How the fuck do you move on from a relationship where you thought "she was the one"
I'm having a hard time moving on. 3 months since breakup, and 1 month since compeletly no contacts.
I've heard all the bs "you'll find another" "find a hobby" "time heals pain" "go to the gym" "it gets better" "talk to friends"
I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS, I TRIED THE GYM FOR A MONTH AND GOT SICK OF IT, I DON'T THINK I'LL FIND ANOTHER LIKE HER, TIME ONLY MADE EVERYTHING WORSE.
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Drugs and Alcohol does wonders.
t. faggot who's barely getting over a 7 month breakup
Go fuck whores . As soon as you make some other notch scream for your dick, you will forget all about her.
what the first user said if it's your fuckup and just don't care and go on dates and fuck girls to get over her if it's her fault
Dustin?
Honestly I would start smoking weed to get over this, but job dosnt allow it. As for alcohol not a big fan of it.
That's what they also say... But I can't find a bitch to fuck. I don't feel okcupid anymore since I lost all my happiness and confidence after this breakup. I'm trying to reconnect with people I knew back then to fuck them.
But all the people I knew back then are taken now and refuse to have sex with me.
i was married for 7 years.
you get over it man, stop being a crybaby
I'm Joe not Dustin
Oh, confused you with another whiny cunt.
Eyyy ur not alone user , my break ups barely going in for the 3rd month so yea , mine was 4 years and its tough but ehhh idk tbh it wasnt my fault arelationship isnt a relationship if your effort is 80/20 , her loss i offered her the best life so
and also don't go creeping back to exes it's not a good look at all. just go out and have fun man. focus on just going out and having fun. build it all back up. think of it like a reboot
10 years will help
I went to her country to meet her family (Thailand) and we talked about mairrage and we were very happy... Then she just dumps me because she just dosnt feel it anymore and kept accusing me of stuff I never did, like look through her phone and stuff.
OK I know 10 years I'll get over it for sure... But this is here and now. 10 years is a LONG time from now. We are living in the present not the future. 10 years is enough for anybody to move on from anything.
You just do it, and don't look back. It's hard at first, but it gets easier. I spent years hung up on 'the one.' Once I finally decided to go fuck other chicks, and enjoy myself, I found myself thinking of her less and less. I also found that she wasn't all that special after all.
Thanks for the kind words
Yeah, break up sucks...
You were used to her, it will rake time to remove all habits of her being around.
No secret magic formula, just go out to bars, parties, brothels, ...
Don't stay home alone.
Don't waste your time thinking about her.
She's gone, you can't change that.
You can hate her, that helps (don't even try to be her friend).
Life will move on, but ut takes months...
you do, that's how life is. I'm 55 my wife is 62.
its hard to deal with the fact she or I could die in the next decade.
life is constantly moving on.
1. Be active. Doesn't mean you have to like going to the gym. Bodybuilding worked great for me but there's endless physical activities to balance stress hormones. Try a martial art, rock climbing, cycling, rowing, who cares. Do something physically engaging. Try telling me you can think about anything at all when running sprints up hill and I'll gladly call you a liar.
2. Get out there and meet new girls. There's literally billions. Bang a couple slootwagons and realize there's variety to this shit. Be open to new people and new experiences. But don't forget to wrap it up. Clap isn't any fun trust me.
3. Do man shit. Enhance yourself for you. Want to know how a car works? Go figure it out. Want to get in touch with nature? Learn to hunt. Nothing like taking every step between drawing a bow, packing deer meat, prepping your own food, and cooking it all on your own for you.
Chin up. You're a man. Now go be one.
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things might get better, it could a few months or it could take a life time. most people that tell you that are full of shit, some may actually have been through it and realize it does, in time, get better.
for me, yes they get better, but not entirely. you'll always have lost a part of yourself.
Whatever happens, don't look at her social media profiles.
Keep your mind busy by doing something: if you are not an active person, who cares: play videogames, read, watch tv series, learn something new.
When you find another woman, the cycle will continue until your death, so it's better to get used to it.
Maybe you shouldn't have looked through her phone you creep.
Very true. If it was a really committed relationship, you will never entirely get over it. You lose a tiny part of yourself. I know I did, with my gf 8 years ago. Sure I'm over her, but it really disturbs you years down the road.
Time, motherfucker. I was in the same boat. Only friends/social outlet was xbox live. Took me 4 yrs to get over her. Found out she got married and had a kid, took another year after I heard that.
Nothing but time dude, and if you have no social channels, it takes forever. Sorry.
Things will never get any better.
Last time I felt like getting dumped was the end of the world was my first gf in 7th grade. I'm 35 now. I didn't even care when I got divorced. Not sure if this is a good thing or not.
