I have a dilemma that i know at least one of you faggots may have experienced

I have a dilemma that i know at least one of you faggots may have experienced

my dick does not work with random girls

let me explain

I can wack off to porn ez pz. i do not have ED. all of my long time gfs i can get hard for and having sex is a cake walk

however, when it comes to random hook ups or even long time friends that are DTF i get a faggy fight or flight heart racing dick smiting weeny panic attack. like my brain says yes but my tally says no. how do i overcome this? a similar thing happened to my friend who was raised in a christian home as well and i think that might have something to do with it. booze sometimes helps but not always

should i try and get my hands on viagra? do i need to take a anti anxiety before? how can i mentally get over this hump?

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Do you have a lot of stress going on in your life lately? I had an issue with that shit in my early 30s for a bit. High pressure work with deals that could gain or lose millions for my company. Found that my shit just did not want to perform on point during sex, but worked fine by myself. I used a few Viagra here and there and learned to deal with the stress of work better and between the confidence gained from my dick working well on Viagra and the reduced stress my dick started working fine again.

A majority of the time it's a stress issue. Whether it's from non-sex stresses or a societal installed dislike for no-strings sex, it wont matter. You probably just need to deal with the stress better and gain the confidence of your pecker working well a few times to be fine again.

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I'm the same as you dude. I hooked up with a girl off here before moving out of state and halfway into the sex I started losing it. I think it has to do with, in my case, being in and out of relationships for so long. I simply don't think I've experienced enough of "hooking up" to be confident with it, like knowing when to hit up the girl again or what to say and what not to say (again, from being in and out of nothing but serious relationships)

The confidence with it simply comes from conquering enough whores. When you conquer enough of them, they all start to become the same which is when your confidence can shine because you'll know what to expect

i have had this problem for a few years. i think first it was the stress of me getting out of a long term relationship. then school, then work. right now work is stressful but it may be a lack of confidence deep down ( i don't have low self esteem as far as i know) due to having a shitty job and not finishing college

ugh same for me dawg. it makes me so mad because this has happened like 5 times so ive only had sex with girls that are my gf. shit sucks.

yeah i feel you. i had a gf for 3 years. then i started going on tindr dated all the time with 6s. i would eat them out and all of that but i could never get it up. also i have a fuck buddy friend that has been trying to get me to fuck her for years. i have twice but like each time it has been 4 hours of trying to get it up. i swear if i could just do it a few times i would be good

i would get some pill but it is a pain in the ass since they are not over the counter

oh i have no trouble scoring viagra, but i mean im only 30 but this has been happening since i was like 19. i just cant have random hookups. the worst part is being rock hard while youre making out, but when she takes out my dick it just turns into bubble gum.

that is what happens to my friend. the second it is time for puss city he goes limp

for me i am just a fucking wreck the whole time. it isnt until i find the happy medium of whisky and it is like 2 in the morning and i have been fondling them for like 3 hours that it decided all is safe. it is the most autism educing shit ever

Well, I know the world tells you to define yourself by your job and education, but man, it's your morals and actions that define you and your worth. Do you work hard at your shitty job? Do you take pride in the things you do? A college grad who becomes a doctor can still be a complete douche who is toxic to just about everyone around them. A janitor can be a loving and supportive member to his/her family who brings joy into everyone who's life is connected to them.

You need to figure out what is important to you and focus on that instead of focusing on those things that are not truly important. Good jobs can be lost for a myriad of reasons, so defining your self worth on that is a mistake IMO. Having a degree proves only one thing to me: you know how to play by someone else's rules. Intelligence plays almost no rule in formal schooling, so I've never been sure why it's important. Some of the dumbest people I've ever met worked super hard to complete every assignment and were straight A students. Nailing a 4.0 means nothing to me if you take 8 hours to complete 30 minutes of homework.

I can't really tell you how to define your worth within yourself though. You have to find out what qualities/accomplishments actually mean something to you. Then you have to live up to them. Because you can say anything you want, but in the end, only the things you do will bring you the happiness you want.

