they got over being angry, the rest of them were mostly unanimous "can't split the vote, have to stop Trump"
>nop.jpg never Clinton
>had some discussions, mostly didn't talk about politics and had fun hanging out, respected differences in opinion
>girl, let's call her Lori
>Lori tells me about a summer astronomy class that's starting soon
>wainawt.bmp sign up to audit the class with her
>learn about constellations in a planetarium twice a week
>after class, me and Lori usually get fast food or maybe just hang at the park and look at stars and talk about life n shit
>I start thinking
>she's not bad looking, and she's super fun to hang with, and I'm a lonely, desperate piece of shit
>I wonder if she would date me?
>she talks about being happy currently single
>talks about how much more she likes having a girlfriend than a boyfriend
>I got no chance
>probably friendzoned, anyway
>should probably just bottle this up so I don't make the whole friend group awkward
>summer ends, classes start
>we all keep hanging out
>still talk politics on occasion, #Gary2016
>I'm the butt of a few jokes, for not supporting Hillary
>doesn't feel like anything is wrong, all in good fun, differences in opinion respected despite people being very nervous about Trump
>I do my own research, realize Trump isn't actively trying to oppress everyone
>actually agree with him on some stuff
>whole lot better than Hill in every regard
>fuck it, #Trump2016
>"#JohnsonWeld" if anyone asks
>no way in hell am I telling anyone off user that I'm voting Trump
>go to classes, hang with friends

Have something, no connection however. That sucks!

pt 2

>Lori and I find a rock climbing gym and start doing that together
>talking about politics "Trump is horrible and I'm not voting for him, but I think Hill is worse than Trump"
>Lori takes offense "How is a pig with a rape accusation against him better than Clinton?"
>first I'm hearing of it
>look it up later
>bitch was decades past statute of limitations, didn't know who did it at the time, then saw a man on tv "that'sTheGuy.png" happened to be Trump
>textbook example of reconstructed memory, literally the reason police lineups are no longer acceptable evidence in court
>that's the official story, ofc, assuming DNC didn't bribe her to smear Trump
>I keep my mouth shut, don't dare bring it up, would be asking for trouble
>don't want to fuck with the dynamic of the friendgroup, just let Lori win this argument
>fuck politics, fuck this election
>despite some drama relating to politics, friends are still pretty awesome, still have fun hanging out
>still attracted to Lori
>getting later in the semester, middle of October
>feeling the sexual tension
>I decide "wtf worth a try" plan to ask her out
>find a time when it's just us
>pop the question
>She laughs "I thought you might ask me that" smiles and looks at me
>"yes user, let's do this"
>fuck yeah.docx
>spend some time talking about what we're looking for in the relationship
>agree to take it slow, see where it goes. Also don't tell anyone except our current roommates
>fineByMe.zip
>we have our first official date. We start having more 1-on-1 time with each other
>hell yeah
>getting into late october/early november
>election in 1 week, fuck
>talking in the fb groupchat 1 morning. I make an anti-Clinton joke. They get pissed.
>try to diffuse it
>not working, they want to argue it out "stop dodging the point, user"
>in class, I don't have time for this
>tell them I'm turning chat notifications off, we'll talk more later
>Lori says "Run away."

So not gf but I just sent this to my boyfriend. Before you ask I have a dick.

You know what? I'm scared. I love you too much to let you go. I know we've been dating almost a year now and the way you have made me feel through everything that's gone on is the best. I've never felt this way with anyone before and if you had asked me 2-3 years ago if I would've fallen in love this hard with a guy like you I would've laughed my ass off. But you're cute and funny and charming and ever since we met I've just fallen deeper and deeper for you. There's so many things I want to do with you and if you left me I don't know how I'd get over you. I know you're young and you might grow more and move on but I'll always have a piece of me that loves you.

