How does Sup Forums deal with loneliness. This shit is getting unbearable and I don't know how to cope...

How does Sup Forums deal with loneliness. This shit is getting unbearable and I don't know how to cope. I just crave affection and love but I never get it.
Also if you want, ask me about my Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder. This is the only other way I can think of coping and it isn't very good

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I'd have asked for steam id, but seeing as you used anime pic I will not

Lol I just use it because other people who makes threads like this use anime pics I'm not really that heavy into anime. I've used it before as well so I use it so others can identify me. If you change your mind, the names PsychicBear

i stare at my desktop thinking about how my life sucks

think about how im gonna kill myself when my dog dies

unable to sleep i stare at the hospital lights i can see from my window

I get really drunk most nights and think about having a romantic partner. or play a shit ton of video games

get really depressed listening to certain music that reminds me of the days when i had a chance with a few girls

Don't kill yourself when your dog dies. I'm sure you have something to live for. I feel like I don't have anything to live for now but I always find something. I can never sleep myself, and I wish I didn't have to do shit in the mornings otherwise I would be sleeping in all day and not ending up so tired all the time. Life sucks but everyone can find meaning from it, you and I may just be struggling right now

I have a loving waifu

i also play video games and talk as if someones watching me play

Yea, my main coping mechanism is to get lost in an alternative reality in as many games as I can. I'd play Neir: Automata right now but I've lost my controller. I would probably drink too but I'm not of legal drinking age yet.

I really hate when you feel like you had a chance but you let it slip. I know that feeling way too much. Everyone makes mistakes but it's my fuckups that a really starting to get to me. So many missed opportunities just makes me feel bad. And now those opportunities are messaging me from time to time about their amazing shitty boyfriends that they fail to see is not treating them right, if that makes sense. The only thing I want in the world is to be given love and affection and be told that everything is ok and that they will never leave me.

Oh shit really, I thought I was the only one. I act like I'm making a youtube video and talk to my audience but then I realise that everything I'm doing isn't entertaining enough for a video.
How did you do it user... I'd do absolutely anything for a waifu of my own. Unless they are just trying to use me like everyone else does :(

As the days go by, I feel like the loneliness is crushing me from the inside. It hurts Sup Forums... It hurts more than all my anxiety and shitty BPD symptoms

Stop thinking of it as a negative thing, stop thinking of it as you being the only one. It's okay to be alone, it's okay to be on your own. You don't have to be with others. You must develop your own stable self-sufficient mental stability.

i had the same problem... i just accepted that i'm a loney fuck, depression and suicidal thoughts still there tho.

>cont
also games help a lot. i got into depression pills too but quit, they make you sleep like shit.

Agreed.

I will not live much longer.

look at the good side, no one will cry our deaths, and probably we are going to die as we lived, alone

It might sound dumb, but for me the best way to deal with loneliness is to just be around people. I don't know much about Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder or what that means for your situation. Maybe it means you don't know how to be around people. People are incredibly complicated, every single one of them, so social situations are exponentially more complicated, especially if you're interested in really getting to know someone. I got lucky and found someone I feel like I can share my life with by living in a dorm full of people with similar interests in college. I also got lucky in that I finally feel stable enough to deal with the relationship ending in a healthy way. I've had major depression for a long time, and I've recently been able to get closure for a lot of the things that kept me up at night. It took years, but the most important thing I did was not isolate myself. People come and go, and not everyone can get along with everyone. It's fine to let people leave if they're not a good fit for your life. It might take a long time before you find someone who sticks around. It might never happen. Permanence is a myth anyway. Happiness doesn't last forever, but neither does unhappiness. They cycle. Things change.

But while you're living your life, meeting people who congregate around the things you like is a good place to start. If you like board games find a local game shop. If you like music go to a record store and talk to the staff about what they like. It's OK to make mistakes socially. If you want to learn how to do something go take a class. Asking for help is a great way to start a conversation. Again, don't be afraid for things not to happen right away. These things take time. And when you work for something you know you want, the longer it takes to get, the more satisfying it is to get it.

I don't know if I completely missed the mark, but this has helped me. Best of luck to you.

Sometimes I like to be alone but as someone with BPD I can't just let go of others and develop on my own. I feel I need someone to help me, to guide me and I just want to feel wanted and important to someone. I don't know why (seriously I'm trying to think of exact reasons why I would want it) but I just really want a significant other to hug and love, thinking about it makes me feel warm inside but then I feel really bad because I don't have anyone. I wish I could just stop thinking it as a negative but I just can't.

I can't accept it. I'm constantly clawing onto any relationship I can and holding on for dear life. My biggest fear is being alone but I'm living through it constantly and it's torture. I don't like meds because it's artificial and you never know what crap they might be sneaking into the meds and I already feel tired all the time so I don't wanna be sleepier.

