Going to college in the Fall and I need help "coming out my shell". I'm very comfy in my "shell" and I get shit done, but at the same time I have practically no social skills. I just have a really hard time tuning into conversations and really letting my personality show in a simple convo. Like I'm a cool dude once you get to know me but you don't want to get to know me because I just come off as really awkward. Unless we have to communicate you won't get cool with me and that shit is so lame and I want to get rid of it. Any tips?
>tl;dr I'm an awkward loser in public and I need social tips/conversation tips for college.
You sound like the rest of Sup Forums. What makes you think you'll get any decent advice here?
Isaac Roberts
There's always a few alphas in the mix, or at least people posing like them. Just wanted some perspective.
Matthew Parker
It's not worth it, tried it out in my second year in university only thing I got was some free booze and bitter rejection. Just focus on getting shit done, this ain't high school you're here to learn how to do a job. If you want to fit in so much just observe the others and be funny: witty comments, make up inside jokes, play on words, sex jokes, best thing is black humor if the normies aren't spergy sjw's. That's how I got everyone's attention, although I just wanted that of one girl.
Robert Diaz
practice. Whether it be saying "Hi" or "good morning" to your neighbors or saying thank you to cashiers in a store. small things like that help alot. It may not seem like it, but it gets you used to communication.
Lucas Jones
take it from someone like you: youre pretty much fucked unless you have shit that people need. I had a couch and a volcano vape in my dorm room, i met people that way and went on from there. your social skills probably wont improve though.
Adam Williams
leave your door open and get drunk and high the rest will sort itself out
Thomas Price
I'll always be getting shit done, but on my free time I want to do more than Vidya, porn, and lame hoes. I want to get out there not become a party junkie.
Leo White
Fair enough. Other than going to college you could have been describing me, so no help here I'm afraid. Good luck though. Bump with random webm.
Joseph Garcia
well sorry to tell you, but that's probably not going to happen.
Levi Collins
Nice projecting but I don't think we're much alike. I just want tips, thanks for the bump though.
Bentley Cruz
Thanks
Jeremiah Mitchell
Just make eye contact with people as you walk >dont do the virgin stare or stare at the ground as you walk Smile, be happy, take a effort to how you look, be happy and most of all be confident! >only thing thats stopping you getting out there is yourself, you worry too much about what people think, you shouldnt honestly. I dont know you but you cant be a all out horrible fucker with personality of a peeling orange so just go for it man and dont worry >confidence is key >good luck man
Hunter Long
Loser mentality, thanks anyways.
Kayden Mitchell
im not projecting. you wont magically learn how to be some guy from that frat house movie with seth rogan, banging 3 girls at the same time.
Landon Rodriguez
Ahhh thanks, shit like this is what I'm looking for. Did you used to stare at the ground when you walk?
Gavin Gomez
you are a loser. youre on Sup Forums asking people to give you their social skills.
Camden Carter
I would start by not saying things like "loser mentality".
Daniel Smith
>Take it from someone like you >Not projecting Choose one.
Brayden Jackson
youre on Sup Forums.
Colton Collins
>Everybody on Sup Forums is a loser Kys
Chase Cox
everyone who asks for help with their social skills on Sup Forums is a loser.
Benjamin Davis
Where are you from ?
Colton Wilson
One of my favorite ice breakers in college was to always to grab a clump of their hair and pull, but not too hard. I got into a lot of fights
Aaron Wood
It is though. I'm not old, I have alot of time to get better and so does user. He's just giving up.
Nicholas Russell
youre alpha/beta winner/loser mentality makes you a cunt.
Henry Morgan
I'm glad you know how to generalize. I'm a social loser meaning I'm not the one leading the class in conversation 9/10 but once you get to know me you like me. Thanks anyways.
Isaac Lee
>once you get to know me you like me quit projecting.
Camden Thompson
don't go out you are ok where you are women you only hurt you and make your life miserable go after friends only
Logan Wright
It's not like that, it's coming off that way sadly but I really just wanted tips on how to conversate better everybody just being bitter as usual.
Henry Mitchell
wear a shirt with an ecchi image on it it will make you popular
Nathaniel Walker
it is like that, you just wont admit it. your problem is that you see things as a competition, when it isnt. you need some mushrooms and hours of meditation to figure out why you suck at being a person. look at this guy right here for inspiration: m.youtube.com/watch?v=lGm96vFvmxk
Jason Cooper
I planned on it. My last gf wrecked me, I really thought you could trust women.
Connor Hernandez
np.
Nicholas Richardson
There's about a million introvert memes my cousin posts on fb ALL THE FUCKING TIME
This is a shitty one I just grabbed off goog images real quick, but some are pretty funny
Girls think it's cute for some some fucking reason, just don't overdue it and it will get chick's coming up to you if you're not a total spam
Wear sunglasses so people don't notice your eye movement and try to smile and listen just ne cool
Jose Carter
don't wear sunglasses all the time, it make you look like sperg
Josiah Sanchez
Find a hobby or club
Kevin Cox
>I really thought you could trust women you don't if it's not your mom or grandma,stay away
Chase Edwards
Everything is a competition though but that's not the point. Instead of assuming I'm a cunt for wanting to become a cooler person, just help me out or move on.
