Hello Sup Forums

hello Sup Forums

my fiancée, whom I've been with since of October 2007 and planned to marry on our 10th anniversary in 4 months just told me that she is in love with someone else and doesn't want to marry me anymore. what do?

well don't marry her then.

any takers? how long do I wait before I pawn her ring? is it acceptable to slash her tires since I paid for them?

kill the guy she is currently in love with

Nah dont slash her tires or anything. Just sell the ring and then treat her like yesterdays garbage someone threw up in. Even if you dont want too. Even if it kills you too. Women like this need to learn that a real man has an off switch for love. And she just pushed that shit.

Obviously kill the 'Someone Else'

See her as a lottery ticket... you can't claim the prize, you probably still love her, but the other asshole shouldn't get to enjoy the winnings.

Give it a bit of time for the tires. You'll be the number one suspect. Give it time then fuck that shit up. Pawn the ring get an escort off backpage. Sorry bruh get fucked up with your friends for awhile and move on

the biggest problem is just the level of attachment. I'm in a lease in a one-bedroom apartment with her until January. we moved across the country together and hardly have any friends here. she's closer with my family than I am. not to mention we've already planned our entire wedding and paid for most of it.

fack

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Kill that fucker he probably knew she had you and still hit on her.

Drop nudes of the bitch

Thats the problem.... they are always looking for an 'upgrade'. Impossibly to be the 'best' so all you can do is limit their contact with other single guys.

Seriously though dont slash the tires. Thats something you do to like...some asshole who dinged your car in a parking lot.

Its better if she thinks that it didnt hurt you at all. Itll fuck up her psyche, which is way worse than just physical damage that us men normally tend to do when we are mad. Plus, you slash her tires then what... The boyfriend probably just either buys new ones, or helps her get them put on, maybe even does it himself. Looks all macho helping her out when her jilted ex lover just pulled some petty shit.

Trust me. Ive been down both roads.

plot twist: the other guy lives like 900 miles away. she says she's not even sure she wants to be with him but he just made her realize there may be a better match for her. or some garbage like that.

if I do it I'm gonna do it right in our own garage. I know she'll know it was me, she's not going to try to get me arrested or anything

The best way to get back at her is when she looks back at this 10 years from now and regrets she left you. Don't slash tires or anything of the sort. Just toss her aside without exhibiting any emotion and go be successful in your life without her.

>she is in love with someone else
Kill someone else

I wish I could just walk away but like I said earlier our lives have become so conjoined that I know I'm still going to be hearing about her and thinking about her all the time. I can't exactly just grab all of my hoodies and walk out the door.

OP it's all good. Bitches be like that sometimes. You usually can't trust a damn thing women say, so even if she realizes her stupid mistake, and she says she wants to be with you, you can't trust that hoe. She did it once and she'll do it again. I learned that shit tough but it's alright if you got good friends. Just ignore her entirely for awhile and see your friends like every day. She'll think you want her gone and it'll fuck with her. Either way, you can't trust a hoe once she comes out as a hoe.

don't slash her tires even if you paid for them, pawn the ring whenever you want.

take your honeymoon with her mother or sister.

kill on stream pls

See OP. This dude knows. Hes been through the same shit I have. Best revenge is to live super well, with a hot girlfriend, and lots of social media shit for her to see. Dont mention her, dont talk about her in your posts, dont be like oh Im so glad Im with -new girl- and not -old girl-.

More like randomly one day you post pictures of you and another girl on a beach vacation.

You gotta fall out of love with her too man. ANd you can do that. I dont know a ton about the situation but... seems to me like she fell out of love with you. So, say this other guy doesnt wanna hook up with her, and they go their own ways. Even then - whats to stop her from doing this shit again with a different guy. Just move on.

this

10 years. You really thought she was going to wait that long for you?

I get it, OP. I'll be honest: it's not going to happen overnight from your perspective. Just do your best to focus on improving yourself.

thanks for the solid advice bros. I do appreciate it

been our plan for a long time. we started dating in high school

Didn't marry in 10 years? Should've seen that coming, bro.

So, don't marry her.
Forget about her now.
Find someone new.
Enjoy it.
Bang the shit out of your new piece of tail.

Well, just treat her as if she's not there and wait until the lease ends.

Humans are social animals, and lack of interaction can be painful.

If she's about to end this relationship for something as weak as a long distance "not sure" then she didn't really care about you to begin with.

Uh. Seems pretty reasonable... Id wait 10 for the right woman. Shit ive been single for half that so whats another 5. She wasnt impatient, she just had plenty of time to find her "upgrade" like the other guy said, as most women do.