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legitimately looks like a gril i used to know

despite hating my job honestly i think i am one of the best employees there. as for most of my actions i believe i am a good person. i mean i am a piece of shit but i do honest work, am nice to everyone i meet even when they are fucking assholes, and i think over all my out word actions are better than most.

unfortunately women and society value school, work, and money along with anything else shallow. i do not think i conciously put them on a pedistal but i am not sure how to break this mental barrier. like i try to not give a fuck and i think the first layer of my brain is cool with that but something deep down is fucking all this up and i need to fucking get Leo in here and find that shit

I had this issue in the past. Doctor told me it's just performance anxiety. You're over thinking shit and it's causing you to go limp.

Once your cock is out, and she isn't screaming or laughing, you can relax. If she didn't like what was going on, It wouldn't be happening.

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true. but i am not sure how to break that. even my fuck buddy friend would be like

" dude its me, nothing to worry about"

and still nothing. i wonder if it is just that she wants it right when i get there. i feel like with more foreplay and it not being a random poke battle it might go better

So take control dude. I know exactly what you mean. If she's just trying to get you to throw it in her as fast as you can, that's not going to help you too much. Take the reigns, and start making out with her or even eating her out. Slow things down to where you're comfortable and as long as she's getting hers, she won't mind.

hmm good advice

>it's true?
>Watches at $ 0?

It's true that a lot of women value school, work and money. I cannot deny that. But I can safely say that women who are not superficial will be happy if you work, whether that job is "quality" or not. The women who turn you down based on your job are after one thing, and that is not you. They are after money. Same with education level.

I'm not going to lie.... I'm a high school dropout with a GED. I've never had an issue with landing girls, with the exception of those girls who only care about being taken care of. I've had jobs that made minimum wage and jobs that have brought in 6 figures.

I can't tell you how to break your mental barrier to find happiness man. We all walk different paths to get there and what worked for me probably will not work for you. After all, the chances of our lives mirroring each other enough to allow a single experience to push us past that is pretty fucking slim. I think that if you keep in mind that happiness comes from within rather than from without, one day something will snap you past that barrier.

NO IT'S NOT TRUE SO FUCK OFF CUNTBOT

Those are the women you don't date.

do i put one on my dick and it will suddenly work?

very true. hell, if i can find that i am not even worried about pussy if i can at least be happy. the frustrating part is is i am not bad look and can get girls okay, but when it comes to the loving i have to be completely comfortable with them. maybe i do just need more practice lol or to finally be happy

Sounds more to me like, perhaps, you just have a form of performance anxiety. Maybe I've been wrong and it's not about happiness, self-confidence, or stress. Maybe it's just that you are worried that you will be disappointing to them in bed.

If that is the case (and only you can tell if that is the root of your stress), then only you can deal with the issue. If it's that, then you do, indeed, need more practice. You need to KNOW that you make them feel good and it could go away.

ladder anxiety, happened to me a little when i was younger

grew out of it, stopped giving a shit about putting on a show for my partner, was tired of trying to impress when i was getting my dick wet anyway, i suggest you stop being so uptight and have fun with it user

Bro I'm with you, it sucks but it's the way we are.

What worked for me were the following rules:

1. Limiting porn use (looking at porn at max 1 day a week, for less than 30 minutes)

2. No one night stands, my body would go into "flight or fight" response

3. Take viagra (100mg sildenafil citrate) 30 min before you think you're about to bone (you can order it online and get it shipped easily)

4. Communicate with your partner that sometimes it happens

5. About the 3rd/4th time you have sex, cut the dosage to half, then to 25mg,

6. By now you should be comfortable with your partner to stay hard and keep going.

7. Reduce masturbation as needed, don't go "No-fap", but definitely reduce it.

i think it has to do with my first gf not being super sexual and me being with only her for so long. i fucking hate private school

it is the worst because the girls will be screaming for the dick

sounds like a good list. can i get it without a prescription though?

What happened to me was one time I took a benadryl before having sex, I couldn't get hard because I was so drowzy from the benadryl that I fell asleep, girl I was seeing was disappointed and ever since then it hasn't been the same, it's getting better though.

Yeah, just look up all day chemist in google, they're based in India and you can get it from them w/o a prescription.

So is it that you find the very enthusiastic girls disingenuous? I know some girls play it up and scream louder because they think that's what you want. Perhaps they are just as uncomfortable as you and worried that you wont enjoy it if they don't act like you are fucking them like they've never been fucked before.

I think it's performance anxiety as another user said.

Have you also been jealous that girls get to just lie there and get fucked without any pressure?