pt 3

>that's it.
>first actual malice I've seen from her, in a damn groupchat no less
>wtf
>should I rethink this?
>thinks go back to normal with friends after like a day, we never talk it out
>election night
>I make sure I'm alone when I'm viewing results
>don't want to be surrounded by cucks when I experience this
>find an empty classroom
>laptop+projector+room to myself+2liter soda+bag of chips+Trump landslide = compfy.png
>wait till it's obvious Clinton can't win
>pack up, go home
>walk through the hallways of apartment building, can hear cucks melting down in half the rooms I walk past
>marvelous.pdf
>go to bed at like 3am
>class next day
>everyone is very quiet
>top kek
>I'm super tired, so I'm pretty quiet too
>wait till early afternoon
>"day 1 in Trump's America" trending
>someone posts a buzzfeed link in groupchat
>photo gallery of swastica graffiti
>everyone talking about how horrible graffiti is
>I say "the world sucks"
>They think I'm being passive aggressive or gloating or something
>They swarm, like a hivemind
>Lori and 2 other people hounding me about not voting Clinton
>3 neutral (but still Clinton-voter) friends stay quiet
>argument lasts fucking hours
>I try to diffuse, but nah. We end up dissecting my opinion on every single one of Trump's stances, and they're super biased and take every chance to call me a piece of shit
>I'm friends with these people
>what the actual fuck
>there's no one else I'm close enough to in college that I can vent about this to
>keep going for hours, sitting in library "studying" (staring at papers so I'm not staring at my phone for hours on end, can't really concentrate), phone charging next to me
>About 4-5 hours of this, I have a night class coming up
>God damnit, I'm fucking shaking at this point cuz these 3 pieces of shit won't let it go
>"I need this to stop" I remove myself from the group
>that's that
>fucking done
>I have no friends on campus anymore
>I'm fucking alone
>fuck me
>go cry in a bathroom

Eh, it's okay. Part of it is awesome. Cause you have someone who is like you. Think an opposite sex best friend that lives with you. It's great. The other half is feeling like you live with your mom and you're gonna get yelled at if you don't make sure you do X, Y, and Z. Granted this is useful to make sure your home doesn't turn into a mountain of empty pizza boxes and beer, but if you're not that much of a degenerate it really just amounts to someone bitching at you/being passive aggressively pissed at you after you get home after a 10 hour day at work and want to drink a fucking six pack.

pt 4

>late to class
>1 of the neutral people from the groupchat is in this class, call her Maria
>she was reading through all that shit, and was trying to calm everyone down
>can't even look her in the eye
>just sit down, don't pay attention to anything around me, just stew in my own thoughts
>class over, I'm the first one out the door
>don't feel like going home, roommate there
>just want to be alone to think
>cold outside, don't give a shit
>walk around campus aimlessly
>by chance, eventually run into another of the neutral people, call her Alice
>"hey user, you okay?"
>"worried about you, Lori and roommate (roommate was 1 of the SJWs in groupchat) worried about you too"
>I'll believe that one when I see it, but okay, if you say so
>"I don't care who you voted for user, we can disagree and still be friends"
>"I talked to Maria, she's really worried, she wanted to talk to you after class but you left too quick"
>tell her I'm fine, don't worry about me
>no, really, I'm fine, I'll pull myself together
>"I'm here if you want to talk about it, user"
>hug
>almost cry again, but keep it together
>we go back home, we live in different buildings
>go to class, study, eat, sleep, like a robot for a few days
>hardly talk to anyone
>text Lori, I forget who sends the first text
>we meet up
>"ItsNotWorkingOut.doc"
>"noShitSherlock.txt"
>"still friends"
>wtf do I do now?
>been hanging out with these people for months
>don't feel like inserting myself into another friend group that I hang with sometimes but don't talk to every day
>might as well try to mend bridges
>Maria and Alice are both supportive
>3rd neutral person, dude with asburgers "I'm neutral"
>good enough I guess
>3rd SJW that I didn't name yet, I calmly explain that I don't want gays to be sent to concentration camps. She accepts my apology
>wish I was kidding about that one
>Lori's roommate "I'll forgive but not forget. Not sure things will ever feel the same on my end after the stuff we both said"

pt 5

>I feel the same pretty much
>as good as it's gonna get
>time for Lori
>deep breath
>send text
>meet up in person
>"Lori, I don't want the friend group to fall apart"
>"I don't want that either, user. Are you ready to come back to the groupchat?"
>"sure, I'll give it a try"
>she adds me back to the groupchat. We pick a date.
>Lori writes to the chat "we're all hanging out at this time. user will be there. It will be like normal, just like old times, just like all the fun times we had in summer"
>no questions asked
>time comes. We all hang in Alice's apartment
>a little weird at first, but I paint on a happy face
>end up having fun
>keep hanging out for the rest of semester, but distance is felt between me, Lori, and her roommate
>I think 3rd SJW is too dumb to realize there's still a rift
>finals end. time for winter break
>everyone knows I'll be studying abroad Spring semester, so won't be around after break
>Lori, roommate, and 3rd neutral person all graduating, will probably never see any of them again
>all say our goodbyes
>groupchat still active
>I go abroad
>groupchat talks a lot about stuff they're doing on campus, coordinating meetups and stuff. Stuff I can't participate in cuz abroad
>I start using it less
>make friends abroad. They put me in the international building, so I'm living with people from all continents
>fucking amazing time
>don't check groupchat as often
>1 day, I notice in chat Lori's roommate bitching about doing volunteer community service work, and some dude she's volunteering with wearing a MAGA hat
>wants to burn the hat and spit on his guts
>I'm feeling stupid tonight
>PM her (don't put this in the groupchat) something along the lines of "we're human beings, learn to coexist you piece of shit"
>she PMs me back some #punchANazi antifa garbage
>I tell her to fuck off, and then ignore anything else sends me
>Lori PMs me too, minor argument started there, goes much the same