Joshua Mitchell
Stop memeing and explain yourself not everybody understands your corny "wit".
Levi Jones
so I was right then, your social skills wont improve. you might as well just give up.
Nolan Bell
I don't like you and won't after knowing you either. You sound like a naive idiot who is full of himself. You'll never be an alpha, it's not something you become after being a loser. It's not money, you don't go from rags to riches, you can't change your personality.
James Anderson
you think you know yourself but you dont.
Bentley Perez
I'm in clubs and the people in them like me but that's because we have mutual interest, I want to learn how to keep a convo going just spontaneously in public or something.
Joseph Bell
My advice: 1. Dab whenever possible. 2. Walk around saying "England is my city" You'll be good to go!
Austin King
you wont learn that. your brain isnt a muscle, you either have it or you dont.
Oliver Jones
you learn social skills from youth, you are pretty much stuck being an awkward loser for life, you just have to learn to deal with it now.
Owen Perry
If you're getting everything done RIGHT you won't have much free time. But it just seems like more of an autistic question when you WANT to socialise but ask for tips how to. Just go and talk to people. It's a basic human ability if you can't handle it just consider not going to college at all. Also that answer made no sense whatsoever.
Owen White
hey i thought those exact things my senior year of high school, and you know what?
i went to school for six years and the only people i could call my friends were my professors.
Noah Ramirez
Why don't you loser? I just want conversation tips I don't give a fuck if you btards like me in real life because most of you are losers. What's up with you guys rustling yourselves?
Joseph Miller
Damn tagged you in the wrong post before. But I know I don't really know myself I just want some tips on stuff to talk about in public.
Aaron Jenkins
youre in the wrong place for that, bud.
Isaac Gomez
You call us losers yet you can't even speak to people. Big alpha winner you are
Oliver Martin
if youre looking for that kind of advice on the internet you should try reddit. normal people go there.
Jayden Morales
to put it simply, if you have to ask then it's already too late
Adam Barnes
Okay it's simpler than you think, but you're gonna need some practice. Really you're meant to have this layer of protection between who you really are and what new people see. The trick is to get comfortable pretending to be more social in situations. If you have friends, now is a good time to arrange more times to hang out or go places (choose a pub or club or house party) and make it a social thing so you're not alone. Then when you get the opportunity to talk to someone new, just go for it and try be a bit more relaxed about talking (drinking helps). Seriously just go for it, you're going to college it's not like they're gonna be around you forever so fuck em if they don't like you.
If you don't have friends or can't arrange social things a great place to start is public online chats like discord rooms for games or anything. Just get used to talking and quipping jokes (not too often just to lighten the mood or keep a laugh going) If you just can't join a conversation because you don't know the subject too well (sports) don't feel pressured to contribute. If someone asks you your opinion just agree with what they say, clarify you don't understand the topic very well and maybe make some observations based on what they're talking about.
Just go for it. you'll be fine. I was in your position last year and it worked out a'ight for me
Levi Gutierrez
trips and dubs speak the truth
Justin Reyes
Somebody else brought up alpha crap not me. I know you wish I was this wannabe alpha faggot but I'm not. Just a kid that wanted conversation tips then bitter people started attacking me. Loser mentality is a thing, anything is possible if you put effort towards getting it done. I simply am not good at holding conversation with people I don't have mutual interests with and want some tips y'all bugging. I'm very involved in things and have plenty of friends from these things I just want convo tips.
Ayden White
no, actually you were the one who said someone's opinion was a loser mentality.
youre full of yourself and wont learn how to talk to people.
Parker Jenkins
So ask your plenty friends instead of coming to people you know are retarded?
Cooper Moore
One trick is to do something simple like chew gum or pop a tic tac or some simple shit at home when you're relaxed and then do it in public so you feel like you're just chilling at home. Your mind doesn't stress if you're eating basically a mindset of "I wouldn't be eating if I was in a stressful situation." Another is to just tell yourself that you're old friends catching up instead of strangers. Have a mutual friend if you already have one or make one so you always have someone that helps comfort you while meeting others.
Jordan Reed
Ok as a latino who mostly lived a "street life" wtf is a virgin stare I already looked on google but it makes no sense. I never look still floor when walking.
Is it basically mean muggin. Or walking with a frown on face? Because that's how majority of people in my area look
Not a virgin btw just curious at this.
