We all know the single true meaning of life is to procreate...

We all know the single true meaning of life is to procreate. Now I am a single 24 guy who never had a serious relationship in his life. I'm not very good talking to girls and was tired of being alone, not being able to share my life with someone I love, being loved by someone, all the good stuff.

So I made a Tinder account to see if that will help. I simply started swiping right every girl and hoped for the best. Well guess what not a single match, I know I'm not the best looking guy but I'm not hideous or something.

But It made me realize I probably am truly ugly there is no way around it. I've been single al my life and it just isn't enough for me.

I'm now back to the point were I just want to end it all, its not something I can change and maybe it's better to do it before I do something stupid.

Idk any anons here who accepted they are ugly and are still happy? How do you cope with the fact you're never gonna have a cute soulmate? Whats keeps you going in life?

show me a picture of yourself

Did you only swipe right and lower your standards to ugly people? It's only fair? Also don't have a bio and look up pictures on what are TJ bwst photos to use.

Being good at talking to girls takes practice.
Do you really expect to find love in a hookup app?
I mean that app is basically for people to judge you on your looks and debating on whether to fuck you or not. Not much love in that.

I rather not, some friends off me browse this site too.

Yess I only swiped right, was thinking it gave me the best shot.

Wasn't really looking for love, just maybe give me some hope that at least a semi attractive girl finds me interesting. showing me I at least have some chance with woman.

Tinder is BS!!! I am thin and above average looks. Women can afford to be picky due to paradox of choice and gender imbalance. Mostly get fat women responding!

do dating apps only work for attractive man then? what about the not so pretty girls?

It works for me with fat women. I assume that the really attractive women go for 10/10 males...

You're ugly because you probably don't try that hard. Looking good doesn't come naturally- every good looking guy had to put in effort. I'm not talking take a shower and put on your last clean shirt.
>get a haircut. Spend more than $10 on it
>wash up, and SWEAT THE DETAILS. brush and fucking polish those teeth. Shave but not so aggressively that your neck looks like it got in a car fight with Katlyn Jenner.
>put on NICE clothes. Bump up your standards from just clean.
>take off your fedora and do your damn hair. Men have to do it, too
>Do your nails. Don't paint them unless you're a CD, but cut and file them.

It's not hard, but it takes some effort. Once you understand effort = results, start working out. Run. Do push ups. Get swole.

You COULD be prettier... but you have to want it enough to go get it.

Its you its not them
Im a youngfag 23yrs old average looking

Fucked a decent big tittes girl firt week on tinder and found a fuckbuddy on there aswell pretty fit girl

Its you OP face the truth

don't sweat it bro!

I'm 19, been using Tinder for a couple months, been talking to about 1 girl a week before they get bored/satisfied that they've led you on enough.

The thing about Tinder is guys can swipe right and get like 5 matches a month, girls can swipe right on almost any guy and she will match with him, so they have to be very selective with who they chose to swipe right on.

Tinder isn't the best place to look for love, quick chats and "the good looking people" get sex, but for an average or below average like you and me it's really demeaning.

If you're looking for TRUE love I have some advice: Stop. Not because you will never find it, but actively seeking love is counter productive. And when you do think you've found it you're more likely to not know because of all the other mixed emotions and you're more vulnerable.

Just know this: You're young. There is nothing wrong with you. Vienna waits.

You have to lower the standard BIG LEAGUE on Tinder. Especially if your body and face are not HOT. Or, you are not a doctor.

Some solid advice user, but I'm balding pretty fast lately. I dont know what to do about that. I always try to look at least decent when I leave the house, always shower and do my hair. I could go work out and lose some weight, I'm sure it would help but it maybe make me 5/10 coming from a 4? Idk man it just seem hopeless.

I never said it was them. I know my genes are the problem here.

Show us you and we'll tell you what we honestly think.

I just hope so much you're right user. But all my younger years (around 18) I convinced myself everything will be alright, I have my whole life ahead of me I will find someone etc.

But as the years go by nothing happens, this mostly my fault for not trying to socialise and shit, but still it kinda makes me scared. This should be the prime of my life and the last 2 years have been the worst of my life. Thinking about suicide, not wanting to do anything. I mean this cant be it right?

Like I said before, women INFLATE their worth. 3/10 go for 7/10... 5/10 go for perfect. BS!

If you're a beta male this is as good as it gets now. Pre-internet you might have had a chance. Now? Every girl can have Chad come round and fuck her within an hour, and all the orbiters she wants. There is literally no logical reason for a girl to want to have a relationship with anything less than a 10/10 guy.