Thanks bros, and thanks to future responses, I read all of them
I deleted all my social media after breaking up, yeah I'll try what you said. Video games and learning to hate her helps.
Hope you guys are happy keep it that way.
the only way to move on is to bang a chick. I dated a girl since senior year of high school all the way to the end of college (5 years). We broke up and I was destroyed for like 2 months. Anxiety attacks, isolating myself, stopped working out, no interest in hobbies etc.
One night I went to a bar with some friends and met some psycho 6.5/10 chick with a 10/10 ass. Ended up banging her like 10-15 times over the span of the next week or two.
Since then (2 years ago) I have banged 3 other chicks and am now dating another chick that I could see myself with long term.
You need to get away from this "the one" theory. About 1 in 5 chicks you date will give you that feeling, which means its a numbers game. Get out there man...she obviously isn't the one because it didn't work out. Time to stop being a bitch and start living your life for yourself, not other bitches.
Also, what helped me get out of my rut was corey wayne on youtube. Call him cheesy or whatever but that guy will pretty much teach you the insane mind of the female, and how to basically manipulate them (in a positive way for your own gain).
They do get better, but never 100%. A part of you will always feel fucked up, whenever you think about that person that you once loved dearly.
you care more than you let on user, it's okay though. i get it.
this is good advice. block her everywhere you can. fake it till you make it and one day you'll be just fine
Not OP, but I was in the same situation. Ps4 was my only social outlet, as well as shit posting on Sup Forums. Also took my a while to get over her, like 4 years. She also got married and had a kid.
So she was thai?
No offense man but that's way too long to be dwelling on some cunt. If it took you 5 collective years to get over someone, you did it long. From the sound of it you sat on xbox the whole time rather than improving yourself.
That's the thing about not being in a relationship - you have so much fucking time to work on yourself. Go to the gym, advance your career, try new hobbies. Through those means, you end up meeting a new girl by sheer odds alone. Look at every social event (whether forced or not) as a .01% chance that you run into your next girlfriend. Might take 1 day or 10 years, but it will happen.
Time my dude. My gf broke up with me a few months ago and it took me a while to get myself back to being me. Now I'm a few days away from buying a house and she is blaming me for her financial troubles. It all works out in the end.
Just stop being such a faggot.
I realize it's an overused cliche, but just stop.
You terminated a relationship. Who the fuck cares. (hint: no one).
There are 7B people on the plant and about 6B have it much harder than you.
So just to reiterate, stop being such a faggot.
Make friends. It helps
I think we all been there at one point. I always felt like I was caged in a rage. Pent up anger and no way to release it. Its not what you want to hear, but like other user said. Just go out and have fun. Its your life to live and pussy will come along with it. The only way to get pussy is to be confident and happy with yourself. If you're not happy, they'll know and bail. Plus its not healthy to live obsessing of over bitches constantly anyway. If you need to drain your balls, theres enough porn on the web for 10 lifetimes. Just don't overdo it.
Pic related. Anonbros cheering when you get your next nut in some bitch.
this is a shit excuse. have you ever been upset in your life? ever get denied a job you wanted? failed an exam? I bet you told yourself not to be a faggot because some kid in africa was starving, you faggot.
Stop crying. Have some pride dude, be a man.
1. Get drunk
2. Get Laid
3. Get on with your life
Also if you don't have friends, get a job if you already don't. If you don't have shit else to do and already have job, consider a part time gig to meet people.
She was clearly the one and only, the stars aligned, now she's gone. I'm so sorry for your tragic loss. Go the way of Juliet and poison yourself you thirteen year old girl.
Yep. I got over it. Quickly.
Why? because dwelling does absolutely nothing and because I understand that things don't just "happen". I was lucky to have learned early on that anything that "happens" does so, in some way, because I have caused it to happen. So I learned from my mistakes (takes about an hour) and moved on.
Get under someone else
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Fuck as much pussy as you possibly can, even if you have to pay for it
3 months. Ahahahaha! The girl I thought was the "one" and I broke up about 8 years ago. We haven't talked since the break up. I still think about here at least a couple times a week. Good luck, Sup Forumsuddy.
I don't think I've ever had anyone on Sup Forums ever change my mind about something.
I completely agree with everything you just said.
Hey bro, I'm going through the same stuff. I'm a month into my break up. It's hard man, this shit isn't fun. If I had any advice, I'd give it to you, but I don't. I think we just need to feel like shit for a bit.
I can second the not looking at her social media though. My drunk ass did one night, found out she was already dating other people. Didn't feel good.
I just wanted you to know you're not alone.
Waaahhh waaahh fuckin waaahh.
Man the fuck up and get over yourself you bleeting bitch.
> im the only cunt to have ever gone through a break up.
Or you could really embarrass yourself and ask her to take you back.
