How do you deal with wanting to fuck other women in a long term relationship...

How do you deal with wanting to fuck other women in a long term relationship? I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and I can't go a day without wanting to start binge-sleeping with sluts.

Context:
>be me
>can't talk to women
>somehow land myself a girlfriend
>find out I have a big aesthetic dick & not ugly
>finally develop my confidence
>feel like I've missed my chance to be single
>don't want to break up because my gf is actually amazing and I know i'll get sick of the sluts and want something real

I could never physically cheat on my gf - but it got to the point where I started making craigslist ads, using snapchat/tinder/kik just to see how many sluts I could fuck if I wanted to.

Gone through multiple cycles of guilt and deleted most of my best wins, finally swore off it for good but have some wins to post still to bump the thread.

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Just fap, better to have a masturbation addiction which will eventually lower your sex drive if you start having testicular problems.

Dude. Im in the exact same scenario. My gf is hot af in my opinion and i shouldnt b wanting more. This girl is perfect for me....i took her virginity and she loves me...but i still stare at other girls and i think about sleeping...but i know id hate myself and regret it if i did

And i also did snapchat and kik....to see how many wins and what girls would say theyd do to me...

If you're able to dump her, and fuck as many sluts as you can. 5-10 years from now when you guys break up you will think wow, all of my good years are gone now and there is all of these whores I could have been banging in the meantime

just realize that its your primitive subconscious that drives you to spread your seed and continue your bloodline, just like every other male creature on earth. cut yourself some slack and do your job accordingly

same situation here, anniversary w girlfriend in a couple weeks

this is some retarded advice OP. stay loyal, it'll be worth it

Some of the most promising ones were off CL. I have a huge fetish for cheating girls as well.

I would post a photo of my cock and filter them through KiK - married and really long term women who have been responding to posts advertising a big cock..

Cheating gf/wives

I would create a second anonymous snapchat account and add all the girls i knew IRL and flirt with them/send them a photo of my cock, seeing who would be DTF.

This is one such girl

I deal with it by fucking whenever I want with her.
I don't give a fuck about other girls afterwards.

It got to the point where id send pics of me fucking her to other girls

I didn't say to cheat, but to break up

This is insecurity.

this girl I spoke to on the phone and she literally begged me to come over and fuck her that night. I was parked in the driveway outside my house while my gf was inside

Buy one of those virtual head sets and all that weird shit, watch virtual porn, sleep with as many virtual sluts as you want, sleep with a clear conscience that you didn't actually cheat at all.

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Similar position except I can't get girls.

How do you find sloots?

And this is me being a horny ass. I cant stop staring at other girls and thinking about fuckkng them even if my gf is more attractive than them

Ask yourself this. Where will I be in 10 years?
Do you see her as part of that life 10 years from now? If not, then do w/e the fuck you want.

Go out of town, fuck an escort, go back to gf.

Not a street whore, an escort more likely to be clean. It will get out of your system when the guilt overrides you

I always feel much better after I masturbate.

So far I've never been tempted to actually go through with it, but I don't know what I'd do if another girl initiated it IRL

I get you. I also started being confident and fucking plenty later than common. I slept around from 22 through 24 and then I met my now wife.

About 4 years into the marriage I seriously started craving other pussy. Hers too, mind you. I still feel attracted to her.

Now it's been 12 together and what I allowed myself to do is to swap naked pics with some female friends from the past and a couple of new ones.

It's a struggle though. Our relationship is great, we still have sex; but all I'm missing is getting to fuck other chicks.

It's ego though. I miss feeling attractive to the point of getting someone to rip their clothes off for me.

Thats about the same for me. Except I am not married yet.

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>It's ego though. I miss feeling attractive to the point of getting someone to rip their clothes off for me.

It is ego 100% and you know it would feel so good just to let it all go and fuck some girl who just craves you like your partner did the first time

My solution was to start trying to normalize the idea of eventually fucking someone else (even as a couple).

It took years to get her to dare to do sex things outside the norm, and now we go to swingers clubs sometimes and at least we fuck in public.

My hope is that soon she understands we can get a fucktoy girl in bed and it won't change anything in the relationship.