Don't let these fuck faces get you down... that is what they are. Shallow fuck bitches.

Stop being a shallow fucking loser. You're current goal is to get laid and connect with someone. It's easy.

Go on POF, make a profile with numerous pictures of you having a good time outside, smiling. No shirtless pics, no flexing, no pictures of your car, just keep it simple and indicative of the fun you could have together with whoever you find.

Use you're profile wisely by giving a short but detailed account of your current situation leaving anything awkward, ranty, or otherwise negative out.

Use about 100-300 words and sell yourself. Then start swiping everyone must like in tinder (yes I mean everyone) stop being picky and try to get as many matches as possible. Do it regularly, like 3/4 times a day. Keep active and relevant and persist! The good shit is to come!

Next step is messaging which can be soul crushing but it's worth it. You've put physical attractiveness aside for now. You're looking for someone who is worth your time. Try and chat to some women you have liked after reading their profile. Yes you should be reading every single profile and judging whether you want to know more by their profile. If they are negative then ignore them. If they haven't got the time to write a decent profile then ignore them. If they haven't got a car or a job, ignore them. Do not simply dislike someone because of something they like, look past it and see if there's anything else about them that is interesting.

Initiated a conversation with every woman you think is interesting even if her pictures are bad and she doesn't seem hot. She doesn't need to be conventionally attractive for you to enjoy her company and get your dick wet. Start with something off the cuff, safely cheeky, observational, or basically anything interesting. If she responds back with barely any effort or any less than half the effort you put in, then ignore her. Ditch that waster.

Now that you are actively seeking and messaging you'll likely get time wasters and even have women message you first

Not the other user but you should start browsing /fit/. Being healthy is one of the most important markers for women. You might not really see the difference but trust me they do. Also if your Tinder profile isn't working check out the tons of advice for the best profile photos and text.

Cont.

I meant to say you'll likely get time wasters but you might also be having some good convos and getting used to talking to women. You'll also be getting some women messaging you if you wait for a while and persist with the activity.

Good luck man :)

I wish I could, But if someone recognizes me talking about suicide and shit...

Thanks for the long reply, I'm gonna give it another shot.

You're probably right, cant say i've tried everything if i'm not in good shape. I tried working out before went regularly to the gym for a few months. Had some depressieve thoughts stopped going and went back to my old habits. I should really pick it up again.

Stick to a diet and a gym and success will be inevitable. If youre still not satisfied, save up and get a plastic surgery, options are all over the place...

I also want to say thanks to everyone who took the time to read my post and reply. This website makes me feel all kinds off things, but today you guys made my day a little better, Thanks anons.

Not OP, but do you think I've got a chance?

>We all know the single true meaning of life is to procreate.
Total bullshit. Doing more of something doesn't give it meaning.

I was snipped in my 30's with the full agreement of my wife (we were sick of fucking with her hormones and don't get me started on the joy of condoms).

So no kids and my life is fine, thanks. You go ahead and contribute to global overpopulation, that is if you're too weak to resist peer pressure and parents wanting grandchildren to spoil.

You had the option to, though.
Incels will never even get to make that choice themselves. Just slaving away to upkeep a society that rejected them completly. Why bother.

Honestly, not the best picture. I think you cut the hair, keep it short and professional, get a trendy haircut. Or you shave the beard.

Can't speak for your personality or body tho

you don't need to have a nice face to be attractive.
if you're fat, lose some weight and get in shape faggot.
no one wants your sweaty fat ass over them.
If you're not actually fat, then you're closer to achieving results.
It also helps if you're not stupid af.
You should have subjects to talk about for hours. biches love to have deep conversations.
they don't have to fall in love with your face as long as you can compensate with something else.
maybe you have a big dick? thought so.
so:
-get in shape
-get some knowledge
-be fucking confident
-if a chick turns you down, go for the next, there are at least a thousand more in the vecinity of you unless you live in a fucking cave, then you'll have to fuck dogs and rocks or whatever thing cannot hit back
.

You were wondering how to cope in your original post. Well, you're approaching life as if the only means of satisfaction derive from sexual attention. Don't lie, good sex typically will overpower love connections. Making it better or diluting it. Confronting life with a mindset so narrow, it becomes clausterphobic. Unbearably so. I would encourage you to expand your horizons. Happiness exists in other places than human connection. Discover yourself, and, if you desire, you can more easily find someone with similar interests.

