I can't get off to sex. I had sex 3 times with my girlfriend and I couldn't cum...

I can't get off to sex. I had sex 3 times with my girlfriend and I couldn't cum. I told her I did so she wouldn't think it's her fault or something. I have no idea what is wrong. She was a virgin when I met her and I deflowered her myself. She's at least a 7/10 and my dick is fairly ok at 17 cm. I masturbate to straight porn and I have no interest in dicks whatsoever. I'm desperate.

Congrats, you've discovered the big secret.

Sex is pretty shit, most of the time.

Isn't there anything I could do?? I love her and I wanna enjoy sex with her. She is having orgasms left right and center and I have to pretend I'm enjoying it. It hurts. Is it because of the condom?

So what are you looking for me to do about it?

Advices ,tips, secrets

Condom sex is alright but shitty compared to raw. Was it your first time with her too?

Stop fapping for a week. that should do it ;)

You probably need to quit back on some drugs bro

Performance anxiety comes in all shapes and sizes.

Usually either too quickly or not at all.

My advice: get drunk enough to be able to get it up but not so drunk that you can't keep it up and take it from there. Your problem is fear, it's not uncommon.

Absolutely everyone alive is afraid, it's the human condition.

Just quit fapping for a time this should do it.

Same thing happened to me I came on the fourth try just stop thinking so much about it

Yes, first time

Didn't fall for 3 days in advance last time. will try a week I guess

Not on any drugs. Wasn't ever. I drink like once every 4 months also

Don't fap for ages
Try lots of different positions
Check any medication you're on. I had an issue while I was on Tramadol.

Despite what's popular opinion, it's not the end of the world.
It was harder for me to get off than what I thought when I started having sex. Even now my partner fishes before me 90% of the time.

This will pass after you get comfortable having sex with her... Some guys cum after 10 seconds, some can't cum at all. Just relax and you will be fine.

Maybe its not enough drug use...
You can try mushrooms or acid maybe cocaine a bump or some shit but it can be that the pu$$y is bunk too man... I even get tired of pussy if she doesnt wanna try for the better of both of you

Also, talk to her. Admitting your problem is the first step... Once she knows, the pressure will be gone and things will get better. If you can't talk to her she is not girlfriend material.

Find a way of degrading her. Fuck her up the ass, rim her, slap her tits.
She'll like it, you will be a boss and should get you diamonds.
Also try fucking her doggy when she hasn't showered.
That funky ass smell will get you diamonds.
No need to thank me, bro

It gets better with time, but then you'll spend your whole time trying not to cum instead of enjoying it. Then you get so good at that then you cant cum at all. Then you're back at square on.

If you love her, then you just have to deal with it. Its what I do.

user, your problem is masturbation. You reach orgasm only watching porn thats why you can make a good sex. You need to stop, so your mind will become normal. I´m talking serious. I got this problem too.

I have the same problem man. What I do to cum when I'm with my gf, we take a short break in the middle. She can recover, I get some water. Then we go back at it, and I can cum within 10 minutes or so. I don't know why, but it works. Also, this position helps me, and another thing that seems to help is teasing. When she is just messing with my dick, through pants or something before we start fucking, it gets me diamonds, and even makes it bigger (more blood flowing to it?) or so she says.

Sex is only shit if you're shit at sex.

Oh, and ignore these other dumb-asses. Don't stopping fapping, don't try degrade her. These are redbpill idiots.

Stop jerking off.

when I have trouble cumming (tired/drunk/high etc) this position usually does the work

OP id recommend to stop masturbating. Most likely your wanking gave you a death grip

I'm on 0 medication and I don't intend to take any or use drugs. Not my thing.

True

Try this and never look back, trust me you'll thank me later OP

I'm sure that if I tell her that its gonna go to shit. I know it's great advice but it's too late at this point. I already lied to her that I came 3 times...

>don't try degrade her

Yeah. Never do that. Because we all have the same fetishes (none) and with gods help it will stay that way.

OP: Watch porn. Find what makes you diamonds. Hope its legal. Try it with your gf (after talking about it). Cant be that hard, can it?

We have tried several positions including this one which we both enjoy actually but same thing, no sign of pleasure for me.

We also tease for ages and it really helps tbh. It really helps me going

checked, and it's really good for that. Occasionally it doesn't work for me, but it does most of the time.

>stop masturbating
>get off Sup Forumsb
???
>profit!

We've tried everything I enjoy in porn. We are open when it comes to discussing sexual positions. So far nothing

Not gonna argue. I may be abaolute trash except that she enjoys and has orgasms everytime . This brings me hope

you should try real life pal, not every girl wants to be treated like your mom when you rape her

>I masturbate to straight porn

Stop doing that.

Loser

this, except the not showering part

as time goes on, you'll unlock her inner whore eventually if you dont shame her

Its very simple: your mind makes you reach orgasm by watching porn, probably right now, you like to see some hardcore porn because normal porn doesnt attract you anymore. This is happening due your mind saying to you that normal sex and normal porn its not enough anymore, you need to reach more way to feel excitation until one day you will only reach orgasm by bizarre porn like: bdsm, zoophilie,pedo and etc. My recommendation: Stop fap.

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Taken into consideration

What is it you enjoy in porn? Tell me, just so i know what were talking about here.

If you mean the categories, I'm a really simple guy. When I wanna fall I just browse some bj vids, petites, big tits girls... Simple shit. No unusual kink or fetish.

Are you usually rock hard while watching those things or is it a kind of meh state until you get real hard just before you cum?

You will fall sometimes , after all masturbation/pornography works in our mind like drugs, but the good news is you can win this with no side-effects.

I'm meh until I find the right vid. When I find the shit im usually diamonds until I cum

You got a case of porn dick my man. And not the good kind. Quit fapping for a few weeks and you'll be back in top form.

Same happened to me the first like 10 times, it'll get better user

this

About those guys, op: I am currently 31 years old. I watched porn back when the only one i had was on VHS. Never stopped watching it, only got more. In a relationship with the same woman for 11 years now. Rock hard while fucking, getting sucked, handjobbed, you name it.

What im saying is: those kids have not a single fucking clue what they are talking about.

Now, about
I really think you have a subconscious fetish or something. Something you dont really know about, but something you feel. Do the videos that make you rock hard consistently have something in common by chance?

Other than the type of girl or the actress I can't think of anything. I really thank you for the advice