pt 6

>Let it rest
>next day, Maria asks me for my side of the story about that
>tell her I was being an asshole, fuck it
>decide "I don't talk to these people anymore, why am I still in the chat?"
>don't want to just remove myself from the chat again, they'll know it's because of the thing with roommate
>as if I'm not already a huge fucking drama queen
>"mute chat notifications: until I turn it back on"
>leave it like that
>keep having fun abroad with my new friends
>stay like that for months
>I'm still in the groupchat today, groupchat still muted
>call up summer boss, start hanging with highschool friends again
>good times for now
>When I go back to college, it's gonna suck
>my roommate graduated
>half of that old friendgroup graduated
>will be awk talking to them again, because they still talk to Lori and roommate, I haven't talked to any of them for months
>I'm gonna be that creepy senior with no friends stereotype
>fuck me
>feel like shit cuz I still miss hanging out with all of them after that whole thing
>especially miss hanging out with Lori
>fuck it, why the hell did this election tear us apart like this?

So that's where I'm at right now, lonely and I just want my friends back.

uh, well I was a weird fat kid with no real confidence. She actually had some weird interest in me in some ways. Would sit next to me if she had the chance. I was too much of a beta to do anything about it. The next year we didn't have any shared classes so we never talked and in 9th grade I barely talked to her in the couple classes I had her in.

Then I dropped out and being a practical shut in because depression and nihilism are a hell of a drug.

We were together for 7 years, we had to get married on september, all paid and organized, i bought a house to start a family with her. She ran away, left behind only a note "you gave me much but took a lot too". I cant find her and her family won't help me. I have nothing.

THIS

Well OP that is one of the main things I want which I cannot have. A gf. Someone to love and to be loved by. Haven't had that in quite a while. Life is far too lonely without a companion. Even when you are always surrounded by others.

I feel you, very well aware of how porn is unreal, but we havent had sex for two weeks now while im the kind of person who would like to do it daily. Somehow currently i dont have the urge with her, but in the meantime i sometimes fap. With crazy i mean that she never sucks dick but i really value this. We talked about it but never acts on it.
we only do 1-3 positions everytime, and while i got a lot of fetishes she doesnt have any or just never told them. I want to do all kinds of stuff and not sure if thats possible with her anymore.

I sometimes also think it is the momentum that is keeping us together, since its my first relationship (and first fuck). Some very basic behaviour characteristics contradict with each other from time to time and she values other things than me i feel like.

The thoughts of breaking up has been there for months now and before that sometime haunted me as well. not sure if its because of the new city, new job or if its really a point of no return.

Any tips appreciated. Dont wanna like one of the first anons in this thread that is regretting it afterwards

sadme,me

There's always room for you on Sup Forums, user.

Don't forget, your greatest pocession you have is your own people.

youtube.com/watch?v=DB9oUqIcX-c

Yeah, I had a similar experience to that, minus the dropping out.

Shes married now too.

You doing better these days?

Right now, no. But I will say that I haven't had a any depression since November 8th. Regardless of politics, it's clear that the establishment didn't want Trump, and that gave me hope again that maybe the world can change. The maybe the people do still have some power.

I'm planning on joining the Marines soon, so that'll give me some purpose and direction in life. Idk what I'll do after that tho.

i went out with a girl freshman year of highschool. i remember just clicking with her for the first time. we went to homecoming and football games and shit. I ended up meeting her parents. I sang and danced with her like i was in some kind of fucking disney movie but i lw loved it. i broke up with her a year ago because something went wrong with my fucking head and she was cheating after arguments. i still wanna die but memories are keeping me alive no homo

man those standards won't get you a girl to marry

bemp

shitty when youre in love with someone else