Just for reference
>BPD = Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder
I have a shit ton of anxiety. So much so that I really struggle to leave the house and sometimes even interact with family in my house, It's gotten truly terrible. It really sucks because BPD makes me crave social interaction more than anything else and I really love being around people but I can't because I'm so terrified of going outside. I've found some amazing people but they are still trying to get their life together like me and some are almost as unstable as me so it makes things harder for all of us. I don't want to isolate myself but I also wanna avoid leaving my comfort bubble at all costs. I feel like if I could just get rid of this anxiety I could do more but my family has a history of anxiety lasting most if not all of their life.

No matter how bad you think your life is, someone will miss you if you leave this planet. It may seem like it's for the best for you to just die but if you can't find happiness in yourself you should try and find happiness in others. Actively seek out anyone you can try and make happy. It's how I've survived so far, I have basically just lived for the sake of others and tried to make their lives the best I can

i guess your real problem is the bpd itself, we are just loney fucks that give up with a big depression and a bigger desire to shoot ourselfs in the head.

my advice is medical help, atleast you have a chance of fixing yourself op.

I place for lonely faggots.

discord dot gg/wRezpMc

You need to find meaning. I'm not sure how you would all define it, everyone interprets meaning differently but you need to find your reason to live because everyone is put on this planet for a reason (don't worry I won't preach any god for putting us in world, I don't believe that stuff). BPD and depression may be different but people with BPD do experience most of the same things, this disorder basically gives us depressive episodes at completely random times but if there's one thing I know about myself, it's that getting out of bed in the morning is the hardest part of my day and I lack any form of motivation. We all need to seek our motivation or how we will obtain it. I don't want any of you to be depressed forever but I also don't want any of you to end your own life.

also dont enter to discords, they are just circle jerk groups.

Go to war and legally kill brown people

Are you implying this shitty thread isn't a circlejerk?

>I also wanna avoid leaving my comfort bubble at all costs
>I feel like if I could just get rid of this anxiety I could do more but my family has a history of anxiety lasting most if not all of their life

I'm not a therapist, but I have been to a ton of therapy. The most effective style of therapy that I've found is cognitive behavioral therapy. If you're not familiar, the idea is that our habits effect our mood. Our actions turn into habits, which are just cycles of action that we do but don't really think about. If you do the same thing every day, you're going to feel similarly every day. If your current habits make you feel bad, then the obvious answer is to make new habits. This is hard because, again, we do them without thinking about them.

Keeping a journal is a good way to keep track what how you feel throughout the day. after a few weeks you can start to see patterns in behavior and emotions. Take note of the things that make you feel good, the things that make you feel bad. Now start switching things up. You don't need to do anything drastic, just experiment and see if something like getting up earlier or gaming at a different time of day has any effect. Maybe talking less, maybe talking more. Figure out what kinds of actions are associated with your anxiety. Then do something instead that doesn't cause anxiety. Try to make that a pattern. Maybe a person or a thing holds more significance than you might be able to acknowledge right now. Again, I don't know your situation or history. But changing your habits can make you feel more in control of your life than you already do, and for me, anxiety has been linked to a feeling of a lack of agency. Eventually you'll be able to tackle scarier things until you've found a successful way to cope.

yes, a lot of diferent point of views, not 40 guys talking about how they cant deal with higschool, and how fuckt up they are because their parents dont give them atention and how their fag spiners are cool.

they have no real problems, their daddys and mommys buy them all their stuff, they live in a stable house with no problems at all. just made them to look cool with the other retard kids.

Who cares.
Not like you're going to take any advice here to heart.

You're a loser, and you always will be one regardless of the "quality" of the advice you receive.

go and suck the dicks of your little friends in discord, you are so good at that aren´t you?

Just because some people give up and don't change doesn't mean change is impossible.

anyway i'm out, gl with your bpd op

I already made that mistake. Fortunately I'm too anxious to even say a word in the discord.

I'm no racist

I'd hope this ain't a circlejerk

Unfortunately consistency is something people with BPD lack. I can't form new habits at all. I tried keeping a journal once, It lasted about 2 days but then I didn't want to do it anymore. People with BPD are impatient and our minds are constantly changing. One minute I'll feel motivated to work on my habits and try and fix myself but it's often overwhelmed later with my mood swing that makes me lack motivation and then I just want to wallow in sadness. Gaming is one of the only things that makes me happy so I feel it would be impossible to change the times that I play videogames and sleep is something I have no control over. Perhaps over more time I'll find a way to cope but not long ago my Mum told me that she may have a genetic mutation that gives her anxiety and I may have it too. She told me that the cure is to just take a bunch of methylated vitamins or something. But we both need to take a blood test to know for sure and I have a huge phobia of medical facilities and more specifically: Needles

Maybe our situations are too different for me to give any practical advice. I get depressive and obsessive and I tend to go out of my way to do things that make me uncomfortable because it gives me the feeling of control. Like I said before, my anxiety has been related to losing control, so I guess my advice is rooted in giving you ways to take control of your life. Maybe that's not what you want or need. But choosing to do things I didn't want to do made it easier to deal with the things that happened that I didn't like. It made negative possibilities less scary. Because I had been there on my own, I knew I could deal with it.