This is coming from a person with scoliosis. Untreated, and it has been getting worse for years now. Think about that. No one finds a physical deformity attractive; it's in our nature to find a healthy mate. Yet, I still have my girlfriend. After years of letting my condition keep me from expressing myself, going outside, and socializing with people, I finally decided to expand myself. I went traveling. Took a trip. Studied biology. If someone couldn't appreciate my physical appearance, maybe someone would appreciate my brain. I certainly do.

I didn't initially do this for a girlfriend. I wanted to contribute something to humanity before I died. But I'm saying that girls appreciate more than physical appearance when it comes to relationships. However, if you advertise yourself on an app like tinser, people are forced to judge you on your physical appearance. Go out bud. Exploe the world. Find happiness elsewhere like I did. And it will all come together.

My body is tall/average and my personality is I'm on Sup Forums.

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.

Agree, search for knowledge.

>Vienna waits.
what did he meme by this?

Travel to Vienna

You fucking jew cuck show us a picture of yourself so we can rate
>girls are shallow fucks
>inb4 fag

i have some good news for you OP. You're not accounting for Tinder's massively unfair algorithms.

If you swipe more than 10-20 people right the algorithms in the background punish you and make you less likely to be seen. It will also punish you if you swipe too many left.

It also creates a "rating" of you, that you can't see, which matches you with people of a similar rating. This is based on the amount of swipes right you get.

As we all know, women's standards when it comes to online dating are completely insane. Therefore they left swipe 90% of guys destroying their tinder rating. So likely there are probably 5 10/10 guys in your city with an absolute absurd amount of matches due to the algorithms favouring them. Don't be jelly, that's just the way tinder have made the app to make sure people aren't constantly swiping ugly motherfuckers. (seeing more good looking people on the app makes you likely to use it more).

Add to this tinders boost feature introduced not too long ago has completely fucked the system up further. I used to use tinder before they brought it in and got a match every day. I now get one every month (unless i use the boost feature, which gets a match 90% of the time).

Tinder has also recieved a great deal of media exposure over the past few years too. It's no longer new and exciting (and therefore cool). Attractive women have remembered they don't actually need an app to get laid, they just need to speak to one of their 5 orbiters. So the standard of women has dropped massively.

Essentially tinder is about to die a horrible death unless they fix things fast. But the problem is not you, it's tinder, and womens crazy standards.

Your beard is dehydrated as fuck.

I'd assume that he already used the pay to win features. Considering how much having a gf will cost you it kinda makes sense to spend that tiny amount.

Want me to use the beard oil? I thought it was just a joke...

>be 22
>balding
>acne scars
>skinny-fat
>funny but lack confidence
>caring but always about others, never myself
>be single all my life because insecure and no self esteem
>get a match on tinder
>she's not the tinder type either so it was perfect
>we go on a date
>soul mate instantly, we just hit it off so well
>date went perfect
>never been this happy
>wants to see me again
>sucks because ldr but whatever, think I can commit
>she's indecisive, on and off about wanting a relationship
>"wish you lived closer"
>because I lack any sort of exp in dating I fuck up a lot
>say things I shouldn't say, never know when its too early or too late
>get insecure
>she's understanding but I think the distance, her indecisiveness, lack of experience on both ends and the fact she was super shy and awkward with trust issues made her say this
>"I don't want to do this anymore"
>we end it there and then
Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? not so sure about that, I feel like I'll never meet a girl like her again and I feel like I was better off alone.

Is love something you truly want OP? I had it for awhile, made me the happiest man on earth, then she left, like most do, and crushed my heart. Lesson learned, but will I ever get to use this lesson again? tough to say, it hurts like hell

Nope, it's actually a thing. Though I don't use beard-specific oils, I use hair oils intended for women, and it works much better that way.

Even with boosts, my amount of matches is down crazy since a year or so ago. Also boosts are the only thing that actually gets more matches of the pay to win stuff, the rest is pretty much useless, and boosts cost £3 each.

£3 for maybe getting one match? And the fact that like 1/10 girls actually talk after matching. FUCK THAT

My reccomendation to OP is to learn some game and try it IRL. The majority of men are now doing the same thing as you, swiping and hoping for the best, which leaves a massive gap in the market for men who are willing to try talking to women IRL.

i use tinder and get a match notification every day

the girls arent very pretty but they arent uggos either

idk what the problem is for you OP

maybe you look like a weirdo?

also, switch it to MfM and watch your phone blow up with gay guys howling at you

so delusional

you got swiped by a bunch of prostitutes and fake accounts

Takes years of practice. I fucked 156 women and about 100 og them from Tinder. I am 6-7/10.