Actually go do that, it should work. Believe me, ive never experienced a break up. I know what im talking about
Go back,to the gym you fucking pussy stop being a goddamn betafag. Try being a biblefag. Whore yourself out to a slut. Get a fucking hobby. Don't just sit there thinking how fucking miserable you are without her you fucking faggot. Listen to some music or some shit
Speak for yourself. I've been told this kind of shit countless times and it's done nothing but make me worse. Let alone try to "better myself" hasn't made me feel any progress whatsoever.
You may combine steps one and two to save time.
Read Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius. It's all right there. Enjoy.
Don't worry, you'll find another one OP. In any case, time heals the pain, it only gets better. If it doesn't help, you can always try to hit the gym? Or even talk with your friends? Do you have any hobbies? You can find a good one to distract you!
Or if you just can't do that. Then get prostitute, fuck her, and continue to be whiny bitch and do nothing to improve your situation
You think we drink cuz we are fans???
Taste is disgusting but effects are awesome!!!
Go read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi, what you are experiencing is "oneitis" and it hits many guys pretty hard. All the tools are there, just work through the book.
Suffering comes from resistance to change
Remember that user. Don't resist the change. It is done. Now just accept it
I have a quote from marcus aurelius pinned next to my desk at work. Good shit man.
OP real talk.
Fuck that, ull find another or any other bullshit excuse. Its hard, i know. Been there. Takes 7 years to get over someone completely apparently. Only way i cope is to keep my self busy. Dont slow down, don't mourn dont get depressed. Dont let it happen. Every time you feel it coming just start finding something to do. Act like you don't care, and trust me you wont. Several months of this and trust me, it does get better. Act like you dont care to trick yourself
I think a part of your has to die or "change". Whichever one you prefer. I think I had it pretty bad seeing as the girl I thought was the one was also my first gf who I was with for about four years. Then one day out of no where she pulled the trigger and ended things out of the blue and I was totally blindsided because things seemed great. It's been eight months out and I just live life trying to avoid having my happiness ever depend on another person that much ever again. I think the happy innocent "true love" part of me died, especially after reading so many people go through similar things. It's just really hard most of the time when I think about it so I try my best to forget all the happy moments ever happened. It's almost like I'm trying to erase everything I knew about her and pretend she was always just a friend and an estranged one at that. It kinda helps I guess...
You may not like the gym, but in time that place will be your best friend.
Work on yourself, and build that confidence back up. I'm sorry your relationship is over, but your relationship is over and it's time to start fresh. A year from now you'll look back and realize that this was a blessing in disguise.
forgot to ask...are you referring to meditation by marcus aurelius?
10 year relationship, 2 years married, destroyed since she cheated on me.
Realize that people's feelings change on a dime and you should never 'fall in love' again. When the next one comes along and breaks up with you, just shrug and move on to the next one without making any fuss, that confuses the hell out of them.
whores, sex helps allways
From experience, I can say you're just going to have to get over it. It sucks, it hurts, it may take years, but don't close out other women who are interested in you along the way.
I like this, wise user
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embrace the pain op, let it cut deep. it's part of being alive. some prettier girl with a fatter ass and bigger tits will come along. be patient and stop being a little bitch.
You should try hard drugs. Use one of those shite low grade dating sites. Cucks post drug ads on there all the time.
Wait until another guy is balls deep inside her sweet, wet cunt, dumping his semen deep in her womb; and your ex, spreading her legs to a point of unbearable pain, in a desperate attempt to accommodate every inch of his cock inside her, as her body squirms in desperation, attempting to get pregnant.
Then she'll carry his child inside her. They'll be happy forever, and reply to this post or you'll die alone in a puddle of your own excrement in 2 years.
This guy gets it. Unfortunately this has to be the case though. I honestly wish I could say I believed in a true love again but emotions change without warning no matter how good things seem or how loyal someone claims to be. But for your sake I would never actually tell any woman you feel this way. They like to believe in true love at all costs (even when theyre the soul crushers sometimes) so you'll be much better off falling in "love" but always remembering the pain and reality of life and never losing sight of the fact that she's a completely separate person no matter how close you think you are. She'll keep things a secret and they'll kill you in the end.
You stop being a faggot and get over it like a man.
Not op but I honestly hate optimistic hope building bullshit like this. All my friends say similar shit to me whenever the topic of me still being single pops up and it irritates me because it does no one any good. My next girl could be fugly as shit. Or I could have a bland plain girl who isn't at all the upgrade they say I will get. Don't spout hypotheticals because it gives idiots false hope. And anyone who isn't an idiot just finds it patronizing.
I have the exact same problem at the moment and for a long period of time weed and coke helpt me with it, but bow I am addicted to both and I don't have the money for it
So now I lost my gf and I am addicted
not op but you're a good guy, man.
Fuck your nigger