Let her think about it, and in the meantime go find somewhere else to stay. Tell her it's ultimately up to her, but if she breaks it off to not ever expect you to be friends with her afterwards. It's all or nothing, mostly for your sake. If she keep in contact with your family then fuck your family because they need to have your back on this

Pawn the ring ASAP. Better yet, if you can return it to the store, do THAT. You'll get a better price. The store will look at you with contempt, but fuck them. That's part of their business. They can just discourage a lot of shmucks who don't have the balls to return a 5/6-figure fleck of metal.

Sell it now. Use it to pay off your own debts. OR, put it in an account, let the interest grow.

OR, buy yourself a motorcycle or a boat. Give it her name. Remind yourself daily how much better a physical object is than an unloyal woman.

One of you move. Tell your family the wedding is off and forget about the stupid bitch. No use devoting any more time of your life to a person like that. You really can't change people.

The funny thing about weddings is they gouge the prices just because it is what it is, then pretend they can't refund you for services which were barely, if at all, rendered. Total scam. I feel for you on the financial aspect, but you were silly to ever even consider getting married.

As for the breaking news, just... try to detach yourself from her. If you're in a one-bedroom apartment, and she loves the other guy, she can go live with him; you can finish off the lease. Then I guess you're free. Do whatever.

Ya, ending a nearly 10 year relationship won't be easy, but dude, she straight up told you she is in love with someone else (which you can easily infer she fell out of love with you.) Sorry. Don't do anything stupid as "retaliation", just break it off smoothly.

I really don't care about the money, she's had it for almost two years so I doubt the store wants it back but I only paid $2500 for it anyway. I'm good on my bills and shit but she's been talking about trading my truck in for a new one so that may be my gift to myself later this year. but I'm sure as shit not naming it after her. I know I'll miss her for a long time so the less I do to remind myself of her, the better.

I realize that this, in a nutshell, is all I need to do but it's not going to be that easy. neither of us know many people here and I know she couldn't afford to live by herself. I could but I would rather not because this city is fucking expensive. and our apartments charge an insane fee for us to sublet our current place.

>fiancée,

>10th anniversary

I mean you should have had a clue about this after 2 or 3 years tops that this wasn't going anywhere. Use it as a learning experience.

we practically grew up together. we agreed long ago to take our time in life because there was no reason to rush. it would have been different if we were in our 30s but we were 15.

also pretty much the only other female I ever talk to is a waitress at my favorite taco place. I know most people will say I'm dumb to think she's into me and she just wants bigger tips but she's hinted about wanting to hang out with me and said things like "but I wouldn't want to make your fiancee uncomfortable" and I think I might actually have a shot with her. she's 30 and I'm 25. that's not that weird is it? I'm just trying to think of literally any other female I could try to occupy myself with and she's the only one that comes to mind.

Yeah, go for it. What is there to lose? Just don't go in with expectations to fuck or anything. Just genuinely have fun and hang out.

Op-- look my wife of 9 almost 10 years has decided she doesn't love me anymore. I'm aware she's a whore and is seeing someone else.... The advice you've been given is solid move on, live well, ignore her. Every time I live my life my ex gets upset and tries to place restrictions on our divorce stuff... Just be happy you didn't commit as far as I did and thing are going to be ok I promise

that's what I'm hoping for. I'd rather find someone that actually enjoys my company and wants to spend time with me. just looking for a hookup has never actually appealed to me much. I think I'm gonna head there tomorrow night and give it a shot. I get to yell at people and cause a scene all the time as a part of my work but I'm not sure if I'll get cold feet trying to ask out a girl lol.

In hindsight you probably should have married sooner. Just try as hard as possible to remove yourself from her and emotionally withdraw, but don't break your composure and look broken. The situation sucks, but at least she told you what was up instead of cheating. Like others have said, just try and be successful and meet someone new. Best of luck Sup Forumsro

thanks Sup Forumsrother and sorry you're having to go through that.

Godspeed, OP.

I'd be lying if I said it didn't suck, I truly loved her. I don't have anybody here so I joined a gym and am currently in school, pre divorce. You can do this and so can I. My kik is:rezoom_solo if you need advice or someone to talk to instead of showing her she hurt you

sorry man I don't have kik or anything but I do appreciate the offer. I'm just gonna try to pick up as much work as I can for now and probably leave the state when our lease is up.

I just went and laid some reality on her, told her I'm gonna start splitting up all of our shit and she can work on separating our phone contract since it's in her name, and I'm taking her off the insurance policies on my vehicles. so far I haven't really said much since she laid all this on me so I think what she did finally hit her and I can hear her sitting in the living room sobbing loudly now.

don't slash the tires. Have a tire shop remove the tires and pawn those too.