Mason Bell
in order to that you have to have a lot of conversations, for some it comes naturally, but for tards it takes a lot more to get the flow, so just put yourself out there and have conversations
Colton Hill
If you a cocky muthafucka but your not since your here but eventually you will be one. Wear sun glasses go for designer glasses tho like gucci or versace bitches love a nigga wearing designer,
Nolan Moore
you said you're going to college right? You're gonna be mingling with people from many different places, so make that a major convo starter. Starting with 'So where did you come from?' can easily lead into other questions specific to the place they mentioned. When that dries up or they ask you the same, you can talk about something comfortably with knowledge. Remember to have as many positive as negatives if not more because no one wants to be left feeling down talking about where they came from
Nathan Ross
>Well sorry to tell ya but that's not going to happen Why isn't it going to happen? > CAUSE IT AIN'T I'm not a crippled trying to walk I'm a slightly socially awkward teen wanting convo tips. Why are you going so hard because I don't want to take some old loser advice?
Eli Baker
yeah sure if you can pull it off i'll work but if you actually want a conversation and not look like you're blind/autistic/high/a dumbass and trying to hide it all the time you gotta take it off
Josiah Edwards
It's embarrassing.
Brandon Turner
Good idea with the food, thanks.
Isaiah Morgan
actually you sort of are a cripple trying to walk, youre too full of yourself and in denial to understand that. the conversation region of your brain is lacking, and it's not coming back.
Michael Allen
play drinking games at parties you will meet friends.
Elijah Sanders
you're the one derailing op's thread so...
Benjamin Perez
start selling weed.
Camden Wright
Thanks these are some great tips.
Hunter Lee
Listen to you use words like "sort of" in an argument. Kys.
Ian Wilson
OP, I was pretty similar. I just started doing loads of drugs. MDMA helps a lot. But it also fucked me up a lot, so it's up to you
Juan Lewis
remember this: everyone is just as afraid of not being accepted as you are. the very state of being afraid will inhibit you. itll require a shift of mindset but if youre a cool dude and you know it, purge the idea that youre awkward from your mind. over the next few days just think about your successful experiences. smile more if you can, and most importantly, dress nice and keep clean. if you feel hot, itll show
Dominic Morris
Great advice, thanks.
Juan Jones
Anyone this?? Is virgin. stare real when I talk to girls I smile but not smile a lot in general I have a frown on face. Cuz normally other guys in my area have frowns when talkin to each other.
Camden Cruz
Practice. Go out often as you can, try to keep the conversation going. You will improve over time. I used to be pretty awkward as a freshman in high school but by my senior year I was just one of the bros. Don't listen to the peoples saying you can't change your personality, with effort you can. Also you might want to start lifting weights if you don't already, it's easier to be confident when you are in good shape.
William Young
I think the best thing to do would be to help others with their academic stuff. Become useful and the friends will come no matter how awkward you are. Confidence will also come with this as well, and maybe later you can start charging money for your advice if you're good enough.
Wyatt Scott
Fuck off cancerous newfag
Landon Sanchez
Not worth it tbh
Carson Robinson
Thanks, I have been working out but I started slacking once I saw little gains.
Jose Cruz
>You must be 18 to lurk. Okay bud.
Ayden Green
No but you must be 18 to post fagget. Reported
Ryder Long
I'm proficient in music so I could help people with that. It's just I want more than mutual interest friends.
Caleb Cox
I'm now 18 dickhead. That doesn't make me new, just young.
Grayson Price
The point is just to build off of mutual interests into something more. Invite them out for stuff, etc.
Leo Gonzalez
After 4 years, my best piece of advice that I can give to anyone going to college is to make friends. If you're anything like me, you'll end up sitting in your dorm/apartment/whatever alone playing vidjas and masturbating sadly at least 8 times a day without them. If you're too depressed to get out of bed to go with your friends to a party or some other social event, suck it up, stop being a pussy and go with them. There'd never been a time where I regretted going. Just maybe get a little liquid courage in you, if you do drink, but don't overdo it. Trust me, having fun and meeting people in college is almost as important as actually studying
Grayson Wood
I guess I am bitching about nothing.
Sebastian Cruz
Go to school as trap! Do thos for scholarship reasons and play on female sports team - like tennis. Become best friends with female tennis star. Play upon her lesbian tendencies, but then reveal your masculinity. You'll loose her, but win her In the end. Profit
Jace Watson
We can't. Imagine being white, how we must resort to fantasy to cope with our inadequacy, how miserable it is to be inferior and know. Please allow us to make some racist remarks to console ourselves. It is literally our only consolation prize in life. It is exhausting and painful to imagine how great it would be to be part of the superior race. I can't even spend much time fantasizing about being black. It would only heighten the contrast between my inadequate race and the superior black man. I lose all hope when I allow my mind to go there. It is instead better to submit to the black man, for this at least affords some pleasure, whereas trying to imagine being black brings with it a painful crash that cannot be recovered from. Racism allows us to fill up the time in between sexually submitting to black men and allows us to do it with some semblance of dignity. To be entirely socially submissive, even in social interactions, would just be too much to bear. We knos we're inferior and will make up for any transgressions with our bedroom behavior. We are all yours and you can have your way with us. There is no other role for us in this life