Sup Forums I come to you for advice

Sup Forums I come to you for advice.

My gf just broke up with me because:
1) I still have my WhatsApp chats with my previous ex (as well as every single chat ever bc I don't delete anything ever)
2) I have an Instagram account of my dog and there's 1 pic where my dog appears next to my ex. You can only see her back.

My gf said I'm not over my ex and that she feels like in second place. This to me is complete bs since I haven't even seen her since we broke up and she is in no way relevant to my present.

I'm 27 and she's 29 and despite this brief description this has been a pretty mature relation.

I'm just pissed that she's bringing my ex into all of this and I don't completely understand why! We were really getting along and I could see myself in the future with this woman.

I was thinking of talking with my ex about this but she still loves me so I think that's a bad idea.

Anyway, I'm not sure what type of advice I'm even asking for.

Is het nog nodig om me te stalken zodat deze stem geslacht wordt, of niet?

What

She's using the ex angle as scapegoating because she's too weak to leave on her own without shifting the blame to you.

Cut her free.. She sounds like a fucking anchor.

At 27 why tf are you on Sup Forums?

Your gf sounds like a nutcase jealous twat. Either that, or she was looking for an excuse to break up with you.

If it's that she's really a jealous twat, you've had a lucky escape.

It's over in any case... Take a couple of days to get over it and then move on.

if your girl has issues to this extent you're better off without her /thread

also using whatsapp at 29 nigga?

sike i have whisper and shit and im 35

She would actually like for us to stay but on the condition that I delete that stuff, which I don't want to do bc I don't think that's the root of this and don't see how that would change things

I'm in my 30's on Sup Forums.

Can't speak for OP but my job is dreadfully boring at times.

Underage b&

Posting pics of your mother in a pics you shouldn't share thread.

You have much to learn

If your ex still loves you talk and get back with her. Your current gf, who is now your ex too just used the excuse to go away.

> back up all the data
> "delete" it
> watch as she nitpicks something else

It'll be a fun experiment.

That's really more an adoption thing. WhatsApp is what people use here, like everyone even businesses

Post pics of ex an gf and I'll advise.

This man. She told me to just put it somewhere else but how is that a fix of anything? This is ciclical thing and will happen again in the future, just with something else

>thinking about talking to your ex

I was on your side till you said that OP. Hope you are not actually retarded enough to go through with that. You will be proving her right, or at least in her mind

>Let's anybody access their devices for any reason under any circumstances ever

I can't help you if you're this stupid.

And who said this?

I don't delete anything and I've dealt with this kind of shit too. It's as if you're supposed to invest time and energy to delete all your old photos, emails, etc... and pretend that your past relationships never happened? Fuck that.

Your girlfriend is being an insecure cunt. I guess you've gotta decided if your principals or your girlfriend are more important.

Yeah... I thought it in the way of telling her hey my gf broke up with me bc of you and have her be like "wtf" and validate me but that's a bad idea all around

This..
Leave her dumbass user. You want real advice? Work on yourself and get a girl that isn't weak minded.

Stfu you can't get over your ex. Its literally your first point.

This man, this. I'm not here to solve any of her insecurities, I can help but ultimately that's on her own. Ideal scenario would be her just dealing with the fact that I've had gfs and have a fucking past of which I have some records of, but that's in no way equal to me wanting to re-live them or to go back to that

Save a backup of it on your computer/flashdrive
You can transfer the chats to a word/text dic

Delete them infront of her. she will be happy and you will have room to work out the root of the problem, but you will still have the backup if things still dont work out

Whatever you do, dont let her find the folder/drive. Hide it better than your porn

This.

My past relationships molded me into who I am now. All those things she likes? All those mistakes I avoid? Where does she think they are learned? To dismiss the past is to invite the repetitions of past mistakes. I've dealt with this before, and have virtually no tolerance for it.

Thank the gods for this OP, thank the gods for this.