Here's my dumbass thoughts.

Have fun. You've got an apartment with a lease for roughly 6 months. She has to live with you if she's there. She's at best a friend at the moment.

Roam around, get your nut on. Just remember to put a sock on the door to let her know if she doesnt feel like participating.

As far as the wedding already paid, invite whomever; hell advertize an unwedding party, be clear about why youre doing it (already paid, wedding off, need to meet new people/get your groove on), just set reasonable limits. Could also extend the invitation to the ex, as a gesture of good will. Definitly will get you brownie points in the poon tang court. Word floats.

Look sounds like you got the financial upper hand and that's great. No sweat on the kik I have it to talk to other hoes good luck to you Sup Forumsrother

Sorry dude. Women are awful. Keep dat pimp hand strong.

this is a good start, you want to hit her in the feels. don't be home after work for a few hours for at least 3 days next week doesn't matter where you are, better if you can ask out taco chica for drinks or something, give no explanation for your absence. then ask her to be out of the apartment for one night next week, if she asks why tell her it's so you can have some privacy, ask Taco chica over to make her dinner, even if its the first date, invite her early so your new ex sees her.

unless you've been engaged and then abandoned before i don't think you will understand that what OP is feeling right now probably isn't the need to fuck random women.

Ask about going to couples therapy.
Mention the phrase "fear of commitment" (which, honestly, is 99.999% of her problem here).
Have her explain to your family what her problem is.

>what do?
Move on.

dont do anything stupid even though she may deserve it . . . in a years time she just will be a distant bad memory . . . Thnk of it this way, you have ten years of mileage out of that vagina. Look what the new guy is inheriting . .btw any moron that needs a partner that is 900 miles away is a complete loser . . i wouldn't travel more than 30 min for a piece of ass . . . just sayin

THIS!!

honestly I could work 16 hours a day 6, maybe 7 days a week if I felt so inclined and I think that's all I'm going to do for a while. she knows I actually enjoy my work and I'm hoping she'll see it as me being free of a burden and able to spend more time making money while having fun. to be totally honest I wouldn't even consider bringing another girl home in front of her because I know she'd try to do the same back to me and I wouldn't handle that well.

Its not so much the "fucking rando's" that i'm sugesting, its building a social cirle that it sounds like he has lost. And making it known that you have moved on, as well as convincing yourself, and bringing some form of happyness to people in spite of your misfortune (ie paid for a wedding that got called off, so threw a party with the money instead)

Crisis = opportunity kind of thing.

>Look what the new guy is inheriting
You don't get laid much, do you?

Also OP in a few months once you've gotten over the heartbreak you'll start being able to date again, and you'll be right as rain. Keep your chin up Sup Forumsro

tell her pack her shit and leave then. Women are worthless whores anyhow.

You made her wait 10 years. She's leaving out of spite.

Be glad it happened now, rather than later. At least you don't have to go through the court. Try to move past it. If you paper over it and try to go on with her, you'll never be able to trust her or be able to forget this. She spoke, that killed it. Sucks

Lol. Marrying your high school crush. Always goes well...

You weren't married, so you shouldn't expect absolute loyalty. Also, you waited ten years.

That's almost half of my lifetime and I'm already married.

If I were you, I'd move to another city and start completely over. It's a fantasy I sometimes have. Anyways, just move on.

Nobody held a gun to her head, and nothng stopped her from asking.

SHE ASKED!?!?

Apparently not within 10 years

OP....i think you two should lock yourselves in a room and do Molly together.

Take her shit and put it into a big pile, put into individual trash bags
Throw them outside house
Call her and tell her

Double murder suicide.

at least she told you before getting married.
Trust me, this could have gone much much worse for you.
Now go and enjoy all the pussy in the world until you recover

Most women are leeches.

not only has she disrespected you from behind your back texting the guy, she lied to you every day by pretending that she didnt feel the same about you anymore. if you get married to her shes MUCH more likely to cheat than anyone youd truly love besides her. the best thing you can do is turn yourself off from her and eventually get to a nearly "ending things with her" or end it without a doubt. my friend had the same sittuation and she went back to her cheating ways. not because hes a bad person but because she simply liked talking to other guys behind his back because it was who she was. shes fucked bro, DONT WASTE YOURSELF OVER SOMEONE WHO DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOU!

Tell her to get the fuck on and watch them you fucking cuck

This, living well is the best revenge. Get another woman and let her know you are happy and wish her well. That may drive her to suicide especially if the other guy is shit, and he will be.