I'm still waiting.

Yes, of very much course

Yeah I am trying the same basicly, besides she is not into girls at all. She thinks its gross.

The shittiest thing is that my gf would be open towards the idea of an open relationship but im too jealous to let her do anything.

If i could just let go it would be amazing i bet

If you want my advice after 12 years of marriage; try to get her to talk with females she trusts who will tell her it's ok.

If it comes out of your mouth, it's gross. If a friend she trusts says it's fun, she might do it.

Communicate your feelings.
Try an open relationship (or not).
Sleeping with other women isn't a trust issue when your gf is okay with it.

Anyways, the true gain would be to have an improvement of lifestyle, not banging chicks besides your girlfriend, because women as a sex object don't matter in the long run, but a girlfriend that you can trust and who cares about your needs is.

That said, you can't expect her to agree to an open relationship, but it depends on the situation,

Do you want to see her get banged by other dudes? Is it possible for you to get a One-Penis-Policy?

Stuff like this. Don't give up, think long-term, good luck.

>Seems like a good idea, doesn't work.
None of her friends would ever say such things. And how should I make sure they tell her it is ok?

Fix jealousy first, and it's easier than you think.

Find a way to like yourself and understand there's no one better or worse than you. It's just you, and that's as far as it'll go.

She might find someone she likes more in the future, but that's on her; not you.

The minute you stop trying to prevent her leaving you, the moment you enjoy the relationship and feel free.

Jealousy comes from self-hatred. Has nothing to do with anyone else but you.

Accept yourself and you'll see you stop feeling that way

>because women as a sex object don't matter in the long run, but a girlfriend that you can trust and who cares about your needs is.
So true. I don't care at all about these women I just want sexual release. At the end of the day my gf still makes feel something real.

>That said, you can't expect her to agree to an open relationship, but it depends on the situation,
She probably would buuut...

>Do you want to see her get banged by other dudes? Is it possible for you to get a One-Penis-Policy?
I'm not sure if I can abide by this. Even if I can, it's not easy letting go... feels like the moment before skydiving

If shes a good girl get over it. Youll fuck a dozen sluts and then realize what a gem she was when you get bored and want more than a hole.

I cheated on my gf with two dif girls over 5 years. It was great till she almost caught me several times. I had a few other girls lined up just talking too.

Girls no adays cant cook cant hold a convo dont have hobbies cant even take care of themselves. Honestly now adays guys are lucky if a girl doesn't completely drain your wallet and even offers anything other than a headache.

I just occasionally fuck hookers or have an affair when I'm working overseas. Sex with hookers usually sucks, and that puts me off sex with hookers again for a while. Of course I tell my wife I wasn't fucking anyone overseas, but I think she knows who my mistress in one place was.

Start making more open minded friends together.

To me what worked was to move from the bible belt to Europe. =)

Funny thing is, I am a Eurofag, And believe me, not all Euros are openminded.

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And here's the gf..

Don't know why I would honestly prefer fucking some dumb slut instead of her sometimes but I honestly do

Pretty sure this is just a natural feel, considering everyone else's replies, and including my own, I've had a few long-term gfs and even in my current one at awhile you end up wondering about other girls, duno if its a insecurity kind of thing trying to see if you still got it and trying to see if you can still get other girls, or if it's just nature to want to spread our seed, or just miss on conquering new pussy

Qiuet the ass and body. If you love her keep her, if you don't, dump her. Just don't cheat.

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Same problem here, except my girlfriend is really that attractive, so I'm even more inclined to break up with her and try to fuck random sluts the next couple of years....

Never cuck yourself. Only one sided open relationships where the man fucks others but the women doesn't are viable. Every extra dick your women gets in her is less pair bonded she becomes with you. If she even is pair bonded with you to begin with, she's probably had more than 30 dicks in her body user and some of those during your three year relationship.

I just use it to enhance my jerking off sessions.

I'm a married man with 3 kids. I'm 28 , wife is 29.

I think about having sex with other women all the time. Flirt with co workers all the time and fantasize about my wife friends too.

I look for porn where the women look like my co workers or wife's friends. And then jack off and pretty much that feeling goes away.