That's the best I can offer short of the pseudo-spiritual armchair philosophy that comes from taking too many psychedelics. I hope you can get something valuable from it. And if not, I still believe in your ability to find something that works. You have more power than you think.

>anxious talking to randoms
How pathetic

Get a pet. I started keeping snails and they are working out great.
Always a good conversation starter when you are meeting new people. People don't know a lot about them and you can sound quite smart and sophisticated if you do your homework before.

I used to suffer a lot from loneliness, anxiety and severe depression. Whenever I tried to escape from it, I spent as much time in front of my computer or phone just to make time flow faster - go to sleep, wake up next day, go to school (my grades sucked because I only kept browsing the net when I was home), repeat. How did I deal with it? Well... I didn't. I spent so much time in this state that I actually accepted it. Now I'm spending a little more time studying and listening to music, talking with people, playing just a little bit of games just to have fun and cheer myself up. I still suffer from severe depression, but I can tell that I'm more safe now and I'm really dealing with it. Hope you'll get better, OP. Cheers.

You could....i dunno, work on yourself so people would want to be around you...

You could stop using your diagnosis as a crutch

You can only try to save a lost cause so many times before you give up on it

Dude loneliness is one fucked up problem, I got quite a lot of that too, guess thats what I get for being a fag and E-dating a grill.

See what I mean though. The anxiety has just gotten way too much that I can't talk on a slightly less anonymous social media

I had a dog. We had to give it away to a friend because we can't afford to take care of it anymore and it would just end up getting depressed in the current situation

It's good to hear that you accepted it and you're able to deal with it. I can try to accept it and at some times I feel I have accepted it but like I said previously, my mind is constantly changing and in a few hours I will think differently of the matter.

I guess we do have different situations. I'm more concerned about letting others be in control because I feel I can't bear any responsibilities. I guess that's another reason I don't want to be alone. I really do appreciate you trying to help, despite how ungrateful I may seem. I will keep your advice in mind and attempt to apply it to my own life when I can

Some people already enjoy being around me but those are my friends and nothing more. I want affection and compassion. I do use my problems as a crutch though and I don't know how to stop.
I once E-dated someone. Turned out to be a trap and a really obvious one too. But my friends knew and recognized her as a her so I was convinced from day one. I'm part of the traps are gay party though

Ehhhh tbh if my girl turned out to be a dude I wouldnt even care at this point, half fucking ready to pay for a ticket to get her to me.

Kinda impossible though with all the problems she has, but we all got demons I guess. Although she's a lot more fucked than most of us.

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>my mind is constantly changing and in a few hours I will think differently of the matter.
So you are having mood swings, bad days/good days, etc?

Nice dubs, btw. Trips would be so awesome tho lol

I understand that, If I was super emotionally invested in someone I wouldn't care if it turned out to be a dude I suppose and that wasn't the reason I broke up with her. I actually found out she was a dude after I broke up with her (him?) She was just a little weird and crazy and her personality just didn't work with mine.

I'm..uh... confused. Is there a reference I should be getting.

Yea exactly. Mood swings can happen in an instant and they are usually triggered by the tiniest things that wouldn't bother a normal person. I especially react to some things over the top when it makes me angry and I lose control very quickly

Play an instrument
Smoke weed
Do sport, i ride my bike long distances
Call family and friends

Yeah, I'll stick with her until she's fed up with me, but back to you. To help with your loneliness, I'd say find yourself a good set of friends online (if you struggle to socialise offline like me) and spend most your time around them, visit family if you can and try and find something to kill time. For me I just play drums, try to keep myself in shape and have a good circle of online fags to burn too many hours of wasted productivity with.

I shall try just that. I'm really starting to slip into sleepy land right now so I'm gunna head off for the night. It's nearly 4am here. Thanks for the discussions everyone and good day/night

Aye, glad I could help OP. Hope something changes, have a good sleep.

i want a internet friend.
give me email, discord or steam and ill contact you.

discord dot gg/wRezpMc

i watched some moe anime shit, while i lived in this shit student dorm in the middle of nowhere.
At some point i just focused on my body and did alot workout in order to distract myself and accidentally made friends with someone who i saw every other day doing workout as well

In the end its just the fact, that you dont know what to do with your time, so just do some shit