Sup Sup Forums? So I fucked a total submissive last night for the first time, and it was the best sex of my life...

Sup Sup Forums? So I fucked a total submissive last night for the first time, and it was the best sex of my life. The feeling of taking out all your anger and frustrations out on a girl while forcing her to do whatever you want is fucking fantastic. This was my first time ever dominating someone and now her and I are going to be fuck buddies so I was looking for suggestions on things to do to her in the future. What I did last night
>choking
>slapping
>binding her hands
>twisting and pinching her nipples as hard as I could (going to use clamps next time)
>throat fucking
>forcing her to deepthroat
Next time I plan on wrapping a belt around her neck like a collar and choking her like that. Any other suggestions?

Yeah don't accidentally kill her.

>Any other suggestions?
Don't get attached.

I wont, we have a safe word.
I'm not. I have no affection towards her other then a fuck toy. It feels great.

Make sure she can speak loud enough to say the safe word when choking her.

Good point.

Depending on what you're into,

Knife play
Rape fantasy
Degradation
Electric shock
Candles and fire
Hot oils

Using a belt instead of a collar is a good way to accidentally kill someone.

get a blindfold and gag her

pic is a good way to accidentally dislocate someone's shoulders.

Degradation I'm good with. I was belittling her a bit last night verbally and she didn't object. The others I'm not so sure about.
I'll have to keep an eye out if I do the belt choke.
I plan on doing blindfold and thought about a gag, but I don't like the idea that I won't be able to shoved my dick down her throat at any moment. I'll still get one though.

just put a gag ball only when you are fucking other holes, or slapping her ass and tits
and when you want to fuck her throat, you remove the ball

it makes her salivate in continue, so when you force your dick inside, it will be already very wet

plus I fucking love when she can't hold her saliva and it drools everywhere :p

I like spanking, my fwb sub had a nice ass to take handfuls of,and she likes being spanked

omg the drooool
yeah, op try this

You've convinced me to go with a gag. Thanks
All girls like being spanked.

I hesitate to do this, because I'm not doing the subby any favours, but you need to realize that *you* are the beta in the relationship. Subs are the ones in control. They're using you to work out their issues around power, and usually have unresolved neuroses around daddies/mommies. Subs are manipulative, selfish, and passive-aggressive. You're being used, and you're too new to D/s to realize it. Anyway, if you're enjoying it then no harm, no foul. Just thought you should know.

Let's see: ass to mouth, force her to rim job you till you cum, and then the ultimate: tie her up in a chair and force her to watch you fuck another girl, deposit your load in the other and then force her to eat the cream pie.... yeah, I'd say that about does it

Who gives a shit?

or they are using each other? op gets his needs taken care of and so does the sub

And then a hug!

what said, don't do it until you're more experienced, and even then. breath play is fuckin dangerous. if you absolutely must choke her, use your hands and go slowly. a few seconds at most.
also, have a gesture safeword for when she can't speak

buy her a collar and make it clear that it symbolizes your ownership over her, that she's your fuckin property

candles and clamps are a must do, but don't leave it more than 15 minutes,as it cuts blood circulation

degrade and humiliate her in a low voice, with cool calm at all times. have control, even when venting out frustration on her, keep your anger a freezing one. have some gravitas

make her do things for your enjoyment. edge herself and stop, rim your ass, torture herself, whatever floats your boat

My girl and I are into all manner of things like this. She likes to be spanked HARD. It's weird that she writhes around and it hurts at the time, but she gets off on the bruises and stripes afterward. So during spankings, I'll mix in cum denial. Like 4 whacks with the belt, then I'll put a bullet on her clit. The mix of pleasure & pain and not knowing which is next drives her crazy.

These guys are right: choking is fine & good but be careful with that belt and make sure you have a "tap out" signal and not just a safe word.

Also, I've never known a girl who didn't like candles and the hot wax dripping on her, so I definitely suggest that.

>hot wax
Make sure it's paraffin. Bees wax burns much hotter and will cause second- and third-degree burns with permanent scarring.

Quick tip for the choking - have her lift an arm while you do it. When she passes out her arm drops and it's a clear signal to stop choking.
Try poppers and get her really high on them (Amsterdam special is my favourite). When my GF gets high on them she becomes more submissive, more numb to pain so I can fuck/spank/slab her harder, and it also makes her less inhibited and say crazy degrading shit. Combine it with throat fucking so when she gasps for air she inhaled the fumes and gets more high.
Also get a bamboo cane they hurt much more than typical riding crops or belts so if you're into that kinda thing they are much more fun.
Other than that you can try double penetration, making her wear a butt plug in public, throat fucking with her hands restrained, etc but I always find talking to be the hottest and most enjoyable. Making her say/admit things like the fact I've broken her, that she'll always be my property, marking her like cattle is also fun (going to crudely tattoo her butt with a small cross). Go crazy man :)

While not strictly 'bedroom related', I enjoy making her dress like a complete whore and take her out in public with a collar and everything. I'm much older than she is, and I'm a pretty big guy with a mohawk. So we get a lot of looks and I enjoy that. When we get home or if we do any public play, she's always soaking wet so apparently she likes it too.