Posted this from phone but i would like to add:

Most women want the same kind of sex / intimacy. I use the same kind of lingo and pickup lines nearly every time. Most important is humor.

Also: I use only 2 pictures and have a funny bio. About 50/50 who messages first. If the girl messages me first i know she is ready to go.

Ask anything, i would like to help you out, but the main thing is that it takes years to become good at this stuff and you have to practice a lot.

All you have to do is lower your standards on the girls you are looking for.

There are tons and tons of 5-8/10 girls who owns a low self-esteem and are ready to hook up, if you just make the initiative. Hell, maybe if your lucky they will cheer up and bloom into +8, when they take care of themselves!

>swedish
Are you black by any chance?

Nah tinder allows girls to not think about the way they look. Meet girls in person. I betcha you will do tones better.

Patricio?

Im from Denmark, and no. Blue eyes and blonde hair.

>Meet girls in person
What is this? The last century? Welcome to 2017, oldfag. Whores on fuck apps are better.

I live in central Florida. Only people who forgot to disable their apps when on vacation or bots or doodes catfishing or just fatty's with nigger kids. Either way. Garbage. Easier to just meet girls in person. Faggot get some social skills.

Scottish actually.

If this was recently, you're still going through withdrawal from happy hormones.
That is a big part of why it hurts after a breakup, you've lost your source of happy hormones, that your body provides you with when you're in a situation that could lead to breeding.

You REALLY look like a friend of mine

My issue with "learn some game and try it IRL" is that all the women are already using tinder to fulfil their needs, so why would they even talk to a guy IRL?

Does he get laid?

good advice here

OP when did you start using tinder, it really takes some time to learn the dating app dynamic.
also, stop looking for a soulmate, dammit

its been a month now. I've been through phases when I thought I was over her but then few days later she came back to mind and made me feel even more miserable than before.
I haven't been happy before I met her either, now it feels the same, except now there's 'something' missing... I don't know, I don't think I'll give up on dating, but it just feels like I should at least for now

I've met plenty of girls through tinder.
I never thought I would meet I like to spend the rest of my life with, though.

Trial and error user, everyone's story is different. Just try to be hygienic and offer something to the table.

He's kind of a nerd, but he does. If the guy in the picture is you, you should get laid too, you just need to know which chicks to aim. Not every girl like bearded scottish guys, but there are some that LOVES them. Don't expect to bang a hot slut who goes clubbin' but you can abstolutely mate with a decent looking chick who might be a good companion

terrible fucking picture but yes definitely, go to a hairdresser and get a decent trim. then learn to take normal pictures like a normal human

Sounds like you need to do things to like yourself, before you go looking for other people to like you.
Work out, get a hobby, perhaps talk to a therapist.

Dating app dynamic is a good term. When i first got on the app i had 1 match a day at most. Then i started looking into what women go for (both irl and on the app) and i molded my profile for that. Also: Remember that you actually have to meet up with these girls if you want to fuck them. When i first started out i had to act really confident even though i was not. After you realize that women are just as scared as you are you have the upper hand. Hard to explain, but girls like it when they dont have the responcebility(dunno how to spell) of the succes of the meetup.

Fake it till you make it is the best line for it. Also it you can get free point if you:

>Get /fit/ even though it might take a year or two
>Dress nice, it doesnt have to be expensive
>Take a really good look at her profile and her look. What is she looking for? You dont have to be fake, but just like a job application, make yourself meet the needs of the employer in the application and in the interview /date

you look like youre a funny crazy mother fucker, youll definitely attract some kind of bitch you just need to let her see that awesome side of you and not force it.

I started working out last week, I play guitar and have a band but until things come to fruition it'll take some time so I'll see. I don't think I need a therapist, its just this place is so grim and I need to leave asap. I'm hopefully going to college this year and plan to move out, once that happens I'll be on the right track again, until then all I can do is wait, which sucks but what can you do? like I said, I do have distractions for now, but the break up was just bad timing, plenty of time till college starts

>satanic trips speaking many truths

One problem maybe that you're swiping right on *every*, person. From what I've heard, Tinder will believe you're a bot if you do that, and show you to less people.

A change of scenery can work, but if you work on yourself to the point of liking you, the scenery doesn't really matter.

Your hair looks okay, not great but not terrible.

The beard, however, isn't doing you any favors. Shave that shit and keep it shaved.