Just be honest with yourself. If you love your wife enough, you'll have the strength to be faithful.

Or maybe you should look into open marriages, I'm not about that but I know someone who it seems to work for.

naa man been with my current gf for about 5 years and i think about it every day. its totally normal, just fap and let it go though

Yeap. Good point.

I'm in Holland. That helps

Holland is like a whole different world. Weed seems to help to stay open minded. :^)

Funny thing is; mostly teens and foreigners smoke week.

The average Dutch person goes through that before they hit 20 and they very rarely smoke pot as adults

I know, I know. I am some might say your neighbor.

But I am sure it somewhat changes your mentality even if you are a grown up.

>How do you deal with wanting to fuck other women in a long term relationship?
I deal with it by fucking them. I'm a man, why the fuck would I let myself be owned by some semen demon?

Same situation here OP. But we broke up 3 weeks ago. I wanted to experience other woman too. But that was not necassarily the main reason for the breakup. I was in doubt about my feelings for her. Then i love her en then i didnt. We are very different people too. I thought we broke up because i wanted to do more with other chicks. But there was actually more behind it, we were just not ment to be. We are friends now though but well see how long that takes. Ex was really really hot too... but didnt really want to be that sexual with me while i want to try everything under the sun. She wouldnt even give bjs.. hope this story helped you out a bit my brotha

I think it's mostly in how they grow up and how they're educated.

This is a very pragmatic society where anyone rarely gets caught in emotional disputes and dilemmas.

Most dutch grow up normalizing nudity because families go to spas that are full nude and mixed.

In most of the country religion is disappearing in time. Most dutch I know are atheists or agnostics.

Sex is not taboo, drugs aren't taboo either; etc.

It's common in colder countries. Denmark is the same.

Yeah, good point.

That's one of the other possibilities I've considered. Maybe we would just be better off as friends..

Gives me something to think about anyway

You gotta make yourself clear whether you want to keep her or dump her. Is this a real relationship or are your feelings gone long ago?

It’s normal and in evolutionary terms us guys are here to spread the seed, which you see this everywhere. So I guess we’re in this default position through no fault of our own of being naturally curious, I’m in a LTR (7 years) and my gf is amazing. I still can’t help looking at other girls and wondering what it might be like, and what her pussy is like and what she might be like in bed
Ive thought over the years it could be insecurity (as as you say you want to see other girls but you don’t like the idea of your gf seeing other guys. But I’m unsure, me and my gf had a couple of 3somes with another girl 3 years ago and she loved it more than she thought. Then we joined a swinger website for a couple of months and nothing came of it so it’s likely it was just a phase. We did it for the “right reasons” and everything was cool.

I’be always been a sucker for the sexting (it’s been an addiction that’s lasted 17 years) which I’ve been going through with my counsellor as my Achilles heel is about boundaries.

Same as the porn, it’s fucking addictive stuff, and there’s plenty of that, and at least you don’t get the guilt after jacking off to that!

Fucking hell, I'm in the same situation too, except I got put into the situation almost 2 years ago and cheated with two different girls. Thought I got it out of my system and felt like shit for a LONG time, but I still want more. I don't want to cheat. I want to leave her and do my thing, but she's way too fucking great of a girlfriend. Fuck, I suck.

Yeah exactly. For me it wasnt really about sleeping with other girls, but more that we just werent the right fit as a couple.

We did have sex after the breakup up though.. so were just being honest with eachother, if friends isnt going to work well just have to move on. I dont think sex was a good idea.. but i just cant help this physical attraction i have to her.. its emotional just not really there and that is a good reason for a breakup

>How do you deal with wanting to fuck other women in a long term relationship?

uh, by doing it? what are you some kind of pussy or something

I have to add to this that we were living with eachother for a year. Im keeping the place so thats solid.

It's selfish as shit I feel you bro.

You get to fuck whoever you so please but don't wanna leave because the gf treats you too well

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ofc you will feel like that. think about it when you're not horny. That's what i do, or tell her, it's clear by your words that you want your gf. Me and my gf always talk about these stuff, fantasizing us being with other people, and it's fucking nice when we talk and write about it, then have amazing sex. we're 4 years together.