My ex was similar in jealousy, and it took me 2,5 years to realise this. Eventuelly free and it took me weeks to get over her, while she went on and had a new relation within weeks.

You're a lucky guy OP.

How else would current GF know what's is on his phone unless she was allowed to? If he *told* her what's on his phone, then that's a whole different level of stupid.

burn your dog with fire

Pathetic.

Concerning my past relationships.
My girlfriend brought this topic up once.
ONLY ONCE.
My phone has no password.
I have female friends.
If she goes snooping she may find the occasional flirtatious comment.
If she goes snooping and I find out, the relationship is over. Period.
She would have demonstrated a lack of trust and respect for me that is unrecoverable.
That conversation happened two months into dating. We are almost at two years now. Be a man OP. Stand your ground.

OP here.

I also should state she's a dream girl.
9.5/10, huge tits, nice ass, blond, actually pretty beautiful, doesn't like to go out with "friends" and keeps them at bay, super responsible, she's well mannered and behaved, and turns out she's a fucking degenerate in bed, LOVES to suck my cock, drink my cum (2-3 times every time), gave me her ass virginity, likes to be slapped in the face hard and be called a slut (which is something you would NEVER know just by knowing her)...

I'm a bit above average in looks but nothing out of the ordinary, 8/10 tops. I do have a nice cock tho.

Still not worth it, life is a 10/10, she isn't.

And she likes me bc she had a crush on my from our uni times, even tho we didn't talked much at all and barely knew each other. Years later she wrote to me (about 2.5 months after I ended with my ex) and things were nice from there on. We fucked for like 4 months and then things started to get more serious. Contrary to what this post reads, she's not the kind of messing around and one night standing, pretty much a stay at home type

There's plenty of 'em out there, man. I promise you that. You're better off being with someone who is RIGHT for you than with someone who has all of these desireable traits but has an obstacle course of Saw-style tests to make you responsible for her insecurities.

If you REALLY want to make it work, do some couple's counseling and see if you can find common ground.

> For fucks sake OP.

One of two things:
> you've decided already to delete that shit and stay with her and this thread is an excuse to brag.

Or

> you're trying to convince yourself she isn't overall worth compromising your values for despite her attributes and are seeking support.


Either way you sound like a whiny bitch at this point. Peace, I'm outta here.

Take care

AS someone who is happily married at 42.. count your blessings.. when now wife found out about that i still have contact with my exs (when we were dating) she took it as a challenge.. and she did in fact win. You dont want a chick this insecure.. your future would be a lifetime of reassuring her that you still love every time any random woman talked to you

Thank you man. This hit me like a bag of bricks. It's hard to see things for what they are from the inside and this is spot on.

You just solved my problem and im only lurking

glad to help; it took a long time to find the right one but it was worth the wait

Another user here that was looking for this type of reasoning.

Thanks guys.. now to find a way to end it in a nice way

TRUUUUUUUTHHH!

man... Your girlfriend is kind of right. You don't need your ex's approval to delete her conversation. And if she still loves you and you don't want to delete the conversation, she is right to worry. If your gf really was that important for you, you don't need more reasons than that to delete an ex. Reverse the situation and how many men would tell you that she wants to go back to her ex if he is still in love with her and she keeps him around?

32 here, complete w/boring job.

I think you're half right. I don't think anyone should force someone else to delete a part of their personal history to satisfy insecurity.

LIES. ALL LIES.

What bothers me the most is that fucking guilt feeling. All of this has nothing to do with my ex and everything to do with her insecurities (there's the abscent mother story and some other things related to love) and I feel like a douche for letting her on her own (even tho she's the one letting me go!). But that's something that she needs to resolve on her own tbh and it bugs me that this is so.

Not really man. It's actually true, which makes all of this a bit dystopic tbh

very hard to believe all that but like everyone else here said - move on from her, and your ex.

At what age do you think you'll suddenly become well adjusted and stop going on Sup Forums?

One never stops going to Sup Forums. You have much to learn.