Tinder isn't for love or "making a connection". It's for sex. The women you meet are like naive prostitutes who work for gina tingles instead of money.

If it takes you more than 5-10 messages to get her number and start setting up a date, move on to the next match.

If you're in a dry spell, message all your past matches something like "hey wanna hang out tonight". If send that to 20 chicks, one might answer, and she's probably desperate.

Yes, it's actually worth the time to be somewhat picky. Less time wasted deleting uggos and you'll get through the bangable ones more quickly. At the very least, make sure your matches pass the "smash/no smash" test.

ive actually seen a lot of girls on tinder saying "not here for one night stand" im in la btw so things might be different by you guys

I get you, its not so much the scenery as much as it is the fact that all the people I knew from around here moved away and I have noone here to hang out with, grab a beer with and I'm stuck here on my own, I'm forced to stay home all day and I've essentially become a hermit despite being a person that likes to hang out with people, I was just put in this position and for now that will have to do, so its depressing. But yeah I see your point, thanks man.

>Tinder isn't for love or "making a connection". It's for sex

meme

Tinder sucks... Most of the time the people who show up for matches or whatever, say "30 miles away, etc) and they end up being STATES away. Doesn't make any sense.. Contact them? Sure as shit they are far away.

plus, Even 1/10 complete fatty fucktards on there have such high standards, not to mention - No matter how you word your profile and the type of pics you post, if you don't fit the bullshit "standard of beauty" for men, you have a harder time getting matches, or even messages. I've "matched" with people, messaged them and never got a reply.

But where I live, if you aren't a tall, skinny / built cowboy with a big jacked up truck, you're likely to be forever alone.

The other mix match of women are meth head wanting someone to buy them meth, or old ass women who's abusive Ranch working alcohol husband left them.

youll find there are actually a lot of women that don't use it, and there are a surprising amount of women that dont even use facebook. They exist.

Also most women don't actually use tinder to meet people, it's an ego boost app to them, something like 60% of the people on tinder are already on a relationship

In other words: You look like shit and dunno how to talk to women.

The life is more than fuck one beauty, my life is limited and infinity in possibility I don't need nothing or anybody and if i need it i just could take it. You just think too much for make things and uglyness is subjective asshole

>women tell the truth

Enjoy your cum dumpster girlfriend. If I find out a woman has used Tinder, she's automatically disqualified for LTR.

It's only an ego boost til they get an offer that's too good to turn down.

idk man, thats a pessimist attitude. im looking for more than one gf so i figure if i find a girl whos into that kind of ltr shes not going to cheat or leave once its begun

> (You)
>It's only an ego boost til they get an offer that's too good to turn down.

Yes and that's where you're supposed to come in kiddo

OP, don't listen to the shitbrained armchair sociologists who are saying women inflate their self worth or are only willing to date up or shit like that. These people are fucking entitled Elliot Roger wannabes who hate women for not sleeping with them and don't know what the fuck they're talking about.

What you need to do before you can think about attracting a woman is focus on YOU.

I'm not just talking about looks, though that's really important. Take care of your body, but you also need to invest in yourself in other ways.

Do you have a job that you enjoy? One that you feel good about? If not, find one. If you can't, you need to invest in some kind of job skills or training. The point is to always be looking for a way to advance your position in life. Always have a plan and a backup plan. Don't be complacent. Don't get stuck in some deadend job that you hate.

Do you have a hobby that involves leaving the house? I think you mentioned playing the guitar and being in a band. That's good. My advice is to follow the rule of three. Three hobbies:

ONE intellectual hobby that stimulates your mind. I would say guitar covers that

ONE physical hobby that keeps your body strong. I play airsoft on the weekends and occasionally disc golf. You can do whatever the fuck you want. Even going to the gym a few times a week checks this box.

ONE hobby that helps other people. I would look at volunteer opportunities in your area. Helping poor people or animals or some shit. The purpose of this is to help you feel good about yourself. Even if you're a self-centered asshole who doesn't give a shit about other people, this still has the practical effect of making you seem like a good person, which helps other people like you.

You can still play video games and browse Sup Forums and jerk off to traps. Just make sure you're out of the house regularly for reasons that don't involve work or sustenance.

My point is you need to focus on yourself.

I can see you being hot without the beard.
shave it clean, or keep stubble.

>No

everythings about ego for them
or just pressure them & keep pressuring till you get what they want
>mfw women enjoy the "persistance"

Not OP here but asking how to start dating? See I don't live in a big city so dating sites and apps usually don't reveal much local options.