100% back this as well. See through tops with no bra, bimbo skirts etc.
I also encourage her to whore herself out online and sell videos of herself, despite her not "liking" it. I remind her of what she is (a whore) and persuade her to continue. She says it makes her feel degraded/disgusting which then turns her on. I get off on breaking her down.

I had a girlfriend who was really into humiliating. I could get her off just by tying her up and ignoring her. She especially liked it when I'd gag her and fold laundry on her like a table. The less attention I paid to her, the more she liked it because it was so humiliating to look like she desperately wanted to be used while I didn't give a shit.

Handcuff her to a radiator
Wank to some other girl/porn
Cum on her
Leave her there

change her name, let her just talk in 3rd person

Elaborate on this please and cite your experiences where possible.

I'm trying to understand the psychology better.

Any dom/me with any experience will tell you the same thing, that it's the sub who is in charge. Think about it; the sub is by definition passive while the dom/me has to think up more and more creative ways to punish and degrade the sub. The focus is on the sub's experience, and it's the sub who decides when and how much. The dom/me is the one who has to think about practicalities like supplies and safety and legality, the dom/me who is constantly thinking about what the sub is experiencing. Meanwhile, the sub has to do nothing and is expected to do nothing; he or she is free to focus only on the feelings and sensations. It's not really a problem unless the dom/me is unaware of this, in which case your subby is likely to go walking in search of someone who DOES get it.

There ya go, man, that sort of thing is EXACTLY what I mean. I'm really into facials, so I enjoy cock-choking her then blasting all over her eyes. Then I make her kneel down and beg me to help her clean up, at which I point I piss on her. I make her say things like how much of a cumslut she is, that she's daddy's little piss-mop, things like that. I also convinced her to become a camgirl, and she's doing pretty well at that. May let her get into stripping too, haven't decided yet.

>Next time I plan on wrapping a belt around her neck like a collar and choking her like that.
Literally what I did when I lost my virginity.

Try fucking her anally with a knife to her throat.

I should add that rape fantasies is one of the single most common experiences of people who have been sexually abused. This is because the *fantasy* of a rape is the exact opposite of real rape. Real rape involves the loss of agency and control over your own body while feeling endangered and helpless. The fantasy of a rape can be stopped at any time, rewound, and edited. And it's why so many subbies come from a background of sexual assault. D/s sexual fantasies are a safe way for a sub to work through these issues. I mention this because it's important to understand the psychology of the sub. You are completely unimportant to the sub, a mere character in the sub's mental fantasies. If you're cool with that, then it can be rewarding to both parties. But someone who makes the mistake of trying to ACTUALLY disempower a sub rather than create the safe illusion of doing so is going to lose her or his sub at a minimum and possibly get stabbed or worse depending on the subby's particular damage.

All fair points; I'm newish too and lurking. I prefer to understand as much as possible, so if you have any insights into sub or switch psychology I'd love to hear it.

I've done a fair bit of reading already on my own if that guides what you'd say. Oh a bit of play too.

You make some very good points, and it's a fine line to walk. When I "dominate" her, I'm pleasing her sexually.....it's what SHE wants and I enjoy doing it.

With that said, she sometimes asks to wear panties with a certain outfit, and I won't let her. And she's not a fan of being pissed on, but is coming around to it.....so that's something I sort of "forced" her into for my own pleasure.

And with THAT said, we're actually a real couple. We've been together over a year and spend pretty much 24x7 together. We're that couple that finishes each others' sentences, goes shopping together, are always holding hands, all that crap. So the two sides of our relationship are fascinating to us both.

She's turned out to be my dreamgirl in every way, and the sub/dom stuff is just one aspect of it. OP and his partner seem much more clinical about it, at which point your rules and observations are 100% correct.

These are me btw:

Bump

is being facetious, but don't forget the aftercare. a little talk and cuddle is cool. make sure she's alright after all the abuse

get a ring or spider gag too, but make sure the ring is the right size for your cock
this way she's restrained, drooling like crazy AND available for a good facefuck at all times, literally reduced to a fuckhole

What's a spider gag? Is that the one that's like hooks that pull open the mouth?