Wife and I split last year so I'm just looking to do the dating thing. I've never really done the whole go out and have coffee thing with a women.

How do I do this dating thing most people have done before? I have always just became someons boyfriend and things went naturally from there.

Reached character limit. Anyway, focus on yourself. Not just in terms of self-improvement, but on keeping yourself happy and fulfilled. You'd be surprised at how attractive that is to people, even if you're not conventionally attracted or filthy rich.

Pic related, it's me. I've always been a skinny, nerdy little faggot and I was a virgin until I was 25. There were times where I was in a position just like yours. I thought things would never get better and I'd just be alone forever. The trick is to not let yourself fall into despair. That's a black hole and the longer you stay in it, the harder it is to crawl back out. Now I'm 27 and even though thing aren't perfect, I still have a decent life, a job I enjoy, and a relationship with someone I really like. It gets better, user, but only if you make it.

This is good advice actually. I've been seveloping more hobbies like cooking, mixology and other things people want you around for.

Fucking shit, forgot the goddamned picture. See how retarded I am? If a dickhead like me can make it, so can you.

yo dude....


You just started tinder. that means nobody has a chance to see your profile, so that means you'll have to wait for them to find you. Also keep in mind that most girls already chatting with a bunch of guys so it might take some time for them to get bored of them all and start swiping again. You just gotta be patient dude. Let your profile set for a month or two...then you'll probably get more matches.

It's just a fact man. She'll be a cum dumpster.

If you're building a harem, that's a different deal, and maybe you have what it takes to maintain a one-sided open relationship. Good luck!

im jelly of your facial hair tbh but hate your head hair. but hey what ever works for you friendo

not OP but thats some solid advice I could use myself, you even backed it up with your own experience so it seems more legit. Thanks user.

>Whats keeps you going in life?

A lot of whiskey, hunting and my main hobby. The whiskey is for the daily grind. I drink roughly a fifth of Jim Beam a night. The hunting trips I take twice a year, so I have something to look forward to every 6ish months. My main hobby I practice every other day, and compete every 3-4 weeks, so that fills most of my non-drunk time with fun and happiness

Love doesnt fix what is broken. In fact, you need to fix yourself before someone can ever hope to love you. Find your happiness and yourself before you even think about a warm wet hole

Fair enough. To each his own I guess.

They fact they have 2 warm wet holes pretty much means they are 2-3 levels higher than their looks alone. Ive seen Jaba the Hut bitches go home with fairly ok looking guys from the bar. Why? Because his chances were fading of getting laid the later it got, and she gets to do probably the best looking guy who ever talked to her.

Its not exactly all womens faults. Some fairly good looking guys will stick their dick in Sloth from the Goonies if that is their only option that night, and women know that

>be 24
>just split from long term relationship
>get tinder to fuck my way out of feeling down
>match 18 year old who wants to be a stripper
>get her number and make plans for the weekend
>pick her up and come back to my place
>Have a couple of drinks and play mario kart
>Fuck in the shower, then the bed
>walk downtown, meet some gay dudes and we go out for a drink
>she wants to head out for a "smoke break"
>Fucked behind a statue beside the pub
>come back to my place and fuck again

She was super fun, but absolutely crazy. Exactly what I need right now. Going to hang out with her again this weekend.

Cliche adage, but I've found you meet the best women who are most like yourself when you aren't aggressively looking. The universe brings people together in that way.

When my first girlfriend dumped me, I was desperate for another to forget her. I was searching high and low for probably a year before I finally stopped giving a shit, and that's when I found my last girlfriend within a couple months. She just broke up with me about a week ago, and I'm not going to worry about finding another.

The world is literally brimming with women. It's impossible to ask out every girl who would go out with you because there's just too many of them, so you have to take your time and choose high quality ones when you stumble across them.

Grocery stores, gyms, movie theaters, markets, parks, classes, theme and dog parks, bitches are everywhere. It's just a matter of finding one you like and want to get to know, and making your move.

Literally just bathe regularly, wear clean clothes that fit and aren't gay (no wolf shirts, no fedoras, no political bullshit), keep your facial hair in check, and don't have a shit attitude, and you're already in the top 15% of men. The rest is ice cream and comes with time and effort i.e. having a steady paycheck, getting into really good shape, all that.

Good advice. The problem for me is that there isn't many places to socialize in my town besides the pub and I just don't know how to engage strangers in conversation. I am fine when travelling in hostels but travellers are naturally social.

See outside of my city the majority of people are French and I cannot properly express myself and present